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100 More DWL- Day 46 Disappointment

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.



• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.

I am currently riding a pretty big wave of positivity and outcomes above expectations. But there is one area I am disappointed. My DH, who is my most wonderful and dutiful spouse, I am not feeling close to him, not his fault, we have mostly worked hard at being responsibly dutiful and have together raised confident, industrious and honourable kids, but now that they are out of the nest, I would like to put time into our relationship, he seems to be happy to go on as we have before. One of those cases of me changing and him happy with how things are.

• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.

It doesn't make me want to eat something, that is a good thing.

• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.

I got and continue to have a good life. We don't argue, we just are not as close, sharing our thoughts as I would like to be. I have nothing to complain about in general. Maybe we are modelling for our kids how to get along, how not to have unneccesary drama, how to have a relationship that lasts. I am thinking what to do to make things more fun but not be a nag about what I would like to change.


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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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5/9/19 10:36 A

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DAY #46 DISAPPOINTMENT - ROUND 2

I can tell you all right now that I am disappointed that after reading your posts which I loved, but can't remember without taking notes emoticon , I wish I could page down through all of them in order to refresh my memory, but I am only able to see the last post because of how SP has this engine set up. DARN!

Yes, we have all had disappointments in our lives both big and small. In my life I have frequently taken the Black & White perspective on matters. I am a rule follower and a planner. I do not like surprises. I want to be prepared. I need to keep my boundaries rather tight or chaos slips into my mind. I have high expectations of myself according to some people (always do my best and so I ask myself what really can my best be?) and of others.

This all says a lot about who I am and what I have learned to overcome and continue to learn. I have several disappointments starting back on April 21 and continued for several days into the start of May. At first I did not turn to food. I resisted for several days until finally I just didn't have any willpower reserve left!

I don't know how, maybe it was my constant pleading to God for peace of mind, but finally I gave it all up and accepted that "What Will Be Will Be". The weight was suddenly lifted from my shoulders and things have started to fall into place. I have spent the days so far this month working towards regaining my Balance.

What was the "Trade-Off"? Perhaps a lesson in Patience and God's will!

Sue

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5/6/19 5:33 P

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Day 46 - Disappointment



Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

Today

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
Not reaching my initially set goal weight I set in October 2016 when I started my current journey with SparkPeople.



• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
It took me awhile to accept and understand this disappointment. No, it did make me want to eat. At first, I didn’t understand why I stopped losing pounds at my weekly weigh ins. I kept eating and exercising in a way that I knew I could continue living with as a healthy lifestyle for the rest of my life. I did not want to deprive and starve myself from food or over exercise so much that I harmed my body. It has taken awhile for me to understand what is happening “inside” my body after losing 90 pounds in the last two and a half years (almost a year now in maintenance).

• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.
Not reaching my original goal weight caused me to research and read about “happy weight” and the “set point concept”. I got a better understanding and acceptance of the reality that my body was finished losing weight. I had arrived at the weight that was right for me and it was my body’s way of telling me it was doing its job of keeping my metabolism and systems in balance. I heard it described as the place where weight maintenance meets body confidence. I am feeling great and physically feel better than I have in over 20+ years! I am maintaining my weight at +/- 3% of my center weight and most of the time it is done easily and not a constant struggle. But, I realize I must be vigilant and take corrective action when I get out of my pre-determined +/-3% range.



“One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.” — Henry Ward Beecher

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The worst thing to be without--hope.
The most effective sleeping pill--peace of mind.
The main reason my past diets failed--lack of motivation.
The greatest "shot in the arm"-- encouragement.


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5/6/19 12:05 P

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Day 46 Disappointment with temporary gains.
Several friends and I have birthdays in April
"Trade-offs"
Walk in park or mall, focus on conversation, drink more water to avoid snacking, we love to play cards and board games.


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5/6/19 10:52 A

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Donna and Phyllis, great posts!

