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Day 88 - Junk in the backyard



Digging around in junk every day doesn’t make you better. If you need to, once in a while go look into the backyard and say, “Yes, that’s a lot of junk!” Then leave it there, close the door, and go back to your flowers.

Today



1. Create a short list of junk items or events in your “backyard”.

CLOTHES - the old oversized after weight loss clothes in my closet because I am not that plus sized person any more, but sometimes I still feel like I am...






BASEMENT - the basement filled with family memories from over the years trigger many conflicting emotions...


GARAGE - garage that is filled with boxes of so many things it is hard for me to find things when I need it...


2. Write the words, “That’s all junk and I’m leaving it there.”

For the household things - Wish I could just say “That’s all junk and I’m leaving it there.” But I know I need to take action and declutter not only those 3 areas of my home but downsize to a more minimalist way of living so I have less to manage and take care of, especially because I am getting older.

For emotional junk, I need to live in the present! The past is long gone so learn from things that happened and move forward. For the future, don’t worry unnecessarily about the future. I need to let go of old ideas about my body which is a lot harder than sorting through my old clothes! But, I am working on it!



3. Create a list of flowers or beautiful things in your front yard.

-Beautiful summer blooming flowers are really in both front and back yards
-Family, friends, and pets
-Being outdoors, enjoying sunshine, nature and the changing seasons
-Butterflies, birds, angels, music, dancing, rainbows, sunrises, sunsets, stars
-Being grateful for all I have
-SparkPeople and how it has helped me get healthy and change my life

I’m feeling it is time to take back my life, get rid of all this accumulated emotional junk surrounding unneeded items in my life, and stop being affected by all the negative thoughts and feelings.



Edited by: YOUNG-AT-HEART at: 7/7/2019 (11:41)
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Day 88 Junk in the backyard

Digging around in junk every day doesn’t make you better. If you need to, once in a while go look into the backyard and say, “Yes, that’s a lot of junk!” Then leave it there, close the door, and go back to your flowers.

• Create a short list of junk items or events in your “backyard.”
Apart from my sometimes challenging eating habits which I will leave there sometimes!
Sometimes I am saddened by my MiL's other children's relationship with their Mum as they don't really see her that often (at least one of them though she is a farmer's wife so busy) and the other busy sometimes and doesn't talk to her when she visits just to the rest of us! She thinks she can't hear but need time to process things sometimes.

• Write the words, “That’s all junk and I’m leaving it there.”

• Create a list of flowers or beautiful things in your front yard.
With this issue the real flowers are my children, her grandchildren's relationship with my MiL is really SO MUCH better than it was in the past; She is so comfortable here, she laughs a lot, she is so settled and secure here and if a little spoilt, but then at almost 92 why not, the flowers are plentiful!

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Day 88 Junk in the backyard

Digging around in junk every day doesn’t make you better. If you need to, once in a while go look into the backyard and say, “Yes, that’s a lot of junk!” Then leave it there, close the door, and go back to your flowers.

Today

• Create a short list of junk items or events in your “backyard.”

I have a lot of literal junk. Too much stuff in my house and yard.
I have a lot less mental and relationship junk.
I am not close to my oldest sister, in fact we clash. It would be nice to have a better relationship with her.
It would also be nice to have a better relationship with youngest DD



• Write the words, “That’s all junk and I’m leaving it there.”

I tend to confront junk issues rather than leave them there. Sometimes I do leave them there, for example with youngest DD, whom I see every day, and I be pleasantly superficial with her because that's how she likes it. I think to myself, that is for now, hopefully in the future we can improve our relationship


• Create a list of flowers or beautiful things in your front yard.

I feel very fortunate with how my life has turned out.
I do tend to not address material clutter enough and I rationalize this by telling myself that my kids and DH are all doing well and that is most important. Today Linda gives me license to do just that, leave my back yard clutter and enjoy the front yard flowers :) :) :)

- good health, due in part to the effort I put into fitness and nutrition and part to genetics, and in part to good fortune
- a great DH, and this is fortunate, one never knows at the beginning of a relationship, but almost all my surprises in getting to know him better have been good
- thriving and healthy kids, partly due to DH's and my parenting efforts, but also very much fortunate because they also have made their own choices
- country living, I love living where I do
- beautiful surroundings, mountains, rivers and streams, lakes :)
- gratitude at being born at a time when women are very free
- gratitude at living in a free and democratic country
- enjoyable and interesting friends



Edited by: JUNEPA at: 7/3/2019 (15:35)
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7/3/19 12:25 P

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I think one of my junk in the backyard things is the way my family referred to my body when I was a teenager...................... an impressionable age.

Looking back, I can see clearly that I was never fat - but I felt it!

I remember my mum highlighting the fact that my "little boobies" were starting to show. I have been embarrassed about showing my breasts all my adult life! I've kept sweaters on long after I've got too hot because I was embarrassed that my nipples might show through my t-shift. Now that I've got a nice collection of 't-shirt' bras I'm much more confident. When I was younger the only options were padded bras - and I didn't want them as I had quite enough padding of my own! Hooray for modern materials that are light, moulded and seam-free!

I remember my dad commenting on me having what he thought were too many baths - saying "you can't wash it off" meaning my 'fat'.

I remember my brother saying that it was only my jeans 'holding me in'

It sounds like such small stuff, but it's still there 50 yrs later, and it still 'stinks' as Linda says!

The effect now is that even when people tell me I'm small and slim, I still don't believe them because under my shirt I have soft, flabby stuff around my middle. I cover it up all the time.

