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4/2/16 5:59 P

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Here. we shall try again. Sorry about the single post guys, obviously I don't know how to hit a reply button LOL.

Well, I am a little out of practice. I would say either a nice meal out or pick up or make something healthy and to find a nice destination for the date. Here in Seattle we have a nice beach called Alki, it's been far too long since I've driven out there. Maybe walk along the beach, talk, get to know one another. The good possibility of a second date and hoping I've not scared him off lol.

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4/21/13 4:33 P

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The perfect first date?
ending with the anticipation of a second one!

Slow, but sure.


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3/14/13 9:53 P

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Since I am new to the group I hope you won't mind my crazy post. What is the perfect first date? The truth of the matter is that I only really ever went on 1 date. This is probably due to being fat all my life, terrible self esteem, and scared of coming out. Gay people from my generation ( I am 52yrs), or perhaps most gay people in general don't get socialized in the dating. We don't have gay dances when were are young to practice our dating skills. Perhaps its better now. I know that I will never have the self esteem enough until I can get the weight off. Otherwise I would see approaching someone I am attracted to as bound for failure. That's just me. I have an identical twin who has been married to a women for over 25 years. I would someday hope that for me but first I have to get my act in gear and have more to offer a potential boyfriend. Thoughts? Thanks. Keith emoticon

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3/10/12 10:47 A

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Something active...hike or walk somewhere you can actually talk and get to know one another.

Better yet, just getting someone to go out on that first date emoticon

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3/6/12 3:52 P

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A guy that will bring a 12 pack and turn into a pizza at midnight! Make it a thin crust.

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7/6/10 11:35 A

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The perfect first date would be a nice hike n a park, or nice trail. If you have your own place then a nice cooked dinner at home after. This way everything is healthy and you are not breaking the bank right away. If the chemistry is there then the conversation will be great and that is the most important thing. I do not have many first dates myself as finding a good guy can be tough.

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6/17/10 11:30 A

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My first date would never go as planned, because they never seem too.... but here is what sounds good to me:

I'm huge on cooking lately, so, I would probably try and find a way to make a low-cal chicken cordon bleu, which has become one of my best dishes. I would side it with a nice spinach/romaine and mix veggie salad on the side, and do some sort of potato. Haha. But that is just the food, that is the part I am best at.

Ideally it wouldn't be one of those awkward first dates where you have the strange silence, or they end up saying something that makes you shut down. Living in VA I've been on multiple first dates where a guy makes some sort of ignorant racial comment.... I'm out of the possibility mode at that point.

Conversation would range on everything from topical b.s. to more important things. I think it is important to learn both about someone's serious and more laid-back sides on the first time, if time permits.

Depending on location, and what is around, a nice walk after dinner would be nice (assuming it's not too hot, because then I would just be paranoid about getting too sweaty.... which I like to save for a few dates later, haha).

End it with a kiss, or two, or three..... and I would be satisfied.

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hands off he's mine guys! emoticon

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6/10/10 9:31 A

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For me a great date is a walk in the park on a beautiful day. We talk and get to know eachother. No distractions from waiters, or noise from other people - no restaurants.



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2/24/10 7:03 A

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no mace used during the event


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12/17/09 11:49 A

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I'm guessing this is after the ceremonial "meeting over coffee for the first time" thing. LOL

Going for a nice relaxing dinner where you can talk and get to know each other even more. Let's face it guys, one cup of coffee isn't all it takes. Maybe afterwards, a nice walk somewhere quiet and comfortable or if agreed, a nice quiet dinner at home and a movie. DVD, or whatever. It depends on the level of comfort with each other. I'm a romantic kind of guy so I would lean in that direction when making plans. emoticon

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12/11/09 3:12 P

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Could be anything so long as both are left wanting MORE at the end of the evening.
It would also be nice if there were no stalking, shackles or powertools involved.

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Awwww BlueHarbor... gives you a hug, and I hear ya buddy

When you look at the world in a narrow way, how narrow it seems! When you look at it in a mean way, how mean it is! When you look at it selfishly, how selfish it is! But when you look at it in a broad, generous, friendly spirit, what wonderful people you find in it. - Horace Rutledge


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Right now... A bad date would be a good first date...

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A perfect date is where by the end we are both comfortable with each other and got beyond the guarded revelations. Walking to explore a favorite haunt, a casual dinner party with friends or a group we belong to would take some the pressure off.

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1. Suffering is a part of life
2. Suffering is caused by our attachments and avoidances.
3. Suffering can be ended.
4. Freedom from suffering is possible by following the Eightfold path.

Bigotry disguised as morality is still bigotry just as an outhouse with
marble columns is still an outhouse.
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9/26/09 12:32 A

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I know I don't really have a perfect first date scenario in mind. If I'm the one planning the date then my plans would be based on what I knew of the guy I was taking out and make the plans based on that. I may have lost my thoughts on what I think of as a perfect first date as I have never been taken out on one.

But after what I heard tonight, I have a piece of music that is a must for my next first date. Quite possibly the most romantic piece of music ever written. It is the 3rd movement (Andante cantabile) from Robert Schumann's Quartet in E-flat Major. WOW it is incredible.

Track it down and take a listen as see if you agree...

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9/25/09 6:43 A

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Sounds very nice and that the two of you clicked very well. Who knows where it might lead.

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9/24/09 7:04 P

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This is what happened on my most recent first date (not my idea of a perfect date, but it still worked):

I met this guy playing an online game via Facebook. We started chatting online then started talking on the phone. We started talking more and more often and texting all the time. He lives about 3 hours away from me and was planning on coming to Dallas for the Pride parade so he decided to come a few days early. I picked him up at the airport and he hung out at my house that day...his plans were to go to his friend's house after his friend got out of work. He ended up spending a couple nights at his friends house and then spending more and more time at my house. After spending a couple nights at his friend's, he spent the next week with me. We talked a lot and watched movies and went bowling...My roommate also got along with him great...we went to the clubs a couple times and had a great time...he's so mellow and we seem to get along very well. Anyway, he had to go back home earlier this week, and I miss him already.

I know it may not be a perfect first date, but to me, it still ended up very romantic.

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That sounds so romantic! I probably wouldn't be that creative, especially on a first date...I tend to get nervous lol.

My idea of a perfect first date may sound a little lame but here goes...he comes to my place and I cook a nice dinner...nothing too heavy...my own lighter version of chicken piccata, a salad and a bottle of wine. We talk over dinner and get to know each other a little...After dinner, we go bar hopping (just kidding lol)...We bring the wine into the living room maybe find a good movie on PPV and cuddle up on the sofa while we watch the movie..afterwords maybe have some coffee and share romantic kisses before he heads home...

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Mine would be to pick up some food somewhere for carry-out, drive to a romantic spot, maybe have a candle with us. After we eat, and discover more about each other, and since it's now dark; turn the headlights of the car on and slow dance in its beams with a nice slow romantic song blaring in the cd player.

When you look at the world in a narrow way, how narrow it seems! When you look at it in a mean way, how mean it is! When you look at it selfishly, how selfish it is! But when you look at it in a broad, generous, friendly spirit, what wonderful people you find in it. - Horace Rutledge


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Of course it all depends on the conversations that ensued before making the date, but in your mind, and in this scenario, both of you hit it off.



When you look at the world in a narrow way, how narrow it seems! When you look at it in a mean way, how mean it is! When you look at it selfishly, how selfish it is! But when you look at it in a broad, generous, friendly spirit, what wonderful people you find in it. - Horace Rutledge


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