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8/12/09 12:23 P

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Wow- good job on throwing away the rest of the coffee cake! Sometimes we have to "throw" away friends that are bad for us.
Find some people to hang with that like to do the same things you do.

**LINDA**

Weight loss is accomplished with the mind.


A person who wants something WILL find a way....a person who doesn't will find an excuse.

Which do you prefer?
The pain of self discipline?....or...the pain of self regret?






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8/11/09 10:52 P

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Please make a new friend---my sworn enemies have treated me better than that. Good job on the 3rd piece!

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8/11/09 3:36 P

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I'm going to give you the advice that everyone will agree with. Tonight and tommorrow, emphasize fruits and vegetables. Make sure you get your water. The point being that you want to be able to process this stuff right out of you so it doesn't stick around.

You definitely need to expand the circle of friends. you need to have friends of all types (of course you have to be your best friend to yourself first) More positive and fun friend will make you better able to handle the occasional drama.

Emma




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BENTONHEALTHY's Photo BENTONHEALTHY Posts: 2,248
8/11/09 11:14 A

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I think it showed a movement of attitude to throw that third piece away.

I am not losing this fat - I am removing it for good.

"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us."

"Change your thoughts and change your world"


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MSDELAO's Photo MSDELAO Posts: 43
8/11/09 11:10 A

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Thank you so much for all the support! I am so lucky!!!

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God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.


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8/10/09 4:35 P

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first of all emoticon ! You have been SO brave today: you threw the 3rd piece away, GOOD JOB! You realized u must stop and you DID! You were only trying to help your friend and I really do pray she realizes that. You have a number of friends here on SP who understand exactly what you are going through. Just hang in there. emoticon

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8/10/09 3:55 P

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8/10/09 3:52 P

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No quick answers. Maybe tell her how bad this hurt you. She was, it seems, thinking of herself. Just a thought.

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Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success. SP quote


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PRINCIPESSA773's Photo PRINCIPESSA773 Posts: 124
8/10/09 3:18 P

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I totally understand you! I had a "best" friend that was just like that. We totally grew apart. It was very hard to let her go, but I had to do it, and let me tell you it's for the better. You don't need negative people in your life. As for the coffee cake, just let it go, you ate it, track it and continue eating healthy. I know you can do it!! Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

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8/10/09 3:05 P

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I don't know what to tell you. You need to handle this situation in a way that helps you.

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There are two options regarding committment - your either IN or your OUT. There is no such thing as life in-between.

A person who wants something will find a way..
A person who doesn't will find an excuse...



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8/10/09 2:35 P

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you don't have to like her behavior or accept it, but you can still be her friend. It is her life. Take control of your life and let her live hers. Express your concern and leave it at that. And don't punish yourself when you get in a fight. You can't control her or her actions, but you can control how you react and what you eat. make the CHOICE not to eat coffee cake when mad. You can do this. this is a learning experience.

1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time.
Choice is in our power; take the power and run.

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Nothing is forever why not live for today and make it the best day ever.

I am my best friend.


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8/10/09 2:07 P

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The fact that you thru the 3rd piece away showes that you have more strength than you think you have. Use that in the other areas also. The more you use that muscle the more stronger it will become.

The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That's the day we truly grow up.

- John Maxwell, author and public speaker

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results.
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8/10/09 2:00 P

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I see you have the Serenity Prayer on your Post. Well, this is one thing that you can change. Make your choices so It's RIGHT For YOU. If she doesn't fit the plan, Well, that's your choice...Why are you friends anyway???
Good for you for throwing away that 3rd Piece...I'm proud of you and I hope you are Proud of yourself, also...
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Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... it's about learning to dance in the rain. Vivian Greene
Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there.



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8/10/09 1:57 P

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I think it's time that you start thinking about you and not how she is living her life. You have many friends her on spark that will help you and care about you when she is ready she will find her way home and back to you it will hurt for awhile though stay strong cause you are the most important person

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MSDELAO's Photo MSDELAO Posts: 43
8/10/09 1:44 P

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I just got into a big fight with my best friend and ate 2 pieces of coffeecake!!! I am now sad that I am in a fight with my bf and disapointed that I had the 2 pieces!!! Its a downward cycle.

I have long nails though and caught myself on the way down. I am claying back to surface. There were 3 pieces and the 3rd I threw into the garbage!!!

Does anyone have advice- my friend is a "crazy" girl. she parties hard, and is very flirty and permiscuous. and I am NOT. Im chill, quiet and like to be at home!! I am noticing more and more how incredibally different we are and I don't agree with her lifestlye.

Basically- we went to the park and her "boyfriend" (a married man) was talking to another girl (not his wife) in a mini skirt and she got jealous. I begged her not to go over to him- to just kick him to the curb. She left me in the car with no ride- and it was raining!!!

God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.


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