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Day 95 - No birthday cake





When your next birthday comes, make it part of your healthy plan for the year and celebrate by doing some amazing self-care. Who knows? It might even make you feel younger instead of a year older!

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• Locate your next birthday on a calendar and write, “Ultimate self-care day."

I made a reminder for “Ultimate Self Care Day” & will put it on the calendar for next year.

• Create a list of things you will do that day for nurturing and self-care.

My birthday is April 14 next year and falls on a Tuesday. It’s a beautiful time of year for a birthday and I always feel like I am receiving a most beautiful gift from nature. I spend hours outside with all the flowering trees, shrubs, and tulips & daffodils in my yard and neighborhood. Birds are singing and building nests. I love watching everything come back to life after a dreary, cold winter. Birthday cake and special dinners are not that important to me any more. I do enjoy receiving birthday cards, letters, and phone calls on my special day. I don’t have a need for a big celebration just for me. But, I do love to celebrate birthdays for others. I have lots of memories of decorated 3-tier birthday cakes, fresh coconut cake, teddy bear birthday cake, Fun-fetti cake, German chocolate cake, red velvet cake, carrot cake with cream cheese/pecan frosting, ice cream cakes from Carvel & Baskin-Robbins with special pictures on top, and many more. Love thinking about all those special cakes but, it is funny, I don’t have a big craving for them. Eliminating sugar from my diet was a major change for me. The memory of all those cakes is enough!!

• Decide which people in your life you will eat cake for. If someone is not on your list, skip the birthday cake.
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Great plan, Donna!

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100 More DWL - Day 95 No birthday cake

I am Aries, my birthday 22nd March falls on a Sunday next year! I will ensure it is an ULTIMATE SELF CARE DAY and have written this on my diary and calendar to transfer for next year!

That day I will have a super walk locally (at least 20 minutes), maybe along the canal or to the park, looking for Spring flowers and other signs of Spring, I will have a lovely soak in my bath (either before or after the walk), arrange for my husband to make a wonderful steak meal, of course fruit and water to stay healthy. Looking forward to it, a super day planned ;-)

If my hubby makes a fresh plain cake I will allow myself a small piece and count it as syns in my eating plan so avoid any more - there are plenty here to share it with!

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My birthday will fall on a Saturday this year - and Saturday is my 'treats' day - so this year, I WILL probably have some cake. But I have plenty of time to plan this - what kind of cake? where? who with?

How many Sagittarians on here?
Sue is end of Nov
RoadtoFreedom is end of Nov
mine is end of Nov
Cat is 2 Dec


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Day 95 No birthday cake

When your next birthday comes, make it part of your healthy plan for the year and celebrate by doing some amazing self-care. Who knows? It might even make you feel younger instead of a year older!


Today

• Locate your next birthday on a calendar and write, “Ultimate self-care day."
• Create a list of things you will do that day for nurturing and self-care.
• Decide which people in your life you will eat cake for. If someone is not on your list, skip the birthday cake.

Locate your next birthday on a calendar and write, “Ultimate self-care day."

I kind of like our family traditional birthday cake, but I am thinking to do an ultimate self-care day on the 12th of every month except my birthday month, and that month I will do ultimate self-care on the 11th and the 13th.

• Create a list of things you will do that day for nurturing and self-care.

- I like to spend a stretch of time, a few hours, going through my journal and tweaking my plans regarding tasks and leisure activities. A slow easy stretch of time to mull and consider.
- I like to spend a long stretch of time outdoors, either hiking or cycling or by the lake or creek.
- On my birthday, I plan a reflective morning and an outdoors afternoon as described above on the day before my birthday. On the day after my birthday I plan an all-day outdoors day.
- I am fortunate to have an empty nest and a part-time job to allow me to do this


• Decide which people in your life you will eat cake for. If someone is not on your list, skip the birthday cake.

Luckily for me my family celebrates birthdays only with immediate family, so I don't have to worry about extended family birthday celebrations. I will eat cake with my nuclear family birthdays. Even these birthdays are smaller than before as DS lives across the country, 4500 km away and oldest DD works long hours and doesn't have much time off, and lives 100 km away, so DH and I usually go to Vancouver where she lives and have a restaurant meal with her with no cake.

Cake is a childhood memory.
I blogged about this with this team.

My mom used to bake us a birthday cake, vanilla sponge cake with chocolate layers and an icing sugar with lemon juice icing decorated with smarties, usually featuring either our age or our first initial. She and her brothers grew up with a cake like that for their birthdays. When my sister got married, her husband labelled the cake a sugar bomb, so mom didn't make it for a while and my sister's family had a healthier brown flour, carrot cake made with olive oil, dates, pineapple, walnuts and 7-minute frosting. My oldest sister, who had lived in another province for 10 years, returned to living close to home, and was disappointed the traditional cake was no longer a tradition, My mom and I re-introduced the tradition, because it is tradition, and an occasional sugar bomb is alright.




DD put a tractor on DH's cake one year





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7/12/19 1:36 P

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My birthday is near the end of November.

