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Day 16 - the nurturing power of food

I'm not doing the two bite exercise as I've done it before. I can throw away food when I've taken too much on my plate now, but I cannot plan to throw away food.

Haven't we all used food for comfort at times? I was raised to eat for comfort...if I scraped a knee a cookie would appear, if I was sad, or discouraged, or angry....it was "here, eat a little, you will feel better". Somehow it was true, I usually did feel better but later in life I took it way too far and way too often until my eating habits morphed from eating for comfort to eating only comfort foods all the time! The weight piled on. Now when I know I need nurturing and only food seems to do it, a controlled amount of something I love is enough. NO guilt!

Sue, I think the time with your daughter was probably healing and so was the food.

Renee, I also know the comfort of slowly eating a square of dark chocolate. I often eat a square with my last cup of tea or coffee for the day.

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Didn't really need something to make me feel better, but I ate something that went with my coffee and gave me a feeling of coziness and having a treat, it was dark chocolate. I ate one square and that was it, saved the rest for another day, another treat.

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DAY #16 NURTURING POWER OF FOOD

When you're feeling stressed or sad or lonely, food does seem to make you feel better, but the first 2 bites are the only ones that have any emotional power! Eating more simply won't bring you any additional satisfaction or make you feel any better.

I didn't like this assignment before and I still am not sure that I agree with it. The first 2 bites are indeed delicious, but how do you know if that satisfaction decreases unless you eat the whole thing?!

DH and I have had a very stressful year and my DD reminded me that I needed to put some fun back in my life. So that is what we did this past weekend. There were no "2 bites" about it. I ate and drank to my hearts desire without any thoughts of guilt. Now that the w/e done I hope that it proved to be a healing experience and I am back on track.

Sometimes 2 bites just doesn't cut it (IMHO).

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Day 16 The Nurturing Power of Food

I am really grateful to everyone who shares.This part of the book I find to be a big challenge because I just cannot wrap my head around eating 2 bites and throwing food away.

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Day 16 The Nurturing Power of Food


My understanding is that there are 3 types of hunger
- real hunger to meet your body's needs
-- desire (wanting to eat something even though you are full because you like the taste, gluttony) or eating due to refined foods (sugar/flour) addiction
--- cravings ( wanting to eat for emotional reasons).

Linda is addressing cravings, as her path to success is about overcoming emotional eating. So, if it is emotional eating we are talking about, I agree that "Once you finish those first bites, you’ll have received whatever benefits the food can do for you. Eating more of it simply won’t bring you additional satisfaction or make you feel any better." could be true
But if it is desire, or gluttony, you need more than 2 bites to be satisfied, you will keep eating to prolong the taste of the food that you desire.

Today’s assignment

1. Intentionally eat something that will help you feel better. Eliminate any thoughts of guilt or remorse as you eat this food. Write down what you ate and why you chose it.

I don't know I can do this today, because I am feeling pretty good about my life in general. I need to try it when I am down and need something to soothe me. My choice will be ice cream. That will be interesting to see how 2 bites of ice cream works to calm and/or satisfy me.



2. After two bites, stop! Remind yourself that your needs have been met and eating more of the food won’t increase your healing level. Then give away or toss whatever food is left. Describe what you did with this part of the food.

N/A today - I shall return

3. Write about how you felt doing this exercise. Also, notice what level of satisfaction you experienced as you ate the first two bites of the food.

N/A today - I shall return

I am happy that my understanding of hunger and my efforts to eat healthy are helping me to not binge like I used to and also that I am not thinking about or missing junk food like I used to when I didn't eat it for a while. I am not at goal weight yet so I still have some more work to do, but I am feeling happy about my improvement.


Later edit after reading others' posts

I am feeling a bit invincible right now. There will be a down turn, that's the way life rolls.

The 2 bite exercise might not work for everyone because, according to Susan Peirce Thompson, the person behind Bright Line Eating and a PhD in Brain and Cognitive Sciences, some people have more susceptibility than others to sugar and white flour (refined food) addictions and if a person is more susceptible, the best course of action is to never eat them. If one is highly susceptible to sugar and flour, then eating some begins a whole new cycle of craving them and keeps your taste buds from learning to prefer real, wholesome food.

According to her quiz, I am high on the susceptibility cycle, I forgot about that. I would like to be a person that can eat anything moderately but maybe I can't. When I am in a downturn, I am going to try this exercise and see where I am at.

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This is very close to the 2 bites for me too. Once I get started I'm on a roll!! I'm trying and hopefully I'll be able to handle this one day. Again, it would be easier for me to handle it if the food is not in my home. That's when I have problems.

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Nurturing Power Of Food

I continue to like what Linda said, "With a little effort you can train yourself to feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food." But for me it has been a BIG effort and I would say a controlled amount and I am still working on it.

There is definitely more control in my life now than ever before. THETROUT you are not alone in overeating cookies. Friday there was a funeral for a beloved family member, cookies sent in condolence, most of them shared and sent away (thank goodness!) but...I could not stop eating way more of what remained than I should have to the point of feeling slightly nauseous. Strangely I knew and was aware of all of this but I gave myself permission and kept going. Now I crave sugary treats each night and know that I must nip this in the bud.

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I won 2 packets of really nice cookies at a raffle on Friday night.

I ate them ALL on Saturday & Sunday - not all at once, but I kept finding reasons to go back to them. Like you, it spoiled my appetite for real food.

Sugar is much more than an 'emotional' issue for me - it really does seem to be a chemical/biological thing. I accept that now.

