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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
This is the lesson that has helped stop my “all or nothing” attitude about my goal of eating well and getting enough exercise.

My pauses are further apart and are easier to leave in the past as I keep moving forward.
This team and continuing to be reminded what is important makes my life better.

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One of my favorite and most relied on catch phrases from Linda. I have been having one "pause" after the other since returning from vacation.

Funny, how little has changed since my post from 2016.

"I will have the occasional downhill tumble. (Or even a full on, down hill slide)

I need to get up, dust myself off, take a break and regroup by giving myself a good dose of positive self-talk without losing anymore ground. Then continue on with those small but steady steps that keep me progressing on my continuous journey of a fit and healthy lifestyle."

This is still what I need to do because as long as I do not quit, eventually I will stop "pausing" and get back on track. emoticon

Edited by: GOCALGAL at: 11/6/2019 (19:06)
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Day 68 - I had a Pause


Way to go Gill, Back on track!!

Regarding Thanksgiving, Canadians celebrate it the second Monday of October, so now that Thanksgiving and Halloween are in the rear view mirror, I am getting mentally ready, arming myself for the December Holiday season - weeks of temptation coming up,

I had a couple of pauses this week. The first one was 2 days after Halloween when there was still some left-over chocolates. I had resisted the days before (DH got the treats early, he always gets them because he usually eats the left-overs and he wants treats that he likes), the day of Halloween and the day after Halloween. 2 days after I had about 10 bite-size chocolates. Too many. Oh well.. And last night I had to go to the walk-in clinic in the afternoon because I picked up a tick while hiking yesterday morning and I wanted a doctor to remove it. I waited a long time to see the doctor (3 hours) and then I took DH home pizza for supper at 8 pm, later than we usually have supper. And I ate off plan and had 2 pieces of pizza.

Another one of the concepts I like in how we talk to ourselves, what would we say to our best friend if they did what we just did? We would be kind and encourage them to move forward.

Forward ho

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I've had many 'pauses.' Isn't it strange how changing a word changes our attitude? To me it is, and I'm thanking for this change. I 'blew it' made me feel defeated, worthless. A 'pause' - that's another story.

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Yup, and I'm right back on track after having a cheese toastie 'Pause' yesterday!

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I had a pause is a good one to remember.

Yes, I'll have a pause on Thanksgiving Day.

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

Good question I don't have Thanksgiving and am really glad about that but Yes I do tend to have a little Pause on Christmas day.

Linda is right about a Pause not spoiling everything after all I wouldn't throw away all the box of eggs if one was broken so if I have one bad day its good not to carry on!

I haven't had a pause this week but I have in the recent past.
We are only 'human' after all and I understand that if I do make one or more unhealthy choices I can get right back on track again!. My husband supports me when I have a Pause and says I will get back on plan soon and he's right!

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Day 68 - A Pause

This lesson made me feel better about eating the snacks at tea on Saturday. I got right back to plan, have had 3 stellar days since then, and the scale cooperated this morning.

I'm curious - Will Thanksgiving dinner be "a pause" for y'all? For me, I won't be weighing and measuring food, but since it's at my house, my choices will be the healthy ones, but I probably will have a small serving of a sweet.

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In case you haven't read this before - here's a great blog from Linda about how not to let a small slip end up as a disaster!

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

I didn't have a pause on the day that this but did the following day or two! We are only 'human' after all and the 'Path or persistence and I understand that if I do make one or more unhealthy choices I can get right back on track again!'. My husband supports me when I have a Pause and says I will get back on plan soon! emoticon

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Like others, I'm coming back from a pause that started around the end of November. It was definitely not as bad as it used to be, and I did keep fitness up, but still couldn't stop the scale from letting me know I was having a few more treats than usual. Again - 3-4 pounds so much better than what it used to be. It wasn't what the scale was telling me, but how my pants were feeling around my waist, rear-end, and upper thighs. Some unexplained health symptoms kind of de-railed me during the pause time as well. Still not explained, but I'm no longer fearing "the worst".

I have bounced back from the pause by joining a 5% challenge, and by continuing to come here and read the lessons. I'm tracking my food all the way through again and feel optimistic. My tummy feels better - not bloated. I'm eating lots of fruits and veggies too. That's always my goal, but I'm focusing on keeping the fridge and counter stocked with lots of offerings.


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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
emoticon Yes I did!
Even after learning all I have from this book and other Linda Spangle books, I had a time recently that just got me down.
Thankfully I can always come back here, pick up again and move on.

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Day 68 I had a Pause (opportunity to learn) u.nu/4m-8

By making mistakes, I'm learning foods for my body type and eliminating foods causing health problems u.nu/5csk .

Oct. Nov. and Dec. 18 was a pause (gain then stable).
I recovered from a pause in '17. Be aware of Fall gain for '19.
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I feel like I hit the "pause" button and it is now ... stuck.

I am in the process of deciding what I am going to do next.
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100 Days Challenge, Day 68- Say "pause" instead of "blew it"

Today’s assignment

1. Next time you’re tempted to say “I blew it,” stop yourself immediately. Instead, label your slip-up as a pause.

I took a brief pause. I now forge ahead with self-love and kindness.

