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8/1/10 7:25 P

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their all good for a little while

maybe shes his soulmate ;)



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Haha yeah the girl he's living with now told me he is a "good man" that I was losing. MMhmm right...!

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8/1/10 6:54 P

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Wow that guy sounded like a wonderful catch good thing you gave him up.

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sounds like a real prize!

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As I was driving by another car in a Wal-Mart parking lot, the guy calls out, "Hey big girl!"

My husband telling me that belly rings "aren't for me" (b/c you know...those are for the cute, skinny girls.

Non-weight related, but still hurtful: My husband telling me that people only wear toe rings when they want attention called to their feet (he didn't think my feet were attractive enough for me to wear a toe ring).

After splitting from said husband, he then accuses the new boyfriend of "being too shallow to be with me" (insinuating that eventually I'll get dumped b/c of my weight).



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"If you get any bigger no man is going to want to marry you!" My aunt, who was married at the time, to myself and my cousin, when we were about 12 and 10.

"You would be as beautiful as your ****, if you just dropped some weight." Grandma, to me when I was about 14.

"That's my little jelly belly!" Now, in all fairness, this was my husband of 14 years, and I was about 8 and a half month pregnant with our first daughter. The look of shock and horror on his face was priceless, right as he went "Baby, I meant JOLLY JOLLY" only to make it worse as I looked at him wide eyed and in shock and went "Like calling a big pregnant lady "jolly' is any better.." :P We still cut up about that one.

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I was at the campus bookstore one day and when I went to checkout the sales clerk said "Wow, you found something in your size!" I don't think she was trying to be mean but just really misspoke.

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Had to share a good comment instead of a bad one!! My husband and I frequently curl up on the bed - he'll watch TV and I'll read a book. He'll turn on the bed and rest his head on my side, stomach or rear (depending on how I'm laying) and says he finds it comfortable. Well last night he leaned against my rear for a few minutes and then moved completely away from me. It caught my attention and I asked what was wrong. "You are getting all firm and compact - there's not enough padding anymore."

YES!! It made my day - he may have been disgruntled but it means my workouts are having an effect.

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I am so glad to see everyone dropping off what people have said to them. It amazes me how some people can have the nerve to say some of these things, it comes out as easy as them saying "Hey you look really good today" I was always told that if people did not like themselves, then they have to try to make someone else feel just as bad as them. Thats what I try to tell my kids when they come across a bad situation. I guess I had so much turmoil as a child in school, that one time I remember my girls saying how a couple of brothers at school were getting made fun of by these snooty girls because of how they dressed. I broke down in tears, because it broke my heart. Why do people have to make someone feel so low? It's sickening. I had to get this out, even when its someone else getting hurt, it affects me too. I have been a little affected by all the posts in here, it brought back bad memories, but now I can dump them off right here!

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hello, new to Spark (joined today) and I cannot believe these comments I've been reading! I haven't noticed any comments directed towards me in years (I am so thankful to have a wonderful family and supportive husband and friends) but when I was a teenager.... jeesh.

I've forgotten most of them, but 2 really stand out:

When I was about 16-17, I had a very close male friend (Pete) who dated one of my best friends (Jenn) on-and-off. Pete and I spent a lot of time together, and I developed a bit of a crush. One day he looked at me and said "If I could put your brain inside of Jenn's body, I'd have the perfect girlfriend". OUCH...

The other one was when I was about 12, and I had a skin biopsy done on my arm. The biopsy resulted in me developing cellulitis (a blood infection that can be quite serious if not treated). I noticed during gym class that my arm hurt, and was red, hard, and hot to the touch. I went to the gym teacher and explained that I thought I needed to go to the nurse, because my arm hurt. She took one look at me and said, very rudely, "It's probably from lack of use". OW... somehow, it hurts so much more coming from an adult when you're that age.

I keep my sanity by realizing that the only thing I can control is my own reaction to the uncontrollable.

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I grew up hearing my mom tell my dad that, "when you reach 200 pounds, you have to go sleep in the camper." I was an active kid with lots of muscles, and by the time I was in high school, I weighed 200 pounds - I wore it very well though, no one would have guessed I weighed that much.
I never told my mom how much I weighed, because I felt like she would be so disappointed in me -since she used to say that she would kick him out. Last year, I confronted her about this, and she said that she was just kidding around with him. But, wow... that sure affected me as a kid. I think this is where my low self esteem is related to my weight.

