Problems with goal setting
Friday, March 27, 2009
Goal setting always seems to involve 'rewards' such as after I lose 10 pounds I'll get a manicure. That's wonderful, really. But here's my problem. I'm CHEAP! LOL A manicure may or may not motivate me in general, but even if it does, I meet my goal of 10 pounds and then I realize that in order to reward myself, as promised, I have to spend money. Hmmm...I don't like parting w/ my money very much. Even w/ the lower back issue (see previous blog) doc said get a new mattress, yeah ok, mine could certainly use replacing, but then I realized how much money I was going to have to part with! I warned every mattress salesman I met that I did NOT want to spend my money on this and that I'm sorry in advance, but I'm CRANKY! LOL Most appreciated the warning. I bought a mattress and have spent the last week bantering back and forth in my head about canceling it saving the money and let my back find another way to get better...the mattress is still scheduled for delivery tomorrow.
Back to my point (sorry for the tangent). My point was that I rarely ever actually spend the money to reward myself...and now it's to the point where I don't even bother w/ the goal and reward system b/c I know darn well I'm not going to buy anything. Even if I take down the monetary amount, say to a $10 for a CD level, I just can't think of any that I want...hmmm subconsciously I think that's another 'I don't want to be separated from my money' excuse.
So here's a new approach to goal setting (I figured this one out this morning, I love when I feel all smart LOL). Instead of a material reward, like a book or pedicure or a day out doing something, the reward is the benefit of staying on track.
So my goal is to fit into a size 13/14 jeans, COMFORTABLY - no laying on the bed sucking it in to get them to zip up! How will I get there? How will I stay motivated?
Let's do this 'formally' shall we?
Goal: comfortably fit into size 13/14 (should need to be around 150 lbs to do that)
1. I will eat healthy, REAL, home cooked food.
a. healthy = fruits, veggies, lean meats
b. REAL = non processed, not packaged, not fast food
c. home cooked = MAKE IT YOURSELF!!!
2. I will track ALL food eaten b/c YES, the little bit of chocolate DOES have calories!
3. I will do cardio exercise for one hour per day, at least 5 days per week.
4. I will do strength training 3x's/week
5. I will continue to enjoy the perks of, and contribute to the wonderful world we know as SparkPeople!
6. I request that my friends, both real and virtual check in on me and see if I'm following my methods as stated here.
7. I will be flexible b/c life happens.
a. 'exceptions' to the above
a.Progresso Light soups, although processed, are allowed.
b. Frozen dinners, OCCASIONALLY are allowed, LC, HC, WW are barely acceptable b/c I'm not convinced real food was used in their creation.
c. fast food will be allowed only when traveling, and then I will make the right choices, 'grilled' chicken (I worked at McD's back in the day, I know how it's really cooked!) and no fries (which I cut out earlier this year and have been fairly successful at)
a. 5 days/week is slightly flexible but hour long sessions are not.
8. I will NOT makes excuses or let myself 'wuss' out on workout days.
9. I will evaluate my rewards (see below) monthly as positive reinforcement.
1. better quality of life
2. better health
3. happier me
4. less MONEY spent on prescriptions (I hope this one will be true, that I can get off the asthma inhaler)
5. a hotter/sexier ME
6. confidence, if I can do this I can do ANYTHING!
7. improved self esteem
8. doing things I couldn't before (I'm not sure what that entails right now b/c I don't do them LOL)
9. finding clothes at ANY store, thus SAVING me MONEY b/c I'm not 'confined' to what LB is offering!
10. Look better in pictures
(more can be added if/when I think of them)