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Life Happens

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Ok so what was it less than 3 weeks ago I turned 42 on the 23rd of September. Life was great and I was feeling on top of the world so here is my story Life Happens.

My ex husband and the father of all three of my kids literally fell off a ladder and died, now I could write an entire book about the ordeal but the short version is we have three kids 16, 18 and 21. We have been divorced for 12 years and we have both remarried. We were young and stupid when we got married and it was the first love for both of us and it was your once in a lifetime crazy kind of love. We had managed to become great friends and it is so hard to come to the realization that he is gone. He fell on October 1st and died on October 3rd. He was on life support for a few days because he did become and organ donor at the request of our 16 year old daughter. Organ Transplant is a wonderful gift but it is so hard for the family who has to go through days of testing but it did help make some kind of positive come out of this so very bad situation.

Now on Friday October 10th. My HR manager came into work and let the two people with the lowest seniority go due to budget cuts I was of course the lowest in seniority and I had been there for 8 years. Just takes my breath away. I am really trying hard to continue to focus on a more healthy lifestyle but I have to tell you it is just getting harder and harder by the day. I am lucky I guess because I also work doing taxes for HR Block and I have been teaching for them and they actually offered me a management position so although I did loose my job I did manage to find another one in just a matter of a phone call but the benefits are not as good and with my history of Thyroid Cancer I am not sure what a future without medical insurance might mean. Time will only tell about that one.

Please say a prayer for me and my family. I struggle every day to try and keep things as normal as possible for my kids, Just taking it one day at a time. I have been remarried for almost 10 years but loosing my first love has really been so very hard. We had managed to become very good friends over the last few years raising our kids together.

Thank you all for your continued support it means so much to me

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  • BELLE52877

    I am so truly sorry for what you and your family are going through for your losses both with your ex husband and your job. I am sure it feels as though your world is crashing down around you but know that there are people here to help you pick up the peices- your family, friends, and of course your sparkpeople :)

    I think it is wise to take things one day at a time especially since you are not only dealing with your own grief but you are the source of comfort and support for your kids as well. Take things slowly and take time for yourself. Everyone greives differently and on different time tables so let it happen as it will. If you have a bad food choice it is ok- don't beat yourself up over it. Just make a pledge to yourself that you will make a better choice the next time.

    As far as your job, you are very lucky that you happened into another so quickly. I have been looking for a job for almost a year since my previous company was bought. I know switching insurance carriers is very scary because there is the unknown of whether or not they are going to cover preexisting conditions. I am hoping things will turn out in your favor. Just take things one a a time.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
    take care

    Shelly (Belle52877) emoticon
    4663 days ago
    Aww Genia. I'm so sorry for your loss and your kids loss. Man, what a stinky situation.
    Keep your head up. Don't give up.
    My husband switched jobs this year as well - and so far the insurance is holding up. Hopefully it will be the same for you. I was terrified they would not insure me because of my "pre-existing condition" of thyroid cancer. We have not had any issues as of yet. I worry about what will happen if it rears it's ugly head again.
    Anyway - enough of that. I'll be praying for you. Try to take just a few minutes each day for you. You've suffered a major blow - take the time you need to walk through that.
    Take care-
    4666 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/19/2008 9:43:49 PM
  • DSD831
    I am so sorry!. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help!!
    4672 days ago
    Hi Genia,

    I am so sorry to hear this!! I wish I could do or say something to make things better.

    I will be thinking of you and I really hope that things start to get a little easier so you can adjust and grieve.

    My love to you and your family,
    4672 days ago
    Aw, Genia, I'm so sorry to hear all the things that have happened to you and your family. Life can change in a heartbeat.
    We are here if you need a shoulder or someone to listen.

    4672 days ago
    You and your family have been in my prayers. I hope that with each passing day, week, and soon a month - the pain will lessen for all of you. The grieving process takes time, let it happen and find ways to help you cope (hopefully that don't include overeating).

    Please let us know how we can help you.

    Now, about that job - sometimes something has to go to make room for something bigger. I am so thankful that you were able to secure a new position so quickly! Take the insurance issue one step at a time and see what the future will bring.

    do take care,

    Ruby emoticon
    4672 days ago
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