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DAY #47 FOOD REPLACES LOVE - ROUND 2

I find it strange that Linda wants us to identify a holiday or birthday, or even a different event. I think we all want someone to care about us EVERY DAY! One of the books I am currently reading is "Girl Wash Your Face" by Rachel Hollis and just today I read this -

"I have spent numerous hours trying to figure out exactly what women like us want in life. Do you know what they want? Do you know the number one thing that I hear most, get emails about most, get aske for advice on most? FRIENDS. How to make friends. ow to keep friends. How to cultivate real, valuable relationships."

I have mentioned that I have a tribe of 7 girlfriends that get together from time to time - whenever I plan the get-together. There have been several times over the years when I have indulged in pity parties while I think no one cares about me; no one loves me.

I have come to embrace the fact that this is not true. I have God who loves me. I have a family who loves me. Out of those 7 gals, I have 2 of them who make an effort to contact me frequently for girl time together. I remind myself of this the second I feel myself sliding into that
"poor-me" pattern.

They say you get in return what you give and what you surround yourself with. I choose to surround myself in positivity. And, to make sure I am doing my part to make sure people know I care about them and love them, in my journal I have a column labeled "Family/Friends" on my Daily Checklist and I make note whenever I reach out to someone.

They also tell us that by moving the focus away from ourselves and putting it on someone or something else will always raise our spirits! So much more mindful than turning to food. Don't you think?!

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DAY #46 DISAPPOINTMENT - ROUND 2

I can tell you all right now that I am disappointed that after reading your posts which I loved, but can't remember without taking notes emoticon , I wish I could page down through all of them in order to refresh my memory, but I am only able to see the last post because of how SP has this engine set up. DARN!

Yes, we have all had disappointments in our lives both big and small. In my life I have frequently taken the Black & White perspective on matters. I am a rule follower and a planner. I do not like surprises. I want to be prepared. I need to keep my boundaries rather tight or chaos slips into my mind. I have high expectations of myself according to some people (always do my best and so I ask myself what really can my best be?) and of others.

This all says a lot about who I am and what I have learned to overcome and continue to learn. I have several disappointments starting back on April 21 and continued for several days into the start of May. At first I did not turn to food. I resisted for several days until finally I just didn't have any willpower reserve left!

I don't know how, maybe it was my constant pleading to God for peace of mind, but finally I gave it all up and accepted that "What Will Be Will Be". The weight was suddenly lifted from my shoulders and things have started to fall into place. I have spent the days so far this month working towards regaining my Balance.

What was the "Trade-Off"? Perhaps a lesson in Patience and God's will!

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My 10 minutes ended up being nearer an hour this afternoon. But it saved me from eating chocolate!

Gill

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"...regardless of the short-term outcome, the very fact of your continuing to struggle is proof of your victory as a human being." Daisaku Ikeda

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DAY #45 SAFE PLACES - ROUND 2

My first thought when I read the title for today's lesson was - Feel safe? I don't feel unsafe. What is she talking about?! And then I remembered as I read for review and underlined in a different color ink what stuck out to me this time. For many lessons it is the same info that catches my mind's eye, but sometimes it is some new ideas.

Creating a safe place:

I have a favorite place in my living room where I sit every morning. I have a second spot in a "sitting" area on the upper level of our home also that I use in the evening sometimes.

Describe how your space is personalized:

Both of these areas are quitter - away from DH and the TV. Besides a chair, end table, and lamp I have my "things" gathered all around me - a pretty cup filled with colored pencils, piles of books to read, a pretty small box filled with accessories for decorating my journal pages, magazines, There is a window next to me so I can see some mother nature and/or the comings & goings of the neighborhood. My chair faces our beautiful dining room so I always have something nice to gaze at. I think the window is one of the most important elements. I have tried sitting in other spots/corners, but I like being by the window best. Sometimes I view this area as having too much clutter which I don't like, but I can't seem to ever get rid of it.

Spend 10 minutes in this area and write about it:

10 Minutes - LOL! I can spend hours in my area if I don't keep an eye on the clock. With my morning cup of coffee I head to my chair to get started with my day as I do my daily devotions, read emails, and visit SP, and any number of other reading things. The quiet time of reflection that I spend here every morning settles my mind and can bring balance to my plans for the day.


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DAY #44 FOOD TRACING - ROUND 2

Choose a favorite food and write down times when you seem to crave it a lot.

- I honestly have to say that I do not believe I have cravings for any one particular kind of food. I could not come up with a single food that I that I thought I felt one way or another about. If I had to take a guess about it, I would say it would be something sweet.

Track backward to the earliest memories of eating this food and connect the emotions you were feeling at that time.

- I can't remember the last time I craved anything sweet. I have a bag of Ghirardelli chocolate that has been sitting in my cupboard for weeks untouched. Deserts were always included as part of our daily meals. It was just routine in my mind; without meaning or emotion.

Connect the emotions of needs to the present.

- Now days I associate deserts with special occasions/celebrations such as birthdays or anniversaries. Even this past Easter when we went to a special buffet I had been looking forward to for weeks ahead of time, I didn't indulge in the deserts because I was too full from all of the other good, healthy foods I had eaten.

I am learning to listen to my body now days. I rarely snack at night, but last night I felt hungry. After some evaluation, I decided to have a snack because I thought my body must be needing something and was trying to tell me that. What did I have? A nice helping of Pistachios that I had to shell myself. This was not a craving. Hunger resolved. Done deal!



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DAY #43 FOOD MEMORIES - ROUND 2

Just like with many other things, memories seem to fade with time. And again, I eat so differently now than I used to, it is hard to compare. Last round the childhood memories I wrote about:

Milk Toast - when I was sick
Graham Crackers dunked in Coffee - a family tradition
Desert - always in the house

The desert memory is one that is curious and I will never forget! For years and years and years well into my adulthood I could not stand even the smell of chocolate! ! ! I was frequently ill as a child with tonsillitis/adenoiditis and surgery was not done on a whim back then. Also, perhaps I was not considered old enough for surgery. So the treatment was an antibiotic - Sulfa that the pharmacy tried to mask the awful taste of with chocolate flavoring. It came back up just as fast as it went down. What a awful experience! Somehow I got over that repulsion, but given a choice I would pick a desert other than something chocolate.

We always had plenty of food, but I can't say my mother was particularly a good cook. What I remember about meals was - Pressure Cooker, TV Dinners, Microwaved Concoctions - all quick, easy, and awful tasting.

Now days my childhood family memories are of foods I never or rarely have:

Homemade Ravioli at Christmas - which take hours and hours to make
Ambrosia Salad at Thanksgiving - which none of my own family liked
Dressing/Stuffing at Thanksgiving - a family favorite which is losing it's appeal because it has soooo much butter in the recipe
Ice Cream for a snack while watching TV - huge bowls of it with sliced banana, Spanish Peanuts, and lots of chocolate syrup

I think these memories are all tied to family unity and feeling loved. Any time someone is willing to go out of their way to take the time and expense of doing/making something special for you it must be because they love you. Right?

Although there are several other things that a person can do to show their love for someone, that food tradition will probably always remain.

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DAY #42 FOOD AND FUN - ROUND 2

Well, you do all know that my user name is FUNLOVEN! ! ! Yup. I love to have fun. I am ALWAYS thinking about the next thing we can do to have fun!

Linda lists a few reasons that people use food for fun -

Escape from an awful life like Kevin's
Boredom from the drudgery of daily routine
Stress or unhappiness due to life's challenges

I am sooooo thankful that I do not see myself in any of those situations!

However, food does constantly seem to be a part of the fun activities I do. For example, this Saturday we are hosting a Derby/Birthday Party. We have invited a group of close friends to our house to watch the Kentucky Derby on TV. Hats for the women and bow ties for the men are required. We will be serving Mint Julips and appetizers. We are setting up a fun game so everyone can bet on a horse. Afterwards, we will all head to a local restaurant for the Birthday part of the evening. There are two gals in my group of eight who have birthdays (4/28 and 5/3) and it seems to have become my responsibility to make sure we have a celebration.

I am not sure just how on earth I am supposed to avoid all the food involved in this event. I am planning on making the appetizers healthy and I think that is the best I can do along with just a bit of restraint on my part

I should probably mention that we use Happy Hour as a transition time in our lives to indicate the end of "chores". I have really been limiting my alcohol intake (empty calories) and so I am hoping this transition time will become easier for me.


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DAY #41 FOOD AND FEELINGS - ROUND 2

I'm not so sure I would refer to food as "my friend"! It does, however, provide a way to bury my emotions. Plus, as Linda points our, INSTANT RELIEF appeals more than facing emotional needs and we certainly have come to live in a world that demands "instant". I still have the lists of emotions provided by Linda. I even printed them. Then stuck them in the back of my book where they have remained ever since! Time to get them up front where I can ponder them more.

