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6/8/11 4:15 A

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It looks like this is a common problem, I think that posting and making friends is the first step. I eat emotionally sometimes and it really does help but the consenquenses for me are that I don't lose weight. I am trying harder every day to mentally think about what the heck I am doing to myself. You have many friends here. Good luck. emoticon

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6/7/11 6:49 P

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I went to a spice demonstation and she related a story about a man who would take a whole clove and chew it to cleanse his breath. I thought that I would chew on a whole clove to take the craving aways from food, when I really wasn't hungrey. It works

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6/7/11 2:33 P

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take a walk, a hot bath, read a good book, just get out of the house and move helps

1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time.
Choice is in our power; take the power and run.

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Nothing is forever why not live for today and make it the best day ever.

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6/7/11 2:23 P

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Thank you everyone for your advice. I guess I am more specifically looking for techniques or strategies to deal with negative feelings such as discouragement over lack of progress or other stresses that bring me down. I tend to use food like a drug to boost my mood when I am feeling down. The article on 50 ways to sooth yourself without food sounds like it would be helpful but I have not yet been able to find it. I will look some more.

Drinking water is a small help. Looking for something to distract me such as a project is also of some help. And, though it hasn't been mentioned here yet, caffeine is also of significant help to me. Do you have any suggestions of other things that tend to boost your spirits when you are feeling down (with out food)?

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6/7/11 9:19 A

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I understand where you are coming from. For me, I had to go back to when I was 4 and started EE. It was a coping mechanism for me. And now as an adult, I cannot blame my childhood, or my emotional or mental abuse on my adulthood. I have made the choices in my life, I was the one that ate too much, I was the one that made myself fat. But, for me, I had to forgive myself for coming up with a way to cope that hurt me. I was only 4 and being only 4 at the time, I saw my parents doing the same thing. It was a way to soothe myself a very young age. And that being said, I used that soothing for a very long time, well into my adult life. Once I forgave myself for abusing myself, then I had to forgive those that hurt me. Once doing that, I realized that this is my life now and I had to make the choices in it. No one else can make my choices for me. And that being said, I don't even talk to my parents or my sister anymore. They are toxic and abusive and my kids don't need to be thrown into the same cycle. Luckily they see the healthier me, the more sane me now.

Yes, you don't have to relive the past, but for my journey, that is what helped me get to where I am today. Am i at my goal weight? no way, but I'm working on it. I'm always working on my journey.

1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time.
Choice is in our power; take the power and run.

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Nothing is forever why not live for today and make it the best day ever.

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6/7/11 9:09 A

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I'm not disagreeing with you Flying but I have to wonder if what started it is even important anymore? For example I do know why I am as F'D up as I am, I can trace it all back to a very bad childhood. But knowing that doesn't do anything for me, it doesn't change anything or make it better, not that I was suggesting you were suggesting that.

There are times I wish that I didn't know why but i do. The other part of what you said I do agree with 100% and I feel is the most important thing which is putting the food down and learning how to manage emotions and feel the feelings good or bad without shoving something in my mouth to cope with it.

I have a pathological NEED to know things. I cannot just accept things and move on I have to pick and pick until I understand something and alot of the time I don't really understand yet I keep beating my head against a wall anyways, it consumes me from small trivial matters to the more complexities of life.

I managed on my own (for the most part) to do what would take most people years of therapy which is figure out the why. Now I'm not bragging about it by any means because as I said above the need to know is like an itch lodged in my brain that I cannot scratch, a sliver that is sore and throbbing yet I cannot do anything about.

I know what happened to me as a child, I know why I act the way I do today as an adult. I can follow the spidering crack in the mirror as it spreads out from its origin into all corners of my life. I guess my point is knowing why hasn't helped me not one damn bit, if anything it makes things worse at times, but i understand that need to know. i would just recommend focusing on the now and how to deal with the present moment rather than looking back into the past for answers, there is nothing there for us. Thats just my own personal thought due to personal experience.

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Do not stop enjoying the wonders of life despite the inevitable hurting that impairs our soul. Hence, it does not make you less of a person when you weep in tears and are in distress. Nonetheless, learn to withstand the stings of time; rise on your feet for no one can ever bring back the soul in you and the beauty of life except you, and you and you."


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6/7/11 8:56 A

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i agree DARKSTORM, I dont' think I will ever be cured, it is always lurking, waiting for a weak moment. i have managed my EE for over two years, and luckily even with all the stressful events in the last few months for me, the last thing I turned to was food, but that does not mean that down the road that it might not turn out different. this is something we have to deal with all the time. But I believe that if you can find out when it started, deal with that moment in time, let it go, let yourself feel your feelings and then let them go, that it is much easier to manage your EE

1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time.
Choice is in our power; take the power and run.

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Nothing is forever why not live for today and make it the best day ever.

I am my best friend.