2. Decide how you will bounce back from an eating pause. Write a short plan that includes what you’ll say to yourself as well as what you’ll do next.

I will rest and regroup after my pause and start afresh. I feel stronger and healthier taking good care of myself. I'm worth the effort.

3. Whenever you slip up, instead of dwelling on it, practice the skill of “erasing the board.” Write a few notes about this.

I like the idea of a "clean slate", "tabula rasa". This appeals to me. I can write what I want now. The pause gave me the opportunity to rest briefly and now I'm ready to move forward again.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

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Yay Ski!

Love you too Gill! emoticon

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I love you all!
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My last extended pause was from last May to this March, during which I gained 5 pounds. As of today, after 68 days, I’m down 4 of those.



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Yep, my worry is if I am totally OK with it, pause planning will become a habit.

Night Night Gill!

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Hmm, yes, having a 'pause' can become complex, can't it? I think we've probably posted about this before (me and Wanda) but the idea that a 'pause' even exists can become a reason to have a 'pause'!

I have to admit that after writing about foody things for a few days recently, today I got very cold and wet and tired after my long walk, and bought bread and cookies - some of which I ate! It was not on my plan. I took a 'pause'.

Well done, Cheryl!

And I understand what you say, Wanda, when you say - what if it becomes a bunch of 'pauses'?

I guess the point of the lesson today is about how we talk to ourselves - using more forgiving, understanding, language.

I'm going to bed - tomorrow is a new day!

Oh, and Sue - have a wonderful date! What a lovely thing to be doing with your young grandson. xxxx

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YAY SUE!!!! emoticon

For me, it can be very tough at times. I was offered cookies a bunch of times at work today, people eating them right in front of me. No thank you.

A bunch of co workers ordered out and ended up eating where I was sitting. I ate my planned meal.

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I'm with C on this. I had a huge success last night. I went to my Small Group Bible Study which meets monthly. I have mentioned this struggle before. After our "official" study is done we adjourn to the dining table for social time. There is ALWAYS a ton of unhealthy offerings and no matter how I plan or intend to resist I ALWAYS end up taking a "Pause" which makes me end up feeling so angry with myself that I through all caution to the wind. Not last night though! I DID IT! I did not take a "Pause". It wasn't hard at the time for some reason. It was hard once I got home. I wanted to reward myself for being such a "good girl", but I didn't "Pause" then either! Thanks for letting me pat myself on the back for this accomplishment. I hope it is the start of a new trend for me.

This morning I started off early at the Y for a Step class. It beats me up even on a good day, but I have missed a couple of sessions and she introduced a new, tougher routine today. I needed a "Pause" a couple of times just like Linda's example of climbing a mountain. I thought my heart was going to beat right out of my chest! After a short break I got back into it. So I know what pauses are all about that's for sure.

Tonight I am having a "Date Night" with my 7 yr. old grandson. We are going out to dinner and then to a ballet called The Happy Prince and Other Wild Things. I am very excited to have fun with him. I am also excited to see if I can make it through the night without a "Pause"!


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Pausing.........my son who live 7 hours away is coming home today for the weekend. The mother in me is cooking comfort foods, and I purchased food that I know he likes, so I will probably be taking a pause this weekend. I love spending time with him and my excitement will cause me to forget about what I should be doing. I know that 100 days will definitely help.....mindful eating, wait, will this food help my goals. If I don’t post much for a few days, I’ll be spending time with my favorite boy! emoticon

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Pausing

Even though I don't like to admit that I have used this lesson, I have used it. Thinking of going off my plan right now gives me anxiety. What If my pause becomes a bunch of pauses, or a binge, or I start sneaking food again (which can be 1 thing or a small(ish) binge.)

Can I mentally handle a pause?

Linda gives an example of resting while taking a long walk. Taking a rest is good for my body if my body requests it. Eating high carbs or sugar is not.

If I do eat something "off plan" which would be high carb or high sugar, I will eat it because it is something I will savor and enjoy. It will be planned, and not eaten out of guilt, fear of hurting other's feelings, or because "I deserve it". So is that a pause? I will journal it, as I have been listing everything since I started WW online on Monday.

So what would equal a pause (for me)?

Eating something in secret, or a binge (of any size)
Eating something from a food pusher
Eating because it is there and I was not hungry
Eating a high carb or high sugar food
Eating based on emotions (giving in to my my pushy mind)
I do not start or complete my exercise routine, or exercise mini habits



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One of my favorite and most helpful lessons from Linda that I rely on regularly~"I had (am having) a pause."

Repeating because little has changed since my last posting. except I now recognize there will always be continually changing terrain and obstacles in my life.

I will have the occasional downhill tumble. emoticon

I need to get up, dust myself off, take a break if needed and regroup by giving myself a good dose of positive self-talk without losing anymore ground. Then continue on with those small but steady steps that keep me progressing on my continuous journey of a fit and healthy lifestyle. emoticon emoticon


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Oh, Susan! You hit the nail right on the head for me! I have to be on the lookout for my perfectionist saboteur all the time!

These lessons from Linda really do get to the bottom of things, eventually, don't they?!!

