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8/14/09 2:59 P

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First of all- welcome to the team Minty! emoticon I'm so glad you posted! I have done the same thing in the past. I am becoming more and more aware of it and training my brain to stop and think before acting out in this way. Somedays it's really tough, I'll be honest. BUT I'm learning that this is something I can change about myself. The longer I go without bingeing the better I feel physically and mentally and I remember those positive feelings when I'm stressed or scared or just plain overtired.

The other motivation I have to change this behaviour is the realization that THIS is why I haven't been able to lose any significant amount of weight for the past couple years. Yes, years. It's embarrassing because I am known in my family as the "healthy one" but I am 75 pounds overweight. Obvisously there's a disconnect someplace...and I'm pretty sure THIS is it. This all or nothing mentality just HAS to go! Ironically, it's holding me back. I think about this now BEFORE I eat something and make careful choices. Instead of a third pound angus burger and fry at McD's now I'll have a grilled chicken sandwich without mayo and a medium fry. It's not perfect, but for me- once in awhile- it's a fairly well balanced treat. Stopping and thinking before I order has proved to be a big help! I think- do I want to eat the same thing I usually and experience the same results (like not losing weight, feeling overstuffed and then ashamed of my choice) or do I want to choose something that I am proud to tell people about?

So, Minty, you're not alone! Let's use our courage and re-train our brains about eating emotionally! It really can be done...honest!!

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8/14/09 1:09 A

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Instead of using food, try... feeling the feeling. Sit still (that really helps) and give that emotion it's time, full focus, Like

"Man I am stressed because I have so much to do and I'm afraid that I cannot finish. So it's really fear, what am I afraid of? What's the worst that could happend?" Then think about it just let that feeling go through you.. That kills the craving. For me the eating is ducking the feelings. If I feel the feelings and give them attention, they release me so I can go on and enjoy my day.

Welcome good luck...

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8/13/09 10:32 A

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welcome. There are other ways to deal with it. Stress will always be around. It pops up out of nowhere, but we have to learn other ways to deal with it. yo yo eating will not help you in the long run and really isn't helping your problem.

1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time.
Choice is in our power; take the power and run.

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Nothing is forever why not live for today and make it the best day ever.

I am my best friend.


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I-CAN-DO-IT-2's Photo I-CAN-DO-IT-2 Posts: 580
8/12/09 10:03 P

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I too drug my feelings with food.

Dr. Phil (which I watch only occasionally so thankfully fell over!) had a rerun of a show within the last few weeks talking about addictions. I realized from watching that that I am a food addict. When someone does something that feels good even when they would rather now and KNOWS it is bad for them, that is an ADDICT. I am a food addict.

Unfortunately, I am still barely keeping my head above water currently with the stuff going on in our lives, but thankfully I now know and can eventually learn how to better overcome it.

Welcome and good luck to you,and to all of us. emoticon

Robin

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- 1 small choice at a time (thanks Scott).
- Fail to plan, and plan to fail!
- "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. " Theodore Roosevelt
- Progress, not perfection.

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8/12/09 12:30 P

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~Victoria~

For all these years I've had him on my back, this debt can not be paid with all your jack.......The Pogues.

Those who matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter.

I'm walking on broken glass from the wreckage of my past......Papa Roach


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8/12/09 12:15 P

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8/12/09 12:11 P

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Hi MINTY- welcome to the team.
I do the same thing, sometimes I just don't feel like behaving and I eat everything in site, then I feel bad and get back on track. The bad part is that it takes longer to lose the weight when you set yourself back.

**LINDA**

Weight loss is accomplished with the mind.


A person who wants something WILL find a way....a person who doesn't will find an excuse.

Which do you prefer?
The pain of self discipline?....or...the pain of self regret?






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8/11/09 10:38 P

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I think that is part of the process:learning to deal with the reality of our actions & then learning how we respond to those actions & in time , we get stronger & can choose to react or not, but it becomes a choice that we can take pride in or a choice that we can understand why we had such a hard time in a particular moment...over time it becomes more about knowing your patterns & making choices & not as much about being a victim of compulsion....now it takes more stress to push my buttons, sometimes I do choose to cave, but I dust off & know I took the easiest way out & then I decide if I want to do it again, or if I want to start dealing with the consequences of my slip...we all do this from time to time....

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8/11/09 9:15 P

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Actually I did do that and I also had the rationale that if I eat it all up, it would be gone and I could start eating right again. In fact, I would say I gained a lot of weight that way. Come here and post -- that is the wonder of SP. We all understand.

I am not losing this fat - I am removing it for good.

"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us."

"Change your thoughts and change your world"


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8/11/09 8:54 P

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Welcome! It sounds like you fit right in here as an emotional eater! There are so many healthier ways to handle stress without ending up feeling bad about yourself. I agree with others, come here and share with us, there is always someone here for encouragement and support. Part of emotional eating for me is getting stuck in the unhealthy patterns in my head, and coming here helps me step outside of myself and get a different perspective. I'm glad you've joined us, and look forward to getting to know you!
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8/11/09 8:34 P

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8/11/09 8:14 P

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emoticon and emoticon to this group. You for sure need this group. You need to talk to people and get help with this pattern you have formed. Please get on here the next time and talk, watch fitness videos, read blogs, do anything else other than what you have been doing. You can do this, remember the weight didn't come on over night and it isn't going to come off over night. We all want you to succeed in this. Glad to have you on this team and wishing you well on your new healthy eating life style.

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Actions speak louder than words.

Don't worry if you falter now and then, just be sure to try again. A little bit of healthy guilt can work wonders.

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8/11/09 7:42 P

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Thank you SECONDCHANCE I will come here the next time. Thank you so much for the warm welcomes!

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8/11/09 7:31 P

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emoticon to the team. I'm glad this works for you. It would never work for me. I slip up but I get right back on the horse.

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There are two options regarding committment - your either IN or your OUT. There is no such thing as life in-between.

A person who wants something will find a way..
A person who doesn't will find an excuse...



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8/11/09 7:29 P

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Hello and welcome to the team...glad to have you join us...This is a terrible habit you have...and you must stop that way of thinking...you can do this and we're here to help you...come online when you're feeling this way and let us talk/walk you thru it...we all get like this...but you must not act and if you do..not to that degree...

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8/11/09 7:19 P

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Hi,I am new to this group. I have learned to eat correctly as far as healthy foods an portion size UNTIL stress knocks on my door. When stress comes in I start to slip and then another day of messing up and another until I can feel a weight gain and I feel bad. This is how I curb it, I know it may not be the best but I will take a few days and eat bad things on purpose and eat too much so by the third day food sounds bad and all I want to do is feel healthy again. I will start eating correctly again and doing my work outs and feeling my best. I don't know why I have to bottom out each time just to get back on track but I do. Do any of you do this too? Now if I am not stressed and I do a little slip up I am fine,I will just give myself a pep talk and say it is okay just move on and do good from this minute on.

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