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Day 46 - Disappointment

I don't deal well with disappointment. Part of the reason is that I try to deny I am disappointed or that I even have a right to be disappointed when I live such a fortunate life. Live in a time where women have freedom and the vote, our homes are warm, we have hot water, tv, mobile phones, the internet, cars, life is comfortable, we have so many choices, and many labour-saving gadgets, health knowledge is pretty high, all these things make living today pretty awesome in the last 100 years compared to earlier and all of human life before. Personally I have pretty good health and fitness, plenty to eat, an easy to get along with DH, kids who are healthy and independent and doing well, lots of interesting close and extended family and friends. My problems and disappointments are mostly first world problems. I do get set back and don't adjust very quickly to changes in plans or unexpected events. I do see usually readily see the trade-offs. I stuff my feelings of disappointment and they rise up later until I deal with them. A current disappointment is that DH and I had planned to go to Italy for 3 weeks in March and April and have now cancelled due to Covid-19. We have been to Italy many times before as we have a lot of relatives there, DH was born there as were both my parents. Usually we go for 10 days max, this year as DD and her partner are running the farm, we had planned to go for 3 weeks. We may go in September, we try to go before and after field work and not during the winter. I am thankful we went with niece and entourage last year, we would not have gone this year and last year's trip was good for her especially. The trade off of going in September is that I want to do some hiking in the mountains and going now is the worst time as the snow is melting but not completely off from winter and so one cannot ski or hike. September is a premium time to hike, not only for the time of year but also because there are fewer tourists as the schools are back in session. Hopefully the Covid-19 situation is better soon. I kind of am not so panicked about it as a personal risk. Most of the deaths are age 80 and above, below 60 the mortality rate is low. Older people with other conditions and reduced immune systems are mostly at risk, as they are at risk of dying from the flu. The bad thing about Covid-19 is that there is no vaccine and the mortality rate is higher than from the flu. Still, with the flu, So far, the new coronavirus has led to more than 100,000 illnesses and more than 3,000 deaths worldwide. But that's nothing compared with the flu, also called influenza. In the U.S. alone, the flu has caused an estimated 34 million illnesses, 350,000 hospitalizations and 20,000 deaths this season, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Covid-19 is not like ebola that kills everyone, it mostly kills elderly and immune compromised people. I do not feel at high risk. DH and I for sure don't want to be the vectors bringing the infection to our elderly relatives, quite a few in their 80s and 90s, who will want us to visit if we go to Italy. We don't want to go to a highly infectious region. But here at home, I do not feel at high risk. Gill, I understand your concerns as you work with elderly and immune-system comprised people and also the uncertainty we all feel about the newness of the disease and the absence so far of a vaccine and the potential of having to self-isolate.

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With my pessimistic thinking, I already found myself feeling disappointed about the possibility that I might not be able to take the trip to visit my son and d-i-l and grandson in early May. I'd bought the cheapest deals - so no cancellation refunds if I can't go.

It hasn't even happened yet. It might be OK to go and see them in early May. Depends how the Covid-19 virus progresses.

But I found myself thinking that I need a plan - a healthy action plan - to keep myself busy, engaged, active even if I have to stay home self-isolating or unwell. Or for that week's holiday from work if I can't travel. Or maybe if I'm not unwell, I might have to work if other people are unwell.

How I do overthink things! I'd love to be a person who takes each day as it comes!

So - the disappointment might be not being able to travel and visit my family.
The trade-off would be that I'd have a whole week to myself to do whatever I like (within reason!) and be open to whatever else happens that week.

Gill

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DAY #46 DISAPPONTMENT

Well, we have all experienced them I'm sure; big and small ones!

Linda reminds me to look for other ways to cope with disappointment. That the alternative may be an even better solution. The most important thing to remember, however, is that we still need to acknowledge our feelings and sense of loss, to accept that food won't magically make the loss go away, and to not let disappointment pull us into despair.

- A recent disappointment:

This past Saturday DH and I went to an Art Fair. We had planned to have dinner at a new restaurant we wanted to try called The Sunset Hut. My disappointment was that our timing was way off! We were way to early. I tried to talk DH into going to this place at another time, but he was insistent.