You're both right. We will always have to face disappointments. There's no getting around it. They create stress, sadness, depression. We just need to learn how to deal with them in healthier ways.

This morning as I was sitting in the sunroom - early and drinking a cup of coffee. I asked myself to name 3 things that made me happy, right then. Why? Because it had been an exhausting weekend and I was up early to get ready for work. I started with: 1) bridal veil is in full bloom and beautiful; 2) a hummingbird was at the feeder; 3) such a nice, gentle breeze was coming in the window . . . I went on and on - the smell of the coffee. My GS coming in to say 'Good morning, grandma. See you tonight.' before he left for work. And I thought - You are so blessed. Don't forget the little things!

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5/6/19 6:33 A

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Day # 46 Disappointment
I have had many disappointments in my life, some very major and many minor ones.
Today I feel like Gill’s story in the Sunday Spangler about trying to set up a tea and having all the opinions about food enter the picture.

My current problem is in setting up a trip that is suddenly beginning to make me feel like I want to just go off somewhere alone and not deal with the comments.
I do know that none of the problems I’ll encounter will be fixed with food but I also know the urge to “grab something” with each phone call.

Thank heavens for this reminder today to honestly look at the past disappointments. In the grand scheme of things this will be a minor one.
I’ll spend more time in my safe space.

Phyllis ~~
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Day 46 Disappointment

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

Today

I am sure there are others that have happened in the past but I am disappointed and a bit sad that I now can't go for a night away next Sunday as my MiL had a fall yesterday and although she is okay I think we need to stay to support my daughter and as my Hubby said we have a lots of time in the future we can go away.

I did not eat anything last night and will not eat in response to this and in fact as I'd like to go to Weigh In tomorrow I will just keep drinking herbal tea for now.

Not sure if its a “trade-off” but it reminded me how much I appreciate my daughter's help with my MiL and how close my Hubby and I are, he did say that 'I didn't do anything wrong' and I never thought I had so was pleased with this. emoticon emoticon emoticon




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8/22/18 12:21 P

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Today

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
Wow, I can think of lots, but let's go with my weigh in this week, it's been fluctuating a lot, and on the UP swing in spite of me eating well.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
no, It made me want to eat less!
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.
New motivation maybe, an "I gotta do something about this NOW!" feeling, so I'll be writing revamping my plan a bit and making sure I get down to business!



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8/5/18 1:48 P

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100 More DWL , Day 46 Disappointment

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

Today

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.

I was disappointed by my weight on Friday for the summer challenge. Even though I had a good week with successful behaviors: stayng within nutritional allotment, planning ahead for meals and snacks, staying hydrated, working out as much as I could with the restraint of tendonitis in both forearms and wrists, getting enough rest, taking my medicine and staying positive, the scale revealed that I was up .25 of a pound. Of course, that isn't catastrophic, just disappointing because it's going the wrong direction.

It didn't make me want to eat something because I am determined to reach my goal. It is just going to take time because my body releases the weight at its own pace.

What was my 'trade-off' or what I got instead: another lesson in staying the course, the conscious decision to persevere in spite of what the scale showed and an opportunity to develop patience.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

(Arizona - Mountain Standard Time)

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well done, Phyllis!

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8/2/18 5:40 P

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Day # 46 Disappointment
I have had many disappointments in my life, some very major and many many minor ones.
A recent disappointment - a flaw in my glasses for which I had to pay. Now the other side has the same problem.
I do not feel I should pay $106 again when the problem is obviously a flaw in the first place. Their reasoning is the warranty ran out!

My initial response - frustration which turned to anger with # 1 visit.
My second response was to talk to the office manager on another visit to which I explained that if the glasses are so old maybe I need new ones anyway so why invest more money in these. I did mention if I needed new ones I would probably not get them there.
My third response was from the eye doctor who said he will examine my eyes and it will be free.
I have an appointment tomorrow!