The number of people still posting as we get further into the last half of the book really dwindles. I am so very happy to see you all here - and reading how we have learned to be kind to ourselves, and building resilience on our lifelong journeys to maintain health and happiness.

You are all emoticon


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Day 68 I had a pause

Some of mine have been Biblical in proportion!

I used to be a perfectionist and would let a slip turn into a landslide but now I choose a path of persistence and if I do make an unhealthy choice at one meal I can get right back on track again the next meal or day.

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

I like saying "I had a pause" - rather than "I messed up again". It is life, and I'm reminded of our dog who loves to walk on a leash up to get the mail. (LONG driveway - emoticon ) She is so good about not straining at the leash, but does love to stop all of a sudden along the way several times to sniff here and there. Even with the pauses... we do get there in a timely manner.

Actually -- we keep her on a leash up towards the roadway so she won't get out on the road and get hurt, but we un-hook the leash after we're about halfway back...and that seems to work as far as her not running back up the drive. The leash thing is practice to keep her in training for venturing out into the world beyond our property and the necessity of being leashed.

Pausing along the way is the natural order of things, and I appreciate today's lesson to accept the pause, and then get on with where I want to go. emoticon


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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

Sadly I have had a bit of a pause today, I have made a few poorer choices! I know to be kind to myself and regroup for tomorrow!

I didn't stop eating at 7pm today, it was 8.20pm but at least I stopped then, lets hope my sleep doesn't suffer. emoticon emoticon

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Day 68, I had a pause

Yep! I did! AND I gained over a lb last week. I think part of it is that I'm having a difficult time sleeping but....I did not do a good job tracking last week and the bitter cold had me going for the comfort of hot chocolate instead of tea in the evening...then there were those cookies, Well, you get the picture. I was a little shocked at weigh in on Thursday.

I know it was just a pause and something that happens nearly every year after New years but I am back! I'm tracking, sticking with No S, weighing daily and on the treadmill. I'm continuing to get some strength exercise every day too.

NOT beating myself, just dusting myself off and moving on! Seems like sometimes a pause just happens although I should not have allowed it to go on for days.

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Like the illustration of the car yesterday, the mountain climb rest stop puts things in perspective. Taking a rest is understandable. Sometimes you need to pause and take in the beautiful scenery. We do pause sometimes. Sometimes it is a slip up, but it can also be a plateau. Instead of beating ourselves up and quitting, we need to take things into perspective. I think we need to be honest with ourselves. We need to recognize the slip up, but then forgive ourselves, wipe the board clean and move on. Sometimes we stay on track and hit a plateau. Those are hard. We don't like those pauses, but they will come and we don't need to let them make us give up. We can pause and "enjoy the scenery"...remembering the weight we have lost...where we have come from. I did not track the couple of days I spent with my daughters the pre-New year weekend. I gave in to nibbling and when I got home I had gained 2 pounds. But then I got busy and got rid of those pounds instead of quitting. I had a pause. Thankfully, I did not pause, park and camp there.

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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
This is a favorite lesson from the book. It takes the pressure off to stick to perfection so it is easier to just "pause" take a look at what is going on in my life, erase the board and move on.

There will never be a time when life doesn't sometimes get in the way of my best intentions.
When I think about it, it's like learning to step on the scale, notice the pattern of how it's going and then just move on.
For me this lesson took away my old pattern of "all or nothing"

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Day 68, I had a Pause

Great stuff here this time. Sue, I agree that pauses somehow become less noticeable, if we become used to them. Maybe then we are letting them happen too frequently?

There may be, as Gill said, a positive kind of pause....the one in which we step back and consider our decision. We may still decide to take a pause and that is fine; but we may also decide that it isn't time for a pause.

Phyllis, that is spot on! Once the pause has occurred...take a look at it, learn...and go on!

I definitely had multiple pauses in August...partly because of being ill and at least one day while we were on vacation. I've recovered from them though without a weight gain....
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Exercise today - YAY, I'm back on the treadmill and breathing fine! Doing an Everyday Body workout today too.


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Day 68 I had a Pause (opportunity to learn) emoticon Phyllis emoticon "It is easier to look at it, learn from it and continue on the journey!"

By making mistakes, I'm learning foods for my body type and microbiomes. Plant Paradox by Dr. Grundry pulls it all together. I wanted to understand diet-related diseases (root causes and ancestral diets).

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You make a good point here, Sue:

"One thing I have discovered about myself is the more I pause, the less guilty I feel about my pausing, and the less I pay attention to the pauses."

Yesterday, on the 'never say "I blew it" day, I found myself in town, on the way to work, considering buying 'something' to go with my packed lunch and dinner........... as if because I didn't have to say "I blew it" it made it more likely to happen! I did end up buying something - but it was a multi-grain roll to have with my home-made chilli - nothing sweet, or salty/savour/crunchy, or packaged.

Today I have a packet of biscuits (cookies) which arrived with my monthly delivery of groceries - it's on my mind already, and it did cross my mind that I could just eat them and say 'I had a pause'. But I haven't - and I'm off to work shortly, so they're still safely shut away in a plastic box out of sight!

