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Day 25 Party - Time - at risk for intense sugar cravings and overeating
~ * Make plans before, during and after events with lots of food choices to prevent regain
~ * Enjoy the experience - savor a few bites of food (limit parties 3-4x /year)
~ * Keep note cards in pocket with positive affirmations and health goals
~ * Eat less - low carbs vegetables with ghee to absorb nutrients
~ * Save tuna for later...when I'm really hungry around 4pm
(food events: parties, holidays and special occasions)

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I found my previous posts helpful.

1) clear up and throw away left over danger foods

2) go and soak in the bath and/or watch a film

3) plan something nice for later (depending on time of day)
(a) soup
(b) salad sandwiches
(c) hot chocolate

Next day: send messages thanking people for coming and telling them I enjoyed their company.

Gill

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DAY #25 AFTER THE PARTY'S OVER

I seem to be having mixed feelings about this lesson.

Indeed I have made detailed plans about how to resist on Special Occasions (such as Thanksgiving as Linda examples), but my plans always derail before the occasion is over. There has been a RARE occasion when I managed to stick to my plan, but I don't remember ever feeling like "it didn't seem fair" or that I "wanted to get even".

There have been lots of times, as Linda describes, that I feel let down and/or disappointed, but it is with myself for giving in to the temptations. Because of past reviews of this lesson I am aware of the "After The Party Syndrome" that we so need to stay aware of. Again, in my case however, it is my indulgence that spurs me onto the straight & narrow path after the party is over.

I think this may be a good example for what I mentioned yesterday as my motto:

"I can have that ________, but I choose not to at this time."

I am hoping that this motto will eliminate my feelings of deprivation during an event and my feelings of guilt after an event. I even plan of saying it out loud when I stand before a temptation. Valentine's Day is still my target day for using this technique.

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I went back and read my post from before -- still so true for me. emoticon I'm an introvert in many ways, so parties in general are stressful for me. I'm not really tempted to overeat during the party as my mind is on socializing, remembering peoples' names etc. It's afterwards that I feel the need to unwind - get back to normal...reward myself with a food treat. Same with cooking a huge holiday meal here at my house. Not so tempting to overeat during the cooking process and meal afterwards....but when everyone is gone and I can relax -- Watch out!

It's funny, though, that I'm not an introvert at all when I'm actually involved in a physical activity -- such as at the Y -- THEN I enjoy being with people, and the camaraderie involved. I never find myself wanting a food reward after a class.

Not sure what I can do after my next party to tame the desire to overeat. Possibly have a food reward at home that is enjoyable even if slightly "naughty". Frozen yogurt comes to mind. Maybe I can have a short, easy, non-challenging kind of stretching and relaxation yoga video cued up and ready to go to spend 15-20 minutes on to aid in the unwinding process.

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Day 25 - After the Party's Over
Wow! I did not realize that this syndrome existed in other people besides me! Today was a case in point for this lesson. I had a group lunch where everyone brought certain things. I often have a protein drink for lunch with fruit. I took fruit and only ate it for lunch. Breakfast was late for me, so I honestly was not hungry until after the lunch was over, so I had the protein drink on the way home.
Problem 1 - The main dish person brought chicken salad from a local restaurant instead of meat from a bbq place which I could resist. I resisted the chix salad, (hard for me) not having even a bite. She offered to send some home with me, but I said no, knowing that I would eat it as soon as I got home because it is really good. Also resisted the surprise chocolates that were there. I would like to get better at nonfood rewards. Here are a couple I could use to indulge myself:
(1) Take a break by watching something I want to on Amazon Prime Video
(2) Use my Mary Kay Satin Hands set to pamper myself.

On the way home, I got a cup of coffee with cream from Starbucks. Also had a low calorie low sugar chocolate bar, as planned, when I got home. So, not feeling deprived at home. And, I know on another day, I will probably go to the restaurant and have the wonderful chicken salad when it is planned into my day.