Birthday cake. I agree ... 'not so special anymore'.

When I was a kid, my dear mother made scratch cakes. They were delicious. We didn't have much money. It was always payday to payday. I'm not complaining. As a kid, I thought we were poor, but now that I'm in my 60s I know that we could have been in a lot worse shape. Bills were paid. We had something to eat. Clothes and shoes to wear.

As I got older and we used cake mixes, she would ask if I wanted angel food or devil's food. I wish Mom was still here so that we could have a meal or a dessert together again. I'd eat cake with her.

Becoming more affluent seems to make a lot of things less special.

When cake is an everyday thing, a birthday cake does lose that feeling of being 'special'.

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7/12/19 10:49 A

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DAY #95 NO BIRTHDAY CAKE - ROUND 2

I love cake! Actually, I seem to love all deserts!

What this lesson said to me is that I need to change my way of thinking about Special Occasions - a birthday is just another special occasion in my mind.

We celebrate my dad's birthday. He will be 93 in September and loves deserts too. I think he deserves the celebration! We celebrate our 2 GK's birthday's and I can't say I am fond of store-bought bakery cake icing. My DD and I both have birthday's in November. We don't celebrate with cake. Instead we have been doing a "weekend away" thing that is very indulgent with other foods and drinks. We celebrate my DH and S-I-L's birthdays which are both in March. Those guys put up with a year packed with healthy eating and, I don't know about the men in your lives, but our guys love a "man's meal" of meat and potatoes. I also celebrate the birthday's of the 7GFs I hang out with which usually includes drinks & dinner somewhere.

I am looking at this list of celebrations and I really am not so sure I want to change them. These are very special people to me and I feel they deserve to be celebrated in what ever manner they desire!

With that being said, I can surely be a little less indulgent during these celebrations with my food and drink choices. So I guess that will be my plan.


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Love this message! I can't tell you the number of times that cake has disappointed me, not worth the calories. My family does not typically make a cake for my birthday, but they will cook me a nice dinner.

Love the idea of a birthday Ultimate self care day! And I am going to do yoga in just a few minutes.

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Day #95 No birthday cake
I still plan my own birthday and did have another trip to celebrate. We stayed in a house on the lake and spent time on Mackinac Island in Michigan. It was a wonderful week.
I checked zip-lining off my bucket list! (LOL)


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So Sue is end of Nov, mine is end of Nov, Cat is 2 Dec - that's three Sagittarians!!! Any more?



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Day #95 No Birthday Cake

I think it is very important to celebrate birthdays. It is Your Day. A chance to celebrate just YOU! A chance to show others how important they are to you.

• Locate your next birthday on a calendar and write, “Ultimate self-care day."

My birthday is towards the end of November and competes with Thanksgiving.

• Create a list of things you will do that day for nurturing and self-care.

Birthday cake is the least of my problems on my birthday. Over the years it seems to have become a weeklong celebration between dinner with DH on my actual birth date, celebrating with family on another day, and then more celebrating with friends on yet another day!

Nurturing myself and self-care activities are difficult during the end of November. As I mentioned, I am competing with Thanksgiving followed by Black Friday shopping. It is also cold with the start of winter and so being in a beautiful garden which I find extremely nurturing is out of the question. I will have to give this some thought. I still have 2 months to come up with some ideas.

Our DD's birthday is also in November and so In recent years she and I plan a Girl's W/E for ourselves. This year we are going to Chicago. However, this is not a calorie-free w/e. We are celebrating! She is young, healthy, and fit so cutting calories is not a priority for her and I know from past experience that she would find it a drag if I even brought it up.

• Decide which people in your life you will eat cake for. If someone is not on your list, skip the birthday cake.

I have a group of 7 girlfriends that I arrange birthday celebrations for throughout the year. We have a girl's night out every 1-2 months and I will designate it as Birthday Night so small gifts and cards are included. Cake is not included, but that doesn't mean food & drinks don't flow freely. I can control my own intake during these celebrations.

Our GKs, ages 6 and soon to be 8, have birthday parties which involve cake from a bakery. I don't like all of that frosting so I think I am o.k. having a small piece of cake while scraping it off. I usually also have a scoop of ice cream to counteract the dryness of the cake. Maybe our DD will be o.k. with me skipping this all together.

My DH and SIL both have birthdays in March and we have a combined "Man's Dinner" which means meat and potatoes! DH loves Apple Pie and SIL likes Lemon Meringue so I usually have each. That doesn't mean I have to eat any I suppose.

My dad, who I mentioned is now 92 yrs. old, loves his desert! Although he knows I don't eat desert on a regular daily basis, I can't imagine not having a piece of cake n honor of him to celebrate.


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9/20/18 10:04 P

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Day 95 - No Birthday Cake

What a great idea! I'm motivated by putting something on a calendar and looking forward to it.

