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11/7/19 8:08 A

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Day #67 Never Say "I Blew It"!
The feeling comes up sometimes but I recognize it and can stop the thought.
I’m much better at realizing it is a choice I am making in the situation and can log it and move on.

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Another great lesson. Not a good day for me today but I've learned that thankfully, it's not about perfection. It's more about consistent, incremental changes, staying positive and never giving up. I've tracked everything. I got all of my exercise in today. emoticon I can do this.



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I am so grateful to everyone you have given me the motivation to not say I blew it. I am so blessed to be here and learning everyday how to be a better me.

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"Oh well..........."

I overate today - I had two lunches really - they were two and a half hours' apart, but it was more food than I needed or wanted. It was work-related, but not forced upon me, I could have just had a drink and it wouldn't have mattered. I think I was also FEELING bored, frustrated, tired as well........... so it was emotional eating really.

My first lunch was the one I'd made at home and taken to work. I ate that around midday. The second lunch was when I was supporting someone to go out and do her shopping and she chose to have lunch out. She had a burger and chips/fries. There wasn't anything on the menu that I wanted really - but I ordered a 'cheese toastie' - it wasn't good at all - why on earth did I (a) order it and (b) eat it?!!!!

But after work, on the way home, I did feel the temptation to 'blow it' and buy something else to eat (something like chocolate!), but what stopped me was my determination to have a no-spend day! Gosh - it's so easy to fall into the eating trap, isn't it?!

"Oh, well.........." what's done is done - tomorrow is another day.

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~ Resolve that you will never again describe your eating by saying the words "I blew it"
Oh, I have said that so many times, or something like it.

~ invent some new phrases that acknowledge your eating struggle but at the same time encourage you to move forward. Consider using statements such as "That was minor, so I need to keep it that way."
"Stop right there! I gotta know right now, before I go any further, will this help me or will I be fat forever?" (to the tune of paradise by the dashboard light)
"Don't let this little mistake become a day long or week long problem!"
"No more! It's groovy to be in my weight loss groove. Don't throw off your groove."
"Don't trip over something behind you."

~ Record your favorite phrases in your notebook and memorize them so you can use them immediately whenever you have a slip-up.
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Day 67 - Never say I Blew It

Don't catastrophize a slip. Get back on track as soon as possible. Usually when you track a slip-up, it isn't that big a deal. Say it was 200 calories, that would be a small slip-up, an extra snack, but one feels guilty because it wasn't on the plan. Say it was 500 calories, that would be a bigger slip. If it was 500 calories, it would take a whole week of eating an extra 500 calories to gain a pound of fat - 500 x 7 = 3500 calories = 1 pound of fat.

So just get back on track as quickly as possible, and don't beat yourself up. Put your effort into getting back on track. Don't beat yourself up. Move forward.

As Gill mentioned a few days ago, it might be useful to as yourself - Why did that happen, what did I really want or need? Or as Linda wrote - “Isn’t that interesting? I wonder what that was all about.”

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Oh, yes!! Some of my famous words . . . 'I blew it. Might as well go ahead and finish off the pie - bag of cookies - ice cream - fries- chips, whatever!' Then I really did 'blow it.' I have so much work to do . . .

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Day 67, 100 days Never say I blew it!

This remains a very easy one for me!!! I never say 'I blew it!' as I have made eating 'mistakes/excesses' but then get back on plan/on track as quickly as I can!

I am proud to say I have made good choices today and this week! emoticon

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I will not say, "I blew it."

I went off track, and I'm getting back on track.
I deviated from my plan and need to get back on plan.


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I think it was Winston Churchill who said "Never, never, never give up". Well Linda Spangle says "Never, never, never say I blew it!" LOL

We are human. We can exhibit self-control. We can achieve our goals....er...most of them. We cannot however achieve the goal of being perfect because perfect humans simply do not exist.

We will slip up, make mistakes, use poor judgment at times, make poor choices. It is okay.

We will also do enough things right, learn to protect our program, make enough good choices, and move towards a healthier body and a healthier lifestyle. We will do all of that because we are not here to quit!

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I still suffer from the 'I Blew It' syndrome at times! I need to get a new mantra. Maybe something like 'One Small Step Forward.' Maybe . . . I'll think about that.

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Day #67 Never Say "I Blew It"!
The feeling comes up sometimes but I recognize it and can stop the thought.
I’m not perfect but I am so much better and rarely turn to a binge before dealing with whatever is happening that makes me even think to say “I blew it!”

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Day 67, 100 days Never say I blew it!

This is an easy one for me!!! I never say 'I blew it!' as I have made eating 'mistakes/excesses' but then get back on plan/on track!

Yesterday I ate badly but not sure why, perhaps going to WI the day before may have made things worse. My tum was sore in the night and I deserved it, will get on with it today as I didn't blow it! emoticon

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Never say I blew it! and keep eating mindlessly. -
Say, "Actions Need Adjusting!" I can make better choices on this list...

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This is a lesson I have not ... taken to heart well.

I tend to beat myself up the more I need a self hug.
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100 Days Challenge, Day 67- Never say "I blew it!"

Today’s assignment:

1. Resolve that you will never again describe your eating by saying the words “I blew it.” Write a declaration about this.

I will not say "I blew it!" again. It is counterproductive.

2. Invent some new phrases that acknowledge your eating struggle but at the same time encourage you to move forward. Write down a few ideas, and see how they feel as you say them.

