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Hi All:

I don't like my clothing! So the best thing to do is to change the way that I feel and LOSE WEIGHT!

I'm happy to be back in a community that lifts you up, shows your progress and meet people that share the same or similar concerns as you do. I allowed my sweet tooth to get the best of me and now I'm in control.

I am in the process of starting my w/o program over. I need to build up to the level that I was at previously. I accept all forms of support and encouragement.

Thank you, Sparkpeople, for giving me hope, the courage to push thru and the perseverance to go the mile. I am still looking for a w/o buddy and if you're interested, please let me know.


1. Consequences - Never use threats. They�ll turn people against you. But making people aware of the negative consequences of not getting results (for everyone involved) can have a big impact. This one is also big for self motivation. If you don�t get your act together, will you ever get what you want?

2. Pleasure - This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.

3. Performance incentives - Appeal to people�s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.

4. Detailed instructions - If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what�s expected.

5. Short and long term goals - Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.

6. Kindness - Get people on your side and they�ll want to help you. Piss them off and they�ll do everything they can to screw you over.

7. Deadlines - Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.

8. Team Spirit - Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team � they don�t want to let others down.

10. Recognize achievement - Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn�t being ignored.

11. Personal stake - Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you�ll be able to keep people happy and productive.

12. Concentrate on outcomes - No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes � make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.

13. Trust and Respect - Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they�ll respond to requests much more favorably.

14. Create challenges - People are happy when they�re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they�ll be more enthusiastic.

15. Let people be creative - Don�t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.

16. Constructive criticism - Often people don�t realize what they�re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.

17. Demand improvement - Don�t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).

18. Make it fun - Work is most enjoyable when it doesn�t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.

19. Create opportunities - Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.

20. Communication - Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.

21. Make it stimulating - Mix it up. Don�t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for �big picture� thinking.

Master these key points and you�ll increase motivation with a bit of hard work.

Member Since: 8/10/2007

Fitness Minutes: 5,802

My Goals:
15lbs = New W/O outfit
20lbs = New dress
30lbs = slip into my fav jeans

40lbs = put on my fav summer dress

60lbs = Photograph a new beginning

70lbs = Put in my application for fitness instructor

80lbs = Renew my maintenance program

My Program:
Wii My Fitness Coach
Power Walking
Weight Lifting
Turbo Jam
Hip Hop Abs
Yoga Booty Ballet

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Carrot Nut
Yogurt Lover

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"Action and reaction, ebb and flow, trial and error, change - this is the rhythm of living. Out of our over-confidence, fear; out of our fear, clearer vision, fresh hope. And out of hope, progress."
Bruce Barton

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  • v -DEBY-
    Hi emoticon *****my Spark Pal*******

    emoticon “This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth,
    Love to complete your life." emoticon

    ~Wishing~ YOU a BLESSed n FUNtastic Friday and WEEKend ~~0:)

    ~~~Hugs~~~ emoticon ~~~Deby

    4457 days ago
    United We Shed - The Weight Motivational Message:

    "When you arrive at your future, will you blame your past?"

    -- Robert Half

    What holds you back from being and doing more? In your journal, list what you believe is holding you back.

    Have you blamed people or factors outside of yourself? It's important to understand that ALL problems are rooted inside us. Even the blocks that appear to be outside of us are only reflecting back an issue we have inside that we have not yet owned. Once we address our inner issue, the outer situation no longer troubles us.

    The buck always stops with us. We step into our power when we accept responsibility for our lives.

    Roger Dawon once said - The most self-destructive thought that any person can have is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life. That's when, ‘Why me?’ becomes a theme song.

    Today make the choice to Seek the inner cause of problems

    Have a great day!

    Health & Happiness
    Cindy & Anastasia
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    4461 days ago
    emoticon . Hope you had a great weekend.

    United We Shed - The Weight Motivational Message:

    The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.-- Alvin Toffler

    How willing are you to learn something new? How open are you to new perspectives?

    Only when we're open can we really hear what's being said or really see what's happening or really experience the moment.

    Openness demands that we be willing to move to places we've never been before. It asks us to continually challenge the foundations of our belief systems so we can test out new ideas. And to do that, we need to accept insecurity.

    Make this week all about committing to the changes you want to see and learning new things.

    Have a great week

    Health & Happiness
    Anastasia & Cindy emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4462 days ago
  • v -DEBY-
    hi emoticon

    Just fluttering by emoticon to wish you a FUNtastic Weekend....

    and Sharing a few lil reminders...

    eat well,.... emoticon enjoy your food....... emoticon emoticon Make it fun...

    REST......... emoticon Make sure you get plenty of rest so you can have lots n lots of fun

    Drink........ emoticon Drink plenty of fluids....... emoticon emoticon hopefully the healthy kind and limit the other kinds.... to add to your fun

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon and add exercise to your weekend... exercising can be fun.... key is moving... Dancing sure does count as exercise too....

    BLESSins ALLways... filled with FUN....


    Wishing YOU a FUNtastic Mother's Day WEEKend ~~~0:)

    4464 days ago
  • v INDYSMUM2009
    congratulations for dusting yourself off and getting back on track! emoticon
    4466 days ago
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