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Yo-tivation was described by one of my friends like this...and I wanted to share with you.

"yotivation is like a burning fire on the inside toward lasting health. Motivation seems more like it relies on circumstances, or stuff on the outside...and you're right, that's not always under our control."

YES! Because Yo-Tivation has EVERYTHING to do with all of the INSIDE Stuff (That we CAN CONTROL) that we are not even sure how to tend to...YET. Yo-Tivation Comes from WITHIN...and you can Help to Spread it by Making Others Feel Good Too...(As you Just Did for me!) RAISING EVERYONE's Moods/ENERGY/VIBRATION will have a Domino Effect...and Once we can Purposefully Pick our Emotions out of Purpose and NOT Side-Effects...It will Make ALL The Difference in the World...

It's Gonna take a Real SHIFT in BELIEFS to make this Work...But If enough of us are Trying to Live in JOY and Raising our Vibration...It can not help but to Spill over and Raise the Nation's Vibration too...Even the World...It all starts from WITHIN though...That Absolutely IS the Key!!!

I would Just LOVE to Make it a Yo-Tivation Nation!!! No more Relying on Outward Stuff to MOTIVATE us...We are Going to go RIGHT TO THE SOURCE...We will tend to those things That we CAN CONTROL...Let Yo-Tivation Spread across the lands...We CAN do this TOGETHER...


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Chinese Proverb:
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MOTIVATION v YO-TIVATION

Thanks for Clicking...You ready to Get'chu Sum Yo-Tivation! Perhaps you would like to know what it is Before you Buy it...and how it Differs from Motivation.

First...MOTIVATION

mo·ti·va·tion

noun

the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
"escape can be a strong motivation for travel"

synonyms: motive, motivating force, incentive, stimulus, stimulation, inspiration, inducement, incitement, spur, reason; informalcarrot

"his motivation was financial"

the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.
"keep staff up to date and maintain interest and motivation"

synonyms: enthusiasm, drive, ambition, initiative, determination, enterprise; informalget-up-and-go

"keep up the staff's motivation"

MOTIVATION is what Drives us Each and Everyone...BUT...Motivation can Fail you...Just up and Leave and you don't even know where to look to find it again, sometimes...Motivation is Tricky and Sporadic...It comes and It Goes...and You never Know when or where or how...Motivation is Unpredictable and Unreliable...Motivation seems to only last so long.

Now YO-TIVATION on the other hand...What is that you may wonder, because you have NEVER heard of it before?!?!?!?! That's because you are Hearing it here FIRST! History in the Making Folks...A CHANGE coming about.

YO-TIVATION is the UNDERSTANDING and KNOWLEDGE to OVERCOME all Side-Effects that detract from HEALTHY Thinking and LIVING...PERMANENTLY. *

(*Uh...Please Note...That is NOT to say you will LIVE PERMANENTLY But you WILL EXTEND your DAYS!!! ...I mean you can CHANGE the way you THINK to Get the RESULTS you Want...and NEVER go back to the Hamster Wheel again!)

In my Library I have Loads of INFORMATION and KNOWLEDGE to Help you UNDERSTAND How to Overcome Negative Thinking...Through NUTRITION and Changing your PARADIGM. (That is just a Fancy word for how you THINK about something...Your set of Beliefs.) There is an abundance on HORMONES (THE KEY) and So,so,so MUCH MORE!

You will GAIN KNOWLEDGE and MOST Important UNDERSTANDING about HOW to get out of the Vicious Cycle...How Diet and Exercise are Just NOT Enough...I will show you how to Get Rid of those Negative feelings associated with making unintended choices...and No More Regret! For Real!

I can show you how your Negative Thoughts and Emotions are Perpetuated by your Food Choices...Don't worry...It's NOT you...You are WONDERFUL just the way you are...It's Just the Side-effects of eating Processed Foods...You will learn about All of that...

We've Tried MOTIVATION...All of us...Let's EVOLVE into Something BETTER! Let us STOP Treating the SYMPTOMS so we can get on with LIVING our LIFE!!!

Stop by My LIBRARY for INFORMATION you Can USE to GET OFF THE HAMSTER WHEEL and Actually FIND those RESULTS and the HEALTHY LIFESTYLE you Strive For.

Oh it's Different...I guarantee you have not Tried YO-TIVATION Yet...Come to see if you want to Do the Leaving this time instead...and Switch your MOTIVATION in for Some YO-TIVATION and See where it will take You!

I Promise you...And I don't make Promises I can't keep...There IS something More to Learn in there, that you are Just not aware of...YET!

