Wednesday, January 27, 2010
I read a blog today about friends that we eat with and friends that struggle with weight issues like us. I learned the hard way that sometimes these friends sabotage your weight loss because of their own insecurities.
I have some friends, very close friends, who I have known since high school. They have the same weight issues that I have, some can keep it under control and some cannot. I never had a problem with these girls until I lost a good chunk of weight years ago. My relationships changed with these women and not because we were into different things, but because cattiness reared its ugly head. I didn't realize it at the time, but as I grew older I began to understand it better. I now know exactly what it was and is, but I wasn't sure how to handle it and I still don't.
These girls were my closest friends, the girls who were supposed to love me the most, and yet they were the MOST nasty and unsupportive when I was looking and feeling pretty good about myself. There are no words to convey how truly, truly heartbreaking that was for me.
The other day someone said, “Maybe you're scared of the other side and how people will react to you when you get there.”
She was right.