I took a small detour on the journey and that's okay.
I had a bit more food than my allotment but it's all good. Right back on track.
I'm not sure what just happened but the why doesn't matter. What I do to fix it matters.

3. Record your favorite phrases below and memorize them so you can use them immediately whenever you have a slip-up.

It's all good.
No harm, no foul.
What matters is how quickly I got back on track.
I have total focus again.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

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Sue, thanks for sharing the Beck "Oh, well!" .............. that's kind of what I say: What's done is done, now let's move on, eh?

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I love the two sentences-
Gill: “...there's no point in thrashing about in a pool of negative self-reprisal.”

Linda: “...you may decide you should punish yourself by eating even more.”

I like the way Linda urges us to find our own most effective words to use for self-talk, as she also did in the last chapter. The emphasis is on what works for ME. The second advantage is that it creates a new kind of trigger for us, that of thinking about what we’re doing, being in the moment.



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Babs - I forgot all about those verses inside the Dove wrappers! They are kind & gentle.

Well, I beat myself up plenty because I have this inner need to be perfect. I know that is not what we are meant to think, but a childhood of growing up and being told you never did anything good enough caused my skewed thinking. I have worked diligently for 2 years now trying to correct that thinking, build my self-esteem, love myself, and feel I am worth it!

This is a slow process, but I vow never to say "I Blew It". Beck teaches us to say "Oh Well" and move on. She also tells us to give ourselves credit for all of the positive things we do instead of focusing on our mistakes.

Gill - Thanks for the article link.

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Ouch! This one hits home, but then they all do. I'm a foodie, addicted.

I have told myself I blew it soooooooo many times. I'm rethinking how I phrase things now because actually I can only blow if that's the decision I make. That decision would be to quit, give up. Not gonna happen!

Now I try to focus on a 'taste' of this or that if I'm at a special event or it's a celebration. I learned years ago that I cannot give things up.

In the lesson for 'two bites' I chose dark Dove chocolate. I love it. I have honestly learned how to limit myself. But I also discovered something else. I savor the chocolate - naturally. I don't have to have it every day. It's my 'treat' at the end of the day. But along with that treat there are words of encouragement wrapped around each piece. I have saved quite a few of them. They inspire me.

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Never say I blew it

This is a big one for me.A mental challenge I continue to work on. All or nothing thinking.
I think of the car example all of the time. If the past, even though I thought of it I usually ate anyway. Sneak eating was a big issue.

If I know I am going out to eat (which is rare) my mind focuses constantly on "Well you are going to mess up later, might as well eat today."

I have gotten better at letting the thoughts float by. But the pull is there and it is strong! I try not to over think it, but I do use Linda's idea "Isn't that interesting. My mind wants me to eat ___."

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A couple of extras for Day 67



This article is mostly about body/fitness, but gives some great examples of how to change a negative thought into a positive one.
www.sparkpeople.com/blog/blo
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to_say
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What a lovely picture Gil!

I have stopped saying I blew it. Now I view it as a life lesson, what can I take from this to do better next time? and move on.

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I can honestly say that this lesson has impacted on more than just my diet. As Spark Guy says about the 'cross-over effects' of the Spark system. Further back on this thread, Donna writes that she is now being 'kinder' to herself; I think that's what this boils down to for me - I've stopped beating myself up! Finally! Well, I still sometimes sulk a bit, but basically, this forgiving attitude has become my response to my imperfection!


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Day #67 Never Say "I Blew It"!
I love all of the analogies. It's hard not to let one less than healthy choice disrupt the whole day. I have gotten better at this, and can usually stop myself before going on an all-out binge.

Yes! Thanks for the goodie! emoticon

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Hard lesson. I'm learning though. I didn't 'blow it'. May have slipped, but I continue to get up and move forward. Life's full of slips, mistakes, losses, stress . . . The important thing is to never give up. Never ever consider yourself a failure.

Thanks for the goodie, Gill!

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Day 67 ~ Paraphrase of past post: "I don't say I've blown it any more. Somewhere, long ago I read blowing one's diet compared to a savings account and that hit a bulls eye for me. Sure, sometimes I overindulge and spend more than I should but I don't then go crazy and blow all of my money. Just the opposite, I try to be sensible and get right back on track. Now I focus on my body having a calorie budget and rarely go really overboard any more. It's just TOO HARD to undo damage to either budget when I have spent foolishly."

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Presently, Thanks to all I have learned here and from SP, I focus on positive self-talk about how far I have come and how numerous slip ups in the past have not derailed my confidence and ability to reach and maintain my goals. emoticon emoticon




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Day #67 Never Say "I Blew It"!
Even though I don’t say it, I will admit the feeling of “oh well I’ve already ruined this Day” on rare occasions, still pops up in my life!
Work in progress but at least I’ve learned to recognize it! emoticon

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This takes me all the way back to my day #1 lesson.

I used to be a perfectionist and if I had one bad meal or bad day, would wallow in guilt, go on a seemingly neverending binge and regain all the weight I had lost.

Now I am different and I realize that it is persistence not perfection that will lead me to my goal. I am going to occasionally have a "less than perfect" meal or day, take a deep breath, and get right back on the healthy eating plan.

This is for the BEST of my life!