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My worst was from my mother. I was probably 13-14 years old. I am very short (5'0 on a good day) and she told me that I was like a barrell, as wide as I am tall. I will NEVER forget that, why on earth would you say that to anyone, much less a young teen, when there are so many body issues at that age anyway!?!

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When I wasn't that much over weight maybe 20 or 40 pounds I had a boyfriend that we would go grocery shopping together anyways I grab a bag of these cheezie type things and put it in the cart he grabbed them out telling me if I ate those it would make me fat. I was so mad I grabbed the bag back and we got home I ate the whole mega size bag in one sitting that was 13 years ago and I still remember how I felt and how sick I felt after eating the whole bag.

The other thing he used to do is if we ate out at McDonalds after we were done eating he would make disgusting sounds so that I would throw up. Looking back at all of these things it doesn't surprise me that he ended up cheating on me. Humm but those two things sure bug me still.

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I dated a guy once who talked about my weight a lot- don't know why I stayed with him but I did- anyways I actually went on a diet to please him and was losing weight and then he tells me "No matter how much weight you lose you will always be ugly" I finally broke up with him and yep I done the breaking up but that comment still bugs me.

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7/14/10 12:26 A

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Co-workers are the worst because they judge you with what you are eating, etc.

I have had some say behind my back that I must be pregnant and some say it right to my face and they constantly look at my stomach trying to figure out if I am or not.

I have had one guy that constantly says to me that everytime he sees me I am eating (which alot of the time I am since I try and eat something small every two to three hours).

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My main ones are with my grandma she just frustrates me.

She has always comment on how I could have better hair, lose weight, etc.

So I was actually trying to lose weight when she came to visit last and instead of just eating whatever I was doing portion control, etc. Well when she first saw me she said that I better lose alot of weight before I get diabetes or something. Then we sit down for supper and the next things she says to me is that isn't enough food for anyone to eat. Which one is it Grandma. To top it off she also brought 7 dozen cookies and 4 cakes and a whole bunch of buns which is nice and all but if you think I need to lose weight maybe not bring that stuff for me to eat.

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I had someone ask me when I was due. I responded 18 months ago, why do you ask? emoticon

"Your lives are a letter written in our hearts, and everyone can read it and recognize our good work among you."

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7/13/10 8:34 A

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Just to preface - I have a friend who is overweight (weighs more than me) who has a snotty/snooty mother who is normal weight and an oblivious father who just doesn't get it but he's very, very nice.

Anyway, they attended church with her a few weeks ago and I haven't seen them in over a year. Naturally, I was excited and happy to see them visiting their daughter. The father was great, but the mother slid her eyes straight to my belly and stared and then said to me in that voice "I see that you have been living SUMPTUOUSLY" to which I replied, why yes, yes I have, thank you so much for noticing.

I mean really? What have I ever said or done to deserve or warrant that from her?

Not to mention the time a complete stranger PUT HER HAND ON MY STOMACH and asked how far along I was. Excuse me? To which I replied in a loud voice "lady I'm not pregnant, I'm fat" - in front of the entire restaurant. Glad I was picking up take out!

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Wow, that's harsh. Sounds more like a "frenemy"! I'm sure you'll do just fine losing enough weight to do the rides at Disney. I went last fall at 230 pounds and had no trouble at all! Hang in there, and keep standing up for yourself.

Tammy, that happened to me, too. Turns out some of them were commenting on how much better I was looking, and wondering what I was doing to see results. Eventually one person got enough guts to come talk to me about it. She said she wanted to before, but wasn't sure how to approach me. So maybe all it means is that you're doing a great job and people are noticing!

Edited by: JEN_BACK2BASICS at: 7/9/2010 (13:56)
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7/7/10 6:05 P

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Sorry your "friend" was so crule. Don't believe her, just show her how wrong she is... You can do anything you set your mind to and we know you will!

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Recently shared with a friend my goal to lose weight before going to Disney in the fall. Her response: "Well it's not like you'll lose enough in time to ride anything will you?"" Just turned to her adn said thanks for the support!