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Day 25: After the party’s over
**Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
This was my situation after the holidays. I was very focused on not gaining through the holiday seasons like the year before.
I look back to see January (waiting for a challenge to begin) was not good.

**Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.
I will not make my road so narrow during the fun times (holidays & vacation).
I will not base my days on “challenges” because that is the old on-again; off-again diet of the past.
I will take my life “one day at a time” because that’s how it comes.

**Create a detailed after-the-party plan for the day (or two) after the event.
I will stay off the scales for only 3 days maximum and spend time focusing on what a good time I had.

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2/7/20 9:56 A

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Day 25 - After the Party is over

I have a kind of party every Thursday- picnic lunch at the mall with my brother and several friends. I make a huge effort Wednesday night and Thursday morning to assemble a healthy home-made lunch. They are all retired and struggling on a fixed seniors income, and they really appreciate my lunches, so that makes me feel great. Yesterday we had home- baked whole grain buns with quinoa-black bean burgers with fixings of sliced red onions, sliced tomatoes, alfalfa sprouts, cheese and to drink, kombucha and I bring well water from home, which they love because they usually drink chlorinated city water. Side anecdote, my brother remembers that when my mom used to invite friends (and my mom was an above average cook), she often got compliments on how good the water was and less mention of her meal. I enjoy spending time with these friends and after for some reason I am still hungry and feel like going on a junk food junket before I go home and like eating more at supper. If I stay on plan, I don't do any shopping on this day, I go for a swim before I go home and have a recovery drink of chocolate milk, I eat a raw carrot or two and drink kombucha when I get home while preparing supper, and I have some hot cereal with oat bran and turmeric with my supper, have a light serving of supper, close the kitchen and don't eat any more that day. That's the plan, I have been pretty good at sticking to the Thursday plan for the last few weeks, may it continue.



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100 More DWL - Day 25 After the Party's Over
Lots of times you may notice feeling let down or disappointed after you’ve made a concerted effort to eat carefully. During this letdown period, you are at high risk for overeating.
The solution to this pattern involves preparing for any event by planning twice.

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
Leftovers after a party or get together can be risky, habit of eating these items so put in bin above my chin not the real bin!

I also have a bad habit of eating before and after an event!

My most risky event for me with a risk of overeating is after Weigh In when I have often eaten in a very limited way during the day!

• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.

I need to create a detailed plan for the evening (and maybe 2 days) after this 'party is over'
and stick to it. So caring for myself with nice food which is still healthy and linked to my Eating plan (filling in my food diary too). Try to jump back into my eating plan as normal for the days following.
Run nice bath to pamper myself and lots of nice cream afterwards. Also handcream will stop me eating at the same time!
Go to bed earlier rather than keeping eating and avoid the bad sleep at I have overeaten!

• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.
I did do this last Weigh In and planned twice for the event, had my meal made and tried to get back to 'normal eating' with a small list of extras to choose from and I chose a peanut cookie rather than the more calorific Hot Cross Bun. I did write in my food diary too.

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4/7/19 6:38 A

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I had a slightly amusing 'when the party's over experience this morning. The guests that came to visit me yesterday gave me two little gifts: a bath bomb, and a packet of ginger cookies (oatcake style). I opened the packet of cookies this morning and had a bite of one of them - it was soft and stale. When I checked the packet, it was 'best before January 2018'. I threw the whole lot in the bin!

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Day 25 - After the Party's Over


Lots of times you may notice feeling let down or disappointed after you’ve made a concerted effort to eat carefully. During this letdown period, you are at high risk for overeating.

The solution to this pattern involves preparing for any event by planning twice. Besides your careful thoughts on how you will handle the party or gathering, you need to add a detailed plan for the evening or the day after the event.

Today

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
Although I enjoy family gatherings, they are emotionally draining for me. I intentionally do not eat a lot at the party, but then when I return home, I feel very tired and like a deflated balloon that has lost all of its air. I turn to food for comfort.

• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.

1. Positive self-talk.
2. Journaling
3. Relax and have a cup of tea


• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.
Be diligent about tracking my food and entering it in the tracker. If I have over indulged, make adjustments as needed. Increase exercise to compensate for overeating. Don’t feel guilty but instead just keep living my healthy lifestyle. I like the warm soup idea which sounds comforting to me. Remember the message from Linda Spangle: "Let go of the past and remind yourself that now you are in a different place with new tools that will propel you forward."

Edited by: YOUNG-AT-HEART at: 4/5/2019 (21:40)
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• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.
• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.

After an event is over, even if I have over-eaten at the event, I often feel a bit of emptiness and the urge to fill it with something to eat, a piece of cheese, some nuts, some ice cream, never raw veggies haha.

• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.

The first thing is to recognize ahead of time that this may happen so that you can create a pre-thought-out alternate behaviour.

#1 drink some kombucha - it's tartness usually leaves me not wanting anything sweet
#2 brush my teeth, so I am ready for bed and no more eating until bed time
#3 read something until it is time to go to bed, or go to bed if it is already late

• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

I haven't thought of the day or two after before.

#1The day after, get back on track to normal eating and stick to my at home and home-cooked foods menu - do my regular planned exercise - don't underdo either what I eat or overdo exercise to try to compensate.

#2 Think and be mindful that I am going to follow the usual plan for 2 days after the event

#3 On day 2, mindfully follow the nutrition and workouts that I have planned the night before.


After reading the other posts, I will add that being rested and doing something that fills rather than drains your spirit, topping up your spirit, these things help tremendously in keeping up motivation and feeling positive and staying on track.

Edited by: JUNEPA at: 4/5/2019 (18:41)
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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
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Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
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DAY # 25 AFTER THE PARTY'S OVER - ROUND 2

I have not been doing well at going back and seeing what I wrote during our last review (which made me wonder why I was keeping my Report - well, to review, of course!) and I want to do a better job of that. So here is some of what I wrote last time:

Linda made a couple points that resonated with me:

1. I have never given any thought to PLAN TWICE! What a helpful suggestion.
2. We frequently grumble about how much effort this weight loss journey takes and so I also liked her suggestion to have our plan include ways to fill our spirit back up!
3. It's all about the letdown! It's going to happen. You can't avoid it. So be prepared!

My plans have been very loosey-goosey lately. I need to get back to planning my meals and hen doing so in more detail.

Some things have changed since then. I have used the PLAN TWICE suggestion. Thank You, Linda. I no longer grumble about how much effort this weight loss journey takes. I have come to accept the fact that it will always take effort! Call me naďve, but I don't like the idea of accepting that a letdown is going to happen. It sounds so defeatist to me. I prefer to think more positively and just have that Second Plan in place - no good or bad thoughts about it.

emoticon Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after and event is over.

I am struggling with this one because I have decided that I will no longer deprive myself during Special Occasions such as the holidays. I have come to learn that there is no way I will ever, be able to, or even want to give up some of those special food offerings that come with each holiday. This thinking has allowed me to get keep my portions more in control and to get right back on plan (my narrow road) the very next day.

emoticon Come up with 3 self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.

1. Be MINDFUL and ENJOY the moments the Special Occasion brings. Each holiday has it's own identity. This Easter it is all about the glory of God, the grace and blessings he has brought me, the feeling of renewal in my soul and in our earth as new life springs forth.

2. Plan extra REST times with some uplifting reading and/or a cup of coffee with cream to reduce stress. I have two books of poems by Danna Faulds that fill my heart.

3. Spend some time outside, weather permitting, to absorb the relaxing powers of Mother Nature. And if lousy weather is in the forecast, bring nature inside with a pot of spring flowers!

emoticon Create a detailed after-the-party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

Since Easter is on a Sunday, it is fortunate because Monday starts another week and my routine of getting back to the Y for my fitness schedule. I have a very busy week with an event every night so I won't have time to sit around and be tempted by food. My brain will be busy working out how I'm going to fit everything I want to do into a 24 hr. period!