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The car analogy is really good. I also like Donna's egg and flower ones. It shows how ridiculous it is to have the "I blew it so I might as well blow it some more" mentality. I don't think I have a big struggle with this attitude. But if I do, I now have those comical examples to think about. I have had to forgive myself plenty of times in the past. I will continue to do so. I have to be honest with myself when I don't eat right. But I don't have to continue going down that slippery slope.

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Day 67, Never Say I Blew It!

This is an easy one for me too, Donna.....at least NOW it is easy. I am so grateful to linda for writing this lesson. Years ago, "I blew it", or "I blew it again", or "I am such a failure" were common self-talk for me. NO MORE!

I think I mostly stopped saying this before I ever read 100 Days but it just took one reading of this lesson to stop me from beating myself up. I read a featured blog this morning in which the blogger said that her failures are actually successes because she has learned something that doesn't work for her. I think that is true for me too. It is much easier to analyze my behavior and make course corrections when I am not beating myself up for "blowing it"!!

Exercise today - 7-minute upper body workout with bands; and treadmill time..

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Day 67, 100 days Never say I blew it!

This is an easy one for me!!! I never say 'I blew it!' as I have made eating 'mistakes/excesses' but then get back on plan/on track! Last Sat I went to a party and ate lots of treats and ate more than I'd planned but as I followed my plan Sun, Mon and Tues 95% and at my WI on Tues I was still in my target range emoticon

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What I've learned from this is previous rounds is that if you slip up, you can change the next thing you put in your mouth to something better. God willing, there is always a next day and a new chance.

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I NEVER say this I am kinder to myself than that even when I have gone off plan!

I wouldn't throw away 6 eggs if i had broken 1 or throw away all my flowers if 1 had died!

Chris I hadn't heard the car one so thank you, its excellent! emoticon

An overeat happens but it shouldn't spoil the whole journey. I always try to recoup and get back on plan as soon as possible! I have struggled to get back on plan after my hol but I Am back now today! emoticon


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Gee, funny this should be the topic for today after I just got done posting about "how I blew it" over the holiday w/e !

Thanks for the encouraging words, Gill emoticon . I had a very good day staying on track yesterday.

I am always analyzing my missteps when they happen, but that is AFTER the fact. Beck goes into great detail about how to analyze what she calls sabotaging thoughts and actions. And I like Linda's take on Head vs Heart for exploring why we misstep. My goal is to catch myself BEFORE I even make one! Or at least catch myself more frequently.

A couple phrases in today's lesson caught my eye and I have combined them:

"Gee, that was a struggle! I wonder what that was all about?"

I'm looking forward to another good day!



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"It's as if I backed my car into a post. But instead of assessing the damage and driving away, I decide one dent isn't enough. So to punish myself for my first mistake, I slam my car backward into the post again and again."

I do love this quote!

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Day #67 Never Say "I Blew It"!
This is a lesson for me to keep in mind every day.
Once I can remember nothing is "off limits" but if I want to be healthy sometimes items need to be left "off my menu", there will be no reason to even think I blew it!


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Day 67, 100 days Never say I blew it!

I learned this lesson long ago. But...I am now way too accepting of my bad eating habits. I need a balance!

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I know I keep saying this, but I get SO much encouragement from re-reading these entire threads; I'm astounded by the insight, honesty, and wisdom that everyone has shared.

Over the 3yrs or so that I've been on this team, working this book (my book is so dog-eared!), I am much, much more aware of my self-talk, and not using negative language to describe my actions. If I do over-eat, I am in a place now where I can observe and analyze what's going on, and I am quick to correct.

I also find that, now, if I overeat (some of the examples I identify with would be eating the whole packet of cookies, or the multi-pack of chocolate bars) I am likely to not WANT to eat my next meal - so I'll adjust and just have soup, or fruit and yoghurt - but not as punishment - because I can feel that my body doesn't want more food.

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Day 67 Never say I blew it! Say, Actions Need Adjusting!
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but at least we're not reinforcing the punishing message by saying it out loud and to everyone! We are changing our behaviour, and that changes our thinking - slowly but surely.

And yes, how quickly the Days go by once we get past the first 3 weeks (where the 'interested' drop out usually!)

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By the way.........We are over two-thirds of the way through our 100 Days!!

Day 67 - Never say I blew it

Well, maybe I never used the same words; I may have though. Usually I just called myself a failure.....well that time is long past. Now I use positive-speak to help me get back on track.

WOW Donna, you said a lot in a few words! I never before thought of my lapses in tracking as a sign that I was "blowing it". It is absolutely true though. I'm going to be more alert to that. Maybe I tell myself that there wasn't time because I actually didn't want to record that meal???
And why would that be??? Hmmmmm..............