Three Times or Situations Where I Do Emotional Eating:

1. Social Settings - I have a tendency to get bored easily then I start to fidget; I start to notice how uncomfortable the chair is that I am sitting in; I don't know what to do with my hands; the environment is too noisy; I don't feel relaxed; I've run out of things to contribute to the conversation (as if anyone really cares what I think! emoticon see what I mean?!); my anxieties rise and the sabotaging thoughts start to enter my head. I can end up feeling trapped.

Solution - I have been more and more diligent about my social activities and have limited them considerably. I realize this is not the best solution. I think what really starts the ball rolling, so to speak, is the noisy environment and uncomfortable chairs. I need to make sure that I can be in an environment where I am physically comfortable.

2. Family Gatherings - I love my grandkids, but mealtime is anything but relaxing when we are together! Then there are the weekly dinners we have with my father. He is not a conversationalist and he eats extremely slow. It is a painful experience for me and my DH.

Solution - I need to continue to work on timing the meal when the grandkids are involved. Do they need a snack to hold them over? Don't make the meal too fussy. At home is better then at a restaurant where we have less control. I also need to let loose of some of my "food rules" about only offering healthy food that they won't eat. As far as eating with my dad goes, I will work on slowing my own eating down more and I can have coffee or tea available to sip on after I'm done eating to help pass the time.

3. Tired - When I am tired I know without a doubt that my resistance will be low. I can be tired because my day has been too busy and over-scheduled or just because it is late at night and I am, well, just plain tired!

Solution - I continue to work on making by schedule less packed with things to do; to make it more balanced; to learn to let go of that "must do" thinking. I have started heading to bed one hour earlier then I used to do. Also, pre-planning meals really helps me not grab just any old food around (which is usually less nutritious).

For today the hours are flying by and I have been working on catching up with emails and Spark lessons. This means that I am going to run out of time for that "To Do" list. I will need to accept my choice and let go of the Pressure Emotions (desperate, irritated, frustrated).



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DAY #40 BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - ROUND 2

In my last post for this lesson I talked about the value of friendship. As I read today's lesson again thoughts of friendship crossed my mind. Although I am much more self-assured of my worth in this world, I still need to be mindful of my thoughts when it comes to friendship. Just this past w/e there were two instances within the social event ( and by the same person!) when I almost let my thoughts derail into negativity.

- The first incident had to do with a group camping experience planned for the upcoming weekend. I really dislike it when people talk in a group about get-togethers that don't include everyone present. I was hurt that we were not invited to join this group outing and started to indulge in all kinds of nasty, sabotaging thoughts.

* But I quickly reigned myself in and used some techniques I learned from the BECK book. I did a reality check and reminded myself that we really don't enjoy these camping experiences that much, we are plenty busy enough with other fulfilling things in our lives, and that I don't need this person to validate my self-worth.

- The second was regarding a motorcycle ride this coming week to check out a new restaurant. The invite was not directed at everyone and I felt left out.

* But I quickly reminded myself that I really wasn't interested in going on a motorcycle ride this week. I just got my bike out of storage and have not had a chance to reacclimate myself to two wheels. Plus, the weather this week is cold and rainy! I can't be offended and I don't need this person's invite when I really have no interest in it.

I continue to work on not letting others undermine my belief in myself by rude comments or exclusions. It is all about correcting my inner negative dialog when situations like this come up instead of reacting to them and remembering that I AM VALUALBE!


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DAY # 39 SEE YOUR VALUE - ROUND 2

Our self-worth does not come from within us! It is reflected to us by the world around us and this starts on the day you were born. If a person, never hears or sees anything good regarding their self they will never be able to realize that they are indeed worthy. It can take years, and great insight, to see that you have done some worthwhile things in your life. Things that can defy all of the negative things you have come to think about yourself. Things that can SPARK a fire within you to look closer at who you are capable of being.

My two statements:

- I am lovable and worth loving.
- I have value worth sharing with the world.

Yes. It has taken me years to see these two things about myself, but I no longer doubt that they are true!

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DAY #38 EMOTIONAL COLD - ROUND 2

This lesson review was 4/25 and it is now 4/29. I have had such an awful "emotional cold" emoticon ! The symptoms actually started way back on 4/8 when one thing after another started to not go right, the way we had planned on, the way they were scheduled to go. I tried to cope and nurture myself, but the symptoms were constant and persistent and just got worse and worse until I finally succumbed to the comfort of food 4/19. I continued that line of comforting through 4/22 - 4 days of binge eating - until I could finally get a grip on. UGH!

I pulled out my First Aid Kit emoticon :

1. Relax in my jammies all day and don't worry about "having to do" anything
2. Read - all day!
3. Watch the TV shows/movies I WANT to watch
4. Add French Vanilla creamer to my coffee
5. Take a nap with a cuddly blanket
6. Attend my Rejuvenation Yoga class
7. Run my Oil Defuser with an Energy Oil
8. Call a friend who is uplifting
9. Check in with SP Friends and articles
10. Search computer for Uplifting Quotes & Images
11. Get outside and breath in some fresh air
12. Journal about my emotions
13. Get creative with my crafts
14. Use Take-Out food instead of laboring over the stove

From 4/23 - 4/27 I had two coffee dates with friends, the spring season start of a Walking Program I participate in with a friend got started, I went to a great Garden Club meeting about how we can make our luncheon supplies more eco-friendly, I attended a wonderful class at our Y about Plant Based Eating, I gathered girlfriends to join me in a fundraiser dinner and 5K Run/Walk, and DH and I attended a fun Murder Mystery dinner party. Despite all of this the cold, although getting better, wasn't done with me yet. In between all of those wonderful, nurturing activities I continued to struggle intermittently.

21 days later I FINALLY am feeling like my "old" self. Yesterday, Sunday, 4/28, I let my heart totally guide my activities of the day without any pressure from my head! Everything FINALLY fell back into the right place emotionally.

I don't look forward to facing another such Cold any time soon, but when one does come my way I need to remember:

FOOD CANNOT BE PART OF MY FIRST-AID KIT! ! !



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DAY #37 I'M NOT DONE YET - ROUND 2

Reading this lesson fill me with, well, everything - energy, a soring spirit, dedication - just as it did the first time I read it (Round 1 - Just reading about the enthusiasm of the college professor made my spirit soar! Words like SPARKLE, JUMP UP & DOWN, LOVE, ENERGETIC, SPIRITED, DEDICATED. All so POSITIVE! ! ! ).

And the reasons he gave for not being done yet -

1. I'm not done helping.
2. I'm not done learning.
3. I'm not done caring.

I also easily related to the reasons Linda gave -

1. Taking care of myself physically, mentally, and emotionally.
2. Managing my weight through healthy eating and regular exercise.
3. Caring about people in my life.

These reasons felt "right" for how I am feeling too!

Linda asks us to focus on our weight-loss and exercise goals today:

BALANCING LIFE - using my Bullet Journal and Devotional Readings daily to track my commitments and habits helps me to identify areas in my life where I am struggling. I have needed a lot of self-nurturing lately due to stressful events that are out of my control.

WEIGHT LOSS - I have been loosing weight using the Bright Line Eating plan and will continue to follow those guidelines with just a couple of modifications which support intuitive eating. I will also continue to follow my fitness plan for ST and cardio health.

CARING - Sometimes I engage in pity-parties related to my friendships/relationships. Today I am going to contact 2 friends to let them know I care about them.

I'M NOT DONE YET! ! !

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DAY #36 MY STRENGTHS - ROUND 2

I think this is really a difficult assignment because how we see ourselves can be quite different from how others see us.

I do know that it is hard to give ourselves credit also. Just like the example given in the link that Gill shared about the woman who repeatedly blew off the compliment her friend was trying to give her.

I have pulled up what I wrote last time:

Physical Attributes:
Healthy
Strong Body
Tall
Long Legs
Shapely Ankles
Curvy Figure
Well Balanced Body Shape
Straight Teeth
Nice Laugh
Slender Shoulders

Skills & Abilities:
Logical
Quick Thinker
Good Problem Solver
Knowledgeable
Well Educated
Detail Oriented
Organized
Good Cook
Planner
Observant
Green Thumb
Good Fashion Sense
Creative Crafter

Personality:
Fun
Assertive
Loyal
Dependable
Caring
Rule Follower
Thoughtful
Pet Lover
Determined
Dedicated/Committed
Honest
Contemplative/Self-Reflective

When I start thinking I'm not good enough all I need to do is read this list to realize I have a lot to offer!




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DAY #35 NEED FOR RENEWAL - ROUND 2

Continuously pushing through the hard work of losing weight and be exhausting! Even the mundane chores of living - get up, cook, eat, clean house, cook, eat, do laundry, go grocery shopping, do other tasks/errands, cook, eat, go to bed exhausted, can feel depleting to me. So I know exactly what Linda is talking about.

But life goes on and it is what it is, so I'm thankful these feelings are betting farther and fewer between as I learn to nurture and renew myself better and as my weight loss journey gets easier.

- Decide when you'll do a renewal walk and focus on details:

Being out in nature always gives me a feeling of renewal. I don't know when I will need a Renewal Walk, but the other day I took our dog for an evening walk through my favorite neighborhood park.

