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DAY #71 SETBACK OR FAILURE - ROUND 2

I have felt like a failure many times! Any time I FAIL to follow my food and fitness plan can be thought of as a failure. This can happen any given day and/or several days a week and/or for a period of indefinite time. Setbacks can make me lose my motivation and cause me to feel like giving up. This attitude can be absolutely deflating! I too realized, as did Linda, that I had to change my viewpoint and label these times as setbacks instead of failures.

I was just on a mini-vacation of 5 days when I was unable to follow my healthy eating and fitness schedule. Did I fail? NO I DID NOT! It was a setback and as soon as I got home I got right back on my plan. Overcoming a setback doesn't have to take a long time. Some how my brain and body seems to know when it is time to "get back at it". It is a mystery to me. One day I finally find I have the mental strength again to take that first necessary step and I just do it.

I really DO CARE about my goals and health and I will not let a setback ruin my efforts. I will embrace the time as a learning opportunity and a period of renewal! I am getting better at recovering more quickly these days.

Edited by: FUNLOVEN at: 6/24/2019 (13:16)
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Day 71 - Setback or failure



A setback doesn’t have to ruin your weight-loss efforts. Instead of considering it a disaster, view a setback as a gift. Let it be a time of learning and renewal, rather than a dent in your belief that you can be successful.

Today

• Recall a time when you’ve had a setback. Write about how you handled it.
• Create a setback plan you can pull out quickly when you need it.
• Pretend you’ve had a setback, then start using your new plan. Record your thoughts.

No need for me to pretend I have had a set back...I’m right in the middle of one right now. I’ve been having a rough week or so of just not sticking with my plan and program. Not exercising...not tracking food and fitness...5 extra pounds showed up on the scale...not logging into Spark everyday...feeling very tired and not sleeping enough hours or sleeping well...falling behind on my 100 Days work. I think I am 4-5 days behind at the moment.

There has been an overwhelming amount of stress in my life that has drained my energy. I also feel digging deep into all the emotional issues and writing about them has taken its toll. I feel like I need to have a break from all the thinking about emotions...take a week long holiday and rest...

I do view what is happening to me as a set back...I don’t want to give up and go back to living my unhealthy lifestyle.

MY SETBACK PLAN

Recovery period - Give myself the time I need to recover so I can get back on track.

Emotions - Express my emotions: cry, be angry, feel the discouragement and frustration. Pound a pillow if it helps.

Move on after recovery period ends - I will know when it ends and I am ready to get back on track again. I will “Just Do It!”

Return to what worked for me in the past - I will go read my “Now Plan” that I’ve written in my blog. These are all the things I have learned along the way on my get healthy journey and have followed to get to my healthy lifestyle and lose weight. I know what works...I just need to do it! Here is my link:
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Review the reasons why I wanted to lose weight.

Remind myself that I really care about my goals and health!