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My problem is not what people say its how people look at me, lately my coworkers are looking me up and down and talk about me behind my back.Is anyone having problems with co-workers?

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6/27/10 1:07 P

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I am just reminded how ignorant and mean people can be...so sad for THEM! HA!

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I am new to this spark team, and I was reading alot of these all the way back to April. I have had some moments of people saying things to me, and all to well do I know how it makes you feel. About 70 pounds lighter ago, I was still about 80 pounds overweight at the time, and I was admiring the cute valentines day cookies my sister-in-law had made, and she says to me, "God you can smell food a freakin mile away, cant you?" I think that is the most embarrassed I ever felt. Same sister-in-law made the comment how my sweater, that was oversized on me was made out of a curtain. Those are probably the worst times I can remember! I dont feel so alone anymore! I am glad to be here on this site.

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jerri_ you should have told her "I know, I hear he likes dumb ones too so I guess I lucked out all around"

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Well...every family gathering since I was 8...so I can't possible post all that. How about recently my friend told me how lucky I was that I was so big, since the boss was only hitting on the skinny girls. Nice one. Real nice. I may be heavier than she is, but...well fill in the blank. emoticon Glad I escaped the sexual harassment with my body fat.

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I just want to hug all of you. Reading the things that have been said to you just breaks my heart. I was always the thin one in my group of friends, which they pointed out, but for some reason I've always been huge in my own mind. I did end up gaining over a hundred pounds though, so now I'm as round as I am tall. It made it so that I was scared to death to run into people I went to school with because I was so embarrassed and had always heard the things they would say about my friends. I often wonder if it's because of these messages we hear that we create these weight issues. They literally weigh us down, and most of the time it's the other persons darn issues not our own. I am so very sorry that people were so mean and said the things they have to you, I wish I could take away all the pain it's caused you. I've had some comments said to me, and they are so devastating. I wish that people would see beyond our packages to the real substance that is within. We aren't in control of the gifts we are given, and our bodies are a gift as well... we are in control of how we use them. Hell... on top of the hundred pounds I gained, I also get to be a bearded circus freak. I think I could handle just being heavy haha! I try to make jokes about it I guess because otherwise it just gets to be too painful, and while they are staring at my protruding tummy that hangs to my knees, or at the 5'o'clock shadow forming on my chin, it breaks the tension, and horror I feel inside... it lets them know.. I know they're looking... NOW CUT IT OUT! If I laugh at it maybe it won't hurt so much. Nah, it still hurts like hell... but I still choose laughter. My halloween costume will be authentic! The one time I can grow out my beard, which grows better than most mens... and people are impressed LOL!
I see no humor in the things that have been said to any of you... and about the only thing I would find humorous would be like one woman said, the making of a new butt ornament out of a foot!

Loving you all because you're beautiful regardless
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6/22/10 9:04 A

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it really stuns me how rude people can be...just remember everyone..you can lose weight but they cant fix ugly-not their type of ugly!

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I was at a flea market this past week and saw an older man I haven't seen in many years. He told me that I needed to break my plate. Confused I looked at him and said "excuse me?" He said "You need to break your late...ya know, the next time you go to eat". Then he just laughed and walked off. After losing 75 pounds since January, you can imagine how that made me feel.

He was lucky he left when he did because he was about to wear my foot as a butt ornament. Hmm.

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I took my niece to open swim a few weeks ago. While changing in the ladies locker room, a "tween" aged girl told her mom that that "fat lady" was gross. I finished pulling my shirt over my head and looked around only to realize that she was talking about me and her mother was nodding in agreement. My niece came over and gave me a hug, confirming she was paying attention and witnessed the exchange.

It was hard to explain such ignorance to a 5 yr. old. But it was a good chance to show her how to be strong and turn the other cheek.

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I have heard "wow are you pregnant" or "when are you due" from old friends I have ran into. And recently my 5 almost 6 year old nephew went up to my son and said "your mom is fat". Im sure he meant no harm, he is little, but it sure does hurt my feelings.

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Both my husband's Aunt and a co-worker have commented loudly, in front of a lot of other people, "Wow, is that *all* you're eating?!?!?"
It's rude, unnecessary, underscores their own petty jealousies and is absolutely none of their business!!