- Record what you noticed or experienced:

This park is in a densely wooded place and the last time I was there the roadway was still covered in ice and snow. Not so this time. It was a cool spring evening. The air felt heavy and wet like spring frequently does. There were still lots of broken branches and twigs on the roadway that had broken off the trees. Spring clean up by the City had not been done yet. It is always quite and serene in this Park. We only passed one other couple there. However, there were lots of squirrels frolicking about and we saw to groups of deer.

- Write notes about how your energy and your inner spirits felt:

I love this Park for the peaceful quietness of Mother Nature. She lifts my spirits every time! Ollie was especially well behaved during our walk and so we spent even longer than I had planned just enjoying the beautiful evening.

Many of the things on my list from yesterday (things that give meaning to my life) will give me this same sense of renewal. For me, it is all about breaking away from the mundane routine of life; something distracting that slows us down so we can connect with our inner self! I sometimes refer to these days as my "Mental Health" days and I'm not ashamed to admit that sometimes I need them in order to refuel and push on.

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DAY #34 FOOD REPLACES MEANING - ROUND 2

I no longer work so the examples in today's lesson do not apply to me specifically, but the very thought that ran through my head was exactly the thought Linda wanted us to explore - turning to food out of boredom because we lack meaningful challenges in our lives. Boredom is something I can easily identify with. I have experienced it and eating to "take up the time and make it pass faster" was exactly what I did. Time does not go more quickly just because we want it to no matter how much we eat. The clock tics at the same pace second by second! So it is ME that needs to get moving. To distract myself with something meaningful and challenging. That is what will move me AND the clock forward in just "a blink of an eye" emoticon

Write a list of things that currently give meaning to your life:
- developing healthy eating habits
- building strength through fitness exercises
- supporting Mother Nature through gardening
- planning activities for my friends
- spending time with family
- being connected to a church family

Decide where you can add more things or cultivate the ones you have:
- volunteering at church. We have a Ministry Fair coming up the first weekend in May that I am excited about. I have wanted to increase my participation at church but have not been able to pinpoint in what area so I am hoping to find some clarity.

Do at least one activity that builds your sense of meaning and record what you did:
- Easter is quickly approaching and today is Holy Thursday. I will be at church tonight. I'm hoping there will be an opportunity to reach out and connect with some fellow parishioners.


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DAY #33 CREATE SOME JOY - ROUND 2

"I could really use some nurturing or a bit of encouragement. But thereís no one to give me attention or kindness when I need it. People around me are concerned about their own lives and donít even notice my sad mood or my frustration. As a result, Iíve learned that I have to take care of my own needs for nurturing."

I have felt this way plenty of times - all alone and no one loves me! Poor me! I call this my "Pity-Party" and I don't like it when I'm feeling low like this. So this is what I do to nurture myself:

What I Love:

1. Sitting in a beautiful garden.
2. Walking along nature trails.
3. Feeling soft carpet under my bare feet.
4. Relaxing music.
5. Browsing through a bookstore.
6. Sipping wine while I sit outside on a restaurant deck and people watch.
7. Spending time with my DD.
8. Traveling/Sightseeing.
9. Smelling soaps, creams, candles.
10. Mother Nature's wonders, vistas, views.
11. A relaxing shower when I feel dirty and/or sweaty.
12. Feeling soft things like our dog or cat or sweaters, or blankets.
13. Sitting around a campfire.
14. Looking at the big lake.
15. Reading.
16. Being creative with scrapbooking, yarn, or other crafts.
17. Working in my flower gardens.
18. An afternoon nap.
19. Something Self-indulgent like a Spa Day.
20. Spending time doing an activity with a good friend.
21. Roaming through an Art Gallery or some other Display.
22. Going to the movies.
23. Watching the sun set.
24. Visiting a Botanical Garden.
25. Attending Art & Craft Shows.
26. W/E mini-vacations.
27. Yoga
28. Gratitude Lists

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I don't have those "Pity Party" days very often anymore and when I do I recognize them for what they are - a need for nurturing. I call them my Mental Health days.

Today I am going to help clean-up a community garden with my Garden Club group. I LOVE TO PLAY IN THE DIRT!

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DAY #32 MAKE EXERCISE WORK - ROUND 2

I felt great when I read today's lesson. Why? Because I am making exercise work for me! I have a 54 day streak of exercise (minimum 10 minutes/day) going. I have my fitness at the top of my priority list (right after God and healthy eating). In the past I had my fitness schedule on my calendar, but I no longer need that reminder to "get it done"!

I read a Spark Friend's blog yesterday that talked about how she gave up the "diet" mentality and just focused on healthy lifestyle changes that have now become her normal. It was inspiring to me. No fretting or worrying about it. Just doing it!

So Linda's advice to "Change a few rules" sparked me:

- YOU DON'T NEED TO LOVE IT, but I do love it. I finally like my fitness routine and I always feel more energized when it is done.
- Focus on loving your body and taking care of it. Thinking of exercise as loving self-care instead of a chore.
- YOU DON'T NEED AN HOUR EVERY DAY and I don't. My minimum is 10 minutes (usually on the w/e) and my maximum is 60 minutes (ST days), but most days I do 30 minutes (Cardio days).
- GIVE IT TIME! I have taken those selfies that are so popular here, I have never posted them. I don't know when I will ever take comparison pictures to look for improvement. For now I am choosing to focus on how my body feels and how my clothing fits. For me looking at myself in the mirror only serves to make me not love myself, to feel awful about my body, and those are not healthy thoughts that promote a sense of wellbeing.

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DAY #31 RESTORE YOURSELF - ROUND 2

Some people might call me obsessive/compulsive. I prefer to think of myself as organized and focused. I already have a list of areas that I work on daily. They are written in my Bullet Journal and at the end of the day I checked them off if I did them. Each week I evaluate how I did in accomplishment - moving forward toward these areas.

- Here is my daily list of areas I work on improving:

1. Devotions
2. Fitness
3. Family/Friends
4. Spark
5. COZI Cleaning
6. Meal Planning
7. Mindful Eating
8. Scrapbooking
9. Fruits of the Holy Spirit
10. Alcohol Consumption/Empty Calories
11. Nightly Journal Notes

- Here is one thing I do in each of these areas daily:

1. 30 minutes Scripture or other Spiritual readings
2. 30 - 60 Fitness minutes
3. Call/Text/Meet with family or friends
4. Sign-in on Spark 100 DWL
5. 15 minutes cleaning something
6. Determine the night before what I will eat the next day
7. Pat attention to fullness signals at each meal
8. 15 minutes on photo album projects
9. Make sure I am patient, kind, loving, joyful, generous, gentle, faithful, and using good self-control
10. Make journal notes at the end of the day even when I am tired

- Choose one goal and take action on it today:

Just one? Geez, I do all of these things every day! I have already texted 2 friends to let them know I am thinking of them and signed into our Spark team so far this morning. My scrapbooking is always the thing that gets left until last so I will make sure I put the pages together that I laid out yesterday. That will help me work towards my efforts to declutter!

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DAY #30 FEEL BLESSED - ROUND 2

Another lesson I can relate well to. Whenever I am feeling overwhelmed by life's challenges and want to have a Pity Party I find that taking stock of all the blessings in my life really helps towards lifting my spirits and calming me down. After all there is always someone who has it a lot rougher than I do! I have done Monthly Gratitude Journals where I list just one thing to be grateful for that day and I have also done the Daily Gratitude where you list 3-5 things to be grateful for.

1. Create a 1 Day Plan for EXTREME self-care:

- Start my day with a treat - flavored creamer in my coffee
- Sit in my favorite morning chair as long as I want instead of rushing off to do tasks
- Take extra time to read inspirational writings: scripture, poems, SP blogs/articles/team posts
- Dress in an outfit for the day that I especially like
- Put a bit of make-up
- Meet a friend for coffee, lunch, or a walk
- No household chores
- If no friends are available, walk by myself through a park or browse some shops/bookstore
- If it is summer, spend the day "playing in the dirt"
- Lift my face to the sun and take some deep breaths of fresh air
- Take an extra Yoga class
- Get a massage or pedi/mani
- Go out to dinner
- Go to a movie
- Read all day!

2. Do each of the things listed and record how it felt:

- Well, I can't say that I feel a need for extreme self-care right now, but I know the feelings of that need and I can tell you that I make sure to allow myself "Mental Health" days whenever I do need them. Although I eventually feel emotional better after a period of time or some nurturing activity, it doesn't always mean that extra foods did not come into play along the way.

3. Ways I am blessed:

- God's love for me
- Another day to live
- The love of my DH
- The good relationship have with my DD
- Memories made spending time with my family
- Friends in my life
- Very good health
- A beautiful and comfortable home
- Financial stability
- Plentiful food
- Spark People
- Freedom

The list could go on and on and on! ! ! !

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DAY #29 HEALTHY HAT DAY - ROUND 2

Yesterday was labeled a Healthy Hat Day for me after having 2 days of slipping & sliding. I have heard many Sparkies voice their fear of weight regain after maintaining for so long. For me it is a bit more immediate of a situation since I am not yet at goal. For me I sometimes wonder with amazement at myself when, after SEVERAL DAYS of following my plan, I SUDDENLY SLIP and go off the rails!