After Easter, my next temptation event will be the Derby Party I am hosting on May 4th. I have plenty of time to develop an After Party Plan so no need to fret now about it.


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I have two parties this week so I'm glad to be thinking about this now.

Day 25 - After the Party's Over

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.

Old habit of relaxing with a snack before going to bed.
Leftovers if the party was here.
If the food served wasn't something I liked, then I want to eat something else at home.
If the scale doesn't budge on weigh-in day.
If I slipped at the party, I'm at high-risk to continue the slip.

• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.

Plan to have a cup of tea to relax before bed.
Send leftovers home with guests or freeze them or throw them out.
I liked Gill's Soup is a Super Post Party Plan. Having one slice of garlic bread with it would feel like a real treat.
Put out reminders to listen to my Hope Voice.
Re-read this message from Linda Spangle: "Let go of the past and remind yourself that now you are in a different place with new tools that will propel you forward."
Come on SparkPeople and track everything.

• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

Set and meet one small goal so I get that successful feeling back. Stay in the present. Stop the "you always fail" voices right away. Dance. Be good to myself in a healthy way.


Dee
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100 More DWL , Day 25 After the party’s over

Lots of times you may notice feeling let down or disappointed after you’ve made a concerted effort to eat carefully. During this letdown period, you are at high risk for overeating.

The solution to this pattern involves preparing for any event by planning twice. Besides your careful thoughts on how you will handle the party or gathering, you need to add a detailed plan for the evening or the day after the event.

Today

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.
• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

This has happened to me after I've been diligent and staying on track during the holidays. I had never analyzed it before but it makes sense to be at high risk then. I'll be more aware now for future holidays.

As long as I continue to plan my foods on the nutritional planner, I'll be just fine. That is a lifesaver for me.

Three self-care things I will do to manage this are:

1. Plan for a reward system (like getting a charm for my charm bracelet).
2. Schedule a manicure or pedicure.
3. Schedule a massage or ask Hubby for a neck or foot rub.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

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Today

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
If there are too many leftovers, or if something didn't go as planned and I'm feeling bummed.
• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.
I will send leftovers home with others, or let my kids have them.
I will journal.
I will practice positive self-talk.
• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.
I will, and write it in my planner.

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This lesson describes me to a tee because although I am doing better, I still fall into this trap.way too often.
.• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.

When hosting: purchasing or baking things I find hard to resist
When attending an event: Being perfect or close to perfect there, coming home and feeling deprived.
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• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.
Plan to eat a small or moderate amount
Send home or refuse leftover desserts and calorie laden food
Don't buy or make more of high calorie foods than can be eaten at the event.

I try to do the things listed above but so often things happen. ie: The relatives who can't come without the unannounced, unneeded calorie laden dessert or macaroni or other mayo laden salads, a DH who can eat almost anything without gain and promises to keep it out of my sight, the food pusher but dear friend who will not let you leave without some of her "never met a calorie she didn't like" food and dessert. Without fail every time I give in I am sorry.

.• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.
Best plan would be to be very firm and just say NO. If that doesn't work, throw it away. Get right back on track.

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Oh yes! I can identify! emoticon This happens to me frequently. I've thought about it before and tried to figure out why when I go to an outing I will be very measured about what I choose to eat or drink, then come home and go wild.

A large part of it for me is that being in big groups makes me tense and restless after awhile. I only have so much small talk in me, and when you throw in having to enjoy and savor food while all this is going on, it just doesn't work for me. I've often found myself thinking "Oh if only I could have that at home later to REALLY enjoy it." I do enjoy eating alone and savoring my food. I don't enjoy trying to work bites of food around a social conversation. So I'm at the party -- see all this delicious food on offer and realize I don't want to try to gulp bites down that I'm not really even tasting so I pass on it. But I still want it -- just on my own terms. Which boils down to going home and trying to duplicate some of the particular goodies I passed up. If I'd never gone to the party, it wouldn't have entered my mind in the first place.