Gill

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Gill, thank you for your thoughts. I don't trust myself to keep it to 2 bites. I just don't have that much self control.

I had a major deviation from plan on Saturday. Helping to clean up after a funeral reception, I kept eating cookies. I was full after that, so I didn't eat dinner. Just mindless eating.

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Day 16, Nurturing power of food

Linda says “Eliminate any thoughts of guilt or remorse as you eat this food.”
Wouldn’t it be great if we could eliminate those thoughts from all the food we eat?

I have a busy day planned and I’m sure there will be an opportunity for me to test the the two bite lesson today. I will pay more attention to my feelings about it.

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The nurturing power of food.

Doing an exercise to test the nurturing power of food doesn't really work for me................ the need for nurturing usually comes when you're not prepared for it - a sudden need.

I experienced this this morning when I came home from work - it was 9.45 am, and I was tired, and thoughts of different foods went through my head.

I knew that I was tired. I came home and made a coffee - the soya milk curdled in it and the coffee wasn't good.

But I decided I will wait until midday - then have my planned lunch, but add a side of spicy potatoes which I have in the freezer. An extra item added to my lunch which I am looking forward to.

As I walked home with my cravings, I knew that eating potato chips, cookies, chocolate would not make me feel better.

Can't say I feel happy about the decision not to eat......... I think eating any of those things might have made me feel temporarily better - but then I'd have felt rubbish for having eaten them!

Once again, I am not doing 'two bites' to test out whether food is nurturing or not.

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“Everything is an opportunity. No matter what is in your life right now, it is a doorway to your freedom.” - Nan Akasha

Day 16 Nurturing Power of Food - initially calmed me down and lifted my spirits but it didn't last long. Two more problems to solve: cravings and regain.

Year 2016:
Gradually eliminating sugary and starchy comfort food. Still...I grow weary of fighting cravings for days after giving-in a little. Solution: find nutritious comforting swaps or don't eat.
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I chose to not do this today as I am not good at stopping after two bites. I have tried to stay strong and not use food to fill the gaps however, only having too bites is a hard one! emoticon

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Our Thanksgiving was today, 3 days later than most of you. So I'm finally up to Day 16, Nuturing Power of Food. How appropriate and it was a great lesson for the day.

There was WAY too much food around me and way too, too much time spent in the kitchen. I just kept telling myself that I could nurture myself with fuel, with the healthy stuff that was available and with two bites of the too sweet, too fat, stuff that would be on the table. It worked!

I ate a meal that was at least 90% great choices (and yes, that great meal and the family and friends at the table nurtured me), 10 % too sweet, too fat. That is okay those few bites of wonderful were also nurturing me and hopefully they weren't enough to set off cravings tomorrow.

Now I'm ready to call it a day; everyone is gone; and I'm just patting myself on the back. One more big holiday down and one to go this year.


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Day #16 Nurturing Power Of Food - Take 2

When you're feeling stressed or sad or lonely, food does seem to make you feel better - for a while - and then you begin to feel frustrated and disappointed with your behavior.

I can see myself clearly in this statement now. Thinking about the upcoming Thanksgiving feast we will be attending at a local restaurant, I will be stressed from the crowd, the noise of a crowd, and fighting all of the food temptations. I can only withstand circumstances like this for so long and then I start to feel anxious and fidgety. I see no relief in sight and so I start to eat more and more to calm myself.

Not only does the act of eating more give me some to do with myself until I can leave, it is the kind of foods that draws me in and nurture me - creamy appetizer dips, creamed herring, deviled eggs, stuffing, cranberry sauce, wine. Looks like I'm not much of a "crunch" or "chewy" kind of person emoticon

I have a plan for tomorrow - one pass through the buffet main table, appetizers last instead of first. Also, I am going to write out a card to carry in my purse to remind myself -

EATING MORE WILL NOT EASE YOUR ANXIETIES OR FIX YOUR FEELINGS !


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I've spent a lot of time today doing prep work for Thanksgiving lunch. Sweet potato casserole assembled, onions and celery chopped for dressing prep tomorrow, cranberry sauce made and I spent some time cleaning the fridge. Tonight after getting home from the Y I made a nurturing meal of whole wheat spaghetti, ricotta pasta sauce and sauteed mushrooms. The pasta sauce (make it myself) needed using and there was just enough left for my single serving of pasta. I ate the whole bowl of pasta - forget just two bites! No way that was going to happen! It is in my allotment, and I enjoyed it. I always consider pasta to be nurturing. emoticon

However - I do get what Linda means about taking two bites. Guess I did that with the cranberry sauce. After it was cooled I sampled a couple teaspoons of it. I'm not about to test myself with something like a piece of carrot cake! And then throw the rest away!

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I planned to enjoy some roasted, salted chestnuts as my nurturing food today. It was a bit of a disappointment, because over 75% of the chestnuts were duds, and the remainder were less than lovely.

However, it does make me look forward to the Xmas markets when roasted chestnuts are usually on sale in small paper bags, served from the hot stove - yum!

But the LACK of nurturing food left me feeling like I wanted something! So this evening, I chopped and toasted some almonds, and sprinkled them on top of stewed plums and yoghurt. Those toasted nuts hit the spot and were very nurturing!

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We're going through some powerful/awesome lessons just at the right time. That's not to say there's a 'wrong or lesser' time. It's just that these holidays can be grueling and difficult.

I can follow the 2 bite rule (as a rule!) but now that we're heading into the 'foodie' holidays it becomes more difficult. I find that sometimes in gatherings, social events, family times while we're all sitting around laughing, talking, remembering there's food sitting there. I can eat mindlessly. I know that. So I'm going to try to place myself far away from it. That way if I have to 'reach for something' or 'move' to get it I can't say 'I did that without even thinking.' No excuses.