We had a lesson at the beginning of our 100 day review that spoke to our fears of failing. I said I was not afraid because I was not going to fail! So when I have slipped I get "back on the wagon", "back on my narrow path", "back on my plan" by putting my HEALTHY HAT on.

My Healthy Hat includes:
- sticking to my "to do" list and not letting myself get distracted
- not allowing myself too much sitting time
- following my planned meals
- getting my 10 minute minimum fitness requirement done
- keep my schedule manageable so there is a bit of restful "me" time for reading, crafting, connecting with friends

I have a list of daily commitments and habits that I take stock of at the end of each day. That check-in helps me stay grounded and on the right path. When I don't follow that path chaos takes over. Like a "bad hair" day I cover it with my Healthy Hat!


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DAY # 28 GET YOUR MONEY'S WORTH - ROUND 2

I know plenty of people who pick their restaurants based on how big the portion sizes are. They usually match the size of the person who is picking them! We go out to eat a lot and so I can really relate to this lesson. I feel that my biggest dilemma right now is that with a reduced calorie range for weight loss it means I get less food to eat and so there is rarely any food left on my plate! Also, I do not like most left overs.

1. Make a list of what you want at restaurants.

- I don't see myself as a volume eater so buffets are not my "thing".
- I want quality over quantity and I want to savor every yummy bite. We usually go to high end restaurants that are more expensive. I prefer these places because the food is usually less processed, frozen, pre-packaged, prepared healthier, etc. It is fresher and more based on a farm-to-table concept.
- I want good service. It can make or break an experience IMHO.
- I prefer a comfortable atmosphere with lower lighting, comfortable seating, and some privacy.
- Sharing conversation with a small group is always more preferable for me.

2. Plan a restaurant meal and decide how much you will spend.

- We will be going to an Easter Buffet soon. We go to this buffet every year. It is full of healthy seafood and salads (along with many of the other buffet trappings).
- I plan to start with the salad section and take only those salads that I usually don't get.
- I plan to skip all of the yummy breads.
- I plan to head to the seafood section next for a fill of shrimp and other delectable
- I plan to skip the ham/roast beef/pasta section
- I plan to consider a helping of an egg dish. I love eggs and I love the feeling of something warm in my tummy after eating cold foods.
- I plan to do a "drive by" first to survey the offerings and then to do a "single round" of servings.
- I plan to skip the desert section.

3. At the restaurant , notice when you've gotten the things on your list and whether you got your money's worth.

I am not worried about getting my money's worth. This experience is all about the food quality that is way above just about every other buffet I have ever been to. I want to be diligent and mindful to my level of fullness on Easter Day and enjoy the experience. To be grateful for the abundance God has given me.



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DAY # 27 SKIP IT OR SAVOR IT - ROUND 2

I have been in the situation described in this lesson so many times. It is my downfall every time. As a matter of fact, this happened just a couple days ago (on the day when I was supposed to do this lesson as a matter of fact!).

I checked out a Book Club that was new to me at our Barnes & Noble store. There were about 11 other women there. They seemed like a fun group and were all willing to participate in the discussion. I had not read the book, but I was familiar with the author and really like her writing. Someone had scattered chocolate candies about the table as sort of a decoration. They had different centered flavors of creaminess and each was wrapped in a different pastel foil paper. So pretty and hard to resist! And I didn't. One lead to another and then to another and so on and so forth.

I cannot seem to resist snack foods at events for some reason and I would like to figure out the why of it. At home there isn't so much of a problem because I don't generally have snack foods in my house. When I am at a store and there are sample offerings I can walk right by them. Then there are those "other" situations. It is a mystery to me for now.

What I know for now is that I am better off SKIPPING THE SNACK FOODS ENTIRELY. Yup. Taking care of my fuel needs before I go makes no difference to my level of resistance. Keeping my distance doesn't work either because I have two legs that move. I need to remember the phrase - DON'T EVEN START! or IT'S NMF!




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DAY #26 VACATION - ROUND 2

I can sure relate to this one as we were just on vacation 19 days at the end of February. This time we traveled in a car which I can tell you is much easier (for maintaining some kind of healthy habits) than on our usual mode of transportation - our motorcycles.

So what was different:

1. House w/ kitchen instead of hotel
2. Cooked most of our meals - healthy food instead of restaurant eating for every meal
3. More of a "living" mindset instead of a "all in" vacation mindset
4. Stuck to fitness schedule including walks and YMCA instead of sitting on motorcycle all day

The end result - I was able to implement 3 of the 5 suggestions Linda makes in today's lesson and return home with no weight gain:

Start With Water - Exercise Daily - Minimize The Damage

On our next vacation in June we will be back on our motorcycles for 5 days with a group of people and staying in hotels with all restaurant foods so the challenge will be more difficult. I intend to:

1. Maintain my 10 minute fitness streak
2. Choose healthiest food options available
3. Use portion control
4. Not let other's eating influence how I eat.
5. Stay aware of hazards and be vigilant

Start With Water - Exercise Daily - Minimize The Damage - Repeat!




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DAY # 25 AFTER THE PARTY'S OVER - ROUND 2

I have not been doing well at going back and seeing what I wrote during our last review (which made me wonder why I was keeping my Report - well, to review, of course!) and I want to do a better job of that. So here is some of what I wrote last time:

Linda made a couple points that resonated with me:

1. I have never given any thought to PLAN TWICE! What a helpful suggestion.
2. We frequently grumble about how much effort this weight loss journey takes and so I also liked her suggestion to have our plan include ways to fill our spirit back up!
3. It's all about the letdown! It's going to happen. You can't avoid it. So be prepared!

My plans have been very loosey-goosey lately. I need to get back to planning my meals and hen doing so in more detail.

Some things have changed since then. I have used the PLAN TWICE suggestion. Thank You, Linda. I no longer grumble about how much effort this weight loss journey takes. I have come to accept the fact that it will always take effort! Call me naÔve, but I don't like the idea of accepting that a letdown is going to happen. It sounds so defeatist to me. I prefer to think more positively and just have that Second Plan in place - no good or bad thoughts about it.

emoticon Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after and event is over.

I am struggling with this one because I have decided that I will no longer deprive myself during Special Occasions such as the holidays. I have come to learn that there is no way I will ever, be able to, or even want to give up some of those special food offerings that come with each holiday. This thinking has allowed me to get keep my portions more in control and to get right back on plan (my narrow road) the very next day.

emoticon Come up with 3 self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.

1. Be MINDFUL and ENJOY the moments the Special Occasion brings. Each holiday has it's own identity. This Easter it is all about the glory of God, the grace and blessings he has brought me, the feeling of renewal in my soul and in our earth as new life springs forth.

2. Plan extra REST times with some uplifting reading and/or a cup of coffee with cream to reduce stress. I have two books of poems by Danna Faulds that fill my heart.

3. Spend some time outside, weather permitting, to absorb the relaxing powers of Mother Nature. And if lousy weather is in the forecast, bring nature inside with a pot of spring flowers!

emoticon Create a detailed after-the-party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

Since Easter is on a Sunday, it is fortunate because Monday starts another week and my routine of getting back to the Y for my fitness schedule. I have a very busy week with an event every night so I won't have time to sit around and be tempted by food. My brain will be busy working out how I'm going to fit everything I want to do into a 24 hr. period!

After Easter, my next temptation event will be the Derby Party I am hosting on May 4th. I have plenty of time to develop an After Party Plan so no need to fret now about it.



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DAY # 24 PLANNING TO OVEREAT - ROUND 2

After reading today's lesson I can recognize that:

I USED TO BE LIKE THAT, BUT NOW I LOOK AHEAD TO IDENTIFY HIGH RISK SITUATIONS WHERE I WILL MOST LIKELY BE TEMPTED TO OVEREAT.

Weekend thinking, and actually any social event that I deemed special or fun, would result in me diving into the food. After all, we work hard so don't we deserve a break from this difficult path?!

Now days, when I make out my weekly calendar in my journal, I actually specify any situations that my be challenging to me. This advanced awareness gives me time to come up with a plan and build my resolve. It doesn't always work, but I'm getting better at it.

IDENTIFY AN EVENT OR SITUATION WHERE I MIGHT END UP PLANNING TO OVEREAT:

We have developed the tradition of going out to eat after Easter church services. We go to a restaurant that has the most fabulous offerings that include all different kinds of "healthy" salads and seafood. We walk away STUFFED!

IS THAT WHAT I REALLY WANT? IS IT WORTH IT?

I do not want to have that stuffed feeling this year that's for sure. BUT, I will be eating more than I do in an "everyday" situation. This buffet is something I look forward to every year just like Thanksgiving and Christmas. I do not want to put a guilt trip on myself for enjoying the day and the food. So I guess my answer is YES it is what I really want and YES the extra calories are worth it.