I guess what this shows me is that even when I take the 'guilt' out of the eating (ie reduce the emotional content as well!) it does give me pause of a different kind - it gives me pause to stop and consider what my brain is trying to get me to eat! I can then make a more measured choice!

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Pause. I've certainly had my share of them. I do try not to dwell on them or suffer a lot of guilt. That leads me down the wrong path.

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I liked Linda's idea about seeing my pause on an erasable board and then erasing it! I also loved her analogy about hiking and going back and redoing a part I had already walked. I found myself thinking "Ya, that would be stupid. I would never get to the top/goal if I kept doing that!".

One thing I have discovered about myself is the more I pause, the less guilty I fee about my pausing, and the less I pay attention to the pauses. So I have to be very careful about this step. I did pause yesterday at lunch. I went trail walking with a friend and then we stopped at a restaurant for lunch. I ordered a Turkey Reuben with a side of fruit. I find that I am O.K. in my head with this pause. One of the goals I have is to relax at restaurants instead of fretting and feeling anxious about the food options. And then feeling guilty about what I have eaten. I eat out a lot and this entire process causes me more stress than I can describe.

So I am going to accept my food choices when I dine out. Acknowledge the planned pause. Get right back on my healthy path. And I am trying to eat out less.

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I still recognise I have Pauses and know its okay to do so. Gill I think your planned pause tomorrow can be a S day as it's a bit different, maybe I too should plan my pauses too. emoticon emoticon

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"I don't feel guilty about any of those pauses but I do wonder if they were all necessary."

I love that, Wanda!

Today I've been thinking about a First Aid training course I have to attend tomorrow. This will mean that my opportunities to eat will be dictated by the course - I will 'choose' to eat my lunch during the allocated time around midday (because there won't be an opportunity to eat it an hour later - which I would do if I was at work or at home). Then I thought about the mid-morning and mid-afternoon breaks. There are sometimes biscuits/cookies - and people go outside for cigarette/vape breaks. And I anticipate the day being intense and tiring - my will-power is likely to be weakened. So I'm choosing to take with me a small, emergency, snack to have during those breaks - a Medjool date stuffed with peanut butter and cocoa powder - this feels like a 'sweet/candy' but has positive nutritional value - and is more 'nurturing' than an apple!

This will mean having a 'pause' on my No Snacks plan - but I think it's prudent. So - a planned pause, eh?! Goodness - what a long way I've come!

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I like this day very much, I try to keep my Pauses small where possible but accept I am far from perfect and I am only human! emoticon

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Day 68, I had a pause

OH I had so MANY Pauses! Usually they have been unplanned but occasionally I would just say that this day is so big or so difficult that I am not going to worry about eating healthy. Usually that is a mistake because to me it is hitting a bump in the road. I had a pause a month ago due to Hub's stroke; then a couple of weeks ago when he had surgery; then 10 days ago when my great grandson was born and I spent the day eating at the hospital.

I don't feel guilty about any of those pauses but I do wonder if they were all necessary. So many pauses so close together did result in a gain. Still I do think that pauses serve a purpose. When I gain it is like "Wow, I was doing something right; better get back on track".

I've noticed that I now like the healthy routines in my life. That is remarkable since I have hated routines all my life which led me to be considered kind of scatter-brained to some people. It is a matter of he who laughs last, laughs best in some ways. I married and managed to build a good marriage. I raised my children. I graduated from college when I was 47. I owned my small health information consulting company. I feel like I accomplished quite a lot while some of those who laughed at me when I was young went on to lead sad lives. They would tell you themselves that their lives did not work out the way they wanted.

Having a brain like a computer and always working with preset systems does not guarantee happiness any more than being a bit eccentric guarantees failure.

But...I digress...back to pauses: I think planning a pause is a great idea as long as the pause isn't allowed to turn into a wrong turn onto a long dirt lane with nowhere to make a u-turn. The word "pause" seems to require brevity and taking a pause should be brief. Take time to smell the roses....er..taste the ice cream; then move on!

And speaking of pauses, I took an exercise pause yesterday so today I'm doing yesterday's lunges and squats AND today's video.

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Phyllis, I really like this lesson too! We do not have to be perfect!

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Day #68 I Had a "Pause" (Still how I feel when getting to this day!)
This is a favorite lesson from the book. It takes the pressure off to stick to perfection so it is easier to just "pause" take a look at what is going on in my life, erase the board and move on.

There will never be a time when life doesn't sometimes get in the way of my best intentions.
When I think about it, it's like learning to step on the scale, notice the pattern of how it's going and then just move on.
For me this lesson took away my old pattern of "all or nothing"!

