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6/22/16 9:47 P

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Della, when someone offends you, even if it is your son, you need to tell him so. Anger is not a sin when it is a righteous anger at something, but it is definitely wrong to use it in a sinful way and on others who are innocent bystanders and victims to leash their emotional anger on.Then again, it is a sin for your son not to honor you as his mother.
As you said a soft anger turns away wrath, even it is your own. (I just thought of that, for I know how hard it is too deal with angry words from a son and then get in a dispute. It usually makes me feel badly if I should do this. I have learned when one of my sons is hurting or worried and takes it out on others or me, is to pray about it beforehand and allow the Holy Spirit to give me the right response. When I do, I see things go differently.
Love you Della. Praying for your son.

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6/21/16 5:35 P

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I'm thankful God provided a way for your truck to be fixed! I am praying for the situation concerning your son's anger, and for your family as a whole. I didn't respond because I've been fortunate to not have been in an abusive relationship, so I don't feel I should respond or give advice on something that I have no personal knowledge of. But I did want to let you know I'm praying.

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6/20/16 5:54 P

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PS this morning I gave my day to GOD in a special way.
Then I wrote it on our group wall.
Asking especially for guidance
Praise God!
My dully diesel broke down at Cotys job! His boss loaned him $ for the part & Coty will repair it when he gets off work tonight.
No drama! PTL the truck is fixed! My prayer of faith, as 3 ppl go to work in my truck, only thing running thank you Jesus for guiding my footsteps and giving us wisdom! Praise you Father!

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6/20/16 5:45 P

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Thank you, Babygirl! I appreciate all the prayer I can get.
We need it, as a family unit.
You're right on the mark, too. Mike needs healing. God has begun the work, though at this time, he questions if God is even real. Our 1st born is promised especially many times over again, salvation.

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6/20/16 4:13 P

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I would definitely let your son know his anger offends you, soon after it happens. But consult God first...Ask Him for the right words to say. Speak to Mike with love and compassion, but be firm, he needs to understand it is unfair to project his anger on others.

Dear Heavenly Father,

I ask Your Blessings upon Mike and his family. Bless him to realize projecting his anger on his family hurts them. When anger enters him, I ask for Your peace to take control. Let him down into the deepness of your treasures, so he can experience Your precious love. Father God, if he is carrying wounds that have not healed, I ask You to Bless him in the name of Jesus. I know You to be an awesome healer, I come asking for healing grace over him. Give Him peace that surpasses all understanding. Bless his family with patience, love, and understanding. Bless them to not feel guilty for letting him know his words offended them. The tongue is a powerful weapon, it can bruise more than physical actions can. I know he loves his family, Bless him to think before saying hurtful things. Keep all of them wrapped in Your arms of protection. In the mighty name of Jesus, AMEN.

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6/19/16 10:48 P

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Today, I'm remembering the verse that says, "... a soft answer turns away wrath"
Mike, my 46 yr old son, is angry & that makes him mean, at times.
He told me to tell him when he's "pushing' his anger at me.
I find it difficult to do.
Its necessary to confront him in love.
I want to run.
I'm not handling his anger correctly. I wait n act wrong with my daughter, Tif, who is 27 soon.
3 grown adults who want to treat each other with love and respect, and ?
Does anyone have any advice about how / what to react
Gods word is the answer.
My flesh is having a fight with reacting in Gods way.
I want to ignore Mikes anger at life or run.

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5/12/16 9:39 P

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A version of this Thread was posted in the old team. I did not reach out to the members who posted their stories, because I want everyone to have a fresh start. I want you to share your story because you choose to. I realize opening up and discussing this type of pain is not easy, my prayers for strength and encouragement are with you. Please continue the steps toward healing, and remember your words can give someone else the courage needed...

There are so many people struggling or who have struggled with physical and/or emotional abuse. I pray this Thread begins or helps continue your healing process.

Father Bless those who will share their story or even think of sharing their story in this thread. Let them know we are not here to judge, but we want to uplift and support. Bless them with strength and encouragement. Give them power over their pain, despair, helplessness, trust issues, and any open wounds they still carry. I know You to be a God of healing, so I ask for your healing Grace over them. Allow them to experience the depth of your love. May all of them know the pure joy and peace of having an intimate relationship with You. Let their stories begin or continue the healing process. I trust and believe in Your love and mercy. In the precious name of Jesus,

AMEN.


Psalms 11:15

The Lord tests the righteous: but His soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.

Psalms 147:3

He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.

Psalms 27:12

Give me not up to the will of my adversaries; for false witnesses have risen against me, and they breathe out violence.

All abuse is not physical, emotional abuse can be more damaging than physical. The wounds can leave scars that take much longer to heal. But to be abused by those that are supposed to love and care for you must be the most damaging of all.

Ephesians 4:29-32

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

James 1:26

Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.


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