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I still NEVER say THOSE words, however I know when I stop writing down what I have eaten in truth I am thinking those words so am trying not to do it! emoticon emoticon

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Day 67: Never say "I blew it"
One of the most common dieting phrases is "I've already blown it, so I might as well go ahead and eat the rest." But each time you say "I blew it," you reinforce your sense of failure and disappointment with not staying on your plan. You also give yourself permission to follow a minor slip-up with a major eating binge.
Sometimes people take this further by planning even more damage.
Pay for it by more eating
When you think you've "blown it," you may decide you should punish yourself by eating even more. Although you feel bloated and miserable, you make yourself pay by pushing in more food, which makes you feel even worse.
Phrases such as "I blew it" emphasize discouragement and failure. Throw these old dieting lines out the window and start using a kinder, more gentle voice when you talk to yourself. Starting now, resolve that you'll never say "I blew it" again in regard to your eating or your weight-loss efforts.
A minor event
Don't let yourself get caught up in your old ways of thinking. One mistake doesn't have to ruin your entire plan. Instead of treating a slip-up as a crisis, learn to view it as a minor event. Come up with a neutral way to describe your eating struggle. For example, you might say to yourself, "Isn't that interesting? I wonder what that was all about."
Then look at your eating struggle and see if you can figure out what contributed to it. Were there any emotional issues that might have prompted you to head to the refrigerator or grab the cookies? Once you can see what's behind your eating pattern, you can focus on taking care of those needs instead of reaching for food.
Resolve that you will never again describe your eating by saying the words "I blew it."
Invent some new phrases that acknowledge your eating struggle but at the same time encourage you to move forward. Consider using statements such as, "That was minor, so I need to keep it that way."
Record your favorite phrases in your notebook and memorize them so you can use them immediately whenever you have a slip-up.
I love the dent analogy. I will use that in my head if I slip. I will not make a bigger dent! I will not trash my body. as stated in the book.
Yes I have done this many times- but haven't since starting and finishing the book the first time. do I stray yes but I get back on. but working on getting back into journalin daily and the whole day.


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Day #67 Never Say "I Blew It"!
I think I spent so many years on or off a "diet" that even though I try not to say those words, sometimes the feeling of blowing it is still there.
The most important thing for me is to stop and figure out what is really going on which has nothing to do with food but a lot to do with what life is throwing in my way.


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Day 67 Never say I blew it!
I use to say, "I blew it!" when I ate mindlessly...then keep eating. Its works better to emoticon and say "I can make better choices." I can use distraction lists.

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Congratulations Leslie on how well your maintenance is going. I look forward to having your 'kind of problems" (difficulty in stopping losing). emoticon

This whole section that we have been going through are the main reasons why I have stayed stuck for so long in my weight loss. And, guess what? I am NOT stuck any more! I am steadily losing. I credit taking these past several days lessons and really working on them with a new level of purpose and intent.

I echo what others have said here both about not wanting to continue to 'dent' my progress but also in not allowing my 'off plan' eating to 'blow' all of the work I have done thus far.

I have done pretty much the same things others have done. Now, the one area that I am working on is 'taking this plan' with me wherever I go. In the past, if I knew I was going to eat out (for example) then I would say to myself this is a 'treat' and therefore I was giving myself license to eat whatever caught my eye. I think the fact that I am now planning on eating as close to my plan as possible when I dine out (even if that does mean getting a salad) is a big shift for me. It means I have finally moved from being interested to committed. What is interesting is that as I moved more from interested to committed I also started to notice that there are a lot more interested people than there are committed people. No judgment just noticing that there are less of the committed. What I love about this team is those people who show up and work this book are of the committed kind. I like being among you because that intention of purpose is in the air and it does rub off.

I am happy to make the move. I will not from now on say or even think or even believe that I blew it. I am just going to call it a 'ding' and move on.

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Day 67, 100 days Never say I blew it!

I can relate to this. I been doing that even as a TOPS member I have done it. I would not only eat one I eat the whole darn box or eat 3 candy bars instead of one. and no meeting well that gave me permission to binge for another whole week.

No More blowing in. I will say to self- Leslie, isn't that interesting? Why did I do that? Get right back to your journaling and tracking. If it not on your plan You don't need it. Figure out why and work on resolving it. No just like the book, I wouldn't keep denting a car and I don't want to keep denting me. I am repairing me to be the best I can be.

Now, I do eat or not eat things I should or shouldn't but I get back on my plan immediately.

I am going once a week to gym- but after I am done with trainers I am going to set a day or two that I go . I can and will accomplish my goals.

wow half month over- only ten days till Christmas. I am almost 7 lbs below my tops goal. need to learn to maintain. get out of the losing. my mind still wants to lose.

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Day #67 Never Say "I Blew It"!
(This is still my thoughts on today's lesson.)

It is amazing how just changing the wording can change my reaction. I no longer say I blew it because it seemed to make it easier to continue on that path. Now I try to stop and figure out what the "hunger" really is and find a different solution besides food.

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Day 67- Never say I Blew It

I am surprised at how many times, what I wrote originally still holds true. Today is another time where there is no need for me to change my answer.

This takes me all the way back to my day #1 lesson.

I used to be a perfectionist and if I had one bad meal or bad day, would wallow in guilt, go on a seemingly neverending binge and regain all the weight I had lost.

Now I am different and I realize that it is persistence not perfection that will lead me to my goal. I am going to occasionally have a "less than perfect" meal or day, take a deep breath, and get right back on the healthy eating plan.

This is for the BEST of my life!

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Day 67: Never say “I blew it”

This is a fantastic chapter. Just reading the title made me remember multiple times that I said or thought this.

It the past if I knew I was going out to dinner or lunch, I would snack during the day thinking I was blowing it later anyway. I still have these thoughts but I have a better chance of pushing them aside. I will have this challenge Saturday as we are taking my mother in law out to lunch.

If I had a slip or taste of something off my plan I would punish myself by eating more. I would focus on the negative.

I love the dent analogy. I will use that in my head if I slip. I will not make a bigger dent! I will not trash my body.

I will never say “I blew it” again” when it comes to eating and weight-loss! It would be great if I could say it for everything in life!