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Day 68: I had a "pause"
As you work on changing your dieting vocabulary, here's another way to eliminate saying, "I blew it." Anytime you slip up and eat something that's not on your diet plan, skip beating yourself up with harsh, punishing words.
Instead, label the incident as a pause in your diet plan. This kind, nonjudgmental word doesn't make any detrimental references to your personality or your ability to accomplish a goal. Instead, it allows you to take a break in your efforts, then rest and regroup.
Having a pause and Erase the board
Use this approach with your weight-loss program. If you slip up on your diet plan, simply say, "I had a brief pause, but now I'm back on track."
Then once you've acknowledged your pause, don't get stuck dwelling on it. Instead, look carefully at your slip-up, learn from it, and then let it go. To increase your ability to do this, practice erasing the incident from your head.
Spend a few minutes thinking about what got in the way of your original eating plan. Then once you've learned from that event, mentally erase the board and get on with your life.
Next time you're tempted to say "I blew it," stop yourself immediately. Instead, label your slip-up as a pause.
Decide how you will bounce back from an eating pause. Write down a short plan that includes what you'll say to yourself as well as what you'll do next.
Whenever you slip up, instead of dwelling on it, practice the skill of "erasing the board." Think about how you can learn from a pause rather than looking at ways to punish yourself.
I used to" dwell on it for days.... "but now I" forgive myself and move on quickly. I never thought I'd be able to do this. I am finally putting many of these daily lessons into practice!
My pauses were not pauses they were weekly stops- Now they are pauses as now I get right back on plan. still working on being consistent.
Life gets in the way with celebrations and holidays. We cant deprive ourselves but we use common sense and watch our portion intake and still enjoy the food. Pauses are healthy for ourselves. I will not feel bad taking pause as long as it doesn't last too long. But if I know ahead of time I will work it into my plan as best as possible.
When I do take a pause= I like that instead of saying I blew it or I had a bad day, I will jump right back to following my plan at next meal and I don't dwell on the pauses I move forward.
We can plan our pauses. Pauses are good for our well being Just need to make sure they are NOT permanent stops.
We can plan our pauses Delete repeated word are healthy for our well being Just need to make sure they are permanent stops.

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Day 68 I had a pause

Some of mine have been Biblical in proportion!

I used to be a perfectionist and would let a slip turn into a landslide but now I choose a path of persistence and if I do make an unhealthy choice at one meal I can get right back on track again the next meal or day.


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So many great insights and thanks Maribeth for the quotes. Great visual aids!

What I like about this day as we are winding down about how to deal with food situations that have potential triggers and how to deal with them by ' installing buffers and stimulus narrowing' is that if we attempt to do those things and if we still don't grab the brass ring at least we can say we tried and we can say had a 'pause'.

I agree with Phyllis that this takes away the perfectionism that I too used to have. In the distant past if I so much as deviated from my food plan by a crumb I figured that I had blown it and therefore I had a free pass to try the next day or the next week. Now, it is this was a blip and let's learn from it. I think it does involve some detachment so we aren't judging ourselves but by doing that we can also see this as a lesson that will teach us what else we could have done and there will always be another similar situation that we can practice on.

This is like being in school regarding emotional eating. I think that first quote fits that idea. When we are learning a new subject we don't berate ourselves for not getting everything the first time but we realize we will need to return and have reinforcement before we have mastered that lesson or subject. That is what we are doing here. The pause is the moment we have absorbed what we have learned.

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Day 68 - I had a pause

The phrase that spoke to me from today's lesson is "Decide how you will "bounce back"

When I have an "oops moment" (my take on yesterday's lesson) I can bounce back to my healthy habits.

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

Having it planned isn't a pause but part of my plan.

I do like this. I just need to not have too many pauses esp. in a week span.

Life gets in the way with celebrations and holidays. We cant deprive ourselves but we use common sense and watch our portion intake and still enjoy the food. Pauses are healthy for ourselves. I will not feel bad taking pause as long as it doesn't last too long.

When I do take a pause, I like that instead of saying I blew it or I had a bad day, I will jump right back to following my plan at next meal and I don't dwell on the pauses I move forward. I learn from it too. and who know one day my pauses will be fewer and fewer but since I am on lifestyle change all food isn't off limits just need to watch portions. and including them in my plan is good for me.




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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
This is a favorite lesson from the book. It takes the pressure off to stick to perfection so it is easier to just "pause" take a look at what is going on in my life, erase the board and move on.

There will never be a time when life doesn't sometimes get in the way of my best intentions.
When I think about it, it's like learning to step on the scale, notice the pattern of how it's going and then just move on.
For me this lesson took away my old pattern of "all or nothing"!



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Maribeth, thank you for sharing that quote. I always write it when I sign yearbooks at school. Thank you for the reminder that I need to follow my own advice!

Day 68: I had a “pause”

My diet sort of had pause days built in. Saturdays and Sundays. I think part of my problem is that I think of them as pause days and give myself permission to eat like there is no tomorrow.

I am not going to go back and “walk that part over again.” It was a pause in my diet. I am getting back up and continuing my journey. This weekend I will treat my body well. Saturday and Sunday and not pause days.

I am going out to lunch tomorrow but that is one meal, not an entire day.

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I like the whiteboard image, but sometimes I seem to have one that rewrites what I have erased!



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I am sure taking care of the kids will have you as active as possible! Enjoy the time with your grandchildren!

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The rest of this week are going to be a pause for me. I am babysitting my grandchildren for the rest of the week while their parents go back to teaching, but the daycare does not begin until next week. I have been exercising for 2 hours everyday. I am disabled and cannot walk, so I do water aerobics. No exercise for the rest of the week, or at best very little. Food will not be a problem. I am very unhappy about the exercise, but have to accept reality and move (LOL) on.

