Judge and Jury...
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
So I was just reading a sparkfriend's latest blog and she was talking about how she feels when she sees other overweight people.
This had inspired some really interesting thoughts from her readers and led me to think about my own reactions.
Until I was twenty eight I was a healthy weight - not too skinny but no problem finding clothes that fit, and a healthy range BMI . I clearly recall seeing overweight people eating and thinkning 'gosh, if I were her/him, I'd never eat food like that, I'd eat nuthin but carrots until I got back to normal size'. When you don't have to make any sacrifices, it's easy to commit to making them in the future! So I don't assume that a person has totally given up just because they're having a piece of cake now.
For me it's when I hear people talking about this diet or that diet or whatever - I always think, 'geeeez, don't you know that dieting DOESN'T WORK???'
Generally though, I try really hard to be as kind to myself and to others as I can. Whenever I see an overwight person doing something healthy like walking or eating sushi instead of burgers, I inwardly cheer for them.
Though if you wear really tight stretch fabrics that show every lump and bump, I'll assume you don't have a mirror at home.
The other thing is comparing myself to other people - every woman I see, espacially ones about my height, I'm like 'am I fatter than her? Am I thinner??' It's not a competitive thing though...it's like I am trying to get an idea of how other people see me? Because to be honest, when I look in the mirror most of the time, I don't see someone whose obsese, I see a hot girl who'se carrying a few extra pounds. I wonder if I am like the no talent crazies on Idol, who insist they can sing but quite clearly can't. I mean I'm not inappropriate about it, I don't show off inappropriate amounts of flesh or anything, but I just don't feel like I look as fat as I MUST LOOK.
Like, I have a friend who is about the same weight as me, though she's 5 cm's shorter I'd say, and I think of her as being in a different category than I bodywise.
I'm interested in what you guys think about all this....