Food definitely has a nurturing power. It's been my go to for years over stress. I've been working very, very hard to pull myself away from that.

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Day 16 Nurturing Power of Food (swaps)... nutritious food is comforting
Winter of 2015 - stress eating and re-gained 40#. Using empty calories as comfort food. Initially, feeling better but soon my body was chemically imbalanced and I could not make better choices. High carb /low nutrient foods are unhealthy mentally, as well as physically. During nutrition course I learned about essential vitamins, minerals, amino and fatty acids. Gradually eliminating foods that cause cravings and weight gain.
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Day 16, Nurturing Power of Food

1. I can't actually THINK of any food that would make me feel better right now. I have all my meals planned, measured and do not consume anything that is not on my plan.

2. I focused on savoring the first two bites of my planned snack and enjoyed it. Since it was a pre-measured amount, there was no need to dispose of it.

3. I enjoyed tasting the food, but it's just fuel for me now. It does nothing to soothe any emotions. I find other ways to soothe myself.

I love holding hands with my Hubby, rubbing on scented lotions, stroking silk or satin, or petting my dog that is softer than a rabbit. Those are sensations that nurture me.

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I'm often amazed at what I have written in these posts - it truly is a 'journalling' journey!
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“The deep chatter of the heart” ... That’s a quote from Gill, responding to a comment from me on this lesson last year. I think it is an extraordinary phrase which captures perfectly why some foods promise nurture.




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Believe in the power of ... pleasure. NOT food.

I got pleasure today in listening to the first birds to appear in our back yard.
I got pleasure today from seeing our first deer in a while.
I got pleasure today in checking in with my doc and getting good health news.
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It's hard to fully realize the true reality that food only fixes an empty stomach and never an empty or hurting heart. emoticon

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Food has a lot of power and I'm the one who gave it that power. I've been working quite diligently on taking that power back. I want to be in control. For the most part, I am now. I still have occasions when I am weak and give in.

I have learned a lot from my own mistakes and so very much from all of your posts.

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Love, love reading past posts. Seeing progression, mine and others as we gain insights form Spangle and each other from our struggles and successes. There are certain processed foods (if we can call them that) that are not nurturing but instead addicting and never satisfy at least for me and I continue to avoid them like the plague.

There are comforting foods that I would feel Very deprived if I never, ever had them again. I do not do well with total deprivation but short term, at certain times, is usually doable. Balancing is tricky and I continue to work on this.

I like what Linda said, "With a little effort you can train yourself to feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food." For me it has been a BIG effort and I would say a controlled amount and I am still working on it.

A past post mentioned Gretchen Ruben's book, "Better Than Before" and specifically being a Moderator vs Abstainer type of person. It's on my library request list. The more I understand myself and my thought processes the more successful my weight loss/maintenance. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Day #16 Nurturing Power of Food
Because I've already done these lessons, I will just slow down and spend more time on the first two bites of my meals today.

I’ve never been good at stopping after I begin to eat but I’ve gotten much better at just not starting on trigger foods in the first place.
Emotional eating is harder to control than shopping wisely in the first place.

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I sure could have used this lesson yesterday! It was a very stressful day mentally and several things did not "go right"! By the end of the day I thought I would relax myself by drinking some tea w/ honey and catching up on a couple of TV shows I had recorded, but that didn't work. By the time I went to bed I had ransacked all of my cupboards for things to eat, but found satisfaction in none of them! Today I am actually feeling physically awful and I am still overfull. The thought of food doesn't even sound good right now.

So I think I will start off with a refreshing Spinach and Yogurt Smoothie and save this exercise for this coming Saturday when I am serving a birthday dinner to my DH and son-in-law. I have the 3 questions written down in my journal so I will make sure I won't forget to do them.

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Mindfulspark.......great thoughts! I am a stress eater and sometimes I find myself thinking that any stressful situation deserves comfort food. I know exactly what I need to do......I just have to be strong and not give in when invited to a get together that always involves food. I’m learning to think about what I am eating thanks to being part of this group. Here’s to a healthy day,



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Nurturing Power of Food:

Emotional Eating... yep. I fall for its pull. Eat because I can, because I want to, because I deserve to, because it will help relieve my stress, my discomfort with life events.

It doesn't. I feel guilt after mindless eating. I feel guilt after I swallow an unhealthy unplanned food. I eat for taste, for joy, for nutrition, for fuel. Emotions do not need sugar, salt, and fat.

2 bites in my case can trigger a binge. Thinking before I eat, deep breaths, choosing another way to relax. Thank is what my body needs.

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This is a lesson that will be hard earned and self sustaining once I master it.

I came from a family that food was the solution to every problem ... or just coz.

As we watch our g-kids ... I remember allll the lessons we taught our children:

You only get one dessert ... so chose wisely, eat slowly to enjoy it.
Stop eating when you are full ... there is always tomorrow to chose something else.
Are you still hungry ... get a carrot.

Food should taste good ... it shouldn't have soooo much power over us.
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During the week I eat three meals a day - I am hungry for them, and two bites would not be enough food. I don't often have the chance to practice eating two bites of food in the way Linda Spangle describes. If I have planned to eat something like cookies, then I eat them. My controls are in how much I buy or make.

Last weekend I ate 250g of Bombay mix - two bites would not have done it for me. I wanted to eat it all.

I guess I just haven't mastered this one yet. I will keep it in mind over the holidays.