LIST 3 THINGS YOU WILL DO TO PREVENT SLIDING INTO OVEREATING IN THIS SITUATION:

1. Eat only the food items that I rarely experience and leave the usual eggs, bacon, roast beef behind.
2. Use portion control.
3. No seconds.

Linda wants us to find different ways to give ourselves a break and relax and/or reward, but I find this task VERY difficult. Her suggestions of "taking a walk or relaxing with a diet soda instead of a beer" just don't do it for me. They are not strong enough motivators/incentives. I have had a reward on my horizon for quite some time now - a new exercise outfit - when I reach a certain weight and I am within 1# of achieving it, but that was a "Long Term" plan.

It is the daily situations that I have trouble thinking of a reward for or stress buster that is strong enough to STOP ME IN MY TRACKS. I am looking forward to reading what you gals use for this.


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DAY # 23 FOOD & NURTURING - ROUND 2

My life feels so differently now then it did a couple years ago. I have resolved a few issues that were causing me a lot of emotional turmoil. I have self-esteem issues that sometimes cause me to be reactionary, but I am working on that also. As a result of working through these areas of my life and with help of journaling & daily gratitudes, I find that my attitude is much more positive and I find joy in life most days.

WHEN ARE YOUR WORST TIMES OF THE DAY WITH FOOD & EATING ISSUES?

I only mention these things because, like Lori in our lesson, I used to feel depressed, alone, lonely, and have lots of empty feelings and space in my life, but not any more! So when Linda asks us to identify the worst times of our day with food and eating issues, I am hard pressed to come up with anything because I don't have any of those times when I am at home.

Instead of saying I don't have ANY perhaps I should say they are so RARE that I hardly remember them. The other week I do remember having a day with a vague feeling of gloom, but I just attributed it to the gloomy weather and persistent cold temps when I was oh, so ready for Spring!

IDENTIFY TWO ALTERNATE ACTIVITES TO DO DURING THESE TIMES.

Maybe I don't remember those empty feelings of the past because I have learned to nurture myself with what I call "Mental Health" days. On those days I remove everything that I THINK I am suppose to do and replace it with the things I want to do - stay in my p.j.s all day, have an extra cup of coffee with cream, work on a craft project, sit around and read all day, color a page. The list could go on and on, but the point is that when I'm feeling gloomy I make it "all about me" and not what the world thinks.

HOW DID THIS WORK FOR YOU? DID IT CHANGE YOUR EATING PATTERN?

I don't turn to food when I am feeling lonely, gloomy, bored, or whatever and, even if I wanted to, I don't have any junk food in the house to turn to! Linda's recommendation to "Change The Ritual" always works for me and by the next day I am back on top of my game again.

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DAY #22 WHEN NOT TO EAT DINNER - ROUND 2

I remember when I used to think like Lori - when I used to think that if I skipped a meal it would be enough of a calorie deficit for weight loss. I also remember that thinking this way never worked! Just like her, I would end up ravenous by the end of the day and reach for the easiest food source I could find.

The next evolution in my eating pattern came after I realized the approach I mentioned wasn't healthy (thank you Spark years!). I would still skip lunch many times, but instead of waiting until later and delving right into a junk food dinner, I would take a break and have a healthy snack mid-afternoon.

Now days my meal routine has changed once again. Now I eat 3 meals EVERY day and I aim for that 5 hour rule. The recommendation to eat breakfast within 1-2 hours after waking up for the day started this habit off. Also, since I am in weight-loss mode (vs. maintenance) my calorie level is so low that I actually get hungry by the time 5 hours rolls around; and I have learned to recognize and not ignore that hunger signal (thank you Spark years!). I do not have the habit of eating a night time snack. That puts a lot of hours between dinner and breakfast (who know that would become a latest fasting craze!). So by breakfast I have no problem fulfilling my new habit of eating with that 1-2 hour period.

The thing that I took away from this lesson is to RENEW YOUR ENERGY with a bit of relaxation after a busy day BEFORE you dive into the food! My daily duties are usually done around 3-4 p.m. and I really enjoy my afternoon cup of coffee with a little flavored creamer as a special treat.

Yesterday it was 4:30 by the time I got home from the grocery store and so DH put the groceries away while I enjoyed my coffee and watched a recorded TV show that I like (and he doesn't) before I started dinner. We ate later than usual and really enjoyed our food!

I can't seem to figure out yet how to carry food with me in case of a delayed meal "emergency". I used to carry a granola bar in my purse, but the occasion to need it came up so rarely that it only ended up all smooshed so I gave that idea up. There have been a couple of incidence when I was caught "short handed" because I did not plan well enough. Oh well. Another habit to build on and get better at!



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DAY #21 THE COUCH IS CALLING - ROUND 2

As a nurse working with cardiac patients I always struggled a bit when it came to teaching them about their rehab exercise - Yes, I know you walk, but in order for it to do your heart any good you need to walk fast enough to get your heart rate higher. The difficulty came in recognizing the fact that many people are in their 80s when they develop significant heart trouble and at that age they consider themselves lucky to just be putting one foot in front of the other let alone doing it faster! So, even though it is important to move in a fashion that is rhythmic and sustained, I think it is important to remember that sometimes our bodies slow down as we age and face health issues that are out of our control. Keeping expectations reasonable will also ward off those sabotaging thoughts that "we are not doing what we are supposed to, we are not doing enough, we are not doing good enough, etc.".

The author of the Bright Line Eating plan I follow goes so far as to say you can lose weight without exercise and she even recommends NOT exercising for the first several weeks of starting a weight-loss plan because of the additional stress it causes.

But I have been at this game for many years now and I have a fitness plan that I am committed to. I go to the Y daily M - F. I have a personal trainer that has helped me develop 4 different ST routines and I am meeting with a new trainer next week just to change things up a bit from someone else's perspective.

Saturdays are my "free" days, but I still commit to the SP 10 minute rule.

On Sunday I go to yoga class, but I have left the Rejuvenation class (which was holding relaxed yoga positions for several minutes while listening to reaffirming quotes the instructor read) and returned to the flow Vinyasa class (which is more strenuous movements) in order to up my exertion level while building muscle, movement, and stability.

I just committed to increasing my step count which should be easier now that nicer weather is here. I'm far from our Step Queen (Gill) , but I'm moving forward. I'm not a firm believer in the idea of step numbers because, as Linda says, being on your feet all day doesn't energize you or help you lose weight, it only makes you tired".

The weather can get in my way of exercising - cold, snow, rain, gloomy skies. I have a 36 day fitness streak going and I have to remember to push myself when I start to feel the heaviness of the weather weighing me down. I have to remember my streak, that I want my Yes to mean Yes, and that I will feel so much better after I get a little fitness done! A schedule that is too busy can hinder my plans also and that is where my Bullet Journal and commitment tracking has come in so handy - I have prioritized my fitness right near the top of my list.

Let's make our Sparks build into Fitness Fires this week

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DAY #20 REBUILD YOUR HOPE - ROUND 2

I do get discouraged on occasion, but, in general I have a strong HOPE VOICE!

I love how Linda words the definition of hope:

Hope is more than an emotion you feel. It is a state of being you
create by your thoughts, your beliefs, and your actions.

She mentions reframing our negative thoughts to make them positive so we can move forward. I had a bit of a slip last night as we celebrated my DH birthday with friends. I told him this morning that I'm glad he only has one birthday a year! I could be discouraged about my slip and chastise myself, but I am HOPEFUL that some day I will learn better control if I just keep practicing.

"I never seem to be able to stick to my plan when we are out with friend"
"That's not true. I have been sticking to my plan more and more this year."
"My HOPE VOICE rules!"


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DAY #19 HOPE : THE SECRET WORD - ROUND 2

I have to say that I am feeling full of hope right now!

There have been plenty of times when I felt exactly how Ellen felt in today's lesson - "I've been working on my weight for so long and I can't seem to get anywhere. I don't think I will ever reach my goal". And I know the reason I have felt so discouraged. I haven't been putting in the work that is required for success. Plain and simple! Until now.

I discovered Bright Line Eating and the scientific explanations of how sugar, flour, and willpower are affected in our brains really gave me a lightbulb moment. I believe I have finally found the healthy eating plan that will help me shed the extra pounds I have been holding on to for that past 5-6 years now. This gives me HOPE.

I also recently discovered that I can go on vacation and manage to maintain some semblance of healthy living at the same time. No total deprivation. No big loss to report, but my weight is stable instead of the 10# gains I have had in the past and I'll take that as a victory! This give me HOPE.

Linda gives some good things that HOPE can do for us, but I have to say that the support and inspiration that I get from my Spark Friends in priceless and I don't think I could have as much HOPE without all of you.


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DAY #18 I KNOW WHAT WORKS - ROUND 2

In Gill's email this morning she offered some food for thought:

When the scale goes in the wrong direction what went changed?

This made me think about our review of Friends With The Scale and why I only weigh myself once a week. I know darn well when I have not done my best and I don't need the number on the scale to tell me so.

This feeds right into what Linda tells us today:

We already have what it takes to be truly happy and the solutions to being successful!

