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11/2/09 7:48 P

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Another one... It's not about you!




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8/14/09 1:59 P

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It's ok that the kids will be going to Preschool. I know it's hard, but look at it this way. It will become an adventure for them. They'll get to meet other children to be friends with, they'll learn new stuff (not that they weren't with you!) and they'll see what it's like to be a "big kid". As for the body.. everyone is different! One of my best friends had twins at 22 and she did not "pop back into shape" she lost some weight kinda quickly, but that was it. In fact all of my friends who had kids at 22-26 yrs old never went back to the shape they were before kids! Then again, my grandmother had her last child at around mid/late 30s and she went right back to her same tiny body. So you never know what can happen! We've seen your posts here about all the things you've been doing for your children, so we know you're a great mom! Don't get down on yourself, your children love you and you love them. Be proud of that.

Bella - I hear that! I'm almost 29 and I told my mom a few years back that same thing. Not that ever wanted to be her friend at 13 though! I feel more able to raise a child (when I have one) because my mom gave me that discipline in the first place.

Edited by: RAVENFAIR at: 8/14/2009 (14:00)
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It all comes to this: the simplest way to be happy is to do good.

If God brings you to it - He will bring you through it.

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8/14/09 7:33 A

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Good one Emma!

I thought of another one.....be a mom.....not a friend!!!!!!

My daughter told me a few months ago who is now 29, I'm glad you were a mom and not a friend!!!!! You disciplined us (her brother and her) even though we didn't like you then! You were a mom! You cared!

Barbara .....that's what my friends call me! Never cared for the name Barb.

Make it a blessed and healthy day! IT IS YOUR CHOICE!

Remember how special you are and how you are soooooo worth it to be healthy and fit!!

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the assurance of things unseen. Hebrews 11:1




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8/14/09 1:12 A

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Don't be a perfect mother, be a good-enough mother. Perfect mothers don't really exist. Who needs a mythical creature as a Mom?

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8/12/09 9:43 P

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I liked your quotes. Thanks for sharing them. Funny that's what you asked all of us for. Hope our stories and support helped you.

PS Am sending you an email.

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Edited by: I-CAN-DO-IT-2 at: 8/12/2009 (21:43)
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- Look *AHEAD.*
- 1 small choice at a time (thanks Scott).
- Fail to plan, and plan to fail!
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These are a couple quotes I was given that helped me too--thought I'd share in case someone is going thru something similar.

"A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary."-Dorothy Canfield Fisher

"A mother is a person, who seeing there are only 4 pieces of pie for 5 people, promptly announces she never did care for pie."-Tenneva Jordan

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Thank you for all the kindness---it's so helpful & appreciated. emoticon

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8/12/09 3:08 P

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And this too shall pass!

Barbara .....that's what my friends call me! Never cared for the name Barb.

Make it a blessed and healthy day! IT IS YOUR CHOICE!

Remember how special you are and how you are soooooo worth it to be healthy and fit!!

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the assurance of things unseen. Hebrews 11:1




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8/12/09 10:47 A

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It is rare in this day and age to be a stay at home mom...and the kids who stay home have a really hard time when school (Kindergarten) starts. Best to do it now, they will be fine and you will be fine too.
There are millions of moms and dads going through the same thing....I know, you feel guilty - DON'T - STOP THAT! - The kids will learn to love it and they will make friends and be all the better at socializing in the years to come. I put all 3 of my children in daycare from the time they were 6 weeks old!!! NO harm done, lifetime relationships have formed and they are NOT shy like I was with a stay at home mom. I think it did them a world of good and it allowed ME to continue working and give them so much more than if I stayed home without a paycheck. Good luck, you will be fine.
If you need help, there is no shame in asking!!!! Just do it.

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Oh Sweetheart - You are having a time of it aren't you? My son (who is now 20) was in day care from 10 weeks until he went to K-garten at 5. Take a look at how many kids are in day care - you are not alone! There's probably a Spark Team devoted to Moms of kids in day care you can join for support.

Oprah had a "Mom" show on a few weeks ago. It was a really enlightening and informative and supportive show. I have added a link below for you.

RE: The cast - I had a full hard cast in May after my elbow surgery and all I can say is ask the people in your life for help. www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/2009
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8/12/09 8:14 A

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I had kids in my 20's & I had my last one at 39....there is just no comparison in how the body reacts!
I had the lost weight after my first 3 kids. It has been almost 10 years since my 4 child was born and I still weigh the same as I did shortly after I had him. emoticon
The body just doesn't react the same. So, no good quotes here but hang in there.

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I know it is hard, but do what is best. I lucked out with my oldest, I found a wonderful private daycare and she worked wonders with my daughter. She had a set schedule, taught her things, she was able to socialize with kids of all ages. she was there from the age of 1 to the age of 4. She loved it and I didn't feel bad. I knew she was getting what I couldnt' give her because I had to work and I was basically a single mom at the time, dad was doing drugs and not working so he wasn't around that much. Anyway, then she went to daycare at a facility that she loved and then school. I am looking into getting my 18 month old into something similar here in the next year so that she can get the socialization she needs as well. i think it is good for them to be with other children and to be on a schedule similar to school.

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8/11/09 10:38 P

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Ah sweetie, I'm so sorry you are sad.

My wonderful 24 year old daughter was in daycare from 10 weeks old. I was in graduate school. We made sure she was always in a good, secure, learning environment with loving people. She flourished and has grown up to be a wonderful young woman. Most kids love to play with and be with other kids. I hope it will be so for yours.

You know the serenity prayer...this sounds like one of those things you cannot change. Something to work on accepting...So don't beat yourself up and take care of yourself.

You will still have lots (thought less) of time with them to have a great impact on them. Love and life values matter most. Quality, not quantity. Just love, teach, and enjoy them.

I hope you feel better.

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- Look *AHEAD.*
- 1 small choice at a time (thanks Scott).
- Fail to plan, and plan to fail!
- "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. " Theodore Roosevelt
- Progress, not perfection.

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I'm having a very very hard time today....I'm putting my kids in pre-school Thursday & I never thought I would....I'm pushing 40 & I didn't have kids in my twenties b/c I needed to do a lot of psychological work on myself & I was going to school to build some security for my kids I hoped to have one day....

Things in my life rarely go the way I plan, which I'm getting used to with each passing example..haha I was raised by a stay at home mom, & I have a cousin, who's 23 years old & had twins 6 months before I did....anyway, she is a school teacher(who's not going back to work until they the twins go to school & she was a college cheerleader & snapped back to 90 pounds 2 months after having the twins)...It's hard to watch, really---you know I didn't snap back so well, not that I was ever 90 pounds since the third grade....

Anyway, I feel like a failure on having to put my kids into preschool---I'm way too emotional on it for sure b/c , well, I guess I just really wanted to be stronger than I am....Last week, I tried to go about a day with them doing all the lifting & physical requirements involved(I had 2 people helping me at home before, long story)...anyway, now both of my rotator cuffs in my shoulders are hurting & popping & I had sciatic nerve pain & had to take soma for 5 days...that is when I knew for sure that I am too weak to do what I would like to do physically....

So anyway, I feel down about this & I'm hungry.....Oh yes, there is one other major stress, Thursday, I'm getting my right hand all the way up to my shoulder put into a hard cast by an orthopedic surgeon & will have it on for 2 weeks, so that will add frustration since I am not a big fan of frustration.....

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