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Phyllis~Good saying*** It is easier to look at it, learn from it and continue on the journey!***

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dj - Thanks, oh thanks for discussing perfectionism. That's been a problem of mine as well. I love the image of the whiteboard in today's lesson, especially "look carefully at it, learn from it, and then let it go! Really erase that whiteboard in your mind!



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Life is not perfect ... not any day, anywhere, for anybody ... when we strive for perfection we'll never hit the bar 100% of the time. I had to learn this lesson to ease up on my perfectionism. When it comes to our weight loss plans/efforts I think most of us start out way too hard on ourselves and have to learn to ease up, accept pauses, lulls, stalls and even plateaus. I'm trying to learn to do that a little more gracefully. I've almost been ready to quit this whole past month with frustration, gaining a lb. here/there lieu of losing, getting at odds with everything I'm attempting to do, tired of it all ... this past week I eased up on myself, tried to get my focus OFF of food/what I am doing/not doing so much of every day and just 'live' a little ... and it's working out better. It's not all or nothing ... it's finding a steady base to go back to as the 'norm' and allowing life's pauses to be just that.

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Nicely put Pam. Sometimes life does force a pause in the plan. It is easier to look at it, learn from it and continue on the journey!


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If you are a perfectionist like I am and which I am also working on letting that grip me so tightly then this is the message long awaited to hear. I think life itself will 'force' you to pause whether you intended to or not.

I feel like I was meant to learn this lesson over and over because of so many things in my life that are out of my control. It is saying, "go with the flow" instead of force something to happen.

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Well done Leslie - yes, we're almost at Day 70 - then it's just another 30 days...... we can do this!

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Day 68, 100 days I had a Pause

I like this one too but do have to be careful that the pause don't last too long.
I like her example of a hike and stopping for a rest. Sometimes we need that.

Life gets in the way with celebrations and holidays. We cant deprive ourselves but we use common sense and watch our portion intake and still enjoy the food. Pauses are healthy for ourselves. I will not feel bad taking pause as long as it doesn't last too long. But if I know ahead of time I will work it into my plan as best as possible.

When I do take a pause= I like that instead of saying I blew it or I had a bad day, I will jump right back to following my plan at next meal and I don't dwell on the pauses I move forward.

I cant believe I am this far in t he book.

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I agree Phyllis,

Yesterday and today help us understand that being healthy does not have to be all or nothing. That we should not punish ourselves and just keep going on the healthier path leaving the "pause" behind.


Day 68: I had a “pause”

If my diet did not have “S” days, yesterday would most certainly be a pause in any plan. While it was not my best “S” day (A great day in my head is where I have a treat or a few treats but I am more selective.), it was an “S” day.

So if I really think about it, since it was a less controlled “S” day, it could be classified as a pause. But I am not over thinking it. It is in the past. I am not going to go back and “walk that part over again.” It was a pause in my “S” day efforts. I am getting back up and continuing my journey.
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Why was yesterday less controlled? It was food that I do not usually have available. Lots of trigger foods and no “rules” binding me. There was no escape. I was stuck at the table in front of it talking to my parents. And I just wanted it. Now the treats are in the basement (for the kids… yep Grandma wanted them to have all the leftovers LOL!). I am not touching the treats any longer.
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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
This is a favorite lesson from the book. It takes the pressure of being perfect off so it is easier to just "pause" take a look at what is going on in my life, erase the board and move on.
When I think about it, it's like learning to step on the scale, notice the pattern of how it's going and then just move on.
For me this lesson took away my old pattern of "all or nothing"!



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Day 68 - Pause

taking time to pause helped me get into focus again ... just taking a breath helps

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Wow GREBJACK I have taken this pause up the mountain to my heart as I remember walking up Ben Lomond when I was 19 stones and my Uni friends kept saying to me Its just round the next corner! I do need a PAUSE sometimes and last weekend was my PAUSE but for longer than I had planned, back on my plans now!

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I really REALLY like the metaphor of the pause on the way up the mountain AND the idea of focusing briefly to try to learn from my pause and then erasing it and going on with my life. I'm really going to try to focus on revising my self-talk this way over the next few days.

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This is a nice way to think about it. Just want to limit the pauses. Most important is to have a way of eating that is sustainable, so pauses aren't so attractive.

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I used to turn a "Pause" into a weekly pause ntil I weighed again.So now much briefer cause is called for.

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I am on day 130 of being on track food and exercise. I plan, plan, plan ... and then follow through.

I have planned in foods I really want and have enjoyed every bite.

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Day 68.... I had a Pause

When I do go off-track, "I used to" dwell on it for days.... "but now I" forgive myself and move on quickly. I never thought I'd be able to do this. I am finally putting many of these daily lessons into practice!

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This is another eye opening phrase from the author that I rely on regularly~"I had (am having) a pause."
Little has changed since my last posting. Except that, more than ever, I now recognize there will always be continually changing terrain and obstacles in my life.

I will have the occasional downhill tumble. emoticon

I need to get up, dust myself off, take a break and regroup by giving myself a good dose of positive self-talk without losing anymore ground. Then continue on with those small but steady steps emoticon that keep me progressing on my continuous journey of a fit and healthy lifestyle.