- My response:

We were really pushed by the hostess and waitress to eat & drink since tables are at a premium. And so we did! But as time rolled onward we just couldn't do any more. Not only did time roll on, but the clouds rolled in and so our efforts and over-eating & drinking were for naught.

- The Trade-Off:

I was disappointed not only in the experience, but in myself. I wish I had Protected My Plan (as we have learned in a previous lesson) and insisted on saving this restaurant for another night. So there was no positive trade-off other than LESSON LEARNED!

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Many disappointments - choosing to divorce after 20 years. Definitely felt like a failure but finally realized 'it takes 2' and there was no 'give' on the opposite side. I could go on but I'm working on the positives. I'm happy! That's enough for me.

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Day 46 - Disappointments

1. Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
I honestly can't think of a recent one. But making the decision to put my son in school 5 years was a disappointment, but his lack of effort in homeschooling was a bigger disappointment.

2. Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
Both made me feel like a failure. So, I gained around 25 pounds through all of that.

3. Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.
Instead, I joined a wonderful community of Moms in Prayer at his school who were incredibly encouraging and shared openly with me about their struggles. My son had wonderful opportunities there, and he was concerned about his grades. Pretty soon, he was not only in National Honor Society, but was a leader in it.

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Day # 46 Disappointment
I have had many disappointments in my life, some very major and many minor ones.

At this moment in my life the major changes it takes to move from a very large country home to a small trailer in a “55 and older” community is daunting. The urge to fix disappointments with food is on-going but realizing it does make a big difference,


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Day 46 Disappointment with temporary gains.
Learn to Balance nutrition and exercise - make plans - write it down
"Trade-offs" for overeating - eat less next time - measure - portion control
Walk, jump, focus on conversation, drink more water to avoid snacking.
"Shake it off" - lift weights and lift my spirits


emoticon Spark guy wrote: Why Weight Loss Is Not 80% Diet and 20% Fitness" -
"—fitness, sleep, stress management—have their own amazing benefits, but they also have Crisscross Effects that directly help people make better food choices. So even if food is the primary way to lose weight, this is a vastly better way to increase your odds of making better food choices."
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100 More DWL- Day 46 Disappointment

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.



• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.

I am currently riding a pretty big wave of positivity and outcomes above expectations. But there is one area I am disappointed. My DH, who is my most wonderful and dutiful spouse, I am not feeling close to him, not his fault, we have mostly worked hard at being responsibly dutiful and have together raised confident, industrious and honourable kids, but now that they are out of the nest, I would like to put time into our relationship, he seems to be happy to go on as we have before. One of those cases of me changing and him happy with how things are.

• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.

It doesn't make me want to eat something, that is a good thing.

• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.

I got and continue to have a good life. We don't argue, we just are not as close, sharing our thoughts as I would like to be. I have nothing to complain about in general. Maybe we are modelling for our kids how to get along, how not to have unneccesary drama, how to have a relationship that lasts. I am thinking what to do to make things more fun but not be a nag about what I would like to change.


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- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
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Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
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DAY #46 DISAPPOINTMENT - ROUND 2

I can tell you all right now that I am disappointed that after reading your posts which I loved, but can't remember without taking notes emoticon , I wish I could page down through all of them in order to refresh my memory, but I am only able to see the last post because of how SP has this engine set up. DARN!

Yes, we have all had disappointments in our lives both big and small. In my life I have frequently taken the Black & White perspective on matters. I am a rule follower and a planner. I do not like surprises. I want to be prepared. I need to keep my boundaries rather tight or chaos slips into my mind. I have high expectations of myself according to some people (always do my best and so I ask myself what really can my best be?) and of others.

This all says a lot about who I am and what I have learned to overcome and continue to learn. I have several disappointments starting back on April 21 and continued for several days into the start of May. At first I did not turn to food. I resisted for several days until finally I just didn't have any willpower reserve left!

I don't know how, maybe it was my constant pleading to God for peace of mind, but finally I gave it all up and accepted that "What Will Be Will Be". The weight was suddenly lifted from my shoulders and things have started to fall into place. I have spent the days so far this month working towards regaining my Balance.

What was the "Trade-Off"? Perhaps a lesson in Patience and God's will!

