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DAY #79 REBELLION - ROUND 2

I can see myself soooo clearly in this lesson! I underlined several of the very same sentences as I did last round. But wait! Am I really rebellious?

In my last post I wrote about my bratty inner child and that I was angry about all of the requirements in order to lose weight. I remember those feelings of anger. That was my past self!

Today I do not feel rebellious or angry. Today I have more feelings of sadness and grief - as if I am grieving the loss of a good friend. Yes. Today I have come to accept that if I want to lose weight I have got to "follow the rules" instead of always fighting against them because as Linda asked Gina in today's lesson: "So how is rebellion working for you? Isit making you happy or peaceful in life?" No. Being angry in my life has not served me well.

Gina's response was "I guess it's time to stop rebelling, but I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DO THAT." I don't think Linda gave an especially helpful answer; a quick fix answer. Working on our weak self-esteem and lack of believing in ourselves is hard and can take a life time! We don't have a life time! We want to see results now! To feel strong and confident now!

I asked myself - Have I made any progress in this area? Yes. I think I have. I do not always manage stress, challenges, conferences, and social events without needing food as a coping solution, but I am getting better at it!

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Day 79 - Rebellion



Do you see yourself as a strong, vibrant, healthy person? One who manages stress, challenges, conferences and social events without needing food as a coping solution? Let go of any negative identity and start viewing yourself as a positive, successful person.

Today



• Write about times you rebel or feel resentful in your weight-loss efforts.

“Resentment is that feeling of doing things that you just don’t want to do, yet feel obligated to do.  When I feel resentment, I feel as if I am being childish.”

These are some of my resentful thoughts:

- I like to eat and don’t always want to follow my diet rules (angry, rebellious child)

- Don’t like giving up sugar, sweets & desserts but do it anyway for health reasons

- It feels unfair when I compare myself to others and think how hard I have to work to keep my weight off and see their slim bodies they keep with little effort...guess it is in the genes

- Part of me is tired of all the planning and control required to maintain my weight



• Define your positive identity with words such as strong, vibrant and healthy.
I am healthy, physically strong like a man, positive and uplifting, creative and curious, comfortable in my body, fun, happy, takes care of myself and others, honest, good intuition.



