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I would ask him about what I should be doing right now. What was his opinion on things. I assume he'd be proud of me.




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I would ask him why he didnt tell me he had cancer. Even though I was 15, I was strong enough to deal with it. I missed him terribly those last two years. I had no idea why he pulled away. That hurt so much more. Those two years, to leave me alone with my mom and her crazya$$ Sh!t.

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I would ask him about some of our relatives that were waiting for him at the pearly gates. It must have been great to see his brother again after so long.

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I would ask dad why others and outside things were more important than his immediate family. I would ask him if he knew that I did love him and always had. I would ask him if he really loved me. I would ask him if he knew I forgave him. I would then let him know how much I missed him.

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Those answers I have. I'd like to know how it was for him growing up with his mother. Of course in life, he might not have remembered as a teen he had a traumatic brain injury and he lost a lot. According to him he was working on only one hemisphere, I don't believe that because people on one hemisphere don't function quite that well. I'd like to ask him want to invest in in the stock market. I'd like him to tell me how to better relate to my husband. My DH is so like my Dad. At least I think so. Dad would be nice about now.

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Today I would ask him what he thought about the egret I saw.

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today i would ask dad. how did he like the play.

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Today I would ask father how he dealt so well with the pain of his cancer?

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today i would ask my dad, if he like the way I set the tree. also if he was proud of his granddaughter getting her driving license.
oh how I miss you dad.......

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He is.. I was talking with a man who's Dad died a year ago and this is his birthday.. He's trying to be the man Dad trained him to be. Just like us. I'm so proud of him.

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I would ask my dad if he was proud of me.

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I'd ask him about the other side. Is anyone on this side correct about what comes next.

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I would ask him more questions about his youth.

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ANYTHING!!!!!

but, especially his opinion on the choices i've mad in my life the past 4.5 years.

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Every time I get the irresistible urge to make an awful joke. I know he is there.

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Yes, I think the same thing quite often, Emma. I think he does communicate to me in a certain way. Not audible...but he does communicate.

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He'll tell you if you ask him. Ask him what you are missing. He might tell you and then the decision would be easy eh?

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I would ask him to help me make a decision that is going on in my life. I really think he would go along with the choice I am considering. We thought a lot alike.

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I'd ask him what stocks to buy because he always knew that.

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When we grieve for someone we feel bad about our loss. There's a part of us that rejects the bad feeling! It can't be right that this happened. I must have done something wrong, so we manufacture it. Even if nothing is there. We make it up. Because being mad at someone we are grieving feels wrong. But the way to healing is through getting angry enough that forgiveness seems like a valid idea. Guilt and Grief walk hand in hand. But they needn't. You have to practice forgiveness which is a process by the way. It's a way of letting go of any guilt you carry and letting go of any pain you harbor because of the actions of other. I think you should try to think of what your father is missing because of what he did. That should get you angry enough to forgive. It cannot be your fault. You cannot control your parents, heck we cannot usually very well control our kids. You do your best and then let them live their lives right?

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Strangely enough, that is what the counselor keeps trying (to no avail) to get through my head. :)

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If you can't think of how you failed him, then I don't think you did. I'm wondering if you realize how much he failed you by not asking for your help when he needed it?

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I would want to know why this happened still. I would want to know if there is anything that I or any of us could have done to produce a different outcome. I would ask if I had failed him somehow.

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I know my father was relieved to go.. He was in such terrible pain. He was truly released. It must have felt pretty good (and bad because of all the loved ones he left behind) But physically it must have been good.

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That is interesting Emma...I would also like to know the same. Also, what the journey was like when he first passed away.

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I would ask him where he is now. And what's interesting about there...

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I would ask him why he did what he did. Why didn't he think he could talk to me. I could have helped.
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I would have to ask him to be serious because he was always joking. And I do his jokes for him now that he's gone from us.

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I would ask my Dad to tell me a joke because he loved telling jokes. And ask him to come with me to the railroad museum as a daughter/father date; Like we used to at the Auto Show.

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I would ask him how he always seemed so brave.




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I would ask him what he thought about his kids. I would ask him about his immigration and the displaced persons camps.

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I'd ask him to repeat the old funny stories about his life that he used to tell. Doesn't matter than I know them by heart already just want to hear him tell them again.

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I'd ask Dad about his grandfather and about his Mom. She was a piece of work but I know he was loyal to her. He went to live with her when she separated from his father. He didn't want her to be alone. I wonder what other stories he'd tell.

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I'd love to hear about Dad's childhood. Yeah. I have brother's for what kind of car to buy...

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I have so many questions to ask my dad. One comes to mind--what kind of car should I buy? I'm looking for a new one. My father in law passed away last Dec. He loved telling stories when he was a kid. I would ask him to tell me a story again.

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Okay, here's the secret. He's in your head. Ask him if he's proud of you. See if he doesn't answer. It works for me.




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I know he is. I guess just hearing him say it would make it better.

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Of course he is. Don't you think so? Especially from his current perspective. I've allways felt that once we die we finally get the big picture, with full compassion. How could he not?




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I would ask my dad if he is proud of the woman I have grown into.

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Awful things happen in prison. It's a terrible place. I think as a country we should be ashamed of that situation. What ever was troubling him explains but does not excuse his behavior. And here you are paying the bill! You have to recover for your Mom, your Dad and you.. How exausting. It must have been a nightmare to lose even an abusive Dad to suicide. It's probably never a good choise and it's supper hard on the family left behind. the Probability of a second Suicide after the first is very high... because it's as if a taboo has been broken, so you have to watch yourself now more than you would have if you werent' exposed to that...

You definately have unfinished business with Dad but what can you do about it? You could write him a letter telling him how much he hurt and damaged you... You are much more likely to end up in an abusive relationship as an adult because of what you witnessed it is not fair at all. It really isn't fair becaue you are responsible for recovering. You can't put that on any other person...

Thanks for posting this. You will be giving many people perspective from this..

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Yeah he did love me, us kids.i think by my mom leaving him, and wouldnt go back to him.. had done it, i dont know. something happened to him while he was in prison thou, he wasnt himself

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Katie, I think you know that he did love you. It sounds like he had a very sad childhood and could not deal with it.

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I would ask my dad why did he do what he did, by suiciding himself.and why he use to beat my mom up after he came home from a bar.
He was a loving, careing man,but he told me that he had a rough chilhood life, and i think that he took it out on ppl like my mom.i dont know, but i love him no matter what he had done.
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I bet they like you guys... I bet they do.. otherwise they'd have hung out to state their opinion. What do you think???




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I would ask my dad how he likes my husband. My father passed away less than two weeks before I met my husband, and my husband's father passed away 5 months before we met. So, I'm curious as to how my father likes my husband (and if my father-in-law likes me...) emoticon

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I would sak him what was so wrong with him that he left when he found out i was growing in my mother and then got someone else in the same situation, but stayed with them? Why he didnt' stick around to even meet me before he left?

I'd also ask him if he knew it was me when he saw me at my friend's house in eighth grade.

I'd also thank him for leaving simply becuase i was better off without him in particular as a father, although it would have been nice if having a baby would have forced him to grow up and i would have had a real "dad," but, you can't have everything, right?

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I was lucky enough to have my dad until February of this year and I am 52 years. I was able to talk to him about many things and he was very open about the war and talked of it often. If he were still here, I would like to learn more stories about his immediate family.

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I'd ask Dad about the War. My sister thinks no one was shooting at him. I think he way lying to her...




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