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2/5/16 11:04 P

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Hi and thank you for your reply. I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to this thread. I had knee surgery and have been recovering. I can relate to a lot of what you're saying about your childhood. I, too, was raised in an environment of emotional neglect. We (my siblings and I) were not touched with loving gestures. If we were touched, it was to be hit. The rare exception being that if my mother thought we had a fever, she would put her hand to our foreheads - that was the extent of loving gestures in my childhood. We were never told we were loved. We were provided with a warm home, clothes, food, and even some extras like piano lessons (though I didn't want them - my parents had always wanted to play piano themselves, so they got lessons for us).

I have been told by one therapist that I have PTSD, but I found that difficult to believe in some ways. It seems like something soldiers would have - not regular people like me. But it does make sense that a vulnerable sensitive child might be traumatized by neglect and abuse.

I looked on Amazon and found the book you recommended and I can read it for free on my Kindle Unlimited plan. I downloaded it tonight and will read it.

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and the book recommendation. I really appreciate it.

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1/7/16 5:40 P

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MILLER-S, I've struggled with depression for most of my life. I've seen counselors on and off since I was 13, but the most anyone could do to help was to provide me with coping strategies and pills, never actually getting to why I was depressed in the first place...until I started working with a therapist who recognized without me even telling her (because I didn't know) that I had been raised in an environment of severe and continuous emotional neglect, without any surrogate (aunt, uncle, grandparent, family friend) who could have stepped in and been a stable, loving adult. My therapist explained (after many months of therapy) that the depression was not the main problem, but was a symptom of complex post traumatic stress disorder, which was a result of my challenging childhood. If she had told me sooner, I never would have believed her. I thought I had a relatively normal childhood, but was so isolated that I had nothing to compare it to. Ever since I saw the truth of this diagnosis I have been making huge progress, a lot of which has been through processing massive amounts of grief (crying more than I ever have in my life). I'm not saying that this applies to you, but you mentioned long-term depression and OCD, which I read have been associated with C-PTSD. Perhaps this information will help you or someone else who reads it, or perhaps not.

If interested in more information, in addition to YouTube and the Internet, I would recommend a book by Pete Walker, "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving."

All the best,
SHERRYLHBB

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1/6/16 9:27 P

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Very insightful - thanks for sharing. Sometimes I can identify the emotion and the emotional trigger. Sometimes I've allowed myself to really "feel" the feelings (resulting in some cathartic crying sessions), but I often feel I have very few choices that will really make a difference. Maybe I'm just afraid of the changes and choices I'd need to make in my life. It doesn't help that I've suffered from depression and severe OCD for so many years. Both seems to limit choices in so many ways. I guess I need to think about that some more, in case I'm making excuses.

Thanks again.

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1/6/16 5:42 P

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I just posted a blog on emotional eating and how to end it. This blog is a response to Dean Anderson's SparkPeople article titled "Tame the Emotional Eating Beast for Good" www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellnes
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I'm posting my blog link here, because I think it may be of interest to team members.

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
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nal_individual.asp?blog_id=6062344


Feedback is welcome!

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