I still feel that mental pull to ignore this chapter. It goes along with the feeling “I deserve to be able to eat what I want.” But I know this is a great tool to use as I travel down a healthier road

My body deserves to be treated right!

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Today I'm focusing on "treat it as a minor event." Walking down the street, driving, boiling water...all minor events. Being a minor event doesn't mean it's not meaningful. It just means I don't obsess or experience great emotions. I like that! That means I can hear the robin sing or see the rabbit sunning itself in the grass. I'm going to apply this thinking to my eating and to food. They are minor events and meaningful, but don't rule my life or emotions.



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I still never say I blew it. OK sometimes I go off plan but try to get back on plan as soon as I can! emoticon emoticon

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I neither say nor think "I blew it" I just focus on the next decision. Sometimes I will say "Yesterday was tough." But today is always a new beginning. This minute is a new beginning.

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The fender bender incident is such a good lesson. When someone has "an accident" and then we hear that it was minor and no one was hurt, we are so relieved. Why not put our eating situations calories in the same light? The other thing I like is the invitation to look with curiosity at what happened to us? Doing this continuously and non-judgementally leads to insight.



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I 'used to' say I blew it ... and continued blowing it for the rest of the day and maybe the next. I don't do that anymore. Don't know exactly how I got out of it ... maybe 'wisdom' finally sunk into this thick skull a bit on at least one thing? - ha! Now I just think 'okay - I did that...not the best choice(s) ... now time to get back on track'.

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I don't say I've blown it any more. Somewhere, long ago I read blowing one's diet compared to a savings account and that hit a bullseye for me. Sure, sometimes I overindulge and spend more than I should but I don't then go crazy and blow all of my money. Just the opposite, I try to be sensible and get right back on track. Now I focus on my body having a calorie budget and rarely go really overboard any more. It's just TOO HARD to undo damage to either budget when I have spent foolishly

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Leslie, ironically, exercise is one of the best de-stressors there is. I hope you find your way back to the gym soon.

I have been guilty in the past of 'blowing it'. I agree with Fisker that you need to remain calm and ask yourself what is going on that you wish to eat something. I have a particularly stressful last week in July where I had thoughtfully made a choice to pay a very large medical bill. We had the extra money then but the following week I started feeling nervous knowing that we would really be tight for about 5 days and need to watch every penny going out. It was tough and we got through it but at the end of those 5 days I ate a whole package of chocolate fudge mint cookies with the feeling that I felt like I had managed to avoid an iceberg and I was now safely sailing. I realized that I had 'rewarded' myself (under the conscious surface) by having those cookies. However, once again I ended up with a gut ache that kept me from sleeping for hours (and I do mean hours). I didn't ask myself why because I knew why but I did have to ask, "Is this your idea of loving self care?" Of course, the answer is NO. When I get to a place where I know what else to do to show that I do care about my well being I will not be eating those package of cookies. In the meantime, I can at least say 'carry on wayward ship, carry on.'

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: Day 67, 100 days Never say I blew it!

I can relate to this. I been doing that even as a TOPS member I have done it. I would not only eat one I eat the whole darn box or eat 3 candy bars instead of one. and no meeting well that gave me permission to binge for another whole week.

No More blowing in. I will say to self- Leslie, isn't that interesting? Why did I do that? Get right back to your journaling and tracking. If it not on your plan You don't need it. Figure out why and work on resolving it. No just like the book, I wouldn't keep denting a car and I don't want to keep denting me. I am repairing me to be the best I can be.

I haven't started my fitness yet but did mow lawn yesterday.
today home scale is down. I am working on keeping there for TOPS weigh in. I work this weekend so lots of steps in. but I do need to get a plan to get back to gym.

I am working on a solution to that but need to get some stressors out of the way first.

I WILL NOT SAY I BLEW IT.

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Phyllis, Finding a different solution it a fantastic idea! emoticon

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Maribeth, another great picture!

Day 67: Never say “I blew it”

This is a fantastic chapter. Just reading the title made me remember multiple times that I said or thought this. I can even hear my mom saying it when I was a kid when she was getting ice cream when we went out to dinner.

It the past if I knew I was going out to dinner or lunch, I would snack during the day thinking I was blowing it later anyway.

If I had a slip or taste of something off my plan I would punish myself by eating more. I would focus on the negative.

I love the dent analogy. I will use that in my head if I slip.

I will never say “I blew it” again” when it comes to eating and weight-loss! It would be great if I could say it for everything in life!

Today as I go to my parents’ house and enjoy their company and am “S” day, I will not say “I blew it”. If I end up eating more than I plan to I will say Hmm… isn’t that interesting? I wonder why that happened? Do I want to make more dents in the car?”

I feel that mental pull to ignore this chapter. It goes along with the feeling “I deserve to be able to eat what I want.” But I know this is a great tool to use as I travel down a healthier road.

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Maribeth, that graphic is so good. emoticon

It is amazing how just changing the wording can change my reaction. I no longer say I blew it because it seemed to make it easier to continue on that path. Now I try to stop and figure out what the "hunger" really is and find a different solution besides food.
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I use to say, "I blew it!" when I ate mindlessly...then keep eating. Its works better to emoticon and say "I can make better choices." I can use distraction lists.

