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i'm glad Nancy..yay!

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5/9/10 10:44 P

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Thanks everyone for the ideas, support and love.

Ryan, my hubby and I went to a late lunch. And I was blessed today with a Happy Mother's Day message from my other son, Cory- so it was a nice day, actually.

Hope yours was too

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Hey All! Happy Mother's Day.
Nancy, my children are grown and gone and I am basically alone most all the time unless I go out with friends, which I don't do often because I don't feel like it. I stay so busy on my computer that I don't mind being alone! I got interested in scrapbooking and when arthritis kicked in it kind of finished that hobby for me I thought but . . . now I digital scrapbook! I love, love, love digital scrapbooking. It is so much fun, you don't make a mess you have to clean up, it is super duper cheap unless you decide to design your own papers and such, and the digital community is rocking! If you are interested to see what it is all about go to this link at DigiShopTalk. www.digishoptalk.com/
There is no charge to join or to look at other peoples art. You can actually digital scrapbook without it costing you a penny! If going to Digi Shop Talk doesn't answer your questions, let me know and I will be glad to fill you in. Once you get hooked you never have enough time! It is worth a look/see.
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i'm so sorry you are feeling that way Nancy. I know that when Kevin goes to montana he is gone 3 or 4 months..its a long drive takes him 3-4 days and he only does it every 2-3 years so he needs to take the time with his family and i HATE it. But like i said..its only fair that he spends time with his family too!!
I am lucky to have my Mom still with us. But all my kids are grown. Youngest son stopped in yesterday with flowers and i cherished every minute he and his girlfriend were here. Daughter will be here at 11 for brunch that i am making and cleaning madly for. Middle son lives 6 hours away so he wont be here.
Mom and stepdad coming for brunch.
when the kids got older and i felt like i had nothing i started working part time..very scary for me. could you find filing work or something in a dr office? then you know you are someplace that not only understands but can help if you get sick.
and after my dad died, i started announcing at horse shows. yup. i spend fathers day every year behind a microphone...and in the morning when i say "Happy Fathers day to all Dads on the grounds,,I add,,and to all Dads, including mine, smiling down on us from Heaven..Thanks Daddy!!"
and then i get on with my day.
we are here for you Nancy...and I'm going to say to you and everyone else here.. HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!! Try to enjoy it if you can...pick up the phone and call your kids if they dont call you!!! and be kind to yourself today..pamper yourself!!
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GREAT BIG emoticon

Lots and LOTS of love to you honey!!!!
I hope some sunshine floods into your day.
I will be a touchstone during the lonely times if you'd like. I know it's not the same as having someone there and you don't really know me, but if I'm here and willing if you need a buddy.

My mom passed in 1999 and this is my first Mother's day with an empty nest. I haven't figured out how it's going to effect me yet. Totally new situation.

Honestly, I'm trying to decide to celebrate it as an emancipation. I no longer have obligations. My girls have decided to spread their wings, don't need mom anymore. For the first time as an adult I have the ability to make my decisions based on what I want and not what someone else needs from me. I'm free.
Doesn't mean I love my kids any less or won't be there for them. Just means they're adults now and are ready to live their own lives as nature intended.

So here's our question:
What things have I wanted to do but decided I couldn't or wouldn't because I needed to ___ for ___?

Think big and small. Even with our illness, we can do some level of those things we have set aside in the past to be what we think a mom should be.
It's our turn now Nancy! A whole world is opening up for us and we get to shape it into what we want!

Try thinking "OH GOODY!!!" instead of "Now what?" and see what you come up with.






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I watch a show called "The Middle" and the mom said "we are only as happy as our least happy kid"- Boy could I relate!!

My son-Ryan is going to prom with his girlfriend from West Bend at their prom so we are taking pictures later. The weather is awful- very cold- low 40's, rainy and windy- YUCK!!!

Tomorrow Ryan will be super tired but we will go out for a very late breakfast at 11. I hate Mother's Day b/c my mom is dead and I don't know if I will even hear from my other son Cory- It makes me sooo sad.

My husband John is doing more traveling with his job and I hate being alone- with my health issues and everything. He is going to Sacramento the week of May 17th. for 4 days and then in mid September he will be going to Germany for 2 weeks for some big convention. That will be really bad timing since it will be only 2 weeks after Ryan leaves for college. I will probably feel really lonely and down and with my health stuff I don't want to be alone so I am looking into visiting the friend of mine who lives in Virginia/Washington D.C. area for part of the time- She still has little kids at home and one of her daughters has down's syndrome and has allot of problems. The kids will both be in school during the day unless they are ill which happens allot. She is a good friend.

I am feeling weepy and sad today.

I feel like I need to find something for me to do after Ryan leaves for college or I'll go nuts. If I spend too much time alone I get really anxious and depressed- even with meds. I feel "left in the dust" since my friends are either in school or working full time. It will be hard with chronic health issues but I need to find something for me- re-discover who I am.- don't have a clue what that will be.

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