This is NOT a Challenge...There are NO OBLIGATIONS...You just Point and Click on what Speaks to YOU...There are aisles of Information for you to Browse through at YOUR Leisure...This is a LIBRARY that KEEPS ON GROWING...and as I LEARN I share with YOU...It CHANGES from one day to the next...and there IS something that you did not Know yet...But you Will if you take the Time to Browse.

This is UNDERSTANDING that Will Help you take it to the NEXT LEVEL...Because Trust Me...There IS a NEXT LEVEL.

There are Never any Late-Fees...Everything is OPTIONAL...You can Keep the Information as Long as you Like and SHARE with EVERYONE...Take the Library with you Wherever you go...You have a FREE LIFETIME MEMBERSHIP...This is Your Library too. OPEN PERPETUALLY.

I hope to see you there...I am always at the Front Desk.

Here is a Coupon to Switch your Unreliable MOTIVATION in for some Super-Reliable YO-TIVATION!!!



There is SO Much there to absorb...and that is just the tip...because of course, It is a PROCESS...I really Suggest Folks go alll the way back to the First post in the LIBRARY (PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER Thread) and read through for the best UNDERSTANDING...

The Beauty is...You take it in at your Leisure and your pace and your preference...So even if it s a LOOOOT of words (I know it is...and a Lot of steps....I know it is.) You can take as long as you like to absorb...and go back and absorb it again later if you want to...It will be there for you always.

But it is Broken Down and Easy to Understand in the Library...And Certainly...I am Not Suggesting is the Truest Best Most Perfect Plan for Everyone...Because I already Know that Not Everything is for Everyone...But I Guarantee you there IS Something for Everyone!

Thank you all for your Support.

Be Blessed~
Yo

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UNDERSTAND...This is a REFERENCE LIBRARY (NOT a CHALLENGE)...So the Information is ALWAYS there...and You don't have to Try To keep Up...You don't even have to go in order...It's all Up to YOU...Point and Click on what Interest YOU and what Will help YOU in YOUR journey.

This is PURE KNOWLEDGE to EXPAND your MIND and YOUR BELIEFS and Your PROGRESS.

Thank you for Giving me an Opportunity to Explain it better.

Library Hours are 25/7/365!

Yup...That's Right! 25/7/365 I Like to Do More and Share More...and We are ALWAYS OPEN in YO's CORNER - LIBRARY!!! If there is 24 Hours in a day...I'm gonna somehow find you an Extra Hour!


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Edited by: YO~YOLANDA at: 1/10/2016 (15:08)
Yolanda~ Cleveland OH

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Another Blog from October...But the Message is Timeless...



RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE

I have some Great notes this morning about things to Remember when things seems like they are going wrong and out of control.

The first thing that caught my eye is PAIN IS PART OF GROWING....I've for sure felt pain...and I am definitely GROWING for having been though all a' that stuff...My youngest brother was tragically and unexpectedly killed in a Train accident 6 months ago...It has been one of the most painful experiences of my life so far...but I choose to Live Life feeling BLESSED for having had him in my Life, rather than in Loss of his no longer being here...What a real Game-changer that was! I had to go through all of that Pain and then Let Go of it, to make Room for New, More, Even Better...So I could GROW for having had the experience.

The writer said NO PAIN COMES WITHOUT A PURPOSE...Boy Howdy...Is that ever true...Every Pain has a reason...There are always Lessons attached to the pain...We just have to be open enough to find them...and LEARN from having been through the experience...I'm not sure it could be much worse than continually finding pain, but not understanding why, or learning what caused it, and how to NOT hurt yourself like that again...If we can find the Purpose of the Pain it makes it so much easier to interpret and understand...and possibly avoid it again in the future...if it is within your control. There is always a reason...You may not understand it...especially at the time...but there is a Purpose behind the Pain...

He went on to say MOVE ON FROM WHAT HURT YOU...BUT REMEMBER WHAT IT TAUGHT YOU. Live and Learn, as they say...Having been through my brothers death most recently...I had to go through what I had to go through...In whatever time frame it took/takes...I've gained a LOT of PERSPECTIVE from my brothers passing...I am feeling fertile, rich, and primed!

It wasn't always this way...I dealt with my feelings as they came...I bandaged up my wounds...but I felt the pain...I tended to my wounds often and used ointment to lessen the scars...When the time felt right...I removed those bandages...and I saw that my wounds were healing, and my scars will still there...but they served to remind me of my STRENGTH THROUGH IMMENSE ADVERSITY...and I Did Feel STRONGER...

But when I first learned of my brothers passing...It seemed like Everything burned down around me...No foundation...Nothing left...Broken...I also felt completely helpless at times...I was the weakest I had ever been to that point in my life (because I felt my most IMMENSE PAIN AND LOSS and TOTAL CONFUSION and SHOCK)...my legs could not support the weight of my burden...No matter the amount of others reaching out...I still had not enough care in me to recognize all that was going on around me......I was so numb to everything...I was almost coma like and in a black, sludgy, pit of despair for a little while...It took a LOT to WANT to break out of that...especially when I was feeling so beaten down and bruised and hurt...and all I wanted to do was just lay there in a puddle and not move..