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Day 67 Never say I blew it!---I posted twice emoticon

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This really helped me yesterday afternoon. I bought a Linzer biscuit (cookie) from the bakery on my way home from a walk, and enjoyed it with a cup of tea at home. I then followed it with a couple of hand-fulls of peanuts.

I recognised what I was doing very quickly, and decided to stop. I recorded what I'd eaten, and was able to think "That was minor, so I need to keep it that way". I realised that my 'need' for a cookie was emotional - due to the fact that I was on holiday, and I'd missed out on the planned healthy dessert I'd planned for lunch, because my friend had to rush back to her car before the parking ticket ran out - so we gobbled up our main course, and didn't have time for the dessert (yoghurt and raspberries). I felt deprived of my dessert - and it resulted in me thinking I felt hungry!

I did then have my planned healthy dinner, and enjoyed the yoghurt and berries for dessert!

It was quite a victory for me though - because, in the past, I might well have thrown in the towel after the cookie and peanuts, and just destroyed the rest of the eating day! Also, I could feel GOOD about myself for being able to STOP.

Thank you Linda Spangle!

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Hm, I could use a change in my self-talk. I DO respond to failing at a goal by chastising myself for messing up. That doesn't make me compound the problem, but it does make me feel crappy about myself. On the other hand, "that was minor; let's keep it that way" seems dishonest. If it's really a minor thing, like I ate a handful of potato chips, I don't get annoyed with myself at all. It's when I procrastinate an important task ALL weekend so now I can't possibly get it all done, or I eat a whole bag of potato chips so now I don't have room in my stomach for a healthy meal - that's when I would feel like I've blown it.

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Talk to yourself like you would talk to your very best loved one.

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I used to "blow it" and give up for the whole week until I weighed myself again. I like that Linda suggested weighing yourself every day and I have been. It has helped me not to give up. I used to think I can't do this and the statistics on weight loss say I can't do it either. So negative. Esp. since my husband has lost 80 lbs and kept it off for 4 years. It can be done.

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Day 67.... Never say "I blew it"

It's so great how all of these daily lessons play into each other! In the past, if I ate ONE bite of an off-limit food I would give myself permission to binge all day. Not any longer! Now I know that my path doesn't have to be so straight and narrow, but can widen when needed.

I may have a five minute slip-up, but it doesn't have to knock me down!!

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Oh my how many times I have used the excuse "I blew it" to continue!
The picture of backing your car into a pole repeatedly after the first accidental hit is a good one.
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Why do I do this for a full day because one time could easily be incorporated into the day as a treat instead of an entire day of regret!
I will never say "I blew it" again! emoticon


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This is an important lesson, I WILL NEVER say 'I blew it' as its so negative and okay so I have had days or times when things haven't gone as well but carrying on with my eating plan in the long term (ie the day after the slip) will make things right! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Diana, I really LIKE that thought and will try to consider that whenever I am feelling mean to myself! Thanks

I can hardly believe the team are up to day 67 already! Think I had a major pause around that time last 100 days and may join up again - hope thats okay. emoticon emoticon

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The image that stood out for me when I was reading the thread and the page for this day was the one about the car. I quote it here:

emoticon Let's Crack up Again!!!
Here's how Beverly described her punishing routine with food. "It's as if I backed my car into a post. But instead of assessing the damage and driving away, I decide one dent isn't enough. So to punish myself for my first mistake, I slam my car backward into the post again and again."

Visualising this has often helped me hold the Stop Sign up. emoticon
It's a powerful tool.

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Day 67 – Never say “I blew it”

I used to say "I blew it" but now, if I slip up, I tell myself, "Go work some of that off!" or "Immediately get back on program!"

Hmmm... I used to... but now I... sound familiar? emoticon

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Day 67 – Never say “I blew it”

I use to say “I blew it” and I don’t necessarily see that as a bad thing or feel that it was a crisis because I blew it by going off my eating plan. But in any case most of the time now I say that I chose to briefly “go off plan”. To me this isn’t a big deal either way. To me it’s more important how I think and feel about what I ate and not to blow it out of proportion. I say...Just remain calm and carry on with the plan!

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emoticon Cat, Liz, Dot, Kate - great to read your posts :)

I never say I blew it any more - I do sometimes sort of 'kick myself' and wish I hadn't done it - but I DO just chalk it up as a blip and move on,

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Love today's message. Definitely need to be less negative. Have run into some health struggles the past couple of weeks and have gotten frustratingly off track - but perhaps sometimes my trail is windy but it's still headed in the right direction :)

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Still here....following along............

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When I give in to temptation, and the usual guilt comes after, I usually say to myself "I WILL do better next time!" Lately I try to follow that with how I intend to do better, that is the hard part, coming up with a plan on the HOW TO, but I figure it is better to have a plan, not just words.

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well, wasn't this timely??!! I have stepped away, for about a week. My SPARK, that measures my steps died, and I just sorta stopped. So today, I read about all the negative that comes from throwing up your hands, and admitting defeat, which I died on 10/1, the last day I tracked. So I am learning from the past week, and the favorite phrase to examine the slide, slump, misstep is " What Can I Learn from This?.

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6th October 2015

Day 67 – Never say “I blew it”

Note: If you find your way to the beginning of this thread, which was started in 2011, you'll find inspiration from posts made about this activity.

Here are today's suggested activities:

1. Resolve that you will never again describe your eating by saying the words “I blew it.”

2. Invent some new phrases that acknowlege your eating struggle but at the same time encourage you to move forward. Consider using statements such as, “That was minor, so I need to keep it that way.”

