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5/7/09 4:13 P

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someone once suggested that writing down all the reasons why you want a healthier lifestyle and why you no longer wish to be overweight and unhealthy, really helps you get through the tough times. you pull out your list and read over it and it helps motivate you to keep going. Good luck, and hang in there!

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5/7/09 2:20 P

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take a deep breath and calm down. food is not the answer. feel your feelings. I know it is hard, but feeling them and then dealing with them and then moving on helps. obvoiusly you are stressed, maybe journally or blogging can help you. today is a new day, try to start fresh and go from there. obviously you can do this you lost 24lbs that is great. get back to where you started and remember you deserve this. You are worth it.

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5/7/09 11:48 A

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You just need to remember what got you on the band wagon to loose the weight back in Feb and get it started again. Don't blame yourself or anyone else for the weight gain that you have done, just look yourself in the mirror and say here I go again and get on the way.

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5/6/09 6:21 P

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For me, I had to hitm rock bottom before I stopped. That added to hip replacement surgery triggered the end of all that eating. I started by planning all my meals and snacks. Then I kept adding exercise. I also came here before I ate to get encouragement. Hamg in there Remember to breathe and think before you eat. Try keeping a jopurnal of what is triggering these events. Then you can share them with your therapist.

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5/5/09 11:14 P

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Ugh I had the skinny therapist too. They really don't get it.

Annnyway, I was in the same situation as you a couple of months ago and gained 25 lbs in less than two months (yes, I am a champion weight gainer). I hadn't even realized it until one day I tried to put on a shirt I hadn't worn in a while. I couldn't believe it! Then I remembered how often I had that Spicy chicken sandwich at Wendy's. Oops.

I think the biggest thing is to NOT punish yourself mentally. For me, this is the largest difference from how I used to look at things. I literally hated myself and punished my body...which is why I had to see the skinny therapist, who then actually looked at me like I was crazy.

Instead of saying "Oh my god I am so out of control!"-try looking at what you can take control of, even if it is something small. From small, it progresses to bigger and better. I know your situation does not allow for this, but for me it's walking. From walking comes water, from water comes vegetables, comes limiting fried foods, comes smaller portions and more frequent eating (you get the picture)....this has been a month in the making but I am back on track and have lost back 13 of the lbs.

Maybe for you it's saying, "I ate and I am hungry and I want fast food, and I know I have to get out of this house! Ok, I can get a salad at a fast food joint!" Something small, and you were going there anyway!

I believe I am going to catch some flack for saying "you're going anyway." But, it's small steps. Soon, you won't "go anyway."

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5/5/09 10:29 P

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emoticon to everyone for giving me such great support and suggestions. I'm sorry for everyone who has been in my situation, but I really appreciate knowing that I'm not alone in this.

I tried to focus on this topic at my therapy session today and really convey the struggle I'm having to my naturally skinny therapist and she seemed to understand a little better. I think one of the reasons I'm doing this indulgent eating is because I want to feel free of the constant critic about eating - about everything. I've somehow gotten in the habit where I feel better if I TOTALLY blow it, then if I'm just over by a little. I know that sounds weird. I've always wondered what it would be like to be 120 pounds and just casually care about what I eat, instead of obsessing over every bite. IDK, I'm trying to figure it out.

What I do know is that I am feeling better from reading all of your feedback and have had a good day today and hope many will follow! Thanks again!

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5/5/09 9:07 P

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hi I am sorry to hear your health problems. all I can is keep the faith and pray. You know you are a beautiful girl, that beautiful big smile. i will remember you in my prayers and good luck with your exams and your surgery. God bless emoticon emoticon emoticon

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5/5/09 7:06 P

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can't add anything to whats been said but i do wish you luck in everything your doing. prays are with you.

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5/5/09 7:03 P

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Lots of great advice here....take it easy on yourself. This isn't gonna be something you can fix overnite.....really....take it easy.