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6/7/11 8:48 A

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ONICAM is correct but the only thing I wish to ad it I don't know as there is a "cure" For me I won't ever be cured, I must be on guard the rest of my life against it. Now I may reach a point where I find recovery and I never eat emotionally and compulsively again, that doesn't mean I am cured it just means I have found a balance and harmony in my life. People on IOA have found recovery for 20 years and then all of a sudden one day, when you think everything is fine and dandy your back binging again. I won't tell anyone who thinks they are cured they are wrong, they can believe whatever they want to believe. But lets revisit this topic 5-10 years down the road and see how things are because time is the only way to know for sure

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Do not stop enjoying the wonders of life despite the inevitable hurting that impairs our soul. Hence, it does not make you less of a person when you weep in tears and are in distress. Nonetheless, learn to withstand the stings of time; rise on your feet for no one can ever bring back the soul in you and the beauty of life except you, and you and you."


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6/7/11 8:29 A

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for me, I had to go to where it started. I had to revisit my past, pinpoint when I started EE and then I had to forgive myself and others. I also have to feel every feeling now and then let it go.

1 bite at a time = 1 choice at a time.
Choice is in our power; take the power and run.

Co-Leader of "Emotional Eaters"

Nothing is forever why not live for today and make it the best day ever.

I am my best friend.


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6/7/11 7:47 A

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go through over eaters anonymous. It takes a little while to completely stop, but it has slowed me down. They have a we care group that you could call or email as well as sponsors. I am with one sponsor, but you can have as many as you want.

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6/7/11 7:16 A

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get professional help in addition to anything you may do here it MAY be more difficult to handle than you can do on your own. I know it is for me. There are also groups like Overeaters Anonymous who can help. Look at all your options you can never have enough help

" Taking ACTION is the ultimate power of Motivation. Nothing beats it, period."
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Do not stop enjoying the wonders of life despite the inevitable hurting that impairs our soul. Hence, it does not make you less of a person when you weep in tears and are in distress. Nonetheless, learn to withstand the stings of time; rise on your feet for no one can ever bring back the soul in you and the beauty of life except you, and you and you."


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6/7/11 1:18 A

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Check out another thread on here that is sharing a lot of the info from the book 50 Ways to Soothe Yourself without Food.

Seven years of maintaining a 20% weightloss and counting.
*To seek happiness, identifying the Self with the body, is like trying to cross a river on the back of a crocodile." Ramana Maharshi
*The No S Diet saved me from my emotional eating defeats.
8 years and counting! nosdiet.com/
*Get to the next meal hungry!
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6/7/11 1:03 A

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I;m drinking plenty of water and put my mind on something else.

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6/7/11 12:11 A

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See if you can pinpoint any usual time that you turn to food. Then eat bulky, healthy foods before that time. I have found that eating well from all food groups has really helped me. Also having acceptable things I can turn to like airpopped popcorn, frozen grapes, carrots, apple, etc.
How about distraction - exercise, taking a bath.
Mostly I remind myself that all the food is going to do is put weight on me and make me miserable.

I am not losing this fat - I am removing it for good.

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6/7/11 12:09 A

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Hi there...

when cravings strike for my comfort foods (me, I would take off go to a 7/11 and purchase a sweet hostess cherry pie and or a suzy-Q) I try to distract myself. Crochet, flip through a magazine, Spark People, run off and purchase pots, soil and plants or flowers or seeds and garden, Sugar free chewing gum and a walk can do it. Steer your mind away from food. Are you hungry? or do you ju8st want to eat?
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What has helped me decrease my emotional eating is committing to the No S diet. Five days a week, I eat only three one-plate meals a day, but they are full meals, but with no sweets. I do drink milky coffee in between meals if I am really hungry. I have found that having longer gaps between meals has gotten me in touch with my real hunger and limiting myself to one plate (now I usually have a half a plate of veggies or veggies and fruit; the other half is protein and starch, much like the new plate that replaced the food pyramid, but in the beginning, I ate richer food) has made it harder to overeat other times. So what does this have to do with EE? I find that no matter what urge makes me want to eat, I can say No to it. I spent a lot of years trying to identify what each urge meant, but I didn't stop eating. I did also spend time over the years learning about changing my thinking so that I can process some of my stress myself. but it wasn't until I chose structured eating that I was able to implement what I had learned about taking care of my feelings. I don't spend every minute happy, but much of the pairing between emotions and food has been broken. emoticon

Seven years of maintaining a 20% weightloss and counting.
*To seek happiness, identifying the Self with the body, is like trying to cross a river on the back of a crocodile." Ramana Maharshi
*The No S Diet saved me from my emotional eating defeats.
8 years and counting! nosdiet.com/
*Get to the next meal hungry!
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=1323


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6/6/11 11:28 P

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Hi fellow spark people. I could really use some good advice on how to overcome my bad habit of turning to food for comfort. Got any good advice???

Thanks!
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