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Day 16 Nurturing power of food - 100 Days of Weight Loss by Linda Spangle

I really put thought into today’s assignment. I love it!

The first two bites of any food have the most impact on your taste buds and have the emotional power! More of it won’t make me feel any better.

Eat 2 bites to feel nurtured and emotionally soothed by them. Focus on those 2 bites completely so I am satisfied and I don't need to eat more. Soak up the pleasure without guilt. After 2 bites, stop! My needs have been met

Yesterday we went to the Indian restaurant for lunch. I knew I was only going to have one plate of food and I followed Buffet Rules. I looked at all the food first to decide what I only choose things I really liked, foods that were really special (white rice is not special!) and not have a bit of everything.

I loved the food and hubby and I discussed what we liked and why. The mustard curry sauce was the best. The butter chicken while delicious was a little too intense a tomato flavored. I ate slowly to savor the flavor and felt some regret when I was almost finished the food on my plate. At that point, I slowed down even more and really savored the flavor of the butter chicken because I knew those we my last bites and I really wanted to remember the taste, smell and satisfaction. Eating more would not be as intense as those bites. I ate with the utmost pleasure and guilt free. I ate the way I should always eat, satisfying my taste buds yet not over doing it calorie wise.

Hubby did get seconds but I was still eating my food and we finished at the same time. He went back and got a dessert for us to share.

I felt satisfaction looking at the foods in the buffet and chose only foods that really appealed to me. When the food was on my plate I it was not over loaded, and all the food looked tasty.

Last night after dog school I made a hot chocolate with almond milk and followed the instructions on the package. I sipped this and ate some chocolate chips. It wasn’t ice cream or cake, but I did find it satisfying.

Yes the first 2 bites of food have the biggest bang taste wise and I have received the flavor benefits. Eating more is unlikely to bring me additional satisfaction or make me feel better.

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Food definitely is something I have turned to for comfort when I am stressed, depressed, or bored. I really find the best way to handle things is not have sweets in the house. When I have a craving for something sweet, I turn to something like a sugar free popsicle or a piece of fruit.

As I sat here reading this chapter this afternoon, I thought of how I could do the experiment with nothing in the house to try it on. Then I remembered that dh had bought some dark chocolate almond milk to have as a treat. It wasn’t even opened, and I don’t think about having it, but when I picked it up, it did look delicious (I love dark chocolate!) 1 cup is 100 calories, so what I did was pour two ounces into a small cup and sipped it. It really did satisfy me and that small amount was all I wanted!



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So interesting and eye opening to see the changes to my thought processes since starting these lessons. Like I have said in the past, I can just take two bites of a dessert like at a restaurant but it's WAY harder at home.

Currently my best strategy is to have a plan of moderation . White flour products and sugary desserts tend to hook me and keep sending me back for more and then I find myself steadily eating more than I should if I go past what is moderate for me.

Since my goal is to not gain through the holidays, I am at the point that I need the safer route which is to stick with savoring, working to eat slower and enjoying the "nurturing power" of fruits and garden fresh veggies except for the actual holiday where total deprivation has been my undoing in the past. emoticon


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Day #16 Nurturing Power of Food
Oh I’ve come a long way with this lesson but there’s always that one group with members who leave me feeling guilty about not eating their “homemade” specialty.
Yesterday I was able to pass it up because it isn’t a favorite of mine and we had just finished a meal topped off with ice cream! I however was the “only” one and it was pointed out. I used the excuse of the recent Implanted heart monitor to say the doctor said I need to watch my diet.

So guilt for not eating what someone spend so much time on, guilt for fibbing about the Doctor and a little pissed about being singled out.
Yup, chocolate! But I have single servings of homemade sugar-free chocolate pudding in the fridge just to get me through this week. This outing called for a dollop of whip cream on top of the pudding.
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When I feel stressed out at work ...there is something about chocolate...oh, how I wish I had some chocolate on those days. But I don't keep it at my desk. I remember one day saying to a student "I need some chocolate." In a little while they brought me a bar....and I ate it. - without thought.
So, I need to apply the "two bites" rule from now on. Savor the two bites and be done. I could keep chocolate kisses on hand for those stressful times - limit myself to two - but who am I kidding? I would not do that. It is better not to have something so easy to get. It has to be hard to get.
Pasta is my biggest weakness....and a comfort food. I can overeat it very easily. I did well the other day when I went to a meal at my sister's house. She made spaghetti and meat balls. I made a nice size salad and used portion control on the pasta and meat. I ate slowly and savored a food I absolutely love. And I enjoyed the meal without overeating.
We can enjoy our comfort foods - just be mindful - slow down - and get the most out of the first two bites.

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Diana I'm sorry you had to deal with that rude "someone"! emoticon on not letting that negative person derail your plan.

Ahhh the love and comfort of the cookie. Just the thought of a fresh batch of cookies baking brings memories. Maybe that is why I love my Hoosier so much.

I stopped drinking pop a month ago. I found the bottles of diet soda added to my sweet cravings . I now have iced tea, usually a flavored variety, that I make at home. I enjoy a warm cup of tea or black coffee now when trigger moods are starting. Not perfect, but persitent!

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You know, I am not a psychologist, but I wouldn't be surprised if being denied the cookie is linked to the lack of safety & love we may have experienced as babies; the first time we weren't picked up when we cried, or the times we were hungry and not fed. I was born in a generation of timetabled feeding - babies were fed by the clock. I don't know if my mother followed this strictly, but I do know that when I had my baby, and fed him 'on demand' she told me "you shouldn't pick him up so much, you'll spoil him"

I think the need to feel safe, happy & loved starts in those early months of life.