There's a lot of information now about the dangers of having this abdominal fat - even on slim people. I know what I need to do - and I have started 'planting flowers in the front garden'

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Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 7/3/2019 (12:25)
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7/3/19 8:17 A

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DAY #88 JUNK IN THE BACKYARD - ROUND 2

This lesson comes as an appropriate time for me as I had a bit of a binge last night. I think there will always be some kind of "junk" in our backyards. I do still seem to spend what I feel is a lot of time in contemplation about myself, life, and rehashing why I continue to make the same mistakes over and over again (especially with my weight loss journey).

I would prefer to be in action to solve the problem instead of always contemplating the problem. Linda tells us that "no matter what we do, we can't get rid of those bad things" -

* * * but that I can make them lighter, less noticeable, less often by acknowledging and accepting my mistakes, taking a deep breath, and walking out the front door into a new day of strong resolve.

So that is what I am going to take away from this lesson today. I feel that Linda seems to think we are all full of an unending supply of emotional baggage and I disagree.

THAT'S ALL JUNK AND I'M LEAVING IT THERE! It's about not dwelling on the past, but looking to the future and moving forwards with a positive spirit.


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Day #88 Junk in the backyard
Ditto the post from this lesson last time. I had a very long lunch with Tina yesterday and she is still the one person who won’t let me hide from the junk I need to weed out.
She is still helping me plant flowers.

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emoticon Grow "flowers" in mind and body. Digging-up junk - may examine few mintues then close door. Open window and watch my flowers grow. ***Junk*** I ate too much when frustrated and discouraged - letting go of problems that I can't fix. emoticon Flowers - nurture relationships carefully - reflect on ways "I can" grow all seasons in life.

Fuel-up on healthy food -- don't dig-up junk food.
Daily devotions to improve my eating habits

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9/13/18 9:16 A

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Day #88 Junk in the backyard
This will probably be one of the most important lessons I will keep close to my heart from this book!
The minute I started reading, my mind was thinking “flowers” because I have looked at, talked about and rearranged a lot of that junk in my backyard.
I have been able to let a lot go lately thanks to a dear friend who lets me talk, let’s me know I’m ok, and fills my front yard full of flowers! Her name is Tina (1958TMC) and this is one of the many gifts she has given me. It is a picture from her yard!


If you read her blog for this week you will see why she is so important to me. And she takes beautiful “flower” pictures!

Edited by: MAWMAW101 at: 9/13/2018 (09:26)
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Day #88 Junk In The Back Yard

I loved Linda's image of a house with a fenced in back yard to hold all of our junk; closing that door behind us; walking out the front door to a beautiful garden of flowers.

Yes, I have had junk in my life just like everyone else. Journaling helped me work through a lot of it. I now longer feel angry at my mother for so many things in my childhood and early adult life. It took me years to get over that junk! I no longer feel hurt about a friend who I hold responsible for breaking up our group of 4 couples. As a matter of fact, I saw her recently at the grocery store and it felt wonderful to not have overwhelming negative feelings boil up all over again! I had a big pile of junk from an incident last summer that I am still working on, but it is improving bit by bit as I build my feelings of self-worth.

Gill - I loved the Charlie Brown quote and my DH reminded me of the very same thing just the other night - hanging on to the junk only prevents you from enjoying the moment. This is an area that I still need to work on. A few nights ago we were enjoying an evening drink at the hotel bar when a guy came in being loud and obnoxious and using foul language. It was so offensive that I spoke up about it which only turned into an ugly scene. DH reminded me that I need to not let these things bother me because they only ruin my good times. I also overheard a hotel employee at this same lounge make a comment to herself after a customer was rude to her - "Get out of my head!". I loved it and will try to remember it.

Gloria - I am not a worrier, but I loved your friend's remark about "And how's that working for you?!" It is a keeper for my memory bank.



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Oh I can relate to this! Worry and guilt are in my backyard. They are weeds that keep growing and I try to pull them, but they return.

Gill’s picture tells the story. Worry does keep you from enjoying the good times, and I will remember that. My front yard has so many beautiful flowers..........my family, my grandchildren, my dogs, my friends, my husband who is my rock and best friend.......and all of you here who inspire me everyday........Thank You!

I have a family member who doesn’t worry.......at one of our gatherings we talked about something we were worried about. His reply was “how’s that working for you?”. So now when I hear something negative or make bad food choices, or decide to have a lazy day, I think about his statement. It's like a tap on my shoulder to change my thoughts.

So now I’ll leave my back yard and smell my beautiful flowers!

Have a great day! emoticon



One day at a time!


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Wow! What a great lesson! I've highlighted most of it!!!!

Acceptance and moving on is a wonderful way to live. I can think of so many times when I've wanted to shake someone for going over the same thing again and again and using it as a roadblock. We all have junk.

I am sure I have junk I haven't looked at in a while, and I'm not sure I even want to. I also probably have some junk that I probably need to put in the backyard but haven't yet!



And as to planting flowers......well, I hear myself saying that I don't have green fingers, so maybe I am limiting myself there too?

Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 9/13/2018 (11:09)
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Day 88 Junk in the backyard

Digging around in junk every day doesn’t make you better. If you need to, once in a while go look into the backyard and say, “Yes, that’s a lot of junk!” Then leave it there, close the door, and go back to your flowers.

Today

• Create a short list of junk items or events in your “backyard.”
• Write the words, “That’s all junk and I’m leaving it there.”
• Create a list of flowers or beautiful things in your front yard.

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