3. Record your favourite phrases in your notebook and memorize them so you can use them immediately whenever you have a slip-up.

Here's a link to the Day 67 blog, posted on Linda's Spark page
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I can identify with what all of you said. I used to just give up when I messed up but now I just keep going, get right back in my healthy eating routine. I just remind my self this is a journey not a destination. . emoticon

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I love this one - because I can see that it is another tool to let go of the self-loathing I can dish out when I fail to achieve my plans.

The little story about the car made me laugh - and I am sure I shall remember that.
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I think I am managing much more often to STOP before I've done damage - however, if it happens I shall think something along the lines of the car thing, eg "whoops, watch where you're going!"

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Day - Never say I blew it!

It is true,what we say to ourselves are very important.
Any time I even think, about eating something that is not fuel for my body or not healthy, I say to myself:
I eat to nourish and fuel my body.
I'm doing good and making healthy choices
Each day I get higher up this mountain :)

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Day 67- Never say I blew it!

Our statements to ourselves are very, very important. Maybe more important than what we say to others.

I do not eat good or bad food. It is food I chose.
I did not blow it. I chose foods that will not get me to my goal weight.

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Day 67- Never say I blew it!

~ Resolve that you will never again describe your eating by saying the words "I blew it"

~ invent some new phrases that acknowledge your eating struggle but at the same time encourage you to move foreward. Consider using statements such as "That was minor, so I need to keep it that way."

~ Record your favorite phrases in your notebook and memorize them so you can use them immediately whenever you have a slipup.


This takes me all the way back to my day #1 lesson.

I used to be a perfectionist and if I had one bad meal or bad day, would wallow in guilt, go on a seemingly neverending binge and regain all the weight I had lost.

Now I am different and I realize that it is persistence not perfection that will lead me to my goal. I am going to occasionally have a "less than perfect" meal or day, take a deep breath, and get right back on the healthy eating plan.

This is for the BEST of my life!

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emoticon reflections Mary!

Any time we have a slip up, we have an opportunity to learn from it so that we can do better next time.

You are doing emoticon

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Great reflections there - any or all of them would be helpful! Keep going!


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Day 67 - Never Say 'I Blew It'

Regarding yesterday's eating struggle and what contributed to it. Habit. Not listening to lack of signs for physical hunger. Not focusing on the company.

Okay, I want to flip this around. Possibilities for better handling of the food at the wedding shower yesterday:
Telling myself - 'I CAN stop now' after a slip, 'I do NOT have to finish this food'
Check for signs of physical hunger
Stop at one portion of fave foods.
Take a break - even it means stepping into the bathroom or "getting something from the car"
Focus on the company
Drink water
Chew gum

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Practice I will.

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WHATEVER IT TAKES!

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emoticon Warm, sounds good! Let us know how it goes & if it gets easier for you with practice :)

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I've been guilty of denting the car again and again.

I'm thinking back to the self talk where we talked about whether we use a gentle voice with ourselves or a stern voice. At that point, I felt that when I'm saying, "Don't even start" I need to be stern.

But here, when I am thinking, "I blew it" I need to be gentle. I am so hard on myself. And belittling myself solves nothing. Gentle words with self needed here.

I am a finisher!

WHATEVER IT TAKES!

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Jules some people will learn how to stop fretting over food or intake of food....
I have gotten some better but think I'll always need to be on top of my eating....planning on what I'll eat and watch the serving sizes

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I think these different approaches we are all using illustrate just how different we can all be, and how different approaches work for different people, even changing as we change.

Margo, I think my grandfather was 1 of the most normal eaters I ever knew... He did work some to manage his weight but he just did some "adjusting" ~ for example, if his suit was a tad snug, he'd cut out lunch dessert & maybe have a bit bigger salad until they fit again... or if he had a big meal one day, the next day he might skip the dinner roll... no compulsion, angst or fretting...

I think the absence of a struggle angst is a good goal too... as we move towards normal eating skills & patterns, Something I'm working on... I know I've changed a lot the last few years, it's kind of hard to see ahead but I'm sure I will continue to improve as I keep plucking at it :)

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I don't so much say I blew it as suddenly shift decisions to "It's okay to have another, I'll make it up tomorrow". I stay positive. . .and have my cake too emoticon

I often do make it work the rest of the week (I don't binge or anything in the first place, just eat/drink 300-500 calories more than I need for a day) but that's how I end up just maintaining this weight.

I have to decide if I actually want to do the work of changing my life in an eating/movement sense. Right now I don't quite see it but there are probably processes going on that I'm not aware of, I am definitely doing things a lot differently than I did one, two, three or more years ago and have a big life change coming up in a month or two that might make a difference.

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once again I can say I use to be this way..but now I'm not. if I have a day I ate more than my plan..I tell myself I need to do better, and I ask myself why I did it....no excuses, but was I angry mad upset, tired or was i really hungry.....I tend to be very rigid with myself, I try to find that middle ground....and for the most part I have, I use the wide road thing that Linda talks about....but over this 5 years I have given myself permission to eat anything I really want, I watch the portions and can have one treat each day.....After a while the cravings for sweets has gone way down....I also learned to add special treats in my calorie range... I eat 8 grams of dark chocolate most every day, and that has stopped my cravings for more candy or sweets, funny somedays I can't bring myself to eat it....

it does take time to feel this way and if like me have been beating your self up most of your life, it takes more time.....also learning that I am only human and some days I won't reach my high expectations and that is fine...I won't undo all my hard work with one wide road day....