So whilst it might feel silly now to say that a cookie makes me feel safe & loved, on some level I think that deep chatter of the heart is probably involved.

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I remember a Weight Watchers leader who used a variation of this. It was first bite for flavor, second bite focus on the texture, and third bite for the 'plus' or 'more' factor.

I was thinking about the exercise ("Write about how you felt doing this exercise."). I started laughing out loud. I don't think I want to write down even in a private paper notebook that, "Wow, that cookie really made me feel loved and safe!"



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Diana I am so sorry that someone would say something like that to you. Some people can be so heartless!

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What a thoughtless comment! I'm sorry you got dealt that rubbish. Another good reason to keep diet things to ourselves!

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A year or so ago I was having greater difficulty with trigger foods but I believe, over time, that one's palate changes. Sweet tastes very sweet to me now, having been on the low sugar route for a couple of years.

Today was unsettling for a different reason. I shared the fact that I've lost the excess weight I gained on vacation plus an extra couple of lbs. This is conscious work on my part to lessen any strain on my hip as I'm having difficulty with it at present. It has taken me a couple of months to chip away 5lbs but I've done it.
Someone, who should really know better, responded with, '2 months? I could do that in a week. I didn't know you were that big.'

However, please note: ... no sneaky trip to the cookie cupboard; fruit option rather than cheesecake for dessert today.

Yes, I'm smarting a bit as I would have liked a bit of praise but I am IN CONTROL.
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Day #16 Nurturing Power of Food

It still amazes me that I can remember exactly what I ate the other two times I did this lesson (mashed potatoes and gravy from KFC and wedding cake)!
Today I will skip the need to check it out.

If you can feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food fine, but if you know it is a trigger food (we all have those) I say leave them in the store, don't even bring them home!


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I agree that certain foods can feel comforting. It does not make feelings or problems go away but it can give momentary comfort. But I choose to not use food for comfort. I usually feel guilty afterwards.

Food is for enjoyment and fuel. What I put into my body helps of hurts my body.

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Day 16, Nurturing power of food.

"Comfort Food" is REAL. It is not just something an ad executive thought up. Some foods really do seem to nurture us. A special treat is like a warm hug for some people. We need to nurture ourselves but we need to do it in a way that isn't harmful to our journey.

Thanks, Gill, for that nice long post today. You have given me some insight into how I can make my No S weekends more manageable. I usually do well but did not plan my snack yesterday and ended up wanting to just keep noshing.

I will continue to allow a treat on weekend days but I need to plan it!

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Long ago I went with a friend to Geneen Roth's weekend workshop . Near lunch time she passed out one Hershey's kiss to each of us. She said to let it melt in our mouths. Not to chew. Hold it for a long time. I still remember doing that. She had intentionally waited till just before the lunch break when we were all hungry.

I still remember the experience!

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Well, I've written rather a lot on this thread in the last three years - and if you're curious, you can go and read it all! I love to read the whole thread when I have the time! This topic (and yesterday) provoked a great deal of deep discussion - well worth a read.

I've written two A4 pages in my journal about this today, and I'm not going to post it all here. As I've said before - I can't do the 'two bites' experiments without it really upsetting my equilibrium - it's like a drug for me.

One of the things Linda says is "With a little effort, you can train yourself to feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food." This is my goal - smaller amounts of those foods.

Most of the time, I do pretty well at buying smaller amounts - single-serving bags of potato chips/crisps, or a 30g-50g bar of chocolate and not 100g-200g bars.

On Saturdays I have a weekly 'splurge': I know that not everyone agrees with this - but it works for me, OK - it keeps me 'on track' for the rest of the week - its a food reward I suppose, a rebellious act - but it's necessary for me, at the moment.

So, in the spirit of Day 15/16, I was successful in having smaller amounts - instead of having a whole pizza, 4 choc-ices, 100g chocolate and a packet of choc chip cookies; I had half a pizza, 2 choc-ices, 2 Mars bars

I know this is not a good meal - it's my Saturday 'splurge' OK?! I was successful in having a 'smaller amount of nurturing food. That's an improvement!

However, after coffee, I went back and had another two choc-ices!

For me, anything with sugar or white flour combined with fat in tempting combos - are foods to be avoided 90% of the time.

But my weekly splurge does meet the need in the safest way I can manage - it satisfies the rebel and I can stay on-plan for the next 6 days. It's a safety-valve.

Next week, I might try buying just one choc-ice (more expensive in money, but not in calories) and only one Mars Bar (and maybe have some salad with my pizza). When I get comfortable with that, I'll try choosing one sweet treat - not two........... step-by-step I can improve the quality of my 'splurge' without loosing the nurturing aspect.


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Did a similar exercise a few months ago. Now I keep those small hershey bars around and when I need some chocolate I have one of those. I take small bites and let each bit melt in my mouth. Does the trick!

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I tend to find comfort in food. The first time I went through this study I was surprised to see the two bite rule really did help. The other thing I do is stay away from sugar. It is a trigger for me and makes me crave lots of sweets or even fatty and salty things. Maybe I've associated the sweetness with good feelings? I don't know because when I eat fruit I don't have increased cravings.

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Day 16 - Nurture yourself with food

Food is not our enemy. It isn't our answer to solve our problems either.

I have issues with just leaving food - if it's there, I eat it in order to finish it. If I have calories left over for the day - I seek to eat them instead of just listening to my body. If I have alloted myself out a portion, I must eat it - even if I discover that I've had enough.

This exercise will be good for me.