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
Anytime my routine is thrown off and I don't follow my normal pattern of an evening meal with pre-planned healthy snacks after. When I've had the meal somewhere else and was unable to properly track it, and it was not as veggie filled and healthy as I strive for at home and feel dissatisfied even if I'm not hungry for anything else. Anytime I've been in a large group and had to smile too much and talk too much and sit still too much and I feel I need to "unwind" afterwards.

• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.
I like the idea of having a plan of something to eat for afterwards -- Gill's soup comes to mind. Warm and nurturing and filling.

• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.
If the party is here -- send food with people -- especially desserts.
If it's somewhere else, then jump back into my eating plan as normal for the days following.

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Thankful this topic came up because after this Sunday back to back parties the following three Sundays in a row back to the pond around 100 people each

Now I can prepare and preplan for afterwards. I get so busy playing hostess that I have been the human garbage disposal. Only one of this or a couple of that and not worth saving for this small amount etc.

This year, drop it on the ground, mix it with other leftovers so too gross to eat. Keep remembering no plan c

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Day # 25 After The Party's Over

I don't want to wish bad on anyone, but I have tell you, I am so glad to see that I am not alone in this lesson; that it happens to others also. There seems to be so many emotional reasons that lead us to eat what we don't want to eat. Just goes to show us what a feeling group of people we are!

Gill, I love you idea about writing those Thank You notes to your friends for coming to your tea. And I see you talked to your friend later about your eating struggle. That was great! Also, your tip about soup not requiring any chewing and how that is then calming was very helpful!

Gloria your lunch menu sounded yummy! Glad you got this lesson in time. I seem to frequently get them "after the fact".

Linda made a couple points that resonated with me:

1. I have never given any thought to PLAN TWICE! What a helpful suggestion.
2. We frequently grumble about how much effort this weight loss journey takes and so I also liked her suggestion to have our plan include ways to fill our spirit back up!
3. It's all about the letdown! It's going to happen. You can't avoid it. So be prepared!

My plans have been very loosey-goosey lately. I need to get back to planning my meals and hen doing so in more detail.

After 25 days of review I am starting to feel overwhelmed with everything I am supposed to do and remember. This is a dangerous feeling for me because it can lead to a run of binging and/or dropping out of the review. DH is leaving Saturday for a week of golfing so I will only have myself to contend with. This can come with it's own set of problems, but I'm hoping that it will give me lots of quiet time to think/reflect/plan.


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7/12/18 9:36 A

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Gloria, I noticed what you said about wanting to please your friends. When I had my friends over for tea on Tuesday, and ended up eating all the gingerbread cookies, I thought afterwards that I need not have bought them in the first place. Neither of my friends ate one. However, I saw one of those friends today and told her about my struggle with the sugar and said I thought I'd used the event (them coming to tea) as an excuse to buy cookies. She said that it was nice; even though they didn't eat them, she said it was a lovely thing to do and very welcoming. Also it was a special occasion as it was the first time they've visited my new home. She also said she was trying to cut back as she'd put on a few pounds, and she thought our other friend was too. She also said to remember that it wasn't all the time.

It did make me feel better about it. It is nice to offer our visitors a little something - not put them on a diet too. It's my responsibility to manage my self-care, as Linda says.



Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 7/12/2018 (16:43)
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Day 25 After the party’s over





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Wow....this one came at the right time for me!

Yesterday I had friends over for lunch. I made food I normally don’t eat because I wanted to please my friends. So I had appetizers, BLT chicken sandwiches, and tortellini salad and key lime pie for dessert. Of course I have leftovers I always make too much so I intend to pass them along to my neighbors. If I have them here I will eat everything.