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5/5/09 4:56 P

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I think that you feel unloved and unneeded . I think i hear your cry for help . yes the ride down the tunnel is long and the feeling your trying to eat to make them go away is hard to fight . but you can and you will . you will win this hateful battle . a loss of pain the food can not make you feel better . I am sorry but food doesn't do it . learning to live with life will do you much better . Learning to turn a deaf ear to the feeling that makes you want to eat . nothing is that bad that you must run to food to find help . It doesn't come in the form of a cheeseburger . or that dish of ice cream . the answer comes from the ability to cope with all kinds of pressure . i know this isn't what you want to hear but you need to stop and think . if you gain every week because someone upsets you over something that you must learn to cope . life goes quickly except when you are waiting for it pass . those moments stand still in your mind frozen in your mind like an ice block .

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I don't think I can add too much more to what everyone here has said, but you cannot let doing badly previously mess you up going forward. It is so, so difficult, especially when you have MAJOR stressors in your life. Don't be so hard on yourself for not being perfect. Everyone stumbles--lean on the community here and the people in your personal life for support. Focus on one SMALL thing you can do to improve yourself, and do that. You can build from there. emoticon

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5/5/09 1:30 P

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so I understand you are eating because of family, stress, upcoming surgery and just plain apathy. So what can you do? Yesterday is in the past, tomorrow is in the future, the only day you have control over is today. So for today get back on the wagon, track your food, drink your water and exercise if you can. Sitting exercises are still exercise. Wheelchair athetes exercise. When you feel like emotionally eating either log back on and ask for help or journal in a notebook and get your feelings down on paper. Vent on paper or vent to the walls. You will shed some tears and you will definately feel alot better. Don't let your past or future control your life. You are a strong woman and you must take day by day.

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I so understand where you are coming from.I am in a similar situation right now.My MIL had a severe stroke almost two weeks ago.At the moment we live with the in-laws.Between taking care of my two year old and 5 weekss old,then being there for my husband and his father I have been very stressed.I have been very out of control myself with the eating so I really understand.I think everyone has offered some great advice that we both can use.We can get through this.I always say if I have too I will start over fresh after every slip up even if it is 20 times a day.Hang in there.
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5/4/09 11:08 P

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Ok lets think of everything that set you off, or you just didnt care. what has happen other than the wedding.. something is bothering you .. write a journal.. log here more.

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5/4/09 10:44 P

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sounds like you have a lot of things going on that sent you into a tailspin - I went through a similar tailspin myself a few weeks ago and am just getting a handle on things now. it took a while for the feelings to feel less raw and now that i am more settled down it is easier to be back on track. i feel for you and can only offer support and understanding. i wish i had the magic cure that would help you get back on board but you will get back on board if you posted your feelings on spark - that tells me your heart is still in it. hang in there, let the dust settle a little more, these 3 weeks will pass and you will get through it. give yourself something to look forward to that is not weight related and focus on your well-being. so sorry to hear you are struggling. glad you shared your thoughts though...




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5/4/09 10:17 P

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I do hear you!!!!!! It is hard for me anyway, once you get off the "good" track of losing weight, but you can do it........Just try really hard to visualize that NEW YOU, get that gum out, throw out the junk that calls your name, put some post it notes around that motivate you.....and try to FORGET the past.....it is over.....a new day is ahead....a chance to do a do over....YOU ARE WORTH IT, and YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!! I'M ROOTIN' FOR YA!!!!!!! emoticon

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Make it a blessed and healthy day! IT IS YOUR CHOICE!

Remember how special you are and how you are soooooo worth it to be healthy and fit!!

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I had my left ankle fused a few years back. Surgery is a VERY stressful time. I can not imagine waiting for surgery AND having finals too. UGH!!!! Take some time for you. Do something you enjoy except DO NOT EAT more than your 3 meals and 2 snacks a day!!!! Have you tried any crafts? I found that when I do plastic canvas I do not eat because my hands and mond are busy, plus I do not want to get food all over the yarn. I also do circle a word puzzles, go sit outside and watch the birds flying in the sky and sit in the sun, I do a lot of realization things like concintrate on the smell of fresh air, the cool breeze, the smell of the flowers, the shapes of the clouds, anything to keep my mind occupied and off food. I will also chomp on ice for the crunch without the calories.

If you have any questions about the surgery please feel free to ask. I have been there and done that.