BTW - I have been doing my daily reading - just don't always get over here to post. Sometimes I just write in my journal.

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Wanda, that's wonderful! Getting ourselves on page One and keeping ourselves there requires effort, focus and diligence. You did good. Me....I'm still wandering in the woods many days but I'm seeing some light now!


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Day 16 Nurturing food

I so identify with the posts here. I used to numb loneliness, anger, irritability, fear, worry, pain, and nervousness with what?? FOOD! Whatever food was available! Sure some creamy, warm wonderful things were preferred but basically it was just that movement of hand to mouth, hand to mouth, hand to mouth....you get the picture.

I think I have finally conquered that but I know that self-abuse lurks in dark corners ready to spring out if I let down my guard. I was so pleased to get through hubs crises this weekend without even feeling like I had to binge. I didn't even feel like I WANTED to binge.

Cue the Hallelujah Chorus!! I won't say that I have stopped comforting myself with food but I do not NEED to comfort myself with food.

Someone else posted that healthy food is nurturing...I am so glad that I have finally learned that. Grateful too for a hospital cafeteria that had a healthy salad bar and many other healthy options.

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I am doing my best to get nurturing from other things than food.

That's what got me in trouble in the first place.

Hubby gives great hugs. A cup of my fav hot tea warms my soul. I have gutted and organized my craft room to have space and projects available at alllll times ... keeps my hands busy and I get to be creative. Walks out in the sunshine ... or sitting in my sun room.

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I use to nurture myself with food. In particular it would be sugar. (ice cream, cookies, licorice) I don't do that anymore. I have boundaries in place. I have for a while now. I'm finding other ways to nurture myself. If I get an urge or craving. I check in with myself. Why do I want to eat? Am I hungry? What's going on that I feel I need to eat. It's usually some emotion. I feel the emotion. It passes and I move on.

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I'm not taking two bites of a 'nurturing' food either. I have a robust eating plan in place, and I know which foods will kick me out of the park - so, no, I'm not going there either! As Leslie said, some things are best left alone!

Thanks for that chia chocolate pudding idea, Mary. I also use cocao powder when I need to be 'comforted' - I make my hug-in-a-mug with unsweetened cocao powder, 2 tsp creamer, water, and a sprinkle of nutmeg. The 2 tsps of creamer are worth it to me. My usual time for needing this is in the evening if I'm at work on a late shift. At home I can usually make do with a cup of decaff coffee after my dinner, or a cup of decaff Earl Grey tea.

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Thanks for the input here. I will be applying it to my own experiences..........soon.
I am just beginning to acknowledge "hunger cues", after many years of eating because food was available, I was feeling other emotions and not truly hungry or it was "offered". I honestly don't want to test the waters with a two bite trial or whatever at this point. I may do that my next round...but not now. Some days, anything can be a trigger!

This is off topic perhaps but I watched some of My 600 pound life last night and the one lady, Tanisha, saw a therapist who bounded right in with questions of sexual abuse etc and I felt like that lady was talking to ME. VERY interesting. I know how my past has affected my present life but gee whiz, I am 64 now and really want to move on........ASAP.

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This is an important lesson for me. I do use food to make myself feel better and to soothe myself especially when I am feeling sad or lonely or just really tired. I never though about this before, but what I like to eat is something creamy and soft and sweet. I like it in a bowl and like to scoop it up with a spoon. Wow, having just written it down, all my bells are ringing, I do see what's going on !!!

I have found substitutions that work with my eating plan and provide the same soothing effect. Chocolate chia seed pudding is great, you soak chia seeds overnight with coconut milk, almond milk and unsweetened cocoa powder ( or flavoring of your choice) it takes on a pudding like consistency by the morning just right to scoop up with a spoon and make me feel all soothed.

The other find is keto hot chocolate. I teaspoon unsweetened cocoa, 1 teaspoon heavy cream and 1 teaspoon coconut oil in a cup of hot water and all frothed up with an immersion blender. Sprinkle of cinnamon on top. Again, creamy, warm drinkable, it soothes me in the evening after dinner.

I have several such recipes. Vitamix ice-creams in the summer and avocado chocolate mousses. I also want to try out creamy gelatin puddings, I think they should have the same effect while staying within my food plan. As I discovered more and more of these, they have crowded out the old oatmeal, tapioca puddings and mac and cheeses. I don't even feel like I need them anymore.

There are other non food ways to soothe. I love hot baths, unfortunately I don't have a tub in my current bathroom, so that one is not possible. I try and substitute by using nice shower gels in the shower....not the same effect though. Scented candles and stretching and classical music in the evening is also soothing....but I rarely have the patience to set all that up. Massage is very soothing but for me has to be an occasional treat. I find my cup of keto hot chocolate in the evening and the chia pudding in the morning is enough to hit the spot ususally.

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Day #16 Nurturing Power of Food
Because I've already done these lessons before, I won't do the tasting as it has become my normal way of dealing with new dishes. If I don't like the first two bites I don't eat the rest.

It is amazing that I can still remember exactly what I ate the other times I did the lessons (mashed potatoes and gravy from KFC and wedding cake)!

The first two bites have the most impact on taste and are the ones that have emotional power!
Once we understand that eating more won't continue to improve our emotional state, we can use this in our favor.
Train yourself to feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food unless you know it is a trigger food (we all have those) in which case I say leave them in the store, don't even bring them home!