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Day 46 - Disappointment



Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

Today

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
Not reaching my initially set goal weight I set in October 2016 when I started my current journey with SparkPeople.



• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
It took me awhile to accept and understand this disappointment. No, it did make me want to eat. At first, I didn’t understand why I stopped losing pounds at my weekly weigh ins. I kept eating and exercising in a way that I knew I could continue living with as a healthy lifestyle for the rest of my life. I did not want to deprive and starve myself from food or over exercise so much that I harmed my body. It has taken awhile for me to understand what is happening “inside” my body after losing 90 pounds in the last two and a half years (almost a year now in maintenance).

• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.
Not reaching my original goal weight caused me to research and read about “happy weight” and the “set point concept”. I got a better understanding and acceptance of the reality that my body was finished losing weight. I had arrived at the weight that was right for me and it was my body’s way of telling me it was doing its job of keeping my metabolism and systems in balance. I heard it described as the place where weight maintenance meets body confidence. I am feeling great and physically feel better than I have in over 20+ years! I am maintaining my weight at +/- 3% of my center weight and most of the time it is done easily and not a constant struggle. But, I realize I must be vigilant and take corrective action when I get out of my pre-determined +/-3% range.



“One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.” — Henry Ward Beecher

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The most effective sleeping pill--peace of mind.
The main reason my past diets failed--lack of motivation.
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Donna and Phyllis, great posts!

You're both right. We will always have to face disappointments. There's no getting around it. They create stress, sadness, depression. We just need to learn how to deal with them in healthier ways.

This morning as I was sitting in the sunroom - early and drinking a cup of coffee. I asked myself to name 3 things that made me happy, right then. Why? Because it had been an exhausting weekend and I was up early to get ready for work. I started with: 1) bridal veil is in full bloom and beautiful; 2) a hummingbird was at the feeder; 3) such a nice, gentle breeze was coming in the window . . . I went on and on - the smell of the coffee. My GS coming in to say 'Good morning, grandma. See you tonight.' before he left for work. And I thought - You are so blessed. Don't forget the little things!

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Day # 46 Disappointment
I have had many disappointments in my life, some very major and many minor ones.
Today I feel like Gill’s story in the Sunday Spangler about trying to set up a tea and having all the opinions about food enter the picture.

My current problem is in setting up a trip that is suddenly beginning to make me feel like I want to just go off somewhere alone and not deal with the comments.
I do know that none of the problems I’ll encounter will be fixed with food but I also know the urge to “grab something” with each phone call.

Thank heavens for this reminder today to honestly look at the past disappointments. In the grand scheme of things this will be a minor one.
I’ll spend more time in my safe space.

Phyllis ~~
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Day 46 Disappointment

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

Today

I am sure there are others that have happened in the past but I am disappointed and a bit sad that I now can't go for a night away next Sunday as my MiL had a fall yesterday and although she is okay I think we need to stay to support my daughter and as my Hubby said we have a lots of time in the future we can go away.

I did not eat anything last night and will not eat in response to this and in fact as I'd like to go to Weigh In tomorrow I will just keep drinking herbal tea for now.

Not sure if its a “trade-off” but it reminded me how much I appreciate my daughter's help with my MiL and how close my Hubby and I are, he did say that 'I didn't do anything wrong' and I never thought I had so was pleased with this. emoticon emoticon emoticon




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Today

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
Wow, I can think of lots, but let's go with my weigh in this week, it's been fluctuating a lot, and on the UP swing in spite of me eating well.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
no, It made me want to eat less!
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.
New motivation maybe, an "I gotta do something about this NOW!" feeling, so I'll be writing revamping my plan a bit and making sure I get down to business!



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100 More DWL , Day 46 Disappointment

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

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• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.

I was disappointed by my weight on Friday for the summer challenge. Even though I had a good week with successful behaviors: stayng within nutritional allotment, planning ahead for meals and snacks, staying hydrated, working out as much as I could with the restraint of tendonitis in both forearms and wrists, getting enough rest, taking my medicine and staying positive, the scale revealed that I was up .25 of a pound. Of course, that isn't catastrophic, just disappointing because it's going the wrong direction.