Let my setback be a time of learning and renewal!









~~~MARILYN ~~~
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The most effective sleeping pill--peace of mind.
The main reason my past diets failed--lack of motivation.
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Day 71 Setback or failure

A setback doesn�t have to ruin your weight-loss efforts. Instead of considering it a disaster, view a setback as a gift. Let it be a time of learning and renewal, rather than a dent in your belief that you can be successful.

Today

� Recall a time when you�ve had a setback. Write about how you handled it.
� Create a setback plan you can pull out quickly when you need it.
� Pretend you�ve had a setback, then start using your new plan. Record your thoughts.




� Recall a time when you�ve had a setback. Write about how you handled it.

I had a medical procedure that dictated that I not do heavy exercise for 6 weeks.
I love to hike weekly, and to run and was going to a very enjoyable Cross Fit class at the time. I wasn't allowed to do any of those things. I feel blue if I can't exercise. Plus I gain weight. Plus I was part of a 5% challenge, and didn't want to let down my team mates by not contributing exercise points.

I decided to spend 120 minutes per day just walking, which doesn't seem like exercise because it is so easy, and I gained a new appreciation for walking as exercise.
Setbacks are opportunities. I planned new routes in my walking-from-home area and enjoyed the scenery and the company of my dogs.


� Create a setback plan you can pull out quickly when you need it.

Setbacks are opportunities to try something different.


� Pretend you�ve had a setback, then start using your new plan. Record your thoughts.

After I let myself explore the disappointment and let go of what the setback prevents me from doing, I look at other ways to move forward, try something new, or do something along the same lines but not exactly the same. I plan to reflect and plan and the implement the plan. Taking adaptive action is part of the healing.


Thinking in general, my examples seem pretty superficial compared to the suffering and life events others on this challenge have shared. I am very grateful for how my life has turned out so far.


Edited by: JUNEPA at: 6/15/2019 (13:50)
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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
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I no longer view any slip-ups as 'failures' - but as chances to review and get back up again.

I had stronger resolve today - I drank more water. I had a herbal tea at lunch instead of black tea (which apparently blocks the absorption of some vitamins). I did a 20 min workout and I went for a 45 min walk after tea this evening. I stuck to my plan food-wise. I prepared some healthy stuff for tomorrow (I made hummus and a spiced lentil soup).

It's been a good day!
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Well I'm trying to think that my recent inactivity with the team has been a "pause" rather than a setback (although I've gained a few pounds) or failure. I think a failure is something that is past, it is over, done.....and it can't be undone. If you can still undo it; it is a setback or a pause, not a failure.

Does that make sense to anyone but me? I haven't failed just because I am up from my goal weight but I guess that is a setback....caused by a pause?

It absolutely does not mean that I'm giving up though!

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I think 'failure' would be to simply give up. No way!

Setback is a small 'slip' and it happens to everyone. It can be remedied. I can work on it. I can overcome it. I can learn from it.

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Day #71 Setback or failure
The past week has been a vacation “pause” for me.
When I think of setback or failure the thing that comes to mind is generally something physical that I can’t fix (problems with my feet) or something that puts me in a bad mood that I find hard to get over.
In reality it can also be a fun vacation but I must let it go and get back to what works if I want to have a happy healthy life.
Today:
I will drink water
I will eat 5 servings of vegetables
I will check sodium levels in my choices
I will get enough sleep
In other words, I’ll get back to “normal”!


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Back-up plan - Scale up 5# or not budging for several weeks -
Evaluate :
Nutrition Plan, Digestion, Water Intake, Hunger Signals, Sleep & Stress Hormones. (overcame 40# regain 3 years ago, still more to learn about nutrition)

2018 Program: Essential Nutrients in plant strong whole foods (gradually eliminate dairy/grains/nightshades/processed foods etc.). Healthy fats in avocado, coconut & olive oils. Limiting animal products to Omega 3 fish 2- 3x /week or nutrient packed liver 3-4x /month. Best carbs - dark green leaves! Stay fat-adapted (burn fat) and Feel good by going longer periods without food.

When I want to reduce - *Commit* to plan (consistency counts). If I have several days leeway ***Recommit***. It’s getting easier by working on healthy behaviors. Trust intuition * Listen to Body * Learn Metabolic Flexibility - burn stored fat and utilized nutrients- healthy fats, high-quality proteins, and carbs for dietary fiber (sweet potatoes & green bananas) Prebiotics sauerkraut + Probiotic Digestive Advantage
Check essential nutrients - amino & fatty acids + vitamins & minerals bit.ly/2P1UcUs
Eat Instinctively - when I'm hungry - Stop satisfied. Store leftovers safely for another day. Recognize true hunger signals in the throat. Growling in my stomach is relieved with water.

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100 More DWL, Day 71 Setback or failure

A setback doesn’t have to ruin your weight-loss efforts. Instead of considering it a disaster, view a setback as a gift. Let it be a time of learning and renewal, rather than a dent in your belief that you can be successful.

Today

• Recall a time when you’ve had a setback. Write about how you handled it.
• Create a setback plan you can pull out quickly when you need it.
• Pretend you’ve had a setback, then start using your new plan. Record your thoughts.

In the past, if I had a setback, I quit any effort to lose weight. I haven't had any setbacks since I got started again, but if I do I will be grateful for a further lesson in how to manage my lifestyle.

I know I can be successful.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

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8/29/18 3:15 P

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Sue.....enjoy your vacation......relax.....don’t beat yourself up......start again next week emoticon

One day at a time!


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8/29/18 12:21 P

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Today

• Recall a time when you’ve had a setback. Write about how you handled it.
Hm... how about over the last 2 weeks? I've slacked off my exercising and not been diligent about tracking my food or drinking water. the result is that my weight is already up 3 lbs. :/
• Create a setback plan you can pull out quickly when you need it.
I write out what I'm doing wrong (bullet journals are great for revamping plans :) then write out what I can do that's right, to myself back in the groove.
• Pretend you’ve had a setback, then start using your new plan. Record your thoughts.
I did, and I am.

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8/29/18 7:43 A