However not wanting to accept things...Resisting them because you just don't want to accept it for true...You don't WANT to Believe it...Well...the struggle is what causes you to sink further...So I finally figured out to stop resisting...NOTHING I could say or do would Change any of it...So I finally just accepted it for what it was...and I moved along when I was ready...Of course it is still fresh...and I am not sure that I have conquered all of my Emotion yet...but I Do TRY and as long as I keep my Focus on the BLESSINGS...I am going to be just fine.

The writer also said that EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS TEMPORARY -- NOTHING LASTS FOREVER. Well, when you put it like that...It really is true...CHANGE is INEVITABLE...People Come...People Go...Situations come...Situations go...Everything eventually Changes...How you feel, what you look like, who your friends are, what you think about...your beliefs...Pain and Hurt...Nothing Lasts Forever...Everything has a season...everything has an expiration...So Enjoy your BLESSINGS while you have them...and Know that your Pain and hurt and suffering have a Season too...Everything has a Beginning - a middle - and an End.

Oh here is a good one...He mentioned in his article that SPENDING TODAY, COMPLAINING ABOUT YESTERDAY, WON'T MAKE TOMORROW ANY BRIGHTER. I'm not even sure if I need to elaborate on this one...It is a Great Life Lesson that I am certain we all KNOW...We just have to adhere to it and all will be Better. What good comes from complaining? I'm really not even sure it makes you feel any better...Usually it changes Nothing...It is just a time-waster and a Cortisol Magnet...If you really wanna shed some weight...STOP COMPLAINING...That'll work wonders on your Hormones.

Here is another good one...He said...DON'T LET THE SHADOWS OF YOUR PAST DARKEN THE DOORSTEP OF YOUR FUTURE. That's a good one, right? I like to say HISTORY IS NOT DESTINY...and what you were, or went through, or whatever the case may be...It does not have to define you...

You have the Power within you at ANY MOMENT to Change whatever you want to CHANGE...No one is perfect...Our History and our Scars remind of us who we were and all that we have been through...They can serve to remind us how much we have put ourselves out there, and how much we have LIVED...but Don't let Fear and Doubt Rob you of your Future...You are an AMAZING and POWERFUL CREATOR and you have the Power within you to CHANGE how you FEEL about your Past, your scars, your life...Let your scars and wounds not hold you back, or down, or out...but let them Serve to be your reminder of all that you have been through already and all that you have Survived and perhaps even conquered...

He went on to say that IF YOU WANT IT YOU'LL DO IT -- DESPITE FAILURES, REJECTION, and ODDS. I suppose that is where you find your Passion...Passion can not be extinguished...Priorities are ACCOMPLISHED even in spite of all of the obstacles and distractions and people standing in line to tell you it is impossible. When you have made up your mind that This is Going to happen...Then by Golly It WILL Happen! You are Pretty AMAZING that way...When it is Important enough to you...NOTHING will Stop you from Achieving it...No matter what...If someone tells you No...You find a way to make it a Yes...If something stand in your way, you find a way to compromise or go around it...but you Let Nothing Stop you.

He said OTHER PEOPLE'S NEGATIVITY IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM....Well that is a pretty fair statement...I don't want other people's negative anything...So...I choose not to own other people's problems. How do they say it..."Not my Monkey's...Not my Circus." No Thank you...You can keep your drama...Whatever you may think about me, is your right, and your prerogative...I'll just worry about me.

He also said WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF BEFORE YOU WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK. I've been told that what other folks think about me, is none of my business anyway...All I can do is Focus on How I choose to Live my Life and React and Respond to Others...I'm just gonna worry about looking inside of myself to fix any issues...and not worry about how others Perceive me or my problems...I don't Blame...I take accountability.

He mentioned that GREAT STRENGTH COMES FROM OVERCOMING WHAT OTHERS THINK IS IMPOSSIBLE...I feel like that is a fair statement...There is nothing like Surprising others and Surprising yourself, with all that you are Capable of...Self-Doubt is what holds us back from ACHIEVING...Just don't let self doubt, or doubt of others, stand in your way of Accomplishing that which you KNOW IS POSSIBLE...Despite the odds...Despite what others say...YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU REALIZE...and when you tap into your Truest Potential....NOTHING CAN STOP YOU FROM ACHIEVING!

