Does Your Brain Need a Good Washing?
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Most everyone hates to be called derogatory names, to be put down, belittled, humiliated. Yet we are often the biggest inflictors of abuse upon ourselves. We tell ourselves we aren't good enough, aren't smart enough, thin enough, pretty enough, lovable enough. We don't give ourselves credit for our worth. Our brains allow this dirty film of negative input to form a scum that is very hard to wash away. After a while, these negative affirmations become our inner truths. They don't have to be true for us to accept them as such, we just have to believe in them.
Positive affirmations work the same way. While it may be true that you are not a beauty in the classic sense of the word, if you find one or two beautiful things about yourself and keep telling yourself with true conviction that you are beautiful, eventually this becomes an inner truth that penetrates below the scummy surface of the negative and breaks up its crusty surface, forcing it to float away and disperse. Your new inner truth washes away the old, the ugly, the negative.
Believe you are not worth the effort of taking good care of yourself? Is your inner truth one of low self-esteem? Do you not believe the compliments and nice comments about yourself you receive from others? Do you dismiss them as lies? Think about two nice things you have been told about yourself. Not about your looks, but about YOU as an individual. You don't have to believe them right away, but you should try to accept them. Say them to yourself over and over again a few times a day as if they were true. Then start believing them as truths. Another crack in the scummy, crusty layer of negative affirmations will appear. Keep telling yourself how worthy you are of being healthy, happy, and really alive in the wonderful world around us. The cracks will spread, another section splintered away and dissolving in the warm flow of positive energy.
Do you love yourself? Do you recognize that you are one of a kind? Totally unique in this universe of bazillions of creations? Instead of allowing your "being different" to be a negative, CELEBRATE the absolute marvelousness that is only found in YOU! Look at Tigger, from Winnie the Pooh. He has the right idea. Listen to his song:
*A wonderful thing is a Tigger;
A Tigger's a wonderful thing.
Their tops are made out of rubber,
their bottoms are made out of spring
They're bouncy, bouncy, bouncy, bouncy,
fun, fun, fun, fun, fun,
The most wonderful thing
about Tiggers is:
I'm the only one!*
You are the only one...of YOU! Love yourself for your uniqueness, your individuality, and what you are made up of...cause you're the only one! Once you can internally celebrate that you are unique and lovable just as you are, and can really love yourself that crusty, scummy, negative inner truth of self-hatred is going to erode like a summer mudslide in California. Hasta la Vista, lies I once accepted as truth! I've been brain washed and it feels so good and clean!
Now, I am not saying the process is easy. Our brains have gotten used to the scum for so long and have accepted the scum as inner truths so there may be some resistance as we try to install a new, better truth in place of the ugly old hardware of lies currently attached to the walls of our character. According to vitalaffirmations.com: "The bigger the issue the bigger the gap between the positive affirmation and the perceived inner truth and the more likely that one is going to experience resistance. This is where the subconscious finds it easier to stay with its perceived inner truth and avoid the challenge using any means at its disposal to avoid examining the issue."
So, you have a challenge being offered to you. Each Spring most of us clean our windows, trim hedges, rake away the last of the fall and winter leaves and dried grass, air out our homes, scrub the walls, paint; in general we RENEW what we already have and make it better and ready for another year. This year I challenge you to Spring Clean Your Brain. Take it to the Imaginary Laundromat and work each day on washing through that scummy surface of negativity and false inner truths that have held you back from reaching your potential, hitting your goals, loving yourself, accepting yourself, standing up for yourself, and knowing your worth. Soak your brain in the loving inner truths of who you really are until it is YOUR TRUTH. Are you up for this challenge?
*side note to all who think I am saying that you must always talk to yourself as if you are a perfect person:
Now and then it is okay to call yourself out on something you did that was just plain dumb. But it is never permissible to call yourself dumb. I recently did something that common sense dictated would be harmful to myself, but I did it anyway and am suffering the consequences. I called myself out on the sheer stupidity of the act, but at no time did I believe that I was less than worthy of the care, love, and support I need to get through the difficulties facing me because of my less than smart actions. You are your own inner parent. You must continually guide yourself and correct yourself, sometimes sternly, but always with love for yourself and with the hope of betterment.