Yes, this is all I am eating; I am not starving myself, but rather, I am eating proper servings of healthy food. If healthy choices aren't available, I am free to not eat at all or eat small amounts of whatever I choose is appropriate. I am dropping those comments off here and letting it go. If someone's got a problem with what I choose to put in my body from now on they can go stick their head in a vat of butter! emoticon

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Thanks! I did talk to my son about it, he was upset...I told him that some people are just plain mean but that what someone says about him, me or our family doesn't matter. All that matters is how much we love each other and that we know that we are good people!

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wow, I cannot believe someone would be so cruel...did you discuss this with your son after the fact?

your right-your commitment to yourself is what matters and when you are thin and healthy that guy will still be a jacka$$!!

Chin up girl!!

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I was walking home from the store yesterday with my five year old son when a guy stopped his car in the middle of the road and yelled out of his window, "Hey you're as big as an elephant, why don't you stop eating?" I was so embarrassed, there were other people out walking and I seriously wanted to crawl into a hole. I cannot believe how mean some people are. All I can do is keep my commitment to myself, and hope that with time I will feel better about myself and the stupid and insensitive comments will no longer bother me.

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My friend and I work out together in the mornings at our gym, then use the locker room....it's very small, and it can be quite crowded at that time. My friend is a plus size gal and also very tall. She is usually in her "section" of the locker room with 2 other women at the same time. yesterday one of them said to the other "I'm glad we came early so there was room for us here," obviously meaning that my friend took up too much room.

It wasn't about me, but it was hurtful and unnecessary. I just don't understand people sometimes.

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obviously your boyfriend was not mentally stable, or he was visually impaired

I got the "that lady is having a baby" yesterday Yeehaw

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The things that kill me are not those said to me now bc I am big & mean & nobody really messes with me now :)

BUT when I was 17, I was 115 pounds & 6 ft tall. My boyfriend at the time said he liked chubby girls like me. That started my cycle of yo-yo dieting and my stinky relationship with food.





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AuntRachel, I understand about the cart thing. I worked at Walmart for a LONG time. And I only rode those things 2 times (other than transporting them from one end of the store to the other) and both times I was pregnant and my son was laying on my sciatic nerve. I was on early maternity leave because of complications DUE to him on my nerves (I was probably around 36 weeks at this point). I asked for a cart and he gets me one and there was lady that came in right after me looking for one as well. I get the last one and she made the comment that if I'd get off my "fat ass" and WALKED around the store I'd probably wouldn't need one. Jim, the door greeter, looked at her and said loudly "Ma'am, that woman is pregnant and she's having trouble walking." Though I didn't stick around to hear her response, I was so glad that Jim said what he said.

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I have two comments that I would like to add. Hopefully they won't bother me since I am trying to let them go here.

The first one happened when I was growing up. I can't remember how old I was. My sister made up a song and would sing it to me. It went like this. Rachel is fat. Rachel is fat. Yes she is. Yes she is. We all know that she is fat. I wasn't even that overweight then.

The next happened several months ago. I had recently been diagnosed as having two herniated discs in my back. It was really bothering me. We went to Wal-mart to get some groceries and other things. I was riding in on of the electric carts due to my back. I lady in the store told me how it is so sad that I had to use the cart at my age and that it should be for those that really need it. She said something about needing to do something to lose weight. The fact of the matter is it had nothing to do with my weight even though I am over weight. It really hurt to be being judged like that by a total stranger.

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5/26/10 8:27 P

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I love my gramma but she was really good about telling me about when she was my age and she wasn't as heavy. Or she'd go on about my "round" face being hard to get any hairstyle/makeup to look right.

One day I was at work and we were having inventory. *it was retail* and we had spaces under the shelving. Well the only way to clear out from underneath them well is to lay on your belly and get a broom. So there I am, on my belly with a broom getting merchandise out from under the shelves, when this punkass teen comes by and tells me that THAT is how I got fat in the first place. If I'd get up and move some, I'd lose some weight. I just looked at him and told him that if he'd use his brain more he wouldn't look like such dumbass.

The ones that kill me...well at least you have a pretty face.

