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11/17/10 5:08 P

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I have really struggled with this question because before I got pregnant the plan was for me to stay home. Well, life (and bills) got in the way so there was no way I could stay home full-time. And really, I am at my wits end after a week of vacation with Julian so I think it's good that I am working. I have the perfect situation right now. I work 3 days a week and I set the days and hours. My boss doesn't set a mandatory amount of hours I have to work so I can pretty much come and go as I please...I just need to make sure my checks total what we need for bills. It really was a blessing for me to get this job. Plus I got to continue to work for a non-profit doing something I love. The adult time is definitely a bonus....talking 3-year old all day wears on you.

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MOMTOCONNOR2003's Photo MOMTOCONNOR2003 Posts: 5,678
11/16/10 8:35 A

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I know I am a better Mom for working. I have my own peice of mind and the mental stimulation I need away from home which gives me more patients when I am at home with my kids. I am more fun as a Mom when I work.

Sandy
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11/15/10 12:34 A

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Hi, everyone. Thought I'd jump in as a newbie who struggles with working almost full-time and raising two kids under 5.

After my second daughter was born, the realization that I was driving myself and my kids crazy as a stay-at-home mom was one of the toughest things I've had to face about myself. So, I went back to work as a teacher.

I still rush home as soon as possible to pick up my kids from school and limit the amount of time they're in day care, but it's a daily scramble. I don't get my grading and prep done on time, because I'm usually too exhausted to deal once the girls are in bed. But, as much as I complain about the daily grind, I'm trying to own the choice, because I really was a mess (and so was my house) when I was home all the time.

I guess I console myself by thinking that I'm modeling for my girls a mom who can bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan.

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11/14/10 7:53 A

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I wouldn't... by the time I went back after maternity leave I was SO ready. And my daughter truly thrives in daycare. I am fortunate enough that when she's sick, I can easily get the time off. But I think she'd be missing out on a lot of experiences if it was her and I all day every day.

Tara in PA




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*WHITNEYM*'s Photo *WHITNEYM* Posts: 627
11/12/10 10:09 A

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I'm glad you joined us as well!

If HE leads you to it, HE will see you through it.


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11/11/10 9:55 P

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I've never posted here before, but I'm glad I joined this team! Working full time, I think about how great it would be to stay at home with my son. If it were reversed, I'm sure I would want to go back to work. Part time or flex time would be ideal... I could still have the challenge and adult interaction of my job but have more time to enjoy with my son.

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MOMTOCONNOR2003's Photo MOMTOCONNOR2003 Posts: 5,678
10/26/10 9:22 A

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I would love to be able to go part time again. When I worked for the Federal Courts in 2003 I went part time after giving birth to my son. My husband was deployed at the time and I was raising my son alone, working and trying to finish up my college before we had to move again. I went to 4 days a week and had off every Wednesday. It was great! I would work two days have a day off work 2 days have 2 off. I would do things like cut my grass, clean my house and spend time with my son on Wednesday's because I had college on Wednesday nights. Once I finish my school Wednesday became my husband and my date time. I would drop my infant off for 2 to 3 hours at day care and we could go to lunch and a movie once a month. It was great. I would love to have the extra time to concentrate on my kids and not be cooking, cleaning, cutting grass and all of the other things that come with a house when I should be spending a better quality of time with the kids. Maybe I will aim for that next year. 4 days a week would sure be nice. That way doctors appointments, grocery shopping and errands can all be run during the day when the kids are in school. Now you have me dreaming!

Sandy
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*WHITNEYM*'s Photo *WHITNEYM* Posts: 627
10/21/10 9:18 A

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Amen to that statement Rharri.
I know that for me - I think that if I had all my time spent with my children I'd end up relying on the TV to entertain them. Instead, I think I value my time with them a lot more and I'm more hands on in the evening when I'm with them.


If HE leads you to it, HE will see you through it.


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RHARRI's Photo RHARRI Posts: 1,233
10/21/10 8:07 A

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I haven't been here in awhile but thought I would chime in.
I truly love my job, yes I love my kids more, but I would really miss the adult interaction as well. I think I too would love to say yes. For me I think its more about balance. I wish I could just do my same job part time instead of full time.

Ranae


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MOMTOCONNOR2003's Photo MOMTOCONNOR2003 Posts: 5,678
10/20/10 11:10 A

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I have done both in the past. I stayed home with my kids when we where stationed in another state. I did not know anyone and I stayed home with my son while pregnant with my daughter. I really enjoyed the time I spent with him and we had alot of fun but I was about to go crazy with not knowing anyone and being on a one year olds level for 24/7. I did a in home daycare for the navy so I not only had my son I also had 3 other children. My husband worked one hour away so needless to say when he got home he was no help. I can count the times one one hand in three years I was without the kids. It is a wonder we are still married after my stay at home incident. I think I would be better now that we are back at our home state and I have other things to occupy me (ie. family and friends).

Sandy
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*WHITNEYM*'s Photo *WHITNEYM* Posts: 627
10/20/10 11:03 A

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I would LOVE to say yes - but I know time at home would eventually drive me crazy.
I could be a stay at home mom if I had activities to go do with the kids or a play group of some sort.


If HE leads you to it, HE will see you through it.


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*WHITNEYM*'s Photo *WHITNEYM* Posts: 627
10/20/10 10:56 A

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I know this isn't diet related, but I'd really love to see this team come together so we can share in the joy's and the downfalls of being a working parent.

So this topic is totally non-diet related.

If you COULD be a stay at home mom - WOULD you?

If HE leads you to it, HE will see you through it.


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