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5/22/13 10:23 A

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5/22/13 9:13 A

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Oh, I see! Totally different culture and what-not. So, then, no worries. Glad you didn't take my comment offensively! I didn't mean it like that. :)

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5/22/13 1:56 A

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I live in Africa, and here it would not be considered rude. Sometimes people are seen taking an apple and a piece of cheese or a muffin from a buffet for later.
It would be very wrong to take plate after plate and squirrel it away. But one plate, halved would not raise any eyebrows.
We only have one type of buffet here, and it is the pay once and stuff yourself kind.
Thanks for the info MINDY would keep it in mind if I ever get to your part of the world.



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5/21/13 2:51 P

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Well...I totally understand where you're coming from...but I think ethically, it's wrong, even if it's not considered "rude" per se. (Not calling you unethical or anything!!! My conscience wouldn't LET me do that..lol) At our local buffet, you can eat in or you can pay by weight for take out. Maybe they'll give you a take out container you can eat out of and pay differently and also take home what you don't eat. Something to consider....

Edited by: MINDYHGP at: 5/21/2013 (14:53)
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5/21/13 10:24 A

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Is it rude to dish up a plate of food that you like, and then discreetly fork it into a smaller container in your purse? Because that is what my sentiments tell me to do.



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5/20/13 8:13 A

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Ever since my surgery last year, I have avoided all-you-can-eat buffets. I can barely eat $5 worth of food at these buffets, so it's really a big waste of money, imho. As a previous post mentioned, pay by the pound buffets are ideal in our particular circumstance. At regular restaurants you can always take home your leftovers but at the all-you-can-eat, you can't take home a doggy bag. But in the end, you have to decide what you are willing to pay for. Do you want to pay for more than the food is worth, the social aspect of your outing, for example? I might consider going to an all-you-can-eat if it's $10 for the social aspect of joining my friends/family for a meal out, but there is no way I am willing to pay 5 times that. It is something I initially struggled with ... namely, missing out on social events because I am unwilling to fork out the disproportionate expense for my tiny stomach. But ultimately, I now know that all-you-can-eat buffets are no longer an option for me since where I live, I can't find an all-you-can-eat for $10. When going out to eat, I choose pay-by-the-pound buffets or a-la-carte menu restaurants.

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5/19/13 11:52 P

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I haven't been to an 'all you can eat buffet' in a very long time. One because it is useless for me (us) to pay for a full meal when I don't eat a full meal ... and two ... because I'd take the chance in over eating and either run to the bathroom - or feel terrible emotionally.

Soooo --- we just don't go and save our money!

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5/19/13 11:52 P

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We each must make our own decisions on what and how to order in restaurants. Restaurants do make a profit on the small portion sizes in senior or kids meals!



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5/19/13 6:21 P

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Businesses have their prices set at a particular point for a reason. If they don't make money then they will not be in business. The point of being in business is to make a profit! I certainly do not see this as being greedy. Everyone expects to get paid for their work and business owners are NO different. There are a LOT of reasons/financial numbers behind why they have a senior or kids menu and the prices are set based on average numbers of their patrons. IF they are going to allow a bunch of people "special" privledges that is going to skew their averages and they will have to change their price point for everyone. I am not going to ask them to allow me to order off a kids menu or senior menu because I had surgery. The restaurant business is a TOUGH business to be in (any business is tough) and I just don't think it is appropriate for them to have to lose money because I want a discount due to surgery. Some people eat a small amount without surgery and they don't demand to pay less. I can bring home whatever leftovers I have anyhow.

I will ask them for special dietary requests (no sauce, no cheese etc) because I know that is something they do for all people. IF for some strange reason they are unwilling to work with me on simple requests like that then I will just not go there anymore.

There are also restaurants out there that have regular portions and half portions already listed on the menu all the time... so I find those places are a great option. Another option that works for me is to share something with my husband or just order a side dish. Buffets are just that...a buffet. All you can eat. I just don't think it is appropriate for myself to ask them to only charge me for a child because I am not a child and nobody is FORCING me to eat at their buffet. If I don't agree with the price then I can choose somewhere else. That's the great thing about our market. SO MANY CHOICES!
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There are also a LOT of fabulous grocery stores that have pay by the pound soup/salad/hot bars with wonderful choices on them. Lately those have been a great option for me. Whole Foods is my very favorite!