My Success Tools:

+ Plan my meals
+ Stick to my Healthy Eating Plan
+ Follow my fitness schedule
+ Keep a grateful and positive outlook
+ Keep my schedule manageable
+ Don't stress the "To Do" list because there is always tomorrow
+ Give myself Mental Health days

Thanks to Spark & Spangle I have so many wonderful tools available to me that my tool box is getting HUGE!


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DAY #17 DO I REALLY CARE? - ROUND 2

YES I DO! ! ! I DO CARE!

I even wrote it in big, bold letters in the margins of the page. I feel that the fact that it is almost 3/31 and I am still focus more than I have been in some years is a good indicator of how much I care. In the past I would have "not cared" on many occasions and that is why I have not lost any weight in 6 years. No more of that monkey business for me!

I have my healthy menu filled out for today (along with some ideas for the rest of the week):

Breakfast was Yogurt with Papaya BECAUSE I CARE!
Lunch will be Hummus with fresh veggies BECAUSE I CARE!
Dinner will be Marinara Meat Sauce with Spaghetti Squash BECAUSE I CARE!

My fitness plan for today is 30 minutes Elliptical at the Y this afternoon.

I have grocery shopping on my list of things to do today also and the morning is almost over. If I find myself feeling discouraged or overwhelmed, I will give myself a pep-talk of positivity to remind me that I DO CARE!


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DAY #16 COMPULSIVE or IMPULSIVE EATING

I sure wish I had remembered this lesson this past week. I had 2 episodes of eating where I just couldn't seem to stop! In Gill's email today she mentions that COMPULSIVE EATING is like being addicted. You are willing to obtain the _____________ at any cost. This really made the definition clearer in my head.

In the Bright Line Eating plan that I am following the theory is that some people are addicted to flour and/or sugar. There is a short quiz to take that places your "addiction" level on a susceptibility scale some where between 0 - 10 (with 10 being highly susceptible). I scored a 7.

I have recently been wondering about this score and doubting that I am addicted. However, the episodes this last week might prove my thinking to be inaccurate. On Thursday I was thrown for a loop when someone drank the one glass of wine I brought to an event (Gill's article links from this w/e were very helpful with this kind of behavior - being inflexible). Therefore, I sat myself down with the group and started to eat, and eat, and eat - brownies, cookies, crackers, and other things! Was it the sugar and flour that kept me reaching for more?

The next incident happened this w/e when I cooked a family dinner to celebrate our March birthday's. I took seconds at dinner when I had told myself I wouldn't, but the biggest trigger were the homemade Chocolate Chip & Oatmeal Cookies our DD brought. I ate one and then another and then another. Well, you get the picture. It was down hill from there. Was it the sugar/flour?

So I am still left unknown if this was all COMPULSIVE eating or IMPULSIVE eating. I do know that I am going to practice the 7 MINUTE RULE this week as we have 3 restaurant outings planned. One of them is today so I will keep you posted.

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DAY #15 BEAT MYSELF UP

This lesson is here at the perfect time!

Last review, instead of beating myself up about going off plan during a weekend get-away with friends, I just left all of my expectations at home. AGAIN, it looks like I have not learned a darn thing since last July!

WHAT HAPPENED:
Last night was our monthly Bible Study group. This evening is such a huge pitfall for me! Every month I go with a determination and a plan that I cannot follow through on for some reason. Last night "I" chose to drink coffee during our study time (I even brought my own creamer that I love). "I" chose that afterwards, during social time, I would have 1 glass of wine (I even brought a bottle of wine that was 2/3 gone). "I" chose that I would not eat any of the foods that were sitting right under my nose as we gathered around the dining table.

I drank my coffee as planned. Then I went to get my glass of wine only to discover that another person had drank it. That was the beginning of the end! My brain went blank! ! ! Looking back to evaluate the evening I see that I could have had wine from another bottle as there were plenty. Instead I joined the group at the table and ate, and ate, and ate some more - brownies, cookies, crackers, fresh fruit, cheese, summer sausage, skewers of cheery toms w/ mozzarella. I could not seem to make myself stop and as I sat in my car to leave I was so upset with myself. Did it stop there? Oh no! I started to wonder if DH was going to have popcorn. Sure enough! The smell hit me the minute I walked in the door. I mentioned how good it smelled and my loving DH said - Let me make some for you. Great! Down the hatch it went to the very last, delish swipe of butter & salt! I woke up this morning with my stomach feeling awful in addition to my emotions.

WHAT WAS GOING ON:
Well, apparently I was upset that someone had foiled my plan! It sounds so simple. It surely wasn't worth the resulting fall-out. This table of food is such a stressor for me that I had no willpower energy left to even think straight and make a different smart decision.

WHAT DID I LEARN:
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I should have had a glass of something in my hands (even if it was just water). I cannot left myself start with even one bite. I need to keep my hands occupied. I will be looking for something to hold in my hands during the entire evening next month.

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DAY # 14 DITCH THE PARENT

My last review of this lesson mentioned how I viewed myself as a "bad" person. Not any more! I have worked to get rid of that negative talk.

Dean Anderson has a SP series of 10 articles about how our brains work when it comes to weight loss. One of them has to do with using "I" statements and I have been trying to do that more. Here is the link:
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A couple lessons ago, Gill referenced a SP link for us that talked about the 5 Emotional Roadblocks That Are Keeping You Fat. One of the reasons listed had to do exactly with what our lesson is about today - controlling parents and our rebellion.

Another thing that really caught my eye in our lesson, last review and today, was the heading "Time To Grow Up". This is exactly what Steave Seabolt talks about in his fatloser.com series and it was an AHA! moment for me.

When we were recently on vacation I started out worried and fretting about how I was going to follow my eating plan, how I was going to enjoy our vacation, how I was going to deal with the usual weight vacation "gain". It was a real struggle between emoticon and emoticon . I finally told myself - Enough of this! If you keep this up, you won't enjoy your vacation time at all.

I CHOSE to widen my boundaries a bit finally while on vacation. It taught me something important - I can still go on vacation, enjoy a few extra foods and drinks, and will just a bit of diligence I can maintain my weight. It was a huge confidence builder for me.

Tonight is my Small Group Bible Study. There is always food and wine that I always seem to give into to and then regret. Tonight I am going to give myself permission NOT to eat any of the food!

I CHOOSE to use language that will support my power emoticon

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DAY # 13 GET SOME PASSION - ROUND 2

Once again I didn't have to look far to see what I wrote the last time (7/4/18) and I smiled at myself to see how far I have come. This ability to look back and see progress is just what I had hoped the Report section of our team would provide for me.

My top passions still remain gardening and motorcycling. Last time I was working very hard - PASSIONATELY - on putting balance into my life: Spiritually, Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally. I can honestly say that I have achieved a lot in each of these areas.

SPIRITUALLY - I have found more peace in my devotional practices. I am more able to find my own path instead of asking someone else to lead me. I am more confident.
PHYSICALLY - I have found the motivation this year to follow a food and fitness plan. I am realizing and accepting more and more that this will be my way of life until I am no longer capable.
MENTALLY - I have slowed my life down to a manageable level and this has eliminated a lot of chaos in my life which my brain does not handle well. Being organized is a top priority for me.
EMOTIONALLY - I have learned to release my hurts from the past, way past, which includes my childhood. I have learned to reduce my expectations of others and accept whatever they are able to offer to our relationships. My growth spiritually, physically, and mentally have all contributed a great deal to my emotional wellbeing.

Some months ago I was with a group of girlfriends at a "home party". We needed to all come up with something we especially liked about the hostess (which was me). One of my friends said that what she liked best about me was my PASSION for everything that I do! That was such a lovely compliment I will remember it always. I don't think we compliment the people we encounter in our lives enough. Say something nice to someone you encounter today!

The areas I was to work on last time were: friendships/relationships, house cleaning, exercise. I have 2 of these pretty well accomplished. House cleaning, however, is such a thankless job. Even though I subscribe to the COZI cleaning schedule I always put it on the back burner. So today:

*Think About 1 Thing I Can Do Today That Matches My Goals - CLEAN HOUSE!


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DAY #12 SUCCESS SOMEWHERE - ROUND 2

Ha, Ha! How convenient for me that I didn't have to go hunting for what I wrote last time.

I feel that my outlook on live is much brighter. I have worked hard at ditching a lot of negative emotions over the past 2-3 years and it is paying off. I still have some self-esteem baggage, but I am getting better at recognizing it. I mention all of this only because I rarely see the turmoil that Linda describes in our lesson today - when you get overwhelmed in life because everything seems to be piling up and going wrong.

Sure I can get tired at times of always resisting, planning & recording, exercising every day, but now I can recover my motivation much more quickly. I have learned to take that one small step and move on. I have learned to say "Oh well. There is always tomorrow". If the task is not life & death or emergent in some way, then it can wait.

Learning how to use the Bullet Journal method has also helped me as it gets me to list my tasks, my TO DO list, on paper, prioritize those tasks, and check them off as I get them done. Embracing Spark Guy's 10 minute rule has also helped me a great deal. And last, but not least, I have learned to remind myself that "I have done the best I could do in the circumstance" whatever that may be.