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I was doing the same thing when I first started at Spark. I started to journal my feelings. I blogged about it one day ... there is a link below to what I do. Nothing hard. I also went for a walk and screamed in the woods one day. Anything to get those feelings out of you instead of leaving them in you and letting them eat at you.

You are going to get lots of ideas here. Try any and all of them. Keep the ones that work and throw out the ones that don't. YOU are sooooo worth this effort!!!

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Man, you are in a stressful spot, family, school, surgery, 3 mos no walking or driving....whoa Nelly!!! That's a lot all at once & I hate that outta control behavior, I've been there several times---first I would suggest drinking water non-stop so you feel super bloated & then chew gum like a crazy lady, even it's it's a pack an hour/haha. For me personally, at a point like you are at I have to do 2 things( journal & beat or break something & cry) in whichever order comes best to you. I'm not proud of this, but it does work in an emergency. I once beat the crap out of a coaster, because it was the only thing in my house that I didn't really mind losing & was sure I could afford to replace it later(I know, I know....no need for speeches on this). I also have been known to journal, break, journal, break, cry. Your counselor may not like it( I don't either as a long term strategy-haha), but your counselor may also have never been pushed to the edge & have been eating her way thru it. Once, you get thru with that--get a solid plan for who will get you around & bring you meals after the surgery & that will take care of a lot of stress. Run down the street chewing, if you need-but no more eating.

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I also feel your pain
I think we are both in the same boat. I find that I often eat without being hungry, or feel hungry AFTER eating, doesn't make any sense either.
Wish I had the answers for you, I'm sure other will have some suggestions.
Just letting you know that you are not in this alone.

Kudos for the 24 pounds
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Lisa gave excellent advise here. Deep breathing exercises ahve really helped me. Look around you and find a hobby or somethign that brings you great pleasure that will take your mind off of eating and food. Reading a movie, Crocheting, knitting, a walk anything. Grab soem water and guzzle it down when you are gettting in the mood to splurge. You can do it. I ahve faith in you. love yourself.

I went through the same thing and i am sure lots of us ahve been there so we really understand.
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5/4/09 7:50 P

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I know how you feel, and it hurts. Can you identify what is making you eat? It sounds to me like you are scared and stressed, which is a nasty combination. How is school going?

You have done well with losing the 24 pounds. I envy you. I hope that you will be able to find some time during the next few weeks to do something that you would like to do for yourself. I know that school is important, but if you are so stressed out, you will not do well, either.

Take a deep breath and relax. I understand that you are having some issues with the ankle, so I would not recommend walking around. If the weather is nice, can you get outside and just sit and enjoy the weather? Try to find something that will give you some peace so you do not thing of the troubling things that cause you to eat.

This is not much, but I hope this helps.

Let me know how the tests go.

Lisa

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I was doing really well on my diet for a while. I lost 24 pounds since the beginning of February 2009. I went to my brother's wedding for the third week in April and DID NOT stay on my diet. I didn't care too much because it was an event and a lot of eating out.

The problem is that I came back 2 weeks ago and can't seem to get back on track. The wedding was very stressful and I have a LOT of issues with my family, including trauma. Also,it is the last 3 weeks of the semester and I have a major test every week (or less). And finally, I'm having major surgery on my ankle on May 20th (one week after my last final) and will be in the hospital for a week and unable to walk or drive for the 3 months after that. They are fusing my joint and if it doesn't go well then I may not be walking for much longer. Needless to say, I'm very scared and very stressed.

So, I'm here begging for suggestions. I gained 4 pounds from the wedding, and I was okay with that, but I'm getting out of control. I keep promising myself that I'll stop and I just keep eating. I keep all healthy food in the house, yet I'm ordering out all the time. Even if I cook and eat a healthy dinner and am full, I'll actually go and get fast food and eat till I'm sick to my stomach.I keep tracking everything hoping it will slow me down, but it's not. I'm eating almost 3000 calories and over 100 grams of fat per day! I'm out of control and I don't know how to stop. I'm talking with my therapist, but I don't think she really understands the drive that's forcing me to do this.

Please, please, please any suggestions or support would be greatly appreciated!

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