The writer went on to say that WHAT IS MEANT TO BE WILL EVENTUALLY BE...and YOU MAY NOT END UP EXACTLY WHERE YOU INTENDED - BUT EVENTUALLY YOU WILL ARRIVE PRECISELY WHERE YOU NEED TO BE. Isn't that kind of comforting actually...It is telling me that ALL WILL WORK OUT AS IT SHOULD...Because IT ALWAYS DOES...It takes some pressure off, don't you think? Things don't always work out the way we planned or intended (Don't even get me going on Good Intentions.)...and sure there will be times when we are so far off track, that we might just only need to turn around half way, to be back on track...Sometimes we don't know where the road is going, or how in the world we got there...but one thing is for sure...You were meant to be right exactly where you are...There is something for you to see/do/or learn on that path, whether intended or not...

THERE ARE BLESSINGS HIDDEN IN EVERY STRUGGLE BUT YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO OPEN UP YOUR HEART AND MIND TO SEE THEM...Yep...That is pretty true...Be OPEN and RECEPTIVE and BLESSINGS will come to you in floods...Sometimes they are hard to spot...but when you do...you will realize the Richness of that experience...

Life is meant to be ENJOYED -- Not Endured...It is all in your Perspective...You have the POWER to Decide how you will View the World...You are AMAZING that way!


Yolanda~ Cleveland OH

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I would like to Share a past Blog I wrote with you if I may...It is important to note that I wrote this back in October...To Explain Further...So you Understand where my Thoughts were emanating from at that time...I have GROWN SO MUCH Since then...But as an EMOTIONAL EATERS Group...I thought this might be Helpful to someone because this was coming out of one of the MOST INTENSE EMOTIONAL TIMES of my Life...So far.

My youngest brother, 40 years old (I called him Bucky...His name was Matthew), was hit and Killed by a Train on April 15, 2015...Given ALL of the Circumstances...(HEAVY)...I had to REALLY work HARD to climb out of the most excruciating place I have ever been. It is Certainly a PROCESS...Of course it is all documented in my Blogs...They help me so much!

It took me a little while to get past the "Loss" of it all...and Quite frankly...I still have my moments...I am human too.

But...I NEVER could have Come to Where I am RIGHT NOW...Were it not for ALL of that IMMENSE PAIN that I simply had to work through...So in the Weirdest, Most Unexpected way...I am Thankful for the Pain...For many reasons...The Biggest being that I could LOVE someone that much...That it Could HURT that much...How LUCKY am I? That I got to LOVE someone that much?!?!? Now I tear up...! emoticon Because I DO KNOW that kind of LOVE! Oh I never know where my heart is going to take me...Hang on a second...When it does come out...I have to let it out...

I am Grateful because I never could be who I AM right Now without that hurt...It shook me to the very core...and Upset EVERYTHING in my Life...NOTHING was Right or the same for a while...But I always had a PEACE...There were always Signs...That is what HELPED me move out of the Pain into an Awakening of Sorts...

Geeze Oh man...I did NOT mean to go to all that detail...but my heart leads my fingers...

So anyway...From October 2015...Reposted

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Meeting with Resistance...and Frustrations...

resistance

: refusal to accept something new or different

: effort made to stop or to fight against someone or something

: the ability to prevent something from having an effect

Man, oh Man...Tough subjects...but you know me...I shoot from my heart...I'm gonna let my fingers glide, and just let'r-rip...and see where this train of thought will go...

Man oh man...That's all I can keep saying because Resistance has come into my life, and brought with it Self-Doubt, Fear, and Frustrations...It is kind of hard to FIGHT through...I keep hearing that inner voice that wants to make me stop trying, and just leave well-enough alone...Those little feelings and thoughts of self-doubt that try to slip in...Maybe this...Maybe that...

...Emotion...well, It really wants to either Ball-up or Jump-out...Those Darn Hormones...

But Logic...At least I have good ole Logic to reply upon! THANK GOODNESS!

Emotion is a Toughie...Boy, I have sure had enough of that running through me to fuel a jet-plane at times...But I can measure my emotion more easily now, for having been through some of the stops in my own Journey...It took me all the way til' now to be able to realize when something is a "Big Deal"...or just another, "eh, big deal"...I guess that is all in our Perspective, eh?

Logically...I am better able to realize the difference in something to worry about, and something that can easily be let go of, if I can set my Ego aside long enough. Therein lies the hard part though...Ego...Oh Dear...

ego

: the opinion that you have about yourself

psychology : a part of the mind that senses and adapts to the real world

The part I am focusing on is this:

the one of the three divisions of the psyche in psychoanalytic theory that serves as the organized conscious mediator between the person and reality especially by functioning both in the perception of and adaptation to reality — compare id, superego

Basically How I interpret that is:

What I PERCEIVE or BELIEVE to be True...Creates my reality...

