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2/4/11 10:11 A

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MrsBobbieB -- You are such an inspiration!

That is AWESOME! And so proud of you for keeping on working out -- I have been there!
And look what amazing results it yielded.

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2/4/11 8:32 A

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Thank you so much for the encouragement. I actually posted in another forum tonight about the changes I saw in my husband.

Tonight was the first night I bumped my cardio up to 60 minutes. My husband came to the gym with me knowing that we would be there for an hour. We both started on the treadmill. About 20 minutes in, he left to go do weights. When he came back, I could tell he was kind of irritated that I wasn't done yet; however, I just told him that I wasn't done yet. He ended up getting on the treadmill and RUNNING. His goal was to run through each commercial break (we have the TVs on the machines at our gym). While we were stretching, he was excited to tell me how he felt, his calorie loss, and how long he could run.

So as far as what I CAN do to motivate him:

- Show him his potential by encouraging him
- Talk to him about his goals - what does HE want to get out of living healthier?
- Lead by example
- Tell him how proud I am, how happy I am that he is making these little changes
- Tell him I love him everyday emoticon

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2/3/11 11:37 P

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Here is the thing. You cannot motivate someone else. You can fan the flame but you cannot light it. It's not yours to light.

But you can be a good example and when he sees your success, he may become motivated himself. You can make lifestyle changes for your family and those will impact him positively. You can refuse to let his lack of motivation bring you down.

I am sure there are a number of things you "can" -- outside of his own free will.
Why don't you make that little list of what you CAN do and share it with us.

Jenni and I are delighted to put out the emoticon mat for you; we wish you all success in reaching your goals. Let us know how we can be of help!



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2/3/11 9:47 A

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My husband and I both decided to join the local YMCA in January. He and I go every Tuesday and Thursday night together. He will eat whatever I make (which is healthy), but doesn't do anything to alter his food choices unless I am cooking a meal. In other words, his breakfasts and lunch are unhealthy. Additionally, he accomplishes very little at the gym. In a half hour of walking on the treadmill, he doesn't break a sweat.

We've had conversations many times about how we both want to get healthier to plan for when we start having children (we are 24 and 26, plus I am in law school ... not a good time for us to start a family); not to mention that we both have some family history of medical issues we want to make sure we avoid.

I guess we are at both ends of the spectrum as far as motivation. I feel like someone has lit a fire under my butt and am gung ho about getting healthy and living a healthier lifestyle. I feel like he is so-so. I am genuinely concerned though, because he just doesn't seem to care all that much.

How do you motivate your spouse?

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