My birthday is on January 11th -- and will be a Friday in 2019. DH has a set routine of heading out for music night with his buddies every Friday. Every now and then I go with him, usually not. So I'll have my choice. I might celebrate by going to music night with him just to do something different. I'm positive that nobody will even think of making me a cake or even know it's my b-day, so no worries with that. Before music night, I'm sure I'll get a workout in at the Y that day. According to my present schedule, I'll head in for 45 minutes of laps in the competition pool, shower and change into my yoga gear, and after that spend about an hour shopping (maybe at Dillard's for a nice piece of clothing or some shoes -- everything will be on sale I think) Then I'll head back the couple blocks to the Y and hit the 4:15 Pilates class. I love doing this on Fridays.

The only time I can think that I plan to eat cake is once a year our church has a birthday lunch after church. They do these pot-luck meals once a month, but the one in January is to celebrate all the church birthdays. People sign up to make a dessert for the month they choose. So there are 12 cakes or fancy desserts -- one for a table. You are to sit at the table that is your month to eat your meal, then afterward you can go from table to table to try all the desserts you want. I always feel like I need to have a taste of the January cake, then maybe a bite of the others. I don't feel like I'm obligated to try all of them...LOL. I'll usually have just a bite of the ones that interest me. And I never ever take any home with me. It's a fun occasion, so I guess I could say I'll eat cake for my church family.

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This year I had three birthday cakes, one regular, one strawberry cheesecake and a giant regular cheesecake from Costco.

I like the idea of an ultimate self care day next May!

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Day 95 No birthday cake



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Day 95 - Nurturing days - Birthdays and Holidays, I save food and activities for celebrating. Chameleon cold-brew coffee is my favorite! I won't buy for several weeks (or days) before date [I can make that cinnamon emoticon heart in my cup]. Family Y is special when I wait to use spa. I'll still go for planned exercise and skip saunas/hot tub. Saving for a special occasion. emoticon Same for family and friends - give simple gifts u.nu/b78e u.nu/ylar emoticon emoticon emoticon "Experiences" bit.ly/2NZTESe

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Wow Phyllis, I love your blog and your philosophy! What a great idea to plan your own birthday and have a self care day! My birthday is February 1, not an ideal time to get everybody together yet again after all the winter celebrations and get togethers.

It is also five days after my 97 year old MiL's birthday so in the past my efforts have always been focused there. Lack of time before retirement was always an issue then but not anymore. You've really got me thinking.

As far as birthday cake I feel I need to plan and have some. How many do I have left? We're all in different places. Time flies, I want to enjoy them. Moderation and planning.

Gloria, Your birthday means a lot to your sister. What a wonderful sister and you likewise are thoughtful and kind back. Keep finding gentle ways of managing these situations. Looking back I wish I had been more thoughtful and appreciative.

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My birthday is in August and my sister feels that birthdays are very special and she wanted to take me out to lunch. I asked her instead if she would celebrate my birthday with her and her daughter at my house where we could sit outside and really enjoy the day. I prepared the food, but she insisted on bringing cake and said I needed to eat it for good luck.
Yes, I did have a piece.
It seems that every get together includes food......making our own helps. emoticon



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Day #95 No birthday cake
My birthday is May 20 and although I spent my last one in the Grand Canyon, most of mine since I’ve retired have been a “girls weekend” with my daughter, daughter-in-law and adult granddaughters to celebrate.
The first year we flew to a Florida beach, one year we spent in a cabin in a state park, once it was at a Spa and we will start planning next year when we are together for Thanksgiving.
Nobody ever made a fuss over my birthday until I decided to plan my own. To treat yourself to a self-care day is a perfect idea.
There is still one person in my life I eat cake for, we have for several years gone to a fancy restaurant in our small town, known for their decadent desserts, and we go in the afternoon just for dessert and coffee.

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• Locate your next birthday on a calendar and write, “Ultimate self-care day."
• Create a list of things you will do that day for nurturing and self-care.
• Decide which people in your life you will eat cake for. If someone is not on your list, skip the birthday cake.

My birthday is at the end of November and usually I have to 'manage' a couple of friends who see getting me to eat as the main event! I can't remember what happened last year, but I know it went better (I will go back and check!).

Personally I usually find cake disappointing! So I don't feel obliged to eat cake on birthdays any more than on any other day.

I would eat cake at a small birthday party of a close friend or family member. In big gatherings it is quite easy to skip it without offending anyone.

Fortunately I don't work in a place where staff celebrate with cake on their birthdays.

I always book annual leave around my birthday. For me it's like a New Year and I love to have time to be reflective.

This year will be different because my only son & his little family are coming to visit for a few days. I will plan food before they come. I will probably take them out to afternoon tea in a place where we can eat cake.

I will have one portion of cake on my birthday. It will not turn into a good festival!

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Day 95 No birthday cake

When your next birthday comes, make it part of your healthy plan for the year and celebrate by doing some amazing self-care. Who knows? It might even make you feel younger instead of a year older!


Today

• Locate your next birthday on a calendar and write, “Ultimate self-care day."
• Create a list of things you will do that day for nurturing and self-care.
• Decide which people in your life you will eat cake for. If someone is not on your list, skip the birthday cake.

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