My trade off - working through the urge to let it go because it did at times make me feel like a complainer although I knew I was right.
Realizing I didn’t say anything unkind or mean so sometimes it’s necessary to complain.

Phyllis ~~
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8/2/18 12:20 P

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Day # 46 Disappointment

Linda reminds us that we understand disappointment all too well and it happens to all of us. She also tells us that "unless you are able to do some healing and nurturing, food will become an easy and appealing solution".

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

I am indeed familiar with disappointments; mostly in my own behavior. The most recent disappointment was just last night. I took my dad to an outdoor concert of Big Band music that I hoped he would enjoy. Although he said Thank You, I don't think he really enjoyed it all that much. My frustrations in planning this outing for him and then carrying the plan out was the cause of my poor eating behavior BEFORE the event. Was I anticipating a disappointing outcome? Was I thinking to myself "After all of this trouble, he probably won't even have a good time!"? Was my eating for some other reason than disappointment since it was BEFORE instead of AFTER?

Well, whatever sparked my poor eating, the trade-off I got is to remember not to plan activities like this for my 91 year old father because these "outings" in new and busy settings always seem to overwhelm him. The other trade-off was that by leaving early I got to go home to the comfort of my own house!

There is always a Sunny Side of every situation that I can be Grateful for!

Sue

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Day 46 Disappointment when I have big gains 3-5 during one week - trade-off - new perspective I'll be more careful and aware of food safety and overeating.

Digestion problems and inflammation for several weeks in July. Could be several foods and possibly turkey deli meat spoiled outdoors (TwinCities DH college party 7/21). Feeling better but still on a bland diet with plenty of fluids

Last time I had food poisoning was a year ago at state fair – sick for 2 weeks– IBS and bloating/gain 3-5 pounds. New plan backpack cooler: packaged tuna/salmon, nuts, seeds. and salad greens. Checking food safety during hot summer. www.foodsafety.gov/ u.nu/c3ni u.nu/5nj1

Local fair this week. I live close-by and eat at home. I'm going for exercise and not the food. Walking 2+ hours, time flies-by. Last year I made healthy choices at local fair but not at MN State Fair with group tour - long day (10 hours = 3 travel + 7 walking mostly). I can learn foods to bring along with my sensitive digestion. I can share with DH but we usually play it safe and eat at home.

emoticon Gill and that is a good quote "bail-out - sinking ships". emoticon emoticon
emoticon Cat emoticon one my favorites to keep me moving forward emoticon emoticon

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My most obvious recent disappointment has been discovering that my lovely new flat is right below a man who is a 'problem'. He has drug/drink history and some very unsavoury 'friends' who call at nightfall and stay up making noise all night. I've lost a few nights' sleep with this. Everyone else in the block knows about this - the housing officer knows about this - 'actions' are being taken to get him moved - but it's a long process.

During my disturbed nights, I felt really desperate/upset/angry. I have definitely felt the desire to go to the kitchen and fill myself with toast and tea! But I haven't. I have using deep breathing and relaxation techniques to just 'rest' without sleeping.

I'm not sure what the 'trade off' is - except perhaps allowing myself to have relaxing baths and get to bed early to try to catch up on sleep. I guess a trade-off has been improving my mindfulness practice, and giving me a good reason to focus on creating good vibes for myself and everyone around me. And to strengthen my self-discipline to not eat in response to distress!



Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 8/2/2018 (07:16)
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Day 46 Disappointment

Whenever you feel disappointed because something didn’t go the way you wanted, look for the trade-off you got instead. Maybe you learned or experienced something new. Perhaps a different opportunity or item showed up instead of the one you wanted so badly. Instead of letting a disappointment pull you into despair, search for the trade-offs and give yourself a new perspective.

Today

• Write down a recent disappointment. It can be a small one or a larger, life disappointment.
• Record your initial response, including whether it made you want to eat something.
• Look for a “trade-off” or what you got instead. Describe this in detail.


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