Now if I choose to Believe Self-Doubt...Which Logically speaking, in and of itself, would dictate that, that is NOT the right choice already...So WHY should I even entertain such thoughts?

I CAN DO THIS - I AM GOOD ENOUGH - I DO DESERVE MY BEST EFFORTS

Fear and Doubt are what Stops us...They can creep in like shadows and take over, until you have all sorts of little dark corners to hide in...

Or...

I can Be BRAVE and Let my LIGHT SHINE ON...and KEEP that FIRE STOKED and BURNING HOTTER!!! I can Have FAITH that the path I am on, is right exactly, where I am supposed to be right now...

You see Resistance comes from Growth...and Fear of the Unknown...And I am Certainly Learning, and Changing, and Growing right now..I also know that Outside of your Comfort Zone is where ALL the MAGIC HAPPENS and the farther out of your zone that you are...The MORE INCREDIBLE THE MAGIC...

In Life...we are going to be met with Resistance and Frustrations...I'd say it is pretty much inevitable...So once again, it is something we can EXPECT to come into our lives every now and again...I choose to take a moment to recognize my emotions about how I FEEL...I felt it..for a minute...and now I am writing about it...and then letting go...

Resistance...I give you no Power...I choose not to fuel you with feelings of Doubt...even though emotion would want to dictate how I Feel about it...Logic tells me better...RESISTANCE yields PERSISTENCE and if I don't want you to be a problem...then you are not going to be. I am not going to deny that you are there...but that is all you are going to get from me...Acknowledgment.

Emotion is just a Feeling that you Feel ...You assign/recognize the feeling...You can either make it good...or you can make it bad... and you determine your belief about the feeling...

I'm not suggesting you don't feel Pain/Hurt/Fear/Doubt...a Lot can be derived for having to push yourself through tragedy/adversity...because you CAN Emerge from the other side of the Flames and KNOW now what you are made of...and be able to bring Perspective and Priority to those things which you assign hurt feelings...Given your new barometer for what tragic/adversity really means...Speaking from personal experience...

On the path that I am on now...I feel more enlightened about what I should, or should not, allow to hurt my feelings, or bring me resistance or distraction...I'm still human...but I am practicing to be better at controlling my emotions...

I think I have hit that part of decision making where you find clarity, and shift your thinking, and your mind-set...

So, I think...Rather than letting Resistance and Frustrations get the best of my Emotions...I will CHOOSE to acknowledge how I feel, and then just let it go, because my Ultimate Goal is to Live my Life in Joy...and I can't very well do that, if I go around holding onto Ego and allowing hurt/scared/doubting/bruised emotions invade my head space...

Quite frankly...With all of this WONDERFUL Stuff I have been absorbing lately...I have no room left in my thought cage for feelings and emotions that only beget angst...It Sure does not benefit me in the least...

I'm glad I sat down to rationalize this...Now if I am able to keep Ego and Emotion out of it, I'll be Mission Accomplished!

Yeah...I write...A LOT...I cannot deny it...but that is how my passion works...It flows, and I follow. I like writing...I like learning...and I like sharing...So I will continue to follow my heart and write as it comes...Fear and Self-Doubt...You are there...I see you...I acknowledge you...but that is all you will get from me.






Yolanda~ Cleveland OH

Chinese Proverb:
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NFLATTE...Right you ARE!!!

I JUST...Minutes ago...Finished writing a BLOG on this Very thing! We CAN CHANGE!!! You've heard of hard-wired...We Do that...AND we can UN-do that!!!

May I share?



YOUR VIBE -- ATTRACTS YOUR TRIBE

Whoooo! I Love that! Let's Get it!

I Just KNOW this one is TRUE!!! I just LIVED it Last Night! EXPERIENCE to share with you...but before I share what happened to me...Let's Break it Down first...To UNDERSTAND...Because Words are just words unless you UNDERSTAND them...and to Understand them...You must consider them...

So take this thought with you today...

YOUR VIBE -- ATTRACTS YOUR TRIBE

Your VIBE...How you Feel...What you are Focusing your Attention on...The things you project and the things that you think MATTER.

If you have read about NEUROPLASTICITY which we discussed Yesterday (in the PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER Thread in the REFERENCE Threads or on my Sparkpage in my BLOGS) You will recall that our Brains are malleable...meaning...We can make them CHANGE pathways...and those pathways will Grow to the Direction we use most...POSITIVE or NEGATIVE...Our CHOICE...and the BEAUTIFUL part is once that bridge is formed (or auto-pilot is established) We CAN CHANGE that pattern and actually CHANGE the form of our Brain...and what it FOCUSes on More...Either BLESSINGS or HARDSHIPS...and what you FOCUS on...You will Find...Focus on Blessings you will find MORE Blessings...Focus on Hardships...You will find MORE Hardships...Understand?

