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CHNGNME82011 Posts: 5
6/17/10 9:15 A

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probably change my last name. I am excited about it.

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4/16/10 7:06 P

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When the mister and I talked about this, he said I should hyphenate because then I can continue to use my name in my professional career. I asked him how he would feel about taking my name instead, and he told me that he is the last one to be able to pass on the last name...aww!

I am excited to take his name, and I think if I were a man and my wife weren't interested in taking on my name I might be hurt. I am a little sad to lose my family name, but I am not losing my family..I am gaining another!

PS: As a child my mother didn't have my last name, and it caused a LOT of trouble for us in communicating with school and social services. Though, the language barrier probably didn't help.

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4/2/10 9:26 A

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Hey Ariel, I understand that you want to keep your name but I don't feel like I'm giving up a part of my identity. I WANT to be identified as Brenden's wife because that is who I will be. He doesn't expect me to change my name but is very excited that I'm choosing to. Changing my name does not change who I am it simply identifies me as a part of a new family that Brenden and I will become.

With that said, I love that you feel so strongly about your name. Maybe if I had a great relationship with my dad, this decision would be harder.

Good luck with your new program and I love that 'Sparkler' nickname :)

P.S. - When's the wedding?



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4/2/10 5:11 A

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Hi, everyone! I'm Ariel, and I'm recently engaged and recently a Sparkler! I had to reply to this posting just because I feel so strongly about this subject. Of COURSE, do what you want with your name-- it's YOUR name! With that enthusiasm, I'm totally keeping mine. This is not the 19th century and I no longer have to give up a part of my identity just because I'm a woman. Now let's lose some weight!!

MissBigBoody aka MissLaffyTaffy


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4/1/10 6:58 P

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I could do that, but I think that would both my parents. If I were to do something like that, I would almost want to make my current last name a second middle name, but then why not hyphenate? It's definitely something to consider, though - then at least I wouldn't lose MY last name! hmmm...I'll have to think about that one!

Thanks!

Mags

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4/1/10 4:51 P

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That does sound like a tough spot.
I have it pretty easy. I don't have a relationship with my biological dad and therefore do not have much hold to my last name. My mom took my Dad's(aka stepdad's) last name when they got married so our names are already diffrent.
I'll be dropping my current last name and taking my FI's name.

I know it's a hard decision and I don't think you are over thinking the future. That's really what this decision should be based on. It's more common now for women to keep their own last names for business/career reasons but I feel the same as you about future confusion with kids. Have you thought about dropping your middle name and haveing (First Name)(Current Last Name)(FI's Last Name) That's what my grandma, mom, and aunt all did.
Good luck and I hope this helps a little.



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3/8/10 9:10 A

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I guess that makes it easy for you! You have a very positive view of it ! emoticon , which is awesome....I'm still not sure what I should do, though...

I actually talked with my fiance about it last night, and he and I both felt my name wouldn't sound quite right if I simply took his last name. He also said he wasn't a big fan of hyphenating....but I'm still trying to decide because I'm trying to think of implications for future children - which last name would they have, what problems might we have if I have a different last name from our kids, my last name would still die out if our (future) kids take their dad's last name...I'm wondering if I'm toooo focused on the future, but I think I need to really consider that before making a decision, as there will be implications

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3/7/10 7:40 P

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I understand that. I am one of 2 granddaughters, both my cousin and I are only children. My mom took my dad's last name, which is one I have no want to keep, so I'm looking forward to taking my fiance's last name. Unfortunately, it looks like when my cousin marries it will be the end of our family name for our branch, but it will be a new start for a new family name!

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3/7/10 2:24 P

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Hi brides and grooms to be!

How are you and your partners handling last names when you get married? Are the women taking their husbands' names, keeping their current last names, or are you and/or your partner hyphenating them? I'm not sure what I'm going to do at this point - I have plenty of time to make a decision (my wedding's going to be in Spring 2012)....but I'm the eldest of three daughters, and one of almost 15 grandchildren on my dad's side (all but two are girls) - so I feel a little like I should keep up the family name. At the same time, my fiance is the eldest child and only son in his family, and the only grandson as well...and I don't think I want to hyphenate names - at some point one of the names would die out through our children. Should I keep my own name, or take his?

What do you think?

Cheers,

Mags

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