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Day #68 I Had a "Pause"
In this lesson using the picture of "erasing the board" and just moving on after going off plan is smart. It will be easier to move on.
For the last couple of weeks I have not been getting in the exercise that I planned and to treat it as a "pause" instead of anything else paints a whole different picture.
Today I will "erase the board", get off the "pause" and enjoy the first signs of spring with a long walk.

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Sadly I had a PAUSE yesterday but I will not say I BLEW IT as today I am trying to eat sensibly again, with my plan! I have made plans for tomorrow and emoticon emoticon

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Day 68 – I had a “pause”

"Next time you're tempted to say “I blew it”, stop yourself immediately. Instead, label your slip-up as a pause. "

I have not really (thank God!) had many slip-ups but I have been doing this in my own way. Like when I planned to enjoy birthday cake last month. It was more of a planned pause for me and I managed to fit extra exercise in and not gain weight. I don't tell myself I blew anything anymore.


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OH, yes, I forgot that one Abby - I do that too! I have a notebook in the kitchen where I write down my menu plan, and if I go off-track it certainly does help to stop and make a plan for the next few days. Thanks for reminding me!

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Day 68 – I had a “pause”

After a “pause” as Linda puts it, I find it helpful to plan my meals in advance for the next several days. I don’t always take the time, or feel so inclined to do so, but it does help keep me on track. Going over my goals and reasons for losing weight always helps me get motivated in the right direction again. It’s rainy here today and I’m stuck inside. So I decided to pull out some of my smaller clothes and see if any fit me yet. To my surprise some did and other will when I drop just a few more pounds. That’s always a big motivator for me...to be able to get back into some of my favorite outfits. Now I’m off to clean up the big mess I just made on the floor with clothes all over the place.

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emoticon it's always worth talking about these things - you just never know who will be inspired by it - thanks :)

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Thanks, easy to say, harder to put into practice, but I am trying. I did copy and paste the in General Discussion, just called it Rewire Event if anyone goes looking for it.



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Sorry, I missed your 2 postings. DH took over the computer delaying my posting. emoticon

I think a place to share about the Rewire would be great!!. emoticon

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Dot those are awesome goals that you listed! emoticon emoticon

The rewire seminar is thought provoking. I couldn't imagine there would be so many approaches to recognizing and changing negative self talk in my head. The organizer, Linda Thall (first lesson) called it a language. It so spoke to me, that I 'm probably going to blog about it soon.

This "pause" lesson is yet another gem from Linda. When I read her humorous account of the hill of weight loss, I think I saw it a bit differently. Things happened this summer that challenged my progress, but I didn't "lay down on a rock and give up" or "walk back down to punish myself" like I might have done in the past. Instead I took a long pause, caught my breath and finally found my way back on the trail. emoticon For me, I see a pause less as a slip up and more as giving myself permission to take a break however long but without losing ground.

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Sure I will copy and paste it there.

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What a great testimonial for the Rewire event - I learnt about the tapping thing in the past - but had forgotten about it (I think it was called EFT - emotional freedom technique - does that sound right?) What a profound experience! Thanks for sharing. Do you fancy starting a topic on the General Discussion Forum to share your experience of the Rewire event? Maria (GOCALGAL) is doing it too I think.

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I guess I sort of did that or rather answered that yesterday, I really must start reading a day in advance. Going by the rules, when I have a "pause", instead of being angry with myself and feeling defeated, I simply must give more effort to how I will do better the next time.

1 how will I try to avoid the same trap
2 how will I make better choices when feeling hungry, angry, ect any trigger feeling
3 what can I have around the house that will enable me to make better choices instead of bad choices

I sort of had a revaluation of Me last night. I signed up for the two week Rewire event. It started Monday, well I did not have time to listen Monday, so I started listening last night, one of the sessions was tapping and as you tap he had certain phrases you repeated. At first I felt kind of silly. But as we progressed it was not so silly and it made sense. By the end I was in tears, because I think I finally after all these years of trying to lose weight and telling myself or rather trying to convince myself I could do this and all the positive talk, I was still hearing my mother when every time I tried to do something she would look at me and say, "I don't know why you want to do that, YOU know you can not do anything, you know you will not succeed." 60 years later and I am still that little girl, still hearing that in my head.

I don't know what the rest of this holds for me to Rewire my thinking, but I know I have to get her OUT of my head. I think last night was a good start.

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7th October 2015

Day 68 – I had a “pause”

Note: If you find your way to the beginning of this thread, which was started in 2011, you'll find inspiration from posts made about this activity.

Here are today's suggested activities:

1. Next time you're tempted to say “I blew it”, stop yourself immediately. Instead, label your slip-up as a pause.

2. Decide how you will bounce back from an eating pause. Write down a short plan that includes what you'll say to yourself as well as what you'll do next.

3. Whenever you slip up, instead of dwelling on it, practice the skill of “erasing the board”. Think about how you can learn from a pause rather than finding way to punish yourself.

Here's a link to the Day 68 blog, posted on Linda's Spark page
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I like the 'Erasable board' idea too, Gill.

