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Monday, October 20, 2008


Just when I thought a chapter in my life was closed it has opened up again. So the last time I played professional basketball was in Iceland in 2003. I had to cut it short because of personal reasons so after that I retired from trying to make money by playing basketball. I just started playing again about a month ago at the park with the fellows or at the base gym against the airmen.

God works in mysterious ways yall. A sports agent wants me to go overseas and play in Spain for $15,000 a month for 5 months. They are looking for a post player who can rebound. They can't use any of the WNBA players because they are all under contract. WOW!

As bad as I want to hop on the next plane to Spain I just can't imagine being away from my daughter for that long. I will miss her 2nd birthday if I leave. (Season starts next month). It's so different this time around because now I have a family. I know in life we have to make sacrifices but I just don't know.

I believe all things happen for a reason and only God knows the path we are to take in life and this opportunity wouldn't of risen if he didn't want my family and I to be blessed.

I am waiting for a phone call to know for sure all of the details. This is one tough decision and I need you guys thoughts.
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  • MILLJP
    Well I would totally go, if your husband is supportive of it. Your daughter won't even remember her 2nd birthday. But you could talk to her daily with a web cam and I'm sure you could get a flight home every few weeks in your contrac if they want you bad enough.
    4578 days ago
  • HIRAM33
    My Sister very tough call I have never been there not sure what I would do. I will pray that it will all work out no matter what you decide. emoticon
    4581 days ago
  • AROCHFORD
    hmm I am biased since I had similar type decisions and decided for my family in the past. But you must have no regrets. In my case I did not want to affect my marriage so I stayed however if that is ok then see if you can take your daughter with you? Since she is not in school yet. Above all else pray and follow the answer you receive.

    Keep SParking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (and good luck)
    4582 days ago
  • LIVEN2BPINK
    Sounds like you need some details. What if she could go with you and day care would be provided? OR who is in your life that could go with. It is such an opportunity and it is 5 months. A lifetime in a young childs life with the mile stones they achieve. But these days with web cams....hmmm but than too be smart to check out all the fine details. It is also said if it sounds too good to be true it usually is...but not always you just need to know the details. I hope it works out as it says. WOW!
    4584 days ago
  • FITGIRL15
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    Sweetheart.. this is an opportunity of a lifetime! I can't believe you were scooped up the way you described! So crazy!!!

    Will you have to stay in Spain for the entire 5 months? Is there any leave time when you could come back and celebrate your daughters birthady??? I mean, this day in age, with computers and all... I wouldn't think twice about going! (But then again, I have no family!)

    You will make the right decision for you! But wow, you must be SO FLATTERED that they want YOU!!! YES!
    4584 days ago
  • LADY_DONKEY
    Sometimes, you gotta do things for YOU. And I say this as a mom of 2 kids. And it would kind of benefit your daughter too, financially. I know money isn't everything but it sure does help. If not now, down the road.
    4585 days ago
  • MZSASSY
    GOD, U AND YOUR HUSBAND, WILL HAVE TO PAN THIS OUT.
    CONGRATULATIONS ON THE OFFER GIRL, U MUST HAVE SKILLS.
    BLESSINGS COME AND BLESSINGS GO AND U WILL MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION WITH OUT REGRETS.
    4585 days ago
  • LILSHINE
    If God leads you to it, He will definitely see you through it! He opens doors that no man can close and He closes doors no man can open. So seek God for direction if you believe He has opened this door for you.
    4585 days ago
  • WILLBOYWONDER
    I think the choices we make in life are always very different when we have a family to think about. I believe that when it’s just us, we don’t have other people to consider so the choices we make don’t require as much thought behind them.

    I do not have any kids, but I know that if I did, I’d see their beautiful little faces each time I was faced with a big life decision. When you mentioned the sacrifices we make in life, I think we have to make a different set of sacrifices when we have children. She will be going through phases of life that you will never get to share with her. Most parents reminisce about seeing their children have their firsts of various things. Your daughter being just a young 2 years old, she is going to have many firsts ahead of her that you won’t see. Even though you're only gone for half a year, a lot can happen in that time. Kids grow and mature rather rapidly.

    But still, let God lead your heart. No matter what choice you end up making, always ask yourself what would be best for her, because in the end, everything you do will be for her until she is old enough to take care of herself.

    But if you do end up going, I would have a long candid talk with the person or people would look after her while you are gone. That will be a big sacrifice for them too. If it’s family, it probably won’t be too big a deal. But you just don’t’ want them to feel you’re taking them for granted.

    I hope these things give you something to think about. Good luck and I know you will make the right decision.

    4585 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/20/2008 11:15:35 AM
  • CHEWIEKIKI
    Take her with you!!! My cousin and her husband took their two young kids to Italy for 6 months when he had a job over there and it was incredible for them!! Maybe you can even bring a nanny (my cousin brought her younger half-sister the first time and then didn't need help the second time when the kids were a bit older). Or you could hire someone locally. Kids pick up languages SO fast.

    Congratulations on being offered this amazing opportunity!
    4585 days ago
  • SUNNIEDAES
    My first thought would be...do you feel a peace about going? That is how I determine if it is my will or God's. Also, at $15000. per month (which by the way is amazing) wouldn't you then be able to afford to bring your family over to Spain at least once a month? Or you could fly home? That kind of $ with the economy the way it is, may just be a real blessing to you and your family. It seems there may be many options open to you. I would suggest committing it all to prayer and let God work it all out. He is the ultimate answer. :) How wonderful is that? And...you never know what doors He will open next.

    Will be praying for you and your family. Don't forget to let us all know what the final outcome is.
    Blessings, Bonnie
    4585 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/20/2008 10:28:41 AM
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