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5/20/10 8:21 P

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My grandma, bless her heart, passed away almost three years ago, but one of my most memorable moments with her was at Christmas when I was in my late teens/early 20s. I've always been overweight and always been self-conscious. Well, my grandma that Christmas decided to give me and my three cousins money for clothes. She pulls me aside and says (in a normal level voice) "I gave you more because you're bigger and your clothes cost more." Thanks Grandma! :)

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5/19/10 2:30 P

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I know I've had a lot of hurtful comments in my time, but I can't think of any right now. Which is a good thing, right? It means I'm not focusing on the negative...

I think some people think that being rude or ostracizing the overweight will somehow do something good for that person. Like they're doing us a favor. Which of course is crap.

Just remember what Dr. Seuss said: "Be who you are and say what you feel. Anyone who matters won't mind, and anyone who minds won't matter."

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5/19/10 6:06 A

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Honestly!!! That is so horrible, I am beyond words!!!
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My 14 year old daughter goes back and forth between my parent's house and our house. She simply adores her Grandparents.... Anyway, my parent's have some neighbors across the street that had moved for appx. a year and then decided to move back.

Prior to them leaving my daughter had put on some weight due to a medicine she was on. Well, after they decided to move back, my daughter happen to be outside playing basketball (by this time the doctor had discontinued her medicine and she dropped the excess weight) and Gina (one of the Adult neighbors who had moved back) walked over to my daughter after not seeing her for almost a year and said to her, "It is so good to see you lost all the weight, I thought you were going to get as fat as your mom".

That was the most horrible feeling in the world. Not only for me, but that an adult would actually say that to a child about their mother and place that child in such a horrible position.

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5/10/10 1:15 P

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It's weird, I haven't thought abou these comments until I started reading this thread but I was so overcome with anger, depression and embarassment I had to write more about it on my Blog. And it started off being such a good day! Hopefully dropping this off and venting will help me leave it behind, in the past where it belongs!

My step-dad has a large family. His parents owned a farmhouse with lots of land behind it and as their kids grew up they put a road and houses behind the main house. We lived there for a while. When I was 12 and my step-uncle was in his mid-20s he would do everything he could to tear me down. I got all kinds of verbal abuse when passing him on the road, at family gatherings, when he would come to my house ... stuff like, "Hi Blimpie" and "Damn are you fat!" and "How is it possible that you are even MORE FAT than yesterday?" and of course my all-time favorite "If I were as fat as you I would kill myself!"

But - there is a happy ending to the story! He got married to a woman that is twice as big as me and never EVER cleans house! She has four kids and three were taken away from her. The fourth one is with my step-uncle and the little girl weighs as much as I did at 18 - she's 11. Oh man Karma can really do a number on you!!!


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I have 2 sisters that are thin. One's really skinny. We all went out to Famous Dave's for a family dinner one night (inlaws, grandkids-the whole shabang). Now I don't eat meat anymore. So, I ordered a dinner salad. My mom, of ALL people, is overweight also. She had the gull to look at me & say, "Oh...another one on a diet. You're not gonna eat either?"

That hurt, since she knows that I don't eat meat, they all go out to a BBQ joint & I'm the biggest of the family. I've been on diets since I was pre-teen. She had the audasity to say that in front of the whole family.

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I totally agree and you know-it just dawned on me that looking thru this thread when my motivation is starting to slack may be just the incentive I need. Wouldn't that be great?? If other people's rude, hurtful comments helped us all move forward and achieve weight loss success? emoticon

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Oh, I missed this thread!
And I won't even start on all I had to hear in my lifetime. You can just see my latest fiasco on Having a bad day ;) on Dealing with depression.
I hear you about Wanting a cookie right away after the kid's comment! Big motivation for me to lose this "discusting belly" - do not want to hear that all my life.
My heart goes out to all of us. We got to make it to a "decent" weight. For everything that we can not do today, but will be able one day, after a long streak of work out days and months! Going to make it! And so are all of you!!!!!!

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5/3/10 7:23 P

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I was in a clothing store that caters to the young and the skinny shopping for my son. I passed by an adorable little girl (maybe 4 or 5) and smiled at her as I did. I walked down the next aisle and heard her say to her dad, 'I didn't know fat people could shop here'.
I can't even think about that without wanting a cookie, hows that for fighting the emotional eating battle!! emoticon

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