This reading struck a chord and I am realising how far I have come on this 100 day journey. I am nowhere near as hard on myself - which often resulted in 'Failed...might as well eat' and I can spot some triggers and obey a 'Stop' sign now.

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I haven't experienced this for a while, and things have been much easier for me since I've been doing these 100 days. Day 5 was great for me - thinking I'll plan to have the desired thing at another time and working it into my meal plans. Also the Day 6 suggested script about postponement, which I have used quite a bit - it works! - of saying "not just at the moment, thanks". Yesterday's lesson was good - and Susan suggested I get a little car to remind me of my inner voice saying "watch where you're going!"

However, I shall store today's info up for when/if it's needed - and the idea of visualising writing it on an erasable board, thinking about why it happened, then erasing it - that'll work for me!

And I will happily give up the negative statements!


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I used this a few months ago when I discovered a bag of nuts someone had given me as a gift. I tried to eat them by serving size but couldn't so after I ate the whole bag I looked at this for the lesson and I knew that once I discovered them my first thought was to take them to a group event I was going to but I didn't. I got right back on my food plan the next day. I definitely wouldn't have done this in the past.

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Day 68 - I Had A Pause

Honestly, I don't worry about this sort of thing. Now I am eating to nourish and fuel my body, so my choices are healthy ones.
If I ever do desire something sweet or unhealthy, I am satisfied with just a bite or a very small serving.

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Day 68 I had a pause

I hear people say the same thing I use to ... well I have blown the day so I will start over ... tomorrow, Monday, next month, next year!!!!

I have been talking to myself in a totally different way. Everything I eat and do is a chose. Does it get me closer to my goals OR not. This is a journey ... not a race.

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Day 68 I had a pause

Some of mine have been Biblical in proportion!

I used to be a perfectionist and would let a slip turn into a landslide but now I choose a path of persistence and if I do make an unhealthy choice at one meal I can get right back on track again the next meal or day.

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Thinking of this versus the wide road, unfortunately, there are days that I even exceed the boundaries of the wide road and rather get off in the ditch. I think these are the days I need to negotiate the pause in my self talk.

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what every tern one uses as long as it works......we will never be perfect....even skinny people turn to food sometimes....we have to find the middle road or what ever works for us

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I think this works really well with the wide road skill too! Plus setting realistic goals and eating guidelines that I can tolerate, even enjoy without triggering rebellion... I used to rationalize I blew it and then eat without restrictions in a vicious yoyo diet pattern, so this is really helpful to breaking that and reaching a middle ground for me :)

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One of my favorite words is "yet", kind of like taking a pause, just says I'm still working, not "there" yet.

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This is a great exercise to put to immediate practice...no, I don't mean I'm gonna run right out and cheat to test this out :) But I love how it is a positive expression and can relate to it. I think we deserve to take short pauses along the road. Perfection would be impossible to maintain for long....and really shouldn't be our driving force anyway. Moderation in all things will get us to where we want to be. I'm happier already knowing it's ok to pause when I need to.

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I did forget this exercise....when I went over or ate things not on my meal plan I used the wide road saying....but pause can work too..

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emoticon Day 68, I had a "pause"

As you work on changing your self-talk vocabularly, here's another idea to stop saying "I blew it." Anytimeyou slip up and eat something that's not on your mealplan, skip beating yourself up with harsh, punishing words.

Instead, label the incident as a "pause" in your journey. This kind, nonjudgmental word doesn't make any detrimetnal references to your personality or your ability to accomplish a goal. Instead, it allows you to take a break in your efforts, then rest and regroup.


emoticon Having a pause
Imagine that you're taking a hike in the mountains, slowly winding up a trail that eventually leads you to a scenic view. About an hour into the hike, you begin feeling a little tired and a bit thirsty.

At this point, you stop walking and sit down on a large rock to take a couple of sips from your water bottle. After resting a few minutes and catching your breath, you stand up and return to the trail.

You would not say, "Look how awful I am! I told you I couldn't do a hike. I guess I'll just lie down on this rock and give up." You also wouldn't punish yourself by saying, "Since I blew the hike, I have to go back a few hundred yards and walk this part over again!"

Instead you would view this brief rest as a pause in your hiking efforts. After your break, you would get back up and continue your journey.


emoticon Erase the board
Use this same approach with your weight-loss journey. If yu slip up on your plans and goals, simply say, "I had a brief pause, but now I'm back on track."

Then after you've acknowledged your pause, don't get stuck dwelling on it. Instead, look carefully at your slipup, learn from it and then let it go. To increase your ability to do this, practice erasing the incident from your head.

Suppose you gobbled ten cookies instad of the two you originally planned eating. Picture a white erasable board and mentally write on it, "I ate 10 cookies."

Spend a few minutes thinking about what got in the way of your original plan. Then when you've learned from the event, mentally erase the board and get on with your life.


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~ Next time you're tempted to say "I blew it" stop yourself immediately. Instead, label your slipup as a pause.

~ Decide how you will bounce back from an eating pause. Write down a short plan that includes what you'll say to yourself as well as what you'll do next.

~ Whenever you slip up, instad of dwelling on it, practice the skill of "erasing the board." Think about how you can learn from a pause rather than finding ways to punish yourself.


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