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I guess there are no original excuses...we all use the "I blew it so I might as well go all out now". I commit to banish this excuse from my mind. I have been trying to track my "slip ups" so that I am held accountable and have found I am not going whole hog (no pun intended) into a binge. IT really helps me STOP the binge. The time it takes to track it is enough time to get a grip on myself, look at the damage and realize a little bit isn't so bad but if I eat the whole bag..I'll have to give up dinner if I do that...not gonna happen!!! I have definitely noticed a little sugar leads to a strong compulsion to eat more sugar...sooo not worth the strength of will power to control it...better to leave it alone.
Funny how when you aren't paying attention to what you eat, these things sneak up on you. A little sugar here, alittle more....alittle more and it never enters your mind had you skipped the first candy bar, you wouldn't be going for the #2, #3!!!
My husband eats like a sane person. He is thin, has thin genes in the family...but they also were raised eating healthy foods and watching their sweets and fats. His bowl of ice cream is what I call a sample emoticon

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emoticon emoticon emoticon yep, used to do this all the time.
I always kind of thought that if I just put my mind to it (diet) and dieted really really hard and didn't take 1 bite off my diet, I would lose all my weight off and then work on keeping it off! Even promised a doctor that one time so I could go on the liquid semi-fast program through the hospital clinic....

and then I would get so wound up on diets, become so intolerable, I would dive off and start eating! Vicious yoyo cycle for decades...... ugh!

So this has been a major change for me and I'm not sure about using this kind of phrase... because when we don't do what we set our goal, well, honestly, we didn't meet our goal, right?

but 2 thoughts really helped me.

1) from Hungry, a book by Alan Zadoff who lost 175+ lbs and kept it off but more importantly got his compulsive eating under control... shared an idea.... all meals have a beginning, middle and an end, so when they are over, they're over... don't keep eating, don't beat yourself up and move forward with life.... then when it's time to eat again, eat.

this really helped me start living in the now, looking foward instead of back in regret, guilt and remorse.

and 2) I like to think of situations as learning experiences. Have you read SparkPeople's healthy reflections email that says upshot: Live, Learn, Improve.

meaning we are not always going to meet all of our goals/targets we set whether it's for a meal, exercise, reading, gardening whatever... but we assess, adjust, reset and move forward...

emoticon much like an athlete learning a new skill, like a high dive
they try the dive, can't do it, the coach helps them see what went wrong and make a plan of what to try next. then they forget the old dive and try again... and repeat the process until they master the dive... they will retain the skill but may get out of practice, like after a summer vacation and need to practice some more when the swim team starts up...


emoticon good idea!
so I guess I really do agree with the basics of today's skill... instead of beating myself up and eating even more, turning it around in positive ways helps me move forward, sooner! And this so takes practice... I had to give all my wet noodles I used to beat myself up away to Goodwill!!! LOL ;)

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emoticon Day 67, Never say "I blew it"

Do you do this? Please share your thoughts & comments :)

One of the most common dieting phrases is, "I've already blown it, so I might as well go ahead and eat the rest." But each time you say "I blew it" you reinforce your sense of failure and disappointment with not staying on your plan. You also give yourself permission to follow a minor slipup with a major eating binge.

Sometimes people take this further by planning even more damange. The author says she recently watched a woman at an ice cream shop as she ordered a large hot-fudge sundae. When asked if she wanted whipped cream and nuts, she responded, "Sure! I'm blowing it anyway, so I might as well go for all of it!"


emoticon Pay for it by more eating
When you think you've "blown it" you may decide you should punish yourself by eating even more. Although you feel bloated and miserable, you make yourself pay by pushing in more food, which makes you feel even worse.


emoticon emoticon Let's Crack up Again!!! emoticon emoticon
Here's how Beverly described her punishing routine with food. "It's as if I backed my car into a post. But instead of assessing the damage and driving away, I decide one dent isn't enough. So to punish myself for my first mistake, I slam my car backward into the post again and again."


emoticon Negative phrases
Phrases such as "I blew it" emphasize discouragement and failure. Throw these old dieting lines out the window and begin using a kinder, more gentle voice when you talk to yourself. Starting now, resolve that you'll never say "I blew it" again in regard to your eating or your weight-loss effots.


emoticon A minor event
Don't let yourself get caught up in your oold ways of thinking. Once mistake doesn't have to ruin your entire plan. Instead of treating a slipup as a crisis, learn to view it as a minor event. Come up with a neutral way to describe your eating struggle. For example, you might say to yourself: "Isn't that interesting?" I wonder what that was all about?"

Then look at your eating struggle and see if you can figure out what contributed to it. Were there any emotional issues that might have prompted you to head to the refrigerator or grab the cookies? After you see what's behind your eating pattern, you can focus on taking care of those needs instead of reaching for food.


emoticon Suggested activities for today
~ Resolve that you will never again describe your eating by saying the words "I blew it"

~ invent some new phrases that acknowledge your eating struggle but at the same time encourage you to move foreward. Consider using statements such as "That was minor, so I need to keep it that way."

~ Record your favorite phrases in your notebook and memorize them so you can use them immediately whenever you have a slipup.


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