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Day 16: Nurturing power of food
When you're feeling stressed or sad or lonely, food does seem to make you feel better. At least initially, it calms your anger or anxiety and lifts your spirits. But how long does food keep working? I am thinking this is where I been the last few weeks-
You're done!
If you're eating as a way to feel nurtured or calmed, you'll usually experience some level of those feelings right away. But continuing to eat won't bring any more satisfaction or make you feel better and better. In fact, at some point, you'll probably start to feel frustrated and disappointed with your behavior instead of being healed by the food.
Once you understand that eating more won't continue to improve your emotional state, you can actually use this in your favor. With a little effort, you can train yourself to feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food.
"Everything in moderation",
Food does have the power to nurture, that’s one reason why we celebrate milestones in our lives with food and feel comforted by using Grandma’s special recipes. I however don’t want to use food as a comfort in daily situations,
Once we understand that eating more won't continue to improve our emotional state, we can use this in our favor. Train yourself to feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food.
Intentionally eat something that will help you feel better. Soak up the pleasure from a delicious piece of chocolate. Allow yourself the comfort of eating your favorite ice cream or a luscious cinnamon roll. Eliminate any thoughts of guilt or remorse as you eat this food.
No cant do this but I do need to stray away from eating emotionally.
After two bites, stop! Remind yourself that your needs have been met and eating more of the food won't increase your healing level. Then give away or toss whatever food is left.
Write about how you felt doing this exercise. Also, notice what level of satisfaction you experienced as you ate the first two bites of the food.
I watch my exchanges. I drink coffee or tea still working on the water intake.
I will not take a bite of anything today. I don't even want to go there. somethings just have to be left alone. I wont want to stop at two bites. some things are best left alone.
Funny how eating healthier can change yourself emotionally too.
Cheryl was reading your post-sparks- and the book sounds interesting- Gretchen Ruben’s book on habits “Better Than Before”. The book covers habits of all types not just those related to eating and diets, but the section on Abstainers and Moderators applies here. Some people have the ability to moderate areas of their lives and some, to be successful, need to abstain. I may have to read it. it may help and couldn't hurt.
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I am learning to nurture myself in different ways. Like yesterday, I won't be doing today's exercise.

Best of luck to those who choose to. These are the only two days I plan on "skipping" for this round.

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I used to eat to nurture myself. Now if my lower brain is telling me that I really "need" something, I "call it out" and have food if I am hungry or have tea or black coffee if I am not but the voice is loud. Sometimes I ignore it and have nothing.

Dogs get treats, humans get rewards. (This is in my "Mini Habits" book.)

I am getting better at being mindful when eating my lunch (food) at work.

Food can taste great, but it is not a friend.

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I have come a loooooooong way from nurturing myself with food.

This past summer I did eat to feel better ... I gained 15 pounds that I am still working on getting back off. Though I am not happy about re-losing weight ... it did teach me how much I use food to make me feel better ... but it doesn't really.

Food is for fuel but can/should be enjoyable.

Food is NOT a band aide, hug or my best friend!!!!

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WELL DONE, Sarah!
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I found the Gretchen Rubin book in the library catalogue and have ordered a copy to take out on loan.

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Thank you for sharing the information about Gretchen Rubin's book. I also would like to focus more on moderator and less on abstainer.

I've believed for some time that I should not give up ANYTHING to lose weight unless I was willing to give it up for the rest of my life.

I found a used copy of the book on Amazon for $4.44. I'm looking forward to reading it!

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Thanks for sharing about Abstainer vs. Moderator (Gretchen Rubin). I did not do this exercise because I really didn't have anything in my kitchen that would work for this but this past summer when I was confronted with a long buffet table of foods I did take 1-2 bites of several items 'of interest' which I likened to this exercise. It went well and I felt like I had a chance to try new foods that I had not eaten before (not all would have been worthy of a larger portion either!). I think it is a good habit to adopt with the holiday season fast approaching. Wherever I eat I am going to do the two bite exercise and borrowing from No S (no second plate) I will fit those same two bites on one plate and ideally have some visible plate in between.

I would say that my previous strategy was to be an abstainer but I want to move toward being a moderator and that takes practice, skill and patience. It is finding the right balance between having enough and not having too much. It is definitely a work in progress.

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I did this - two bites of chocolate cake torte (a single serving size I bought from the grocery store). It was a little hard to throw it away, but I did - I dumped it upside down in the garbage can.

It was delicious - very sweet, creamy, and dark. I don't think it was comforting, but it was good. Hopefully I am getting past that stage where food provides me comfort. I want to enjoy it, but I don't want to emotionally need it.

I love Gretchen Rubin's books. I used to think I was an abstainer. In fact, that is how I lost this weight the last time. But I couldn't sustain that, which is why I am losing it again. For me, that was like making the environment around me behave, and it fed into my all or nothing tendencies. My approach now is "everything in moderation", eat when you're hungry, eat slow, etc. This is harder for me, but I am hopeful that it will be the best in the long term. I lose weight, slowly, and my progress is not always in a straight line, but I am playing a long game. I don't want to have to tightly control my environment, or be controlled by food, anymore.

I think these two lessons (15 and 16) have been great as far as learning some skills in this area. Personally I like having the permission to take comfort from your food, without totally killing your healthy habits. Sometimes, we just have to do our best.

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Great insights and progress here! Wish I could respond to everyone emoticon . My previous posts still reflect where I am at in my journey.

emoticon Gill. I'm mulling over the Abstainer vs Moderator idea in my own life. Very thought provoking!

emoticon Susan for those of you who are new or struggling with these lessons, Hang in there. Baby steps. Each time through a little more sinks in and I see a little bit more progress. emoticon

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Well done Kathryn - what did you choose to eat two bites of? (just out of interest!)