One of my spark friends, CTYONIT, posted a blog about treating yourself like you would be training a dog......praising the good things you are doing, patting yourself on the back when you exercise, treating yourself when your doctors tells you......good job! But you have to watch those treats.......pick healthy choices!

I have to get the right mindset and keep it all day! I have to be strong! I want to be healthy and fit in my old clothes hanging in my closet!

Have a great healthy happy day everyone!

Edited by: GLORIAZ at: 7/12/2018 (08:30)
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Day 25 After the party’s over -July 12, 2018
Lots of times you may notice feeling let down or disappointed after you’ve made a concerted effort to eat carefully. During this letdown period, you are at high risk for overeating.
The solution to this pattern involves preparing for any event by planning twice. Besides your careful thoughts on how you will handle the party or gathering, you need to add a detailed plan for the evening or the day after the event.
Today
• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over. Birthdays and holidays and tops events
• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this. Portion control- plan to include what you want into your daily allowance Get a walk in go to gym, Stick to plan afterwards if needed get away from kitchen get out of house
• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.
Continue to track and journal your food and stay within your daily allowance calories, exchanges etc.
Make sure you eat to keep you full protein etc.
Move -gym, a walk etc... Maybe do a extra workout

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• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.

Not sure that a weigh in is an "event" but as silly as this may sound, in the past if I had an "undeserved gain" on the scale after a week of eating on plan, I would find myself eating things I shouldn't. Also , during the time I was on Weight Watchers and had a weekly points allowance, I would "use up my points" on weigh in day after weighing in. I didn't need to eat those, sort of used them as a reward.

After a Birthday or Christmas I might find myself eating more of the richer, fatter foods to "use them up".

I read this right after eating banana bread for breakfast. Not the healthiest option but we have a lot of it left from what I baked on Saturday. I have counted the appropriate calories for it, had one piece. For that same calorie price I could have had something much more filling and healthy.

• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.

Be friends with the scale.
Get a mani/pedi (for the bigger events)
Throw out the food, remember the 'waste not waist" lesson

• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

Send leftovers home with other party attendees.


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Yup!

Yup!

Yup!

Was she writing about me?!?!

I often feel so ashamed of my hypocrisy when I go & eat alone after being publicly virtuous. I feel I am a fake.
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Linda suggests we think of three things we will do ROUTINELY after an event that might cause this behaviour. She calls this 'self-care'.

I imagine how I would care for a child or teenager - what advice I'd give.

To help someone else manage post-party behaviour I would (1) definitely clear all the food away and bin things that are not ok to eat. I would (2) probably suggest they go and do something like watch a film or have a bath and chill out. I would (3) probably promise them that there will be something nice to eat later - like soup and garlic bread, or salad sandwiches, or hot chocolate (depending on the time of day).

Planning to manage the day after is a good idea too. This would probably be a meal plan - not sure what else I could do as it would depend on my work. Maybe sending out cards to let people know how much I enjoyed seeing them? Perhaps that would help me focus on the people rather than the food.

I am having lunch with a friend on 18th June, and will not have dessert. I will take my advice and plan to watch a film or have a bath when I get home. I will plan a tasty soup with garlic bread for supper.

Soup is good because it is hydrating, tasty, nutritious, filling and comforting. You also don't have to chew, so it's calming as well. You use a spoon so you can't stuff your mouth. The soup needs to be good. It needs to be made in advance so there's no reason not to eat it.

Soup is super! What a super post-party plan.
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This is where I wish I had a paper copy of the book, so I could write it in.


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Day 25 After the party’s over

Lots of times you may notice feeling let down or disappointed after you’ve made a concerted effort to eat carefully. During this letdown period, you are at high risk for overeating.

The solution to this pattern involves preparing for any event by planning twice. Besides your careful thoughts on how you will handle the party or gathering, you need to add a detailed plan for the evening or the day after the event.

Today

• Identify situations where you are at risk for eating after an event is over.
• Come up with three self-care things you will routinely do to manage this.
• Create a detailed after the party plan for the day (or two) after the event.

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