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Need Help! I've got Mom syndrome!

Monday, February 22, 2010

How am I ever going to figure this out. I'm conciously aware of that I'm still not putting myself on the list. Its so hard on the weekends in particular. I'm able to "put myself first" when its convienent for everyone else, like jogging during baseball practice. But making everyone else wait for me isn't something I'm content with doing.

I go round and round with this...but how do I make me important to me? I have all the tools I need, I have all the knowledge I need, I have all the resources I need- I want to make this happen- but how do I make it a priority, near the top of my to do list, and not at that cut off line of "if time allows"
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    Sounds like you need a "mom's hour". It doesn't need to be at the same time each day, but I think your family would agree that an hour is not that big of deal and they can survive for that long without you there. This would allow you the time to take a walk, get in a work out, or go for a run. I'm sure you have a calendar or some other schedule that you use to organize all your family's activities, put your "Mom's hour" on there (and use it!). Don't pencil it in... use pen. You're worth it!

    4175 days ago
    I understand your comments completely and I commend you. Greatly, I understand to the point that last year I lost a cousin (who was raised like my brother when his mother passed at 13) to the battle leaving behind a 5 year old son, a 10 year old daughter, a 20 year old son and a new born grandchild. That's not making it click for me. I plan and plan, and totally see it- I just dont make that "right" decision in the heat of the moment.

    I see you had an "ah-ha" moment...I just need to figure out how to dig up mine.

    My kids are very health concious, eat well, and are extreemely active in sports, both my husband and I coach, and eat pretty healthy- its just carving out that time for me to exercise that I'm struggling with. I am regularly excercising, walking at work during the day (30 min), and getting a few jogs in during the week. I just ugh. I just need to make it more regualr and a priority....I need my ah-ha moment.
    4175 days ago
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    I don't know what else I could possible add except to say that you are definitely worth it and yes it is a challenge that a lot of us moms face. emoticon emoticon
    4175 days ago
    IAMJOHNSON has great points. You are an example to your kids, and if you're happy and healthy your family will be too! Granted I don't have kids yet, so I can't quite relate... but it makes sense to me. I'm sure the family will have to adjust to your new routine (like you do to theirs), but I think in end they will respect and admire you more.
    4175 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/22/2010 2:50:06 PM
    WARNING - Preachy note to follow - but I need people to remind me from time to time on exactly this subject!

    I was diagnosed with colon cancer a year and a half ago and after I got through the worst part I started reading about what causes cancer (besides my family history) and was shocked to find out that a big part of my problem was not putting my health first. If I hadn't stopped going down that path (eating poorly, no exercise, high stress) I would have left my 12 year old daughter and my husband behind without any support at all.

    You will not do your family any good by sacrificing your health for their _______. (Sports/entertainment/extra curricular activities/being the perfect Mom - insert whatever you are weighing against getting in a workout and planning and executing healthy meals).

    Remember an important role we play for our kids is role model. I don't want my daughter to put herself last - do you? These kids look to their family life growing up to set the tone for their lives as grown-ups.

    Ironically, the more you take for yourself, the more you have to give to your family. I'm sure your fam would prefer a happy, relaxed, healthy Mom who is going to be around for a long, long time.

    Give yourself permission to succeed. You deserve it. emoticon
    4175 days ago
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