For example; today I am having coffee with a girlfriend. I have planned to move my fitness time to earlier in the morning so I can get it done before I meet her because I know I will not feel like it doing it afterwards.

Then I learned that the service department at our car dealership is able to look at my car today while I am in town. I am grateful for that, but I had been planning to browse through a bookstore this afternoon and go grocery shopping. Darn! I love bookstores and do not want to give that up. It is one of the things that fills my emotional bucket. So I got my motivation up late last night to get the grocery shopping done so I would have time for the bookstore.

For me, it is all about having a plan, reworking that plan when necessary, keeping a positive attitude, and knowing that I have done the best I could under the circumstances.


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DAY #11 NEVER GIVE UP - ROUND 2

Look at al of us! I think we are a testimony to the "never give up" theory. We keep returning. We keep tweaking our plans. We keep researching. We keep learning.

There are times when I want to give up on things in my life that I started and then thought - UGH! I hate this. I can't do this any longer. Then I remind myself that I made a commitment that MY YES MEANS YES right to the very end. This is teaching me to be cautious about what I commit to instead of just jumping in without a thought.

My weight loss gives me a lot to think about and I am committed to not give up this time. This is the time that is going to stick!

In the past I have quit because all of the tracking and posting gets to be so burdensome and overwhelming. This has been made much easier now with the BLE plan I am following AND have the w/e to catch up on our team posts.

Another thing that causes me to give up is when my schedule gets too busy; especially in the mornings. I am NOT a morning person. I have a set routine every morning and I do not like my routine messed with! The more my routines are upset and the longer they are upset for only puts me at risk for falling off my path and then the longer it takes me to get back on it.

I can think of a couple of reminder phrases. Similar to Niki's JUST DO IT -

MY YES MEANS YES or MAKE IT MAGIC

I'm not so sure that I think being consistent for 3 days will do much for me as it has never felt like it did in the past. I'm not even sure that 21 days is enough time for me! What I am sure of is that repetition if the key to changing our brain responses and making a behavior stick.

Day 1 - Follow BLE guidelines - no sugar/flour
Fitness at the Y - ST
Stay Organized - commit 15 minutes - pay dad's bills and order his meds

Day 2 - Follow BLE guidelines - no sugar/flour
Fitness at the Y - Elliptical
Stay Organized - commit 15 minutes - clean master bath

Day 3 - Follow BLE guidelines - no sugar/flour
Fitness at the Y - ST w/ Personal Trainer
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DAY #10 DO IT IN FEAR

I would tell you that I am not a person who lives in fear. I have even had people say to me in difficult situations "Weren't you afraid at all? You looked to calm and relaxed." My actions frequently reflect a person of confidence without fear, but that is just a false front some times. I seem to be able to overcome fears when I'm challenged externally. I know I am a capable person. I believe in the mantra "What happens in life was meant to be".

My fears all live internally within me and most have little to do with food. Despite appearing courageous on the outside, I lack self-esteem on the inside and this does not always come out of me in very nice ways. I fear people will not like me. I fear I will say the wrong thing. I fear I will not appear kind and loving and gentle and patient and compassionate to others (probably because I don't always feel that way).

Knowing this about myself gives me insight to the things I need to change about me. The change is slow and I make mistakes, but I keep trying to be a better person. Some of the steps I have taken are:

1. Increasing my faith in God's plan for me.
2. Journaling about my experiences and fears to evaluate the situation without emotion. The acronym that Gill gave us is great - FEAR = False Evidence About Reality.
3. Writing in my Gratitude Journal daily.
4. Kudos to the Embracing the Weight Loss Journey team.
5. Releasing a lot of the expectations I have of people and/or situations.
6. My mantra : YOU ARE O.K. JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!

Where I am right now is taking an action step that I hope will fill my emotional bucket -

Every day I find something complimentary and/or positive to say about another person I encounter so that hopefully they will know how important they are to me and this world.

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DAY #9 WHEN TO USE PLAN B - ROUND 2

I can really relate to Julie's story about how food is attached to every event I attend. Even when I get right back on track the next day I seem to be faced with another event that includes food. This is how I USED TO BE! Now days I pay much closer attention to my schedule and make every effort not to over plan my life. I remind myself that it is not that important to participate in everything that goes on and that I will not miss out on all of the fun because I can have fun in whatever my life brings me.

Plan A, of course, is the Narrow Boundaries that Linda talks about in her other books. For me this is:

1. BLE with 3 meals daily, no sugar or flour, and no snacking
2. Fitness Schedule of cardio x 3 d/wk. and ST x 2d/w. and Yoga on Sunday afternoon. Saturday is an "official" rest day for me, but I still aim for a 10 minute walk.

Plan B is the Wide Boundaries which I may use on very Special Occasions. For me this includes:

1. Eating foods that contain some sugar or flour in reasonable portions, mindfully, stopping when I am full, and not filling my head with guilt, but enjoying the experience. It will also include having a glass of wine.
2. Missing my scheduled fitness for the day, but still making sure I get in at least 10 minutes of walking.

THERE IS NO PLAN C! ! ! !

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DAY #8 SET "NOW" GOALS - ROUND 2

I am a big fan of setting small goals and now that I am using the Bullet Journal method my goals are so much easier for me to track. I can get very overwhelmed if I am tired and/or have over-scheduled my day. Plus, for some reason, I seem to be a slow learner (of at least it feels like it takes forever for me to remember and stay focused). Years ago when I first joined WW they set our first weight loss goal at 10% of our current weight. At that time I weighed 198# so that meant I would not be considered successful until I lost 20#. That always seemed so overwhelming to me (just like Linda's example in this lesson).

Today I will - - -
1. Get to my fitness class
2. Pre-plan my meals for tomorrow
3. Catch up on 2 days of lesson reviews (Day 7 and Day 8)

I have a weekly chart that I mark off my daily achievements on using a colored pencil ( this month is GREEN for St. Patty's Day). I also have a monthly chart is very similar to Linda's DOT Calendar for tracking my fitness and eating on plan compliance.

At the end of today I am confident I will have met my NOW Goals - I already have 2 of them done emoticon

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DAY #7 NOT WILLING TO CHANGE - ROUND 2

Oh yes, I am very familiar with my w/e eating and drinking canceling out all of my efforts from the other days of the week. But, over the years I have made so many changes in my diet. I do not use salt on my food due to issues with fluid retention. I do not use butter or margarine due to a history of high cholesterol/triglycerides. Also, I use all low-fat dairy products. These changes made drastic improvements in my health. As far as weight loss goes, it has been due to calorie restriction ( I do not approve of fad diets ) until recently. This year I have started following Bright Line Eating which involves cutting all sugar and flour from my diet. I have been seen success on the scale moving downward after 7 years of my inner child acting like a brat and resisting the thought of giving up anything!

The 2 week vacation we just had has brought to my attention some things that I am still not willing to give up:

1. Alcoholic beverages on Special Occasions. This is a time together with DH that he really enjoys.
2. Restaurants. During vacation we cooked probably 50% of our dinners at the house and 100% of breakfasts and lunches. Of course, on travel days, it was a restaurant every night, but I still managed to follow my BLE guidelines for breakfast and lunch.
3. Coffee Creamer.
4. Exercise for over 60 minutes a day.

Small Changes - well, don't forget I was on vacation. Now that I am back to my usual home routine, these are the changes I have restarted:

1. No alcohol. My dad is coming for dinner and my DH and him will have wine with their dinner.
2. Limited restaurant outings. Make sure they are planned and make the best food choices available, but don't panic over one little bit of sugar or flour. Saturday we are going out to eat with friends. I'm having a craving for Fish Tacos!
3. I drink my morning coffee black. The creamer is an afternoon treat and not a daily one.
4. I am back to following my fitness schedule as planned. Today I attended my Cardio Jam class.

The best realization is that, after a period of time the changes we make to better our health, they really become painless. Maybe that is because I have given that fight with myself up!

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DAY #6 MONDAY DIET - ROUND 2

I am retired like many of you, but even so I have a horrible struggle getting rid of that Weekend Mindset. This year I seem to be doing better. I have a food plan and fitness plan that help me stay focused. However, we just returned home from a 2 week vacation with 3 days of travel on both ends. I maintained my Fitness Streak, but broke my Log-In Streak (errrrr!!!).

I reread my post from last time and everyone's posts for this review. It dawned on me that my mindset may be changing for the better. In addition to having a plan for weekends, I have come to realize that not every day is a party or celebration either. Therefore, I no longer seem to be having those Monday Diets. Like many of you, if I mess up, I restart right away the next day no matter what day that happens to be. So today I am back on my plan 100%.

Friday night I am having my father here for dinner. I have a menu planned that is Bright Line Eating friendly and I will omit the usual Happy Hour Drinks and wine with dinner.

Saturday night we are going out for dinner to a new restaurant with friends. Again, I will omit any alcohol consumption. I don't know what the menu will feature, but I know how to make smart choices.

