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4EVRYOUNG Posts: 5,174
9/13/13 5:09 P

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Sorry About the link. These adults as children legally divorced their mother in the 60's. one of them is a psychologist.
It's been my experience that lashing out at another doesn't necessarily make you feel better. In this case(and most cases)it isn't going to make the abuser a better person.
"Moving on" would be healthier.
Why did they wait till she was dead to speak their minds?

I too, hope they find peace and realize that contrary to popular opinion their mother was a human being.


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9/13/13 2:56 P

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Doesn't sound to me like they owe her respect in any way..and the case was known in their State, and the allegations are on record, and were the basis for a change in the law . It's an interesting case..
Not speaking ill of the dead is a very Irish belief, one that I learned from a child. So is "if you have nothing good to say just say nothing at all". I do however believe that abused children are helpless against the adults that abuse them, and have earned the right to make the truth known.

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9/13/13 11:02 A

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The link isn't working, but I certainly don't think there is some special obligation to lie about someone's life or to ignore their faults just because they've died.

Bringing up childhood abuse during the funeral itself would be a bit beyond the pale. Emotions are already high, and people are bound to over-react. But if it helps these people move past their abusive childhoods to write an obituary detailing their mother's offenses, then more power to them.

I don't know that their mother's passing gives them peace, but I do know that telling the truth about painful events can be very cathartic. I never felt like I recovered from my rape until I was able to write out the details of what happened and share the experience with others.

I hope writing about their experiences helps them, and others as well.


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4EVRYOUNG Posts: 5,174
9/13/13 7:52 A

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The adult children of an abusive mother wrote her obituary.


Question 1. Is this the appropriate forum for them to publicize the plight of abused children?

Question 2. Does the mother's passing really give them "peace."


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