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10/6/15 11:25 A

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I just saw the documentary on Iris Apfel who is a fashion icon at age 92. It's not about being pretty or trying get others' approval--it's solely about expressing her artistic side. I can't tell you how inspiring this was to me! I've spent the last week relaxing my self-judgement and just allowing myself to be me. I'm a lot nicer to be around. Even " I " like being around myself more. Who wants to be trapped in a mind that is constantly speaking a negative monologue in the background all your waking hours?

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10/2/15 10:30 P

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Oh how I would love to be stick thin, if only because clothing wouldn't be such an issue. There are styles I would love to wear, that I used to wear, that will forever be out of my league now. But when I imagine my "goal", I see myself canoeing, or skating the canal and hiking in the Gatineaus and in Fundy Park. Moving my belongings from one apartment to another, by bicycle. Snowshoeing. I guess since the cancers I haven't really pictured my ideal "body weight" or image so much as what I want to be able to do again.

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10/2/15 2:14 P

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For me it's about not lying to myself (a nod to Bridget Jones' Diary). Many years ago I was super thin, not by choice, and I can tell you I was very unhealthy. I decided to get healthy and began lifting weights. I didn't do cardio and was smoking cigarettes. Not healthy. I looked "good" to the outside world, maintained 107lb physique with still a large backside, still an hour-glass figure, and still large chested. But I was NOT healthy. I had a friend who weighed somewhere in excess of 200lb (we didn't discuss actual numbers) who could out-hike me. We joined an aerobics class, because I knew I needed cardio. She routinely kicked my skinny little arse. So I know that thin does not equal healthy, nor is that a weight I desire to return to. I haven't smoked for 30 years, I eat way better than I did then, and I exercise a lot more than then. I am stronger, both physically and emotionally than I was then. So, contrary to what the tabloids would have you think, I'm fitter at 178lb than I ever was at 107. And I'm not sure that the skinny people are pursing health as much as they're pursing a certain look. Me? I prefer health, and Justyna, it sounds like your whole family does, too!

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10/2/15 1:47 P

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Bridget Jone's Diary... OK it was funny and sad and complicated. But she was not happy with who she was right at that time and no one was saying "you are fine as you are".

I think... it is not just what I look like but what I DO that matters. It reminds me of when I was diabetic and pregnant and the doctor did not ask what I ate... just looked at the scale. My eating disorder was out of control but I was losing weight. "Good job" he would say.

Hello!?!? Honesty is something I have had to learn... with myself. The scale is so not good at feedback for how I am doing OR looking. I've shared that my DD's on the charts are very overweight. Well, they can solo portage a canoe, run a 5K, and have muscular stomaches, legs and arms. They are active and healthy. It was the BEST thing for me to SEE what 180 pounds can look like and look fabulous. We are Canadian well built women. I have an hourglass figure. I cannot compare myself to tabloid women. My DD has many Asian friends who are very petite, flat chested, and... well they could not paddle a canoe let alone carry one. Nice skin... I am working on that. Supporting my feet. Yup, working on that. Strengthening all over. Working on that. No extremes. Just every day small things I can do for my body. I Matter. It is not worth taking short cuts that do not work. Slow and steady. And more important, realistic goals.

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10/2/15 1:37 P

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Tabloid Thin
-Our view of “healthy” is often unhealthy. We are willing to do unhealthy things to attain this “healthy image”. What is your ideal of beauty? If you collect pictures try and determine what you think is beautiful. Is it attainable for you? Beauty can be hair, skin, grace, a smile. Some of those things we can have right now.

I have joy in my soul and joy in my step. Walk with me! Justyna

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