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8/11/11 6:02 P

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You make all the difference in the end. The first step you have already taken in that you are acknowledging that you are having problems. Often times in the past when I screw up my journey it was because of certain triggers and issues that I had that were unresolved. Working on not just weight loss, but also in letting the spark travel from your weightloss journey into other aspects of your life.

You can overcome this. Yesterday is done and the mistakes of the past can't be changed. Focus not on what you did yesterday, but what you will do today...this minute that will make a difference in your future. Best wishes.

We try and try again because we matter!

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8/11/11 4:08 P

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If it's just occasional, then don't worry. We all screw up. I don't think we can be perfect without eating all the time anyway. I have had bad days and in some cases, even bad weeks. Don't be too hard on yourself and keep going! If you feel like you have crashed and burn then just make a small subtle change and build on that.

Don't worry about the total GOAL, just take it one step, one bite at time. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! emoticon


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8/11/11 9:00 A

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If it's habitual munching, try some sugar-free gum. It'll occupy your mouth during those times where old habits led you to eat while you're breaking the cycle.

Also try not to let yourself become overwhelmed. If you focus on the total number of pounds you want to lose it's easy to feel defeatist and want to throw in the towel. I have a bunch of goals set for myself along the way so each goal is never more than 10 pounds away. It helps a lot to tackle it in smaller pieces and feels so good to reach a small goal.


"You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there."

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8/10/11 5:20 P

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Thanks everyone! For the overwhelming support.

I think part of it will always be emotional - some of it is boredom and honestly maybe some is routine....like I feel like I should be muching on something when I am watching TV. There are many factors.

Thanks for the advice - I guess I am just going to have to switch it up as much as I can and push through it.

I hope you are doing well and kicking ass in your own journey!


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8/10/11 4:18 P

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I went through something similar a few pounds ago. And it took me a month and the realization that I was gaining a little weight to really get back in gear. I just didn't want to do my wii fit or walk or go to the gym. But sometimes I found I just had to make myself do what I knew to do.

If the problem is late night eating, can you get rid of the big temptations? Just throwing them out until they are less problematic for you could help.

Regardless of what is going on, keep trying and you'll get over this hump. You've made so much progress and you don't want to go back!!

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8/10/11 12:52 P

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I'm right there with LONGWINDINGROAD. I'm so glad you posted this thread, I have been having SUCH a hard time with this the last week or two! Thank you to everyone for the fantastic advice!

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too OPTIMISTIC to be fearful,

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8/10/11 9:47 A

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Sherri, I feel like it was me writing this post. I just had this conversation with myself the other night when I couldn't sleep. I pack healthy food for my lunches but if someone brings cake I toss out the carrots and go for the cake. I don't even love cake. Why do I do that?! I've watched Biggest Loser and Extreme Makeover Weightloss Edition and when they get to the part about the emotional issues that are making them eat I always think to myself that I don't suffer from those things...what is making me eat more than I need? What's making me eat things I don't even really love? I eat to eat and there has to be a reason behind that...I just don't know what it is.

All the advice here is amazing! I'm glad I clicked on this post today! I'm going to try some of the suggestions! I need to stop getting in my own way and shed these pounds once and for all!

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8/10/11 9:07 A

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You're changing habits, and believe me they don't give up without a fight, that's why you start self-sabotaging. It's hard, very hard. If weight loss was easy we'd all be thin and fit.

Tackling the emotional component is so difficult. A couple things that are helping me are a website that has a 21 day program for mental toughness www.fatloser.com/ and a podcast called "weight loss and the mind" www.freeweightlosspodcast.com/
both of these sites deal with the mental and emotional component to weightloss.

Feel free to send me a message and maybe we can start emailing or texting if you want.

If it's amazing, it won't be easy. If it's easy it won't be amazing. If it's worth it you won't give up. If you give up you're not worth it.

"Fear & doubt knocked on the door; Faith & Courage answered &
there was no one there" ~ Jordan Wirzs

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8/10/11 5:03 A

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Plan ahead for what you will do at night to avoid eating. Take a walk, talk to a friend, get involved in a good book, learn to knit, go to bed early...whatever it takes!

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8/9/11 1:30 P

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I agree with the comment about the fear of failing - many people do this with lots of different aspects of life, not just weight loss. My biggest suggestion would be to stop the next time you are eating when and what you know is not on your plan and just think. Sit there and feel what is going on in your body and in your mind. What are you thinking about? What are you feeling? If there is an emotional connection to the eating - it will be there, you just have to listen. From there you have to actually make a decision about what you want. Do you really want to lose the weight? Do you want to make changes? Do you really want to get past this hurdle? I know for me - this is the hard part. I almost had an emotional break down when my sister called me skinny - and it wasn't a good emotional break down. It is scary to change who you are, and unfortunately for those of us who carry extra weight we are conditioned to believe that we ARE our weight. If this is the case, make a list of all the things about you that make you you, that have NOTHING to do with your size. for example: I am honest to a fault, I am faithful and loyal, I am smart, I am loving, I am a good listener, etc etc.

If you are able to change the way that you think about yourself, then you will be able to change the self destructive behaviors. This is the very basis of all behavior modification therapies - and it can be done at home without spending $$$ but only if you are willing. If you need a sounding board, please e-mail me - I will be happy to do what I can to help.


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8/9/11 1:19 P

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Change is hard. At certain points in the journey it seems impossible. I see you just moved into the two's on your ticker. For me certain #'s trigger self-sabotage. Like I'm not ready to accept myself there.
What do you do? Reach out for help, hope, motivation and inspiration just like you did today. Channel the anger you feel about your actions into a positive force. Focus on the positive things you do every day. Yes, they are there. Are you drinking the water, tracking honestly and moving more? Acknowledge them. For me, positive energy overcomes fear of failure. As my positive energy grows, my confidence and strength grow. When I feel strong, even the impossible seems possible. You CAN do this and there is an army of SP reaching out to give you a hand in the rocky part of the journey.

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8/9/11 1:15 P

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I know exactly what you mean. This past weekend it occurred to me that I was subconsciously self sabotaging myself. It made me crazy mad at myself so I got up and did some boxing on the Wii. I just hope that next time it happens (and I'm sure it will) I will have the sense to get up and exercise again. emoticon emoticon emoticon


Obstacles are those things you see when you take your eyes off the goal. ~ Hannah Moore

Instead of giving myself reasons why I can't, I give myself reasons why I can. ~ Unknown

The first and the best victory is to conquer self. ~ Plato

You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be. ~ David Viscott

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8/9/11 1:11 P

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Maybe there's an emotional component there to work out, like maybe you're afraid that you'll fail anyway so you sabotage yourself so you have an excuse for the failure? That's what my brain was always doing when I was trying to sabotage myself.

8/9/11 1:03 P

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Alrightie - so I don't know what my problem is.

I have been on this road for a while now - with some ups and downs - and I know all the tricks and stuff to NOT overeat at night - and I've been WILLFULLY ignoring them.

I have just recently made some progress and I feel like I am sabotaging myself on PURPOSE!


What do you do when you KNOW you are doing wrong but refuse to change it?

It's SO frustrating!

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