• Live in that identity today and record how it changes your behaviors

It gave me a strong, cheerful outlook as I went about my tasks and a feeling “I can do anything I set my mind to do.” Feeling very motivated and inspired.



~~~MARILYN ~~~
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The worst thing to be without--hope.
The most effective sleeping pill--peace of mind.
The main reason my past diets failed--lack of motivation.
The greatest "shot in the arm"-- encouragement.


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6/21/19 1:23 A

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Day 79 Rebellion

Do you see yourself as a strong, vibrant, healthy person? One who manages stress, challenges, conferences and social events without needing food as a coping solution? Let go of any negative identity and start viewing yourself as a positive, successful person.

Today

• Write about times you rebel or feel resentful in your weight-loss efforts.
• Define your positive identity with words such as strong, vibrant and healthy.
• Live in that identity today and record how it changes your behaviors.


• Write about times you rebel or feel resentful in your weight-loss efforts.

Rebellion is my most dominant form of self-sabotage. When I weigh every day, day after day and carefully plan and track what I eat, and I hit plateaus, (plateaux) before losing enough to get to goal weight, or even if I am happy with a plateau for the moment, I get weary of having to put so much effort into weight management and I rebel and eat what I want usually feeling deliciously and intensely happy that I have broken free of the oppression of planning, weighing, tracking. I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, my inner self rejoices at the moment. It is better to live with some intensity than in the grey world of oppressive and often non-rewarding duty, says the rebel. So the question is, would I rather eat what I want when I want or would I rather live at optimum fitness and weight.

• Define your positive identity with words such as strong, vibrant and healthy.

I have never as an adult succeeded at being at optimum weight and fitness. Well once I reached my goal weight and stayed there for 6 months in 2011, but I wasn't at goal fitness.
So I do see myself as an overweight, sad woman who always fails at managing her weight.
I have made gains in eating healthier and being fitter, and in rarely bingeing. So I have made gains, but I have not reached the prize yet, optimum weight and fitness.

To positively identify myself as strong, vibrant and healthy would feel like a fraud. I feel like I am gaining skills and momentum, and moving towards my goal. I just want to keep trying to build better habits until I get to my goal. It does make me feel defeated that something like reaching goal weight is so hard. It should be way easier than breaking other bad habits, because our bodies need calories, by simple math, eating less calories than our bodies need is the key to losing weight. Simple. And yet, not easy for me.


• Live in that identity today and record how it changes your behaviors.

Can't say I can do that yet. But still trying to get there.

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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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6/20/19 3:14 P

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I think my previous post still stands really......... I'm not overweight, but whenever my weight goes under 8 stone (112lbs) it seems to creep back up to 8 stone 3lbs (115lbs). I have plenty of fat around my middle - but for some reason, I find it really hard to lose that and keep it off.

This is largely due to the fact that I 'rebel' in a quiet way (I don't think of it as rebellion, but reading through this lesson I can see that it is, kind of) by having an extra handful of nuts, skipping my exercises, not pushing myself harder with exercises that would tone my muscles up, and having 'treat days' at the weekend.

I'm not quite sure whether there is any difference between self-sabotage and rebellion.......... except that perhaps 'rebellion' comes from a more resentful place.

What do you think? I'm getting a bit tangled up with the words I think.

And is 'rebellion' what happens when you have an emotional eating binge?

Here are some self-sabotage resources from Psychology Today - and listed in the 'must reads' are things about rebellion and resentment.
www.psychologytoday.com/gb/b
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6/20/19 8:57 A

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I read 'weak self esteem' and thought - oh, yes. I can relate to that.

I've definitely caught myself eating something that isn't on my plan. Sometimes, quite often actually, I do it mindlessly. But sometimes I do it. Then stop and tell myself - you know better. You don't need that (and I don't). You're better than that. BUT the fact is for years I had low self esteem. Thankfully that's all changing but it doesn't happen overnight.

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6/20/19 5:36 A

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Day 79: Rebellion
Although I didn’t relate to the stories in today’s lesson, there are times when I do go back to old habits. Just recently when I was on vacation I ate all kinds of things (mostly fried) that I don’t include in my daily life now.
There are always excuses especially when we travel but this time it was much easier to go back to healthy cooking and eating when I got home. Luckily most days I was active so no real weight gain which helps to not get discouraged.

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9/5/18 8:02 A

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Day #79 Rebellion

I first recognized my bratty inner child when a Spark friend mentioned Steve Siebold's lessons on weight loss at fatloser.com My inner child wants to do whatever she feels like doing! She is still in there. I have a difficult time shutting her up. Although less so, she is still angry and resentful about dieting and that she can't have the foods she wants and eat whatever she feels like.