Since I am sticking to my normal weekday plan I WILL NOT NEED ANY REVIVAL come Monday!

I did make a note to myself about the need to refill my emotional bucket. For me this involves a period of rest or quiet when I can chill my brain.


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DAY #5 NO WILLPOWER - ROUND 2

Geez, I just read my post from the last round. How depressing! By day 5 I had done nothing but struggle and was ready to throw in the towel.

Not this time emoticon

It sounds like we all resonated with the same phrase from Susan: If you believe you can manage your actions by the choices you make - - - I CHOOSE!

Gill's email this morning delivered the exact same advise that I read in B.L.E. by Susan-Pierce-Thomas. She addressed WILLPOWER so clearly to me that I Finally Got It! It isn't me after all. It is the stress that I face. B.L.E. doesn't even recommend complicating your plan with exercise to start with (unless that is what you are accustomed to) because it is added stress when you are trying to learn a new way of eating.

Food Temptations For Today - None for today. My meals were all pre-planned last night. However, tomorrow we are invited to the home of some friends and I am not clear about what she will be serving (drinks, hotdogs, Mac & Cheese were mentioned). I offered to bring a Fruit Platter.

Protect Myself From Unplanned Eating - I know well enough what I am suppose to eat. I have also had some success in identifying situations that I would find temptingly stressful. I have come up with a technique that is helping me through these situations:

1. Rest with mindfulness & calm before heading out the door; DO BE LATE so you feel rushed.
2. Before you leave the house, write out in index card of the potential temptations and then reframe them into positive statements. Bring the card with you.
3. Retreat to the bathroom as many times as you need to in order to review your card and strengthen your motivation/determination.

I'll have to let you know later how I do at dinner tomorrow.

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DAY #4 TODAY I AM ON MY PLAN - ROUND 2

Yes I am! ! ! In the previous round I was lamenting about not being able to stay focused for more than a few hours on some days. That is not the case for this round. I still lose my focus, but much less often. Why the improvement? Well, because I pre-plan! Linda reminds us that when we let up on our focus, especially during times when we feel weak or vulnerable, it's a setup for disaster. For me these times are when I am tired and/or overly busy/overly scheduled (even if the activities are fun). My antenna really needs to be up during these periods and have a plan always eases the strain.

Today I will :
1. Eat according to my BLE meal plan.
2. Get at least a 10 minute walk done.
3. Check in with my friends here for some SPARK!

Emotional Issues? Not that I can see. The sun is shining bright. The temps are getting warmer again after a 2 day cold spree. We found a place to rent here in Nokomis, Florida that was very willing to accept our large poodle, Ollie. Life Is Good!

My Mantra today: FOCUS!


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DAY # 3 WHAT IF I FAIL? - ROUND 2

My attitude feels different this round (as I mentioned in other posts). I AM NOT FEARFUL!

Actually I can relate to what you gals have said so far - fear of depending on my SP in order to be successful, managing social outings with too much food, having to be diligent for the rest of my life! My biggest fear right now seems to be:

I AM NOT ABLE TO RESIST TEMPTATIONS.

I am basically a very logical kind of thinker in my life, but this has not always helped me with my weight loss as my actions (eating) happen so fast I don't seem to have a second to stop and think (resist) about what is going on at the moment and how I am responding. Reading the B.L.E. book really helped my understand the workings of Willpower and why resisting temptations can be so hard.

I really like the fact, as Linda tells us, that "We have the power over what happens in our lives. Start conquering your fears by changing the way you think about them."!

I have repeated read the phrase "WHAT YOU THINK DETERMINES WHAT YOU DO". In order to change my thinking I am using the mantra: I CHOOSE!

I also liked the acronym that Gill used in her email this morning:

FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real.

So lets get out there, face our fears, and choose to live healthy and sanely!


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DAY 2 - I'LL START TOMORROW - ROUND 2

Here is what really stuck out to me in this lesson:

"I realized another season has slipped by and my weight is the same as a year ago."

This truth really hit me this year. I can't say what is different this year from any of the other years where my weight didn't budge. All I know is that I "feel different inside". I seem to have found some kind of peace about what I need to do in order to be healthy and losing weight is only one part of the puzzle.

One thing that gets in the way of my losing weight is LIFE!

To get past this barrier I am making NO MORE EXCUSES. Last round I used my busy social schedule as one excuse. I just couldn't find a way to deal with these dates. I have now really simplified my social life. I am not responsible for making sure everyone gets together and has fun. This has reduced the number of food/temptations I have to face. Life is simpler, quieter, calmer for me and I am loving it!

HOWEVER - Linda says "Don't wait for a day when you can be perfect!"

I have come to accept this. I do not have a need for perfection. No one and nothing is ever perfect. All we can do is our best. It is all about SANE EATING for me which means accepting life events and making the best of them.

Linda also tells us to get clear about our diet and exercise plans and figure out how to make them happen. Our vacation right now is a good example. I am make my plans work with some temporarily wider boundaries. I have not been eating perfectly according to my Bright Line Eating plan, but neither have I thrown in the towel that would allow me to eat whatever I want. I am limiting restaurant outings and preparing many of my meals at the house we are renting. I also brought my exercise clothes with me and have been going to the Y on some days. The other days I am getting in my 10 minutes a day of walking. I also have a plan for reducing my alcohol intake (I love my wine!) back to zero by the time I get home.

I am feeling VERY CLEAR about my plans and intentions and I am confident I will be right back on plan when our vacation is done after this week.



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Day #1 OTHERS HAVE DONE IT - ROUND 2

I am so grateful that I discovered how to use the Report forum so I can review where I have been, how far I have come, and where I am headed! This is a difficult time for me to start because we are on vacation and my boundaries are wider.

Last review I underlined the things that stuck out to me in each lesson using blue/black ink. When I read today's lesson something new stuck out to me and I underlined it in red ink:

"they keep working at it, learning, focusing, and moving forward with their goals - NOT JUST FOR A FEW DAYS OR WEEKS, BUT FOR MONTHS AND EVEN YEARS!"

It looks like this stuck out with a lot of you also. That is why we are here.
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Here is the list of things I wrote last round:

1. Stick to your food plan - calorie count, low carb, WW points - I stopped going to WW because my focus was spread too thin. Currently I am doing Bright Line Eating based on the book written by Susan Pearce Thomas. It has removed a lot of the chaos from my brain.

2. Stick to you fitness schedule- if you don't have one, develop one & add it to your calendar - last year I struggled with my fitness consistency even though I had a plan on my calendar and personal trainer. Currently I am doing better and following Spark Guy's 10 minute motto at a minimum. I no longer need my schedule on my calendar - the habit is committed to my brain!

3. Portion control - measure & weigh everything. I have discovered that I need to keep a tight lid of this skill or my eating gets out of control. I gained and lost the same 10# in 2018. Currently B.L.E. the guidelines I use are very clear and precise for portion control so there is no wiggle room.

4. Track, track, track. - I sporadically used SP tracking and, although it has gotten easier, I fall away from it after a while. Currently I pre-plan my meals 24 hours in advance and commit them to paper for easy visuals.

5. Set your intention at the start of very day - My focus today is _________. During 2018 I gave up on this also, unfortunately. Currently I have been working of setting a daily intention, but I can do better at remembering it throughout my day.

6. Remind yourself frequently - OTHERS HAVE DONE IT AND SO CAN I ! !




Assignment - List 3 things you can apply to your own efforts.

1. Keep up with my fitness streak.
2. Keep indulgences to a minimum while on vacation - stick to daily food plan and plan for restaurant outings.
3. Reduce Happy Hour drinks back to zero by the end of this first week.


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Day #100 Weight Loss Joy

We are full circle and back to the same question - COMMITTED vs INTERESTED.

I remain committed even though I falter at times.
I am learning to take responsibility for my own eating behaviors.
I keep going in spite of setbacks and problems.
I remain strong and positive about my journey.
I live from a place of joy in my heart.
I have the power to minimize any damage and stay on my road.

I CAN DO THIS! I AM STRONG AND COMMITTED! I'M LIVING IN WEIGHT LOSS JOY!

Every day my goal is to do the best that I can; to work towards being the best version of myself. Making it through these 100 days is one thing I did that helps me stay connected and focused. I can't imagine a day without SP and this team!


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Day #99 Do The Work

Linda tells us that her successful clients are will to do the work which involves overcoming the barriers and excuses that keep me from my goals. She tells me I have to manage my life without using food as a solution. And, that I will have to do these things for the rest of my life!

As I was reading her client examples I was wondering which one would sound like me. Alice seemed to be close. I blame other people and/or situations as the cause for me not losing weight. If I stand alone, I can do fine most of the time, but add other people and life into the mix and I am easily derailed.

I need to stop making excuses and accept responsibility for my choices!

I really like the quote Phyllis shared today. And I really like the idea Maria has about writing down the sabotaging thoughts she has (this is a Beck lesson which has several steps to it, but I like Maria's simpler approach).

RESET! ! !

Sue

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