I love what Cheryl posted about 'Abstainers and Moderators' from Gretchen Ruben. I love Gretchen Ruben - I'll check that book out. Thanks, Cheryl!

I think I'm an Abstainer who is trying to be persuaded to be a Moderator - and around certain foods, I can't do it!

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I did they activity and found that it worked, two bites and I was happy without feeling like I blew my eating plan for the day. I got rid of the rest by destroying it by putting it down the kitchen sink. Gone away after two bites of comfort, well done.




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I'm skipping the activity but not the message.
I'm currently exhibiting what happens when I push myself too hard. It will be a slog until the New Year/School Term as my work diary is booked until then, but I'm seriously reviewing what happens past that point.
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I am not sure where I am on this one. I know that I do not indulge in emotional eating as much as I used to, but I had a real hard time after my heart attack getting into a place where I even care about diet. So I guess it depends on how out of the ordinary my life is. two bites - sure if it is just "normal" stress even death and taxes but sometimes I am overwhelmed and then I do not seem to have a filter.

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Day 16 – Nurturing power of food

Food does have the power to nurture, that’s one reason why we celebrate milestones in our lives with food and feel comforted by using Grandma’s special recipes. I however don’t want to use food as a comfort in daily situations, a habit I have worked on breaking for the last few months.
Before I got active again on Spark I was reading Gretchen Ruben’s book on habits “Better Than Before”. The book covers habits of all types not just those related to eating and diets, but the section on Abstainers and Moderators applies here. Some people have the ability to moderate areas of their lives and some, to be successful, need to abstain. With regards to comforting with food I am definitely an abstainer.


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Day #16 Nurturing Power of Food
Because I've already done these lessons before, I won't do the tasting as it has become my normal way of dealing with new dishes. If I don't like the first two bites I don't eat the rest.
emoticon Funny though I can remember exactly what I ate the other times I did the lesson!

When we're feeling stressed or sad or lonely, food does seem to make us feel better. At least initially, it calms anger or anxiety and lifts our spirits. But how long does food keep working? The first two bites have the most impact on taste and are the ones that have emotional power!
Once we understand that eating more won't continue to improve our emotional state, we can use this in our favor. Train yourself to feel better after eating only a small amount of nurturing food.


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: Day 16, 100 days Nurturing Power of Food

This one is similar to yesterday. I used to eat my emotions now I watch my exchanges. I drink coffee or tea still working on the water intake.

Now if I get emotionally I chat with a friend, write a friend. The fridge no longer calls me. I still sometimes look inside. some old habits die hard.

I will not take a bite of anything today. I don't even want to go there. somethings just have to be left alone. I wont want to stop at two bites. some things are best left alone.

Funny how eating healthier can change yourself emotionally too.

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I'm skipping this one, this time. I've posted my thoughts on this thread in previous run-throughs. I am not going to 'intentionally eat something that will help me feel better.' The good thing about this is that I realise that I don't really use food to feel better anymore - or if I do, it's a proper meal, planned, and eaten at meal-time.

I'm going to have a go at the 2-bites things (Day 15) tomorrow (at a work party).

I also eat a bit too fast still - I had a vegan 'bacon' sandwich this morning, with spicy ketchup - sitting on the front door-step after a wonderful early-morning run. I 'forgot' to savour the first two bites...........!

(more discussion on my Report thread if you're interested)

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Day 16 Nurturing the power of food

I used to eat to nurture myself. Now if I feel I really "need" something I drink water or black coffee, Food is fuel. It may be tasty fuel but it is fuel.

I no longer eat to calm my anger or anxiety. I used to before I started a healthier lifestyle. I think about it, and hear my little voice say "you need chocolate!" but it stays little and I do not give in. Yay to NSVs!!!!

No sweets or snacks today so I will not complete the task using a treat. I will make sure I eat my meals mindfully and savor each bite. I have a habit of not focusing on my lunch (food) at work and get caught up in the book I am reading, or check a few emails.


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For Day 16's exercise I decided to use the second half of the 3-2-1 brownie.

I also decided to eat it in the evening of the day I did the two bite challenge. I had already charged myself the points for the full serving and decided it best to get both of these exercises and the sugar in and out of my system in one day.

The idea for day 16 is that 2 bites is all you need to satisfy emotional hunger. I used to be an emotional eater. I would attempt to "fill the black hole in my soul" with food, of mass proportions to the point of feeling ill. I have learned not to do that, but I am still in danger of overdoing sweets if I am in a bad spot emotionally.

This time around I focused on how the food felt in my mouth, holding it there and letting the brownie slowly dissolve and finally swallowing. Feeling the bit of a sugar rush a few minutes later telling me I had indeed helped my mood was amazing. I have not experienced this awareness before.

This is the third time I've done these two exercises. I highly encourage new people to the 100 days of weight loss to not give up. This set of 10 exercises are tough for a lot of us, but repeated multiple times they do finally start to click. You are SOOOO worth one more day, and then another.

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9/24/16 7:28 P

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Thankfully, thankfully right now I'm usually not eating emotionally. I can say, however, that I'm using the super small portion control method for desserts when I have them. Having just finished a tiny portion of bread pudding left over from yesterday's takeout endeavor, even that was way too sweet for me now. Therefore, the rest gets tossed rather than cut into small portions and frozen, which was my initial intention. I am lucky in that I don't have many triggering foods...IF I keep sugary foods to these tiny portions.



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6/30/16 9:47 A

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Thank you for the birthday wishes
It was a great birthday. All of my children and all of their children were there. Everyone had fun and got along!!!!

goal is to be able to walk again
Linda
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