But taking it a step further than that...What you THINK matters...Because there is the Law of ATTRACTION to consider...You've heard of this? No? Let me share...There IS Such a thing...Lemme Drop some KNOWLEDGE on ya...



I also want to share a video clip because this is Important to UNDERSTAND. I don't think I would usually choose celebrities to express this...but by golly...They are folks just like us...and they have already achieved and Understand...and perhaps we can relate to one of them better than anything I could say.


Celebrities talk, "The Law Of Attraction" (So Inspiring!)
YouAreCreators

www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfSL
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One more...Just for another Perspective...

The Tools That Creates Your Reality! (Law Of Attraction)
www.youtube.com/watch?v=JeGopEMDBkY


Now...If we can all agree on the Law of Attraction... The Universe LOVES GRATITUDE...Put your FOCUS into what you LOVE and DESIRE and you can Manifest what your heart BELIEVES to be True. Now, that DOES mean it works Both Ways...So you Must Choose your Words, Thoughts, Intentions Carefully and Purposefully...Let not Ego/Fear/Doubt/Mistrust leak in...Elst, you may find yourself in those situations afterall...

I find it best to Focus on Not what you Don't want...But what you DO want...Everyone can list reason after reason after reason Why Not...Be Specific in your Thought and say WHY instead...

For instance, I have got to share this BIGGIE...I learned this on a long while ago, but now I UNDERSTAND WHY it makes sense...

How many folks will say..."Don't forget to... _______________." Go ahead...Fill in the blank...Could be anything.

Ever said that? I used to...Until I realized (and you know this to be true as well, I am sure.) Whenever you tell someone NOT to do something...What in the heck do they Do? What you said NOT to...Right?

The thing is...and this is the Kicker...Your Mind accepts whatever images you send it...It does not read your words, nor understand the language...It communicates through IMAGES and EMOTIONS...This can be proved by - we don't always get what we SAY we want.

Are you with me still? Stay with me...I'm explaining the process here...It's kinda BIG...I wanna be sure it is being UNDERSTOOD and the message is being Received...So Please Stop me or ask if you have any questions...I want to make sure there are More than Words...but an Image and an Understanding of this concept...

We can SAY one thing...We can Read it...and Read it...and the message does get planted...Not by the words...but by the thought... because the Thought or the Intention is there...BUT...The Outcome does not always match up with our words...Otherwise when we all said THIS IS IT...That would'a been it...BUT...NOT quite that Simple...

In order to manifest something into Fruition...You must Focus on what you DO Want and Consider that you ALREADY HAVE it...(Your MIND and BODY DO Respond to what your Brain THINKS and PERCEIVES to be TRUE.) Does everyone Understand that part so far?


Do you see How when you say "Don't Forget...blah, blah, blah." Or "Don't Spill blah, blah, blah"...(You get the idea.) Usually what happens is...Whatever you Said NOT to Happen...Happened...Or it works in Reverse...Whatever you said To Happen...Did NOT Happen...

WHY?

Words are NOT the Catalyst, you see...THOUGHTS are. When you say not to think of something or do something...Folks think on that...and that is what happens...Their Subconscious...Or the Universe Delivers...

Now let's CHANGE it around, just a little bit...

What happens when you say...REMEMBER...Folks Remember...You say "Remember to..." and sure enough...It happens. Because you FOCUSED on what you WANTED, rather than what you did NOT want...You see?

Now let's take that thought a bit further, shall we? Dive in just a little Deeper for some UNDERSTANDING...

Think of your own Journey...Where are you? Are you where you WANT to be? Or are you stuck where you do NOT want to be?

Only you know the answer...And your heart Surely knows. I'm not asking for me...Ask Yourself. Listen to your own heart.

Are you following your Intuition? Listening to what YOU have to say and being mindful to how you FEEL about things?

Ask yourself WHAT are you FOCUSING on? Is it what you Don't want? Or what you DO want?

I'm telling you now...Shift your FOCUS and Shift your Fate...It IS that Simple...

Attract what you WANT...NOT what you Don't want...

If you want PEACE...Then FOCUS on PEACE...Not war...or thoughts of it...PEACE is what you WANT...Focus on THAT. Put all your Power into PEACE. And you WILL Find it.

Do you follow?

If you want a HAPPY-HEALTHY-WONDERFUL LIFE...Then Focus on That...Not all of the things Ego and Consciousness would want to Focus on...Or better yet...Be DISTRACTED by...Focus more on the GOOD and More of the GOOD will Come to you...It WILL...Just Try it and see...KNOW for Yourself. You can do this...We ALL can...