It takes a lot of energy to keep the lid on my inner child. I get so tired of having to watch everything I eat and pay attention to ever stinking detail. It not only takes a lot of energy, it takes the fun out of eating. Eventually I rebel and decide to eat as much as I want of whatever food I'm thinking about.

This approach and attitude are OBVIOUSLY NOT WORKING for me!

I know I am a strong and vibrant woman. My inner child proves how strong I am! However, I must still have some weakness remaining in my self-esteem and lack of believing in myself, because I still fine myself struggling to manage stress, challenges, and social events.

FOOD IS NOT THE ANSWER.

I AM A STRONG, VIBRANT, POSITIVE, SUCCESSFUL, HEALTHY WOMAN!

It is time to channel that bratty inner child and her anger towards achieving my weight loss goal.

Sue

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9/5/18 6:04 A

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I’m with you....Gill introduced me to the No S diet, looking forward to that one day in the week when you can have a favorite helps to maintain the rest of the week!

One day at a time!


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9/4/18 1:02 P

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• Write about times you rebel or feel resentful in your weight-loss efforts.
When I rebel and feel the 'most' resentful is when I see someone I've known for years and they are still thin!! They used to eat anything and everything. Makes me wonder if they still do and can remain slim - or looking trim. When I was younger I wasn't 'slim' but I wasn't heavy either. I'm 5' 8", 'big boned' and have a 'German' build. We are not small people. That's fine with me. But It always used to bother me when someone else didn't appear to have to watch what they ate. Now that I'm an adult and overweight I wonder if they did actually pay attention to what they ate and only ate junk food when we were out. Possible.


• Define your positive identity with words such as strong, vibrant and healthy.
I do consider myself strong and fairly positive. I'm definitely not a pessimist. I look for the positive in things. I'm working on becoming more and more healthy every day.


I have found that for me I cannot deny myself certain foods - meaning 'I'll never eat another Snickers, or bowl of ice cream, or nuts . . . .' That simply doesn't work for me. I have to allow myself to have something that isn't considered healthy from time to time. That's what most of you have said too. If only I had figured that out years ago I could have saved myself some 'gains.' I would decide to go on a 'diet' and tell myself no pasta, no bread, no Snickers (Oh how I love them!), if it's good - don't eat it. I am not doing that today. Lost 1/2# last week. Definitely did not overeat or eat unhealthy. I'm a slow loser, but I'm losing and reaching a healthier weight.

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I agree. I so appreciate people sharing their experiences and ideas.

Gill

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9/4/18 9:24 A

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Great ideas girls! I like ......Saturday’s coming.......looking forward to something. I like channeling your inner warrior because she is always there. And I like focusing on something positive......I’ll choose patience and strength.

So today when I’m tempted to sit on the couch or look in the cupboards at my husband’s food, I’ll reread the last paragraph. So appreciate everyone here! emoticon

One day at a time!


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Day 79 - Rebellion

We all do it in some way or form throughout our lives. Some with passion, right out there, going for it....others with stealth. It seems like anger is always behind it in some way..

I have learned that something needs to change if I feel the need to rebel against my program. Usually it has been ME needing to change my attitude! Sometimes it means a tweak in the program though. I had to stop saying NEVER; I had to learn to say STOP; I had to learn to tell myself that I could eat it...on weekends. No S was one of my tweaks..I really didn't change my program. Same calorie range, same healthy foods, at least some exercise daily but.....stopped saying NEVER and started telling myself to plan a treat, a larger meal or a snack on weekend days and for special events.

No need to rebel now. Somehow I knew I could eat treats if I planned them but....I just tried to plan them into every day. Now it has become easy to tell myself, "Saturday's coming!"

Edited by: LIVINTODAY at: 9/4/2018 (13:29)
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Rebellion usually happens in the form of someone else telling me what not to eat, my husband would constantly criticize how fast I eat, for example and for some reason I'd find myself eating more and more to dull the pain.



For my motivation words, I will focus on my tattoo....Strength and Courage

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Rebellion and sabotage can easily slip into each other shoes I think............. that anger and resentment about 'dieting' can go in several directions!

Sometimes, my anger and resentment can fuel rebellion in a positive way - like being absolutely determined not to eat any the birthday cake when EVERYONE ELSE is eating it!

Sometimes, my anger and resentment can fuel rebellion in a negative way - like going home after the party and eating a bar of chocolate to 'spite' the cake-eaters! hahahahaha!

There are two sides to most things......... rebellion. I choose to channel my inner warrior to fight for health and well-being!


Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 9/4/2018 (04:39)
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Day 79 Rebellion against trigger food - Fight cravings
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Day 79 Rebellion

Do you see yourself as a strong, vibrant, healthy person? One who manages stress, challenges, conferences and social events without needing food as a coping solution? Let go of any negative identity and start viewing yourself as a positive, successful person.

Today

• Write about times you rebel or feel resentful in your weight-loss efforts.

• Define your positive identity with words such as strong, vibrant and healthy.

• Live in that identity today and record how it changes your behaviors.

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