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Sunday, October 18, 2009

So my husband caved and said we could get a cat right now. I found this gorgeous grey and white kitten on Craigslist. He is only seven weeks old. The girls are so excited. I've been emailing the current owner for a week and she is as excited as we are. We are driving out to meet him this afternoon.

Dean has seen me struggling to get my extra weight off and feels my frustration when the scale doesn't move. He knows I've been working on it. He's seen me on the treadmill day after day...up at 5 AM every morning... sweat pouring off me. He sees what I eat...knows what I pack for lunch... sees me taking my big jug of water to work. So he is having mercy on me and said that even though I have not reached my goal weight, which was the deal, we can get the cat anyhow because I've been working so hard. My incentive is gone.

So now I need a new plan. He really wants me to keep working at this...and have a written-out plan...because he is afraid that I will just stop and get lazy again. What kind of goals should I have? What should I strive for? We don't have a great deal of money so I can't reward myself with a cruise or a new car. It has to be reasonable. Looking good and feeling good is a reward...I do know that. But I need some concrete goal to work towards. What should I aim for?

I also need a realistic attainable plan. Clearly having a WL goal of 2 pounds a week is not realistic for me. It's not happening. Should I aim for SP points? Fitness points?

Any ideas?
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    Every body is right and another thing that you can do is have a day to yourself that you can do anything that you want, go to the park and have a picnic or a lunch date, see how far that you can go or do with your exercise, buy a new pic of clothing. There is endless possibilities that you can do and it does not have to cost allot of money.
    4204 days ago
    Hey she's right. Do it for yourself. Your husband is a guy their metabolism and hormones favor weight loss and our favor retention. That is just the way it is but it is not an excuse. I personally reward myself with clothes and cookbooks. They are 2 of my favorite things.
    As far as the wieght loss goes, do you do the same workout most of the time? Do you lift or do some kind of resistance excercises? Changing things up and strength training might make a big difference.
    4224 days ago
    Hi Beth,
    You joined "our" scrapping team, may I suggest a Friday night crop (our scrap store has a $5 crop one friday a month)or a few quiet hours in your "crop space", a time to scrap when dad is in charge, (I have tons of "stashed" supplies), most of us do, Treat yourself to some time with something that relaxes you and is peaceful. The bonus to this motivation is you also get to work on something that you can enjoy over and over and share with your "healthy" family for years to come. Good Luck and remember to take 5 minutes of "not the mommy right now" time each day.
    4224 days ago
    I've been surprised how motivating "streaks" are. For example, I set a goal of walking 10,000 steps a day. When I have a few days in a row of meeting that goal and then feel lazy & don't want to do it...I just hate to wreck my streak, so I find a walk to walk the 10,000 steps. And of course, it just builds. If I have 10 days in a row....I really DO NOT want to ruin my streak. Great motivation for me. And not as fickle as the scale which frequently does not reflect your hard work. Remember even when the scale's not moving...your internal health and external health of your body is improving with every single good choice! Don't get too hung up on the scale. Reward yourself for consistency and changing your lifestyle or making good choices (eating 5 veggies/fruits/day or drinking 64 oz. of water/daily for a month). Then do something you love...you don't have to spend money!
    4224 days ago
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    Well, I don't know what your life experiences are. If you go to a nursing home, you will see lots of people who are very overweight, hardly ever exercise, and are TRAPPED in their own bodies that they cannot move around very well. They have to have someone help them get dressed, someone to get them into the wheelchair, maybe they can wheel the wheelchair themselves and maybe not. They need help with bathing and toileting.

    I worked at a nursing home for a while. Just knowing that striving for better health is a big motivator for me!

    Basically you have to know yourself and know what causes you to tick!
    4225 days ago
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    I'd choose the goal of just having a mommy by herself day. My own kids are grown, but I do remember how much I just wanted to do things by myself at times. Don't give up, I am certain you'll make your goals. I haven't met my own goal yet. I have had some set backs due to life happenings in my family. I choose to keep on working at this goal. You can too!
    4225 days ago
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    I know what you are going through. I work hard some weeks for no change... or very little... it is a slow process... but dont be discouraged. I love cats, but my whole family is allergic. I set rewards like a new piece of fitness equipment, or a new pair of shoes, or small things... like housekeeping service occasionally...

    And keep in mind, the ultimate goal is for you, and your health and happiness. If you dont want to be fit for yourself, it will be harder.

    Or for a cheap reward, have a short shopping trip w/a friend or going to a movie or something like that. Something fun for you.
    Hang in there! Keep up the great work!
    4225 days ago
    Thanks for the great input!

    I also want to add that I am completely doing this for myself. My dh has been helping me think of things that would motivate me. He is my accountability partner. (Who reached his goal weight in about three months...go figure.) He knows me better than anyone too and knows I need incentives.
    4225 days ago
    This is what works for me. My mantra is "one day at a time". I focus on each day: Did I eat well? Did I get my exercise in? Water intake? I don't let myself think too far into the future and get ahead of myself.

    And this is a biggie for me~ I only weigh once a month. I cannot deal with the fluctuations of the scale. It is very discouraging to me and makes me want to quit. Weighing myself once a month is probably the best thing I am doing to motivate myself. I have only done 1 weigh in so far, but I lost 15 lbs the month of Sept and let me tell you... I was on top of the world. October is going great and I can't wait until Nov 1st because I am doing so well!

    Keep at it! You can do this!!!
    4225 days ago
    First of all I want to say congrats on sticking with it even though you are not seeing the results you desire, that can be the hardest thing to do sometimes! I have found that when I plateau the best thing to kick start the weight loss is to do a new kind of exercise. It challenges different muscle groups and gets your body out of its exercise routine.

    I wish I had some great advice for new rewards, I struggle with that one too. Maybe one new item of clothing or just a day of relaxation doing something you really enjoy? Hang in there, your persistence will pay off!
    4225 days ago
    Pick something that is important to you that does not cost much money or has no cost. Like spending time with the family doing something fun. Hiking, park. Go get an manicure. What ever makes you happy.
    4225 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/18/2009 8:13:18 AM
    You need to be doing this for yourself not anyone else. You'll get better results. Best of luck. You can do it. emoticon
    4225 days ago
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