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10/26/09 1:37 P

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I'm sorry you are dealing with something that sucks so bad and then being in pain and having young kids doesn't help. I will pray for you and hope that your life gets a little easier for you. Maybe you should write that book. I find that writing and reading really help my stress level and it gets rid of my frustrations a lot. especially writing. hey maybe this anger could turn into a best seller.

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10/25/09 2:00 P

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Dear Charliesangel10--I'm in the same boat. My rage peaked about 2 weeks ago (another 8 months before this resolves). Because I'm kind of Buddhist/Hindu in my way of seeing life, I finally lay down with my eyes closed and talked to what I call the Divine. The way I see it, the Divine lives everywhere, including inside people. I told the Divine I couldn't stand the anger any more. I told it I couldn't get rid of the anger and it was killing me. And I told the Divine that since I couldn't fix it, the Divine was going to have to do it for me. So then I went on being angry for a few days and one day I woke up and the rage was gone. Sure I get frustrated and ticked off from time to time but that horrible all-consuming rage? Poof.
I'm not saying there's any magic to this; it may just be that when you really ask the power within you (which might be the Divine or it might be your unconscious--who knows?), things can get done.

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10/25/09 11:33 A

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You have amazing strength and Survival Skills. Reach deep inside and pull them out. Look how much you have accomplished and overcome. You are here and Alive!!!
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10/25/09 2:23 A

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I skimmed this and didn't see this suggestion, so I'll add it late. You said you made an angry prayer. The best angry prayers are found in Psalms. There are more angry psalms than praising psalms, although only the latter usually turn up in church. Shout them out loud with all the emotion you can muster. Try 109 for starters.

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do. - Eleanor Roosevelt


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10/24/09 6:50 P

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Hi there..I have no word of wisdom! But just know that we care and we are praying for you to have peace in the midst of this bad situation. Sending lots of positive thoughts and cyberhugs ((()))your way! U will remain in my thoughts and prayers! Bren

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Thank you for your comments...it's very helpful....I'm still mad...but life does go on , doesn't it? I've got 2 kids, who deserve a happy mother & a good day...I can not afford myself the luxury of sitting around feeling...feelings don't matter sometimes & this is one of those times.... I found an article that is interesting that I will post about choosing our feelings...if it makes me think today, maybe it will be useful to others too.....

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10/24/09 10:19 A

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A Warm Scented Bath with your favorite glass of wine. Soothing music...
But FIRST, you MUST promise yourself, NO THOUGHTS.

Just relax in the tub and hum the music. And of course, SIP your wine from time to time. NO time limit. Take as long as you like...

I know this won't fix your problems. But sometimes, just a moment of silence really helps clear the mind and helps you relax. Getting upset really doesn't fix anything but only hurts you...and let's the others that are causing your problem to have more of your time.
DO NOT LET THEM IN...


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Exploding can feel good but it doesn't solve anything. I tend to want to sit alone and determine the best cause of action. Sometimes I just have to work things out in my head before I can do anything.

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Give it to God....and feel my emoticon

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I hate that you're going thru something that angers you so much...I had to smile when you said you'd use it if you ever write a murder mystery...once, when I was so angry with someone I worked with (she's no longer there...ended up getting fired...too bad...ha), I sat down and wrote out a story in which she met with a horrible fate...it may not sound like a very nice thing to do, but at least I didn't kill her myself...LOL!!

Here's hoping everything is resolved in your favor...and soon.. Hugs sweetie!!

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I can so emphathize, without even knowing why you are so angry, because we've been through the "wringer" these past three years--cancer, alcoholism, abuse, identity theft, protective orders, deployment to Iraq, serious medical issues, just to name a few. We have been protected by Federal Marshals, stalked by family members, investigated by Child Protective Services, and that's just what I can talk about w/o blowing up the computer. 8-)

So, when you're alone and seething, think of me! I'm here to pray for you and hope things get better--and I don't need to know why.

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Sorry, I don't know what to suggest other than what the others already have, so I'll just send hugs & healing positive thoughts your way.

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It's funny that you started this topic today. I just finished up some legal problems of my own that took 7 months. My attorney was even doing cartwheels that it was finally over. My advice to you, even though it's going to be hard to do, is be patient. You'll win in the end. stevo5o


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Is there anyone you can talk to? When I am really upset I write a letter - not necessarily to anyone in particular. I usually end up ripping it up afterwards. If there is not a person you can talk to, maybe a therapist - they would have to keep it confidential.

I also like the idea of a massage or swimming for you too.

I wish you have an easy resolution to your problem.

"There's a difference between knowing the path and walking the path." Morpheus in The Matrix

"Failure is only postponed success...The habit of persistence is the habit of victory." -Herbert Kaufman

Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do."
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Jesus gives me peace. I became Catholic in 2005 and my life has totally transformed.

My friend gave me a "God box." You write down your problem, put it in the God box, and give it to God.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

May the Peace of Christ fill your heart.


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It's that bad?



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I can go for a slow walk in the morning....no access to pool & not advised to get massages, yet...I know you are right about the clarity...I look forward to the clarity arriving....I've chewed gum until, now I've REALLY got a headache....I just thought of something, see how sharing when you can't even share is helpful? I was loaned a book called KILL ME about a guy who hires an assassin to kill him if he ever gets a bad diagnosis---I might could relate(no, I don't really mean I wish someone would shoot me)--maybe it could make me feel better if I read about someone doing something violent since I can not...I hope somebody gets a bat out & swings it at something......I'll go try it....can't hurt.....

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Oh, man, your situation sounds beyond awful!! I am sorry that things are unfolding in this way. Unlike the others, I think that using your anger right now to be ultra clear about your goals and your thoughs about how to get there could be helpful. Anger clarifies the mind.

But beyond that, I agree that somehow getting the cascade of anger hormones out of your system could be really helpful. Is there anything physical that you can do that does NOT hurt -- like swimming? Or is it possible to get a massage? That might help...

I wish you the best in this difficult situation.
Kathleen

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Thank you...I would love to go to a boxing class right now--here's my problem, I have a wrist injury & my lower back is out....so I'm sitting/lying here wanting to go beat something up & when I move an inch my back aches---which makes me madder....when having a fit of self pity tonight...I keep thinking about the phrase, " kicking me when I'm down". Which, of course is making me angry....what would you do to get this energy out?If those were your physical conditions? I'm open to anything...I'm trying to think if there Is anything I could do with a bat, & not need a steroid injection afterwards.....

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I would go tdo something active!! Maybe go to batting cage or soemthing. That might help. It hopefully will settle you down even for a few moments. LOL I hope you will be ok & I will pray for everything to workout for u.

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I'm so very angry...so angry that I'm not even "blow up volcano" style angry...I'm "sit down & plot" angry....I am dealing with something that involves several attorneys & am unable to type anything about it online or speak about certain things to anyone....not that I would want to, mind you--I'm too angry....this situation could take over a year for me to fully end it...likely longer....I did journal & plan to use the ideas if I ever decide to write a murder mystery....I really have no productive action I can take because I'm just gonna be told what to do & when to do it...in fact, I'm a little like a caged poodle being carried thru the airport in my doggie carrier...I prayed a nice "angry" prayer..which ended in a "why me" prayer...which just made me see how pathetic my character can be at times....what do you do or know something someone does to deal with major anger, when you are stuck in a situation that you can not leave? Ideas?

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