No more yesterday
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
So why is it that people fall off of the wagon? I have to ask this question because I am guilty of exactly this. We all know that success isn't measured in what we do on one day. It doesn't matter if for one day we do everything we need to be perfectly balanced if the rest of the days we are a mess. Success is measured by the little healthy things we do daily. Daily those small things add up to big things.
I think the reason most people fall off the wagon is that they sabotage themselves, without even realizing it. We do this by literally talking ourselves out of weight loss - reminding ourselves how impossible the goal can seem, how we have failed in the past, and feeling remorse over how close we have come in the past and yet still failed.
For me, losing weight can't be about how poorly I did yesterday...or how great. It can't be about how good I need to be for 6 months so that I can reach some unknown goal. If I can set my focus on only today then it wont matter if I made a mistake yesterday. I wont be guilted into falling off the wagon because I had an ice cream sundae (which I wont have...for 28 more days) because I wouldn't have anything to feel guilty about. Success is measured by what we do on a regular basis, not by the mistakes we make occasionally.
The flip side to this is that it negates these huge goals that we make for ourselves. That isn't to say that we don't dream and we don't set goals but how many of those goals are you going to reach in one-single-day? I have noticed in the past week by simply looking at weight loss with tunnel vision, and only allowing myself to focus on today's goals I have things to celebrate about. The fact that I was able to completely stop a sugar craving in its tracks with half an orange is a big deal when you are only looking at the past 10 hours. I think from now on it will be important for me to start reminding myself at the end of the night about all the things I did RIGHT. It will be much harder to fall of any wagon if I feel good about being on it instead of focusing on how far I still have to go.