Edited by: SOOTHINGGLOW at: 5/19/2013 (18:28)
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5/18/13 10:50 P

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Sounds like you did great Courtney! Good job. I advise that if you have a problem with the "tempting" food on a buffet and cannot control the urge to eat too much then stay away from the buffet restaurant.
If you can eat just a little bit of one or two items then you will do fine.

My mother has an allergy to onion and we went to a chinese buffet restaurant and asked the staff if there was anything prepared without onion. We explained about her allergy and they told her to look at the items on the buffet and tell him what she wanted and they would prepare some for her without onion. Needless to say this restaurant got a big tip and we were a party of 12!

So rather than ask about gastric bypass just say you had surgery and can only things without a sauce and could they give you a portion of xxxxx without any sauce. Then add a little veggie to the protein you request. Mom had a delicious steamed salmon with steamed veggies and thoroughly enjoyed the entire meal. And everyone else enjoyed theirs too.


I frequently ask to order off the senior menu as I can only eat about 1 cup of food. Only IHOP has ever refused the request. Needless to say I loudly told the owner in front of all the customers that since would not allow me to order a small portion I would take my business elsewhere and tell my friends about how greedy this restaurant is. He said if he let me order off the senior menu he would not make a profit. I told him he made a profit on the senior meal but that it was true he would not a profit on me because I was leaving and would never return.

That was more than 2 years ago and I have not been back and when friends want to go there I tell them about the greedy owner and go to a different restaurant.

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5/18/13 4:43 P

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Last time I went to a Buffett was a Japanese restaurant.

I had 2 servings of miso soup over the course of the night, and some fruit salad with water and lemon. I'm Wild!!

But the company was great and I had fun, so it didn't matter to me. It was about $25 dollars, but you would spend that going to the movies & water, so I separate the night out expense from paying for food.

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5/17/13 7:38 P

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I have been twice since surgery and both times I could barely eat a thing. Just looking at the food made me full. I packed my plate with all my favs and took a bite here and there. I could barely make a dent...if you want your money's worth don't do an all you can eat.


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5/17/13 7:31 P

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I am pre-op also, we have the best buffet here, I am trying to train myself to eat less so I grab a desert plate lettuce goes on first, than protein second, with a little dressing. If I want desert than I have a small cut of sugar free cheese cake. Its hard but I have to do it.

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5/17/13 6:02 P

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Funny, I am still pre-op, I just started my pre-op liquid diet today (oh boy, oh boy..lol) and last night I had my "last supper" at the local chinese buffet. I did ask if they have any special price or something for people post gastric surgery and the girl there didn't speak English very well and didn't seem to know what I was talking about and basically said no...lol Maybe others would, but it'll be a long time until I'm at all able to go somewhere like that.

I also debate on not going if I can't get a lower price because I understand the thought of not getting your money's worth. You can go to another restaurant and take home a lot of leftovers, worthy of maybe even 2 or 3 meals for a similar price. Either way, if you enjoyed yourself that's all that matters. :)

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5/16/13 8:27 A

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Wish I could eat Chinese again but something in it aggrevates my pouch. When going to a buffet (which has been about 2 times) I tell them I had "stomach surgery" and can't eat very much and would they give me the child's price. It worked both times.

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5/16/13 8:27 A

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I think you did wonderful! Just tell him you are fine and full.

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5/16/13 2:19 A

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This past weekend, my very dear friend and I went to an "all you can eat" Chinese buffet.

It was a very nice place, with a Hibachi Grille, full sushi bar and also "traditional" (as in traditional Americanized) Chinese food. I had a chicken on a stick, some grilled veggies and chicken with teriyaki , a small bite of cake and a chunk of watermelon.

when the checks came, my friend apologized to me because he felt I didn't "get my moneys worth" - I stated that I was full and really enjoyed my dinner so, I felt that I had gotten my moneys worth even though I didn't gorge myself on 10 platefuls of food.

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