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Day #71 Setback Or Failure?

Several of us seem to be having some struggles right now!

Gloria could have written my post for this lesson. I can relate to Phyllis's angst about aging. I loved Cat's picture of Thomas The Train falling off the track. I saved the Mindful Eating Cycle that Maribeth posted. And, like Gill, I am struggling with doing what I know will bring me success!

Does this make us failures? NO IT DOES NOT! ! ! We are still here reading, posting, sharing, supporting. We may have fallen down, but we are all getting back up, brushing off the dust, and moving on.

I familiar with feeling like a failure. It is a mind-set that is so engrained in my head. I also know I need to get over that kind of thinking. I am struggling with the decision to cut myself some slack and give myself a recovery period as Linda suggests. I feel like the obstacles I have to face while on vacation are too many - no time too exercise, salty restaurant food (my rings are already feeling tight after just 2 days), DH's influence about drink/food choices, not enough water throughout the day, and limited time here with my team mates.

Yesterday I vowed I would skip desert and have less beer. That didn't really happen. I substituted wine for the beer and sweet treats offered at the hotel in place of desert after dinner.

Today I will do better! I AM NOT A FAILURE!


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8/27/18 11:01 A

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Gill....I love home grown tomatoes, haven’t had any home grown yet this year. I know what you mean about fingers....I have the worst gnarly knuckles, someone even asked me if I had lupus.

Phyllis.....sometimes we do have a change of plans, but your positive attitude will get you through this emoticon


One day at a time!


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Phyllis ~~
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Getting older is no picnic. I have tender/soreness in my left elbow (like tennis elbow) and right middle finger. These two combined have made several things difficult and given me insight into how it is to live with arthritis.

It's great that you are doing what you can do. The balance class sounds good.

Gill

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Day #71 Setback or failure
Honestly I have been feeling a minor setback lately. When I began this book, because I’m in a relatively good place with food, I decided to work on exercise.
So, I signed up for my first 5K in probably 5 years. I’m finding I honestly won’t be able to accomplish it because of issues surfacing that are out of my control.
At this point I am definitely feeling my age and having trouble with it because it begins to change everything.

For today, from lesson 71, I need to remember this:
A setback doesn't have to ruin your weight-loss efforts. Instead of considering it a disaster, view a setback as a gift. Let it be a time of learning and renewal, rather than a dent in your belief that you can be successful.

I’m signed up for an 8-week class “A Matter of Balance” at the hospital.
I will go for a check up with the heart doctor this week.
I will continue to do what I can and stop looking at what I can’t.
I will NOT eat my way out of this setback!
I will NOT use this setback as an excuse to do nothing!

Phyllis ~~
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You're not alone, Gloria! I seem to have two main patterns (1) I start the day raring to go, get out for a run, get the laundry on, have a good breakfast, do the shopping etc etc or (2) I start the day feeling down, and it takes me until about 3pm to start feeling OK.

Of course, having a job means that I get up and go through the motions whatever mood I'm in, and when I'm at work, my own needs often go on hold.

A new day is always welcome.

Just writing my entry for today helped me - I have a split shift today, which means I go back to work in a couple of hours' time, for the evening - I didn't feel like doing ANYTHING when I got home. I DID feel like eating something - but I didn't! I had a nice coffee. After I Sparked here, I wrote my 'to do' list for tomorrow, then decided to put on a Jessica Smith indoor walking DVD and just do 1 mile. I did that - and then found I had the motivation to go into town and get a birthday card and gift for a friend who I will see tomorrow evening (her birthday is on Wednesday). When I came home, someone had left me a little bag of tomatoes that have been grown out on the shared patio area here. That felt so nice.

I will have my lunch now. Then pack up my dinner to take to work - AND MY WATER BOTTLE!

Having a plan of how you are going to break the cycle of turning to food, is great.
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Now I'm heading for lunch

Gill

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Wow....it seems like I have setbacks everyday! In the morning I have this positive attitude about my day.....telling myself I will walk, drink water, eat healthy. What happens to that mood? What changes?
A stress call from my sister, a friend who wants to share, family members who have a millennium attitude, worried about someone’s health, my daughters new move?
I know things will happen to make me turn to food, but I have to be strong enough to think about my health and take a walk instead. Today is a new day and I am strong, and will make healthy choices.
I love this team, and all the support I receive here!........Great therapy! Thanks! emoticon

One day at a time!


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"A setback doesn’t have to ruin your weight-loss efforts. Instead of considering it a disaster, view a setback as a gift. Let it be a time of learning and renewal, rather than a dent in your belief that you can be successful."

Thank you, Linda!


I feel like I am having a setback at the moment. Where I was keen to run three times a week, a whole week has passed and I've not wanted to run. Where I was doing daily strength training, I've not wanted to do it. I've been taking my water bottle to work and not filling it. Where I used to take 15 mins in the morning to sit on the doorstep with coffee and be mindful, I've been taking my coffee back to bed.

I could go on.........!

But there are lots of things I am doing right too! I am planning my meals, eating healthily, getting enough sleep, reading, doing yoga or walking most days.

My plan to reboot starts with:

Writing my Bullet Journal before bed to include at least one exercise I will do
- Yoga, run, walk, Pilates, ST, swim, other.....
Setting my clock so I have time for mindful coffee first thing
Fill my water bottle after breakfast & lunch
Check in with Spark here!



Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 8/27/2018 (06:19)
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Setback plan:

-love myself enough to forgive myself
-self nurturing activities
-pre-plan meals for the day
-drink plenty of water


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Day 71 Setback or failure

A setback doesn’t have to ruin your weight-loss efforts. Instead of considering it a disaster, view a setback as a gift. Let it be a time of learning and renewal, rather than a dent in your belief that you can be successful.

Today

• Recall a time when you’ve had a setback. Write about how you handled it.
• Create a setback plan you can pull out quickly when you need it.
• Pretend you’ve had a setback, then start using your new plan. Record your thoughts.

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