WHEN we Do Focus on the Good and start Changing our neuroplasticity of our brains...Or how they respond to our thoughts...We can Reprogram them...actually make pathways and bridges to the Positive...Or we go to the Negative...and that will be most Dominate depending on our auto-pilot...The beauty in it is...We have CHOICE and we Get to Decide!

So we can have that Life of Misery...If that is what we want to Focus on...OR...We can have that Life of JOY...Where Positive things Radiate and Transpire all around you...We can do that! We are that AMAZING!

Now...For the how I KNOW this is True through Experience...and this is just most recent...as I said...It happened last night.

I have one heck of a Friend...We call ourselves Yin and Yang because we are always Living The Same Lives in Different States, It would seem. So Connected...She lives about 9 or 10 hours away...We met through Spark 8 years ago. As I said...We built an incredible bond...We just knew we had to meet...So she hopped in her car with her kids and road tripped all the way up to meet us. (Myself and my family.) Our meeting was a mere technicality because I am telling you...We already Knew each other even though we had never met. She is such an Inspiration and a Motivator to me...

Things Change...and Suddenly, we were not getting the pleasure of each other's company Through phone calls or sparktime, like we used to...and then more things changed...and we had not talked very much at all...Never feeling neglected (either one, I am pretty sure I can speak for her...I usually can, and she for me. We are usually of the same thinking. emoticon )

Anyway...Fast Forward some time...My Energy and Vibration were so low...I was going through some heavy stuff...and we were not really on the same connection anymore...We were not matching up in our Energy and our Thoughts...I was so low...I could only go up...

And Up I did...With a Vengeance...Learning, Changing, Growing, Finding My Spark...Getting my Vibration, My Frequency, My Energy back to an AWESOME Level...Where my Friend Jeni hangs out...We got on the same wavelength again...I was thinking of her...In fact I have pictures of our meeting that scroll through a digital picture frame in my kitchen...and I think on my Jeni gurl...and then last night....After not really being connected for so long...She came to our Library and she Joined in...After being away from Spark for so long...and I think this is the Beginning of something AMAZING and BEAUTIFUL! I am So HAPPY you are with us Jeni...and I DO look forward to more a you in my days!!!!

So remember the LAW of ATTRACTION as you go about your Days and your Thoughts and your Intentions...What you THINK Matters!

Now do you see how YOUR VIBE ATTRACTS YOUR TRIBE! And I just invited one of the best gals back into my Tribe...and I am so Joyous over our Reunion.

So...What's your VIBE doin'? What Kind of Tribe do you Have? What kind of Tribe do you WANT...Go Attract That which you WANT! You Can...and You Will...Be Conscious of your Thoughts and See if things Change in your Life. I Know already...They WILL.

Your Mind is POWERFUL and It is YOUR to Use...So Use it to your own Advantage and LIVE that LIFE you DREAM of...Not Dread. You got this...and Now You Know.

Edited by: YO~YOLANDA at: 1/6/2016 (09:33)
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I'm a firm believer in learned helplessness....I also believe that what is learned can be 'un-learned'....

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You have made it thru to this point, you can keep on going no matter what!

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Thank you Tweety...I've come through so much recently...I feel like I am open and receptive and lot's of good is coming into me, and I want to share it with others. I was down there for a little bit...but it was a Process for me, and I am ReGrowing...My Roots go Deep...and I want to help others who maybe are having a hard time too, through my own experience. I'm very HAPPY to be here!

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Hi there, welcome. We are glad you are here with us!

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A little background: I wrote this shortly after my youngest brother was hit and killed by a train, in April...Tax day, no-less. It was a rough road there for a minute...but I found so much clarity...Through so much Pain...May I share some of my thoughts with you?



LEARNED HELPLESSNESS

I am so excited to share what is in my heart today...I look for inspiration in every morning to write what my subconscious wants to share with my conscious...It really IS like that...I sit down. I let my fingers move, and then I read what I wrote...because the message comes from my HEART...Not my Brain which could limit me...I do not allow Fear to Stop me, now that I have walked through my own Flames and come out on the other side Like freakin' Superwoman...My eyes are WIIIIDE-Open as to what I should Fear...and What I have already Overcome...The immense Hurt I went through and Survived...Let's just say Perspectives Change...and How wonderful for that...or we would be stuck, never moving forward out of Fear or pain...

I am Living out of my comfort-zone...Extending myself...Taking Risks...LIVING LIFE and PARTICIPATING in LIFE!

I've had this message come to me 3 times - 3 seperate ways - already this morning..."I'm Gonna Be Okay"...So I am SURE this is my Sign to chat about it here...Today.



LEARNED HELPLESSNESS

What is that???