It didn't make me want to eat something because I am determined to reach my goal. It is just going to take time because my body releases the weight at its own pace.

What was my 'trade-off' or what I got instead: another lesson in staying the course, the conscious decision to persevere in spite of what the scale showed and an opportunity to develop patience.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

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well done, Phyllis!

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Day # 46 Disappointment
I have had many disappointments in my life, some very major and many many minor ones.
A recent disappointment - a flaw in my glasses for which I had to pay. Now the other side has the same problem.
I do not feel I should pay $106 again when the problem is obviously a flaw in the first place. Their reasoning is the warranty ran out!

My initial response - frustration which turned to anger with # 1 visit.
My second response was to talk to the office manager on another visit to which I explained that if the glasses are so old maybe I need new ones anyway so why invest more money in these. I did mention if I needed new ones I would probably not get them there.
My third response was from the eye doctor who said he will examine my eyes and it will be free.
I have an appointment tomorrow!

My trade off - working through the urge to let it go because it did at times make me feel like a complainer although I knew I was right.
Realizing I didn’t say anything unkind or mean so sometimes it’s necessary to complain.

Phyllis ~~
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Day # 46 Disappointment

Linda reminds us that we understand disappointment all too well and it happens to all of us. She also tells us that "unless you are able to do some healing and nurturing, food will become an easy and appealing solution".

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

I am indeed familiar with disappointments; mostly in my own behavior. The most recent disappointment was just last night. I took my dad to an outdoor concert of Big Band music that I hoped he would enjoy. Although he said Thank You, I don't think he really enjoyed it all that much. My frustrations in planning this outing for him and then carrying the plan out was the cause of my poor eating behavior BEFORE the event. Was I anticipating a disappointing outcome? Was I thinking to myself "After all of this trouble, he probably won't even have a good time!"? Was my eating for some other reason than disappointment since it was BEFORE instead of AFTER?

Well, whatever sparked my poor eating, the trade-off I got is to remember not to plan activities like this for my 91 year old father because these "outings" in new and busy settings always seem to overwhelm him. The other trade-off was that by leaving early I got to go home to the comfort of my own house!

There is always a Sunny Side of every situation that I can be Grateful for!

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Day 46 Disappointment when I have big gains 3-5 during one week - trade-off - new perspective I'll be more careful and aware of food safety and overeating.

Digestion problems and inflammation for several weeks in July. Could be several foods and possibly turkey deli meat spoiled outdoors (TwinCities DH college party 7/21). Feeling better but still on a bland diet with plenty of fluids

Last time I had food poisoning was a year ago at state fair – sick for 2 weeks– IBS and bloating/gain 3-5 pounds. New plan backpack cooler: packaged tuna/salmon, nuts, seeds. and salad greens. Checking food safety during hot summer. www.foodsafety.gov/ u.nu/c3ni u.nu/5nj1

Local fair this week. I live close-by and eat at home. I'm going for exercise and not the food. Walking 2+ hours, time flies-by. Last year I made healthy choices at local fair but not at MN State Fair with group tour - long day (10 hours = 3 travel + 7 walking mostly). I can learn foods to bring along with my sensitive digestion. I can share with DH but we usually play it safe and eat at home.

emoticon Gill and that is a good quote "bail-out - sinking ships". emoticon emoticon
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My most obvious recent disappointment has been discovering that my lovely new flat is right below a man who is a 'problem'. He has drug/drink history and some very unsavoury 'friends' who call at nightfall and stay up making noise all night. I've lost a few nights' sleep with this. Everyone else in the block knows about this - the housing officer knows about this - 'actions' are being taken to get him moved - but it's a long process.

During my disturbed nights, I felt really desperate/upset/angry. I have definitely felt the desire to go to the kitchen and fill myself with toast and tea! But I haven't. I have using deep breathing and relaxation techniques to just 'rest' without sleeping.

I'm not sure what the 'trade off' is - except perhaps allowing myself to have relaxing baths and get to bed early to try to catch up on sleep. I guess a trade-off has been improving my mindfulness practice, and giving me a good reason to focus on creating good vibes for myself and everyone around me. And to strengthen my self-discipline to not eat in response to distress!



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Day 46 Disappointment

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

Today

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.


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