Learned helplessness is behavior typical of an organism (human or animal) that has endured repeated painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it was unable to escape or avoid.

Whoooo...Just think about that for a minute...during this chat...Take some time to Contemplate areas of your Life where you have learned Helplessness...I'm here to tell you...It Doesn't Have to be That way...

Tai Lopez was talking about this today...

Have you been taught that you can't escape from your issues or pain? Have you been Trained to be Helpless?

What creates Helplessness?

Conditioning...

Just like the Strong Elephant being held back by a tiny Rope tied to a stake in the ground...That elephant, at anytime....COULD Escape his bondage...But he BELIEVES he will be held back if he tries...Through conditioning...as a baby elephant...So eventually...He stops trying...Even when he IS MORE than Capable...He is held back because he does not try...He BELIEVES he Cannot SUCCEED.

Do you have certain areas of your Life, where you have stopped trying...through repetitious pain, or shock...or Fear that holds you back? Are you relying on the next thing to tell you what to do or how to do it? Do you feel out-of-control...Are you always waiting?

There is Nothing to Wait for...



You don't want to be stuck in a cage waiting...Or tied to a tiny rope, letting it hold you back when you are MORE than CAPABLE...

You can Venture out...and TRY...Try something New...You can Afford to be a little bit Risky in the Society that we have created...You are not going to be eaten alive...There are no more dinosaurs roaming the earth...We actually Do live in a pretty civilized society (sort of.)

You don't have to rely on someone else to condition you...You can THINK for Yourself and Follow Your Dreams! Don't wait for someone to bring you the answers...Untie the rope that holds you back and Go Seek Out and Find The Answers for Yourself...Just bend over and bloop...Untied...Easy-Peasy.

Be willing to Take some Risks. Even if it doesn't work out...What is the Worst that could happen? Ask yourself What if It WORKS?!?!?! Why De-Optimize your Happiness?

Don't Let Preconceived Conditioning Stop you from TRYING. Take the Risk...With Risk Comes Reward!

If you are seeking The Good Life...Staying in the Cage of what is Safe is penny-wise and dollar-foolish.

Make haste slowly...Be quick, but not in a hurry...(Which in my terms means baby-step).

Learned Helplessness is your MIND-SET from thinking that things are out of your control...Certain things just are...But be sure you KNOW the Difference and Do Something about those things you CAN Control. You Are CAPABLE!



INNOVATE OUT OF YOUR PROBLEMS...

What does that mean???

Innovate means To do something in a new way : to have new ideas about how something can be done.

Innovate out of your Problems is the Antithesis (or exact Opposite, reverse) of Helplessness. It is Creating the SOLUTION! Remember...When you find the SOURCE of something...You can Stop treating the Symptoms or side-effects...Just that one change will automatically take care of everything else...

Move from Helplessness to Creativity...

Tai gave a Great analogy of Man walking on the moon...He said:

"We're not helpless to the boundaries of space...We can put a man on the moon. - If we are not helpless to being stuck on Planet earth, confined by the boundaries of atmosphere...We can get out...I bet you can get out of each and every problem that comes into your life."

In any situation, Given your Control...You are Not Helpless to fix it Yourself...

Innovate your way out...

Remove all Learned Helplessness...and it can start with doing for yourself...Don't wait for Help...Be Brave enough to take Risk...Be Creative enough to Innovate Your Way Out.

Don't Wait for someone to give you the answers...Go FIND the Answers on your own. Be Responsible for your own Life...Use All of the Tools Available to you...Every Tool is there for the taking...In this modern day we have more knowledge available to us, quicker, and easier than ever...Make friends with youtube...Anything you could want to know is found there...

Maybe you hear voices that tell you why you can't...

But Listen to this instead...

We live in the Modern World...What-can't-you-do???

Learned Helplessness comes from the Millions of others who have Learned Helplessness too...Essentially Victims of Victims...For Lack of Creativity...

Everything you Want...You CAN Get! Innovate and Grow into any role you want.

As Tai says:

"Don't Wait -- Go out an Innovate!"

All you need is DRIVE...All the Fruits you want are there waiting for you to Satiate yourself...

Sloth-Laziness, and Unreliability will ruin your Life...

...But...

...They are Easy to SOLVE!

Rewire your brain that When you set your Mind to something you always do it.

Habits are what can either Keep you alive...Or kill you...

If you are fear-based...Relax...It's not that scary of a world anymore...We don't live in the Dark ages...and you are probably going to be okay...

You can INNOVATE...

Don't lay down...Don't wait...Don't let the tiny rope hold you back...YOU CAN DO IT!

TRUST that your Intuition will work everything to your Benefit.

Sure...Risk may feel uncomfortable...But that is where the next level is reached...

Tell yourself...I'm gonna make it Through!








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