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my poor wedding dress:( but I guess this isn't a *bad* problem to have.....but

Monday, February 28, 2011

So, I tried my wedding dress on this weekend. I knew that I needed to take it in to have a bustle added in the back because I have no intention of dragging that train around (i didn't even want a train in the first place lol). I hadn't been too worried about it, because it fit wonderfully when I bought it, PLUS it has a corset back so I also knew that if I happened to lose a few inches it wouldn't be that big of a deal.


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The effing dress is HUGE on me. Even with the corset laced as tightly as possible, I still have at least a half an inch of space through the torso, and a minimum of 3 inches through the hips. I won't even get into what my boobs look like in this thing. I look like some combo of Jabba the Hutt and Quasimodo.......

No, really.

So what did I do?

I totally freaked. I had my first (and hopefully only) bride-to-be breakdown. Some how or another I convinced myself that this was cosmic punishment for going against my original idea of NOT wearing a traditional wedding dress. I swear, my brain would make a fascinating case study for some grad student out there......

So now I have an appointment with a fabulous alterations lady on Wednesday. She is going to have to rip out the entire back of the dress and basically build it from scratch: new corset, new beading, trim, etc. Its strapless, so the bust area is probably going to need to be tucked, and the corset is going to have to go down to my a$s in order to bring in the hips. But since the dress has all these asymetrical lines, that may not work, and we may be talking about more ripping and tucking in the hip area.

Basically, we are having to re-do the entire effing dress.

I'm trying REALLY hard to be excited about having lost all those inches, even though its causing such a mess right now. But i'm also irrated because I'm capable to of losing a lot more in the next five weeks. And now that I feel like I can't, I'm more determined than ever to do it (i am so miswired, i swear...). But what happens if I do? What happens if I try the dress on after she's fixed it, and I've lost MORE inches than the corset can make up for and then the dress looks bad again, and there is no time to fix it!!!!!!

*trying not to freak out again*

Shoot me. Club me in the head. Something, yo.

I know there are people that would KILL to be having this problem, but in reality.....it sucks. I'd appreciate any positive thoughts, prayers, goat sacrifices, gregorian chants, etc (whatever may be your thing) that this turns out ok.

For reference, here's a pic from the website that shows what my dress is SUPPOSED to look like. Mine is in ivory (because I fear being struck by lightening if I wear white;). Now i'm just going to pray that my fiance doesn't decide to randomly read this blog and see the pic lol.

Thanks for listening to me rant and rave for a bit. I feel better now. I'd also appreciate any advice you have regarding toning up some jiggly parts (like my arms) without dropping tons of weight/ inches around the middle. This is so counterintuitive to me. I've now got to find the balance between not gaining it back, or going balls to the walls (just to be difficult) and not just going on a 5 week hiatus (because i dont want to do that). Surely there's a balance to be found.

Thanks guys!!!!! Love you all!!!!!!!

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  • ABB698
    So how did the fitting go?

    You are so gonna rock that thing!!!! emoticon
    3796 days ago
    I can't believe that as a fellow bride to be I am saying 'don't stress' but it is so true. Stressing about it will just a) drive you nuts and b) make your body a wreck! I agree with CARMINACG when she said true alterations places have dealt with any and all problems and know how to handle them all. You will be fine! Keep living a healthy lifestyle and do what you need to do to make YOU happy and that's it. Be happy for the inches and weight loss and know that when you walk down the aisle you will be stunning and confident!
    3797 days ago
    Love the dress! You are going to look amazing. I agree with ANGELAK85 maybe doing seated arm exercises will just target that area. Good Luck!
    3797 days ago
    thanks guys! you have no idea how much your support means to me:)
    3798 days ago
    gorgeous dress! It will all work out and you will look amazing! On the bright side you have a great loss of weight! Congrats! emoticon
    3799 days ago
    You are going to look amazing. It will work out. And yay on all the weight loss!
    3799 days ago
    Can you talk to the alterations lady and find out how much time she needs. If she could still do it if you waited a bit then try to sell it and buy a new one. If not figure out what she can do if you lose more weight.

    I know you want this day to be perfect but, It will be do your best and don't worry. A new healthy body to start you life with your fiance is what is important.

    Best wishes to you.
    3799 days ago
  • KIMMAS82
    First, the dress is BEAUTIFUL!!

    Second, can you have the alterations lady make it so if you happen to lose another inch or two it still works? Like make the corset part so it's loosest at the measurements you're at now? That way you can tighten up the corest if you happen to lose more.
    3800 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5347494
    The dress is absolutely gorgeous!
    3800 days ago
    That is a pretty dress. As for "Flabby arms" why dont you just sit in a chair and do some arm workouts with weights, that way you are just working your arms instead of the whole body. I hope everything turns out ok! I hope you post pictures of your wedding, even though I know it is still 5 weeks away!
    3800 days ago
    The dress is absolutely beautiful and you're going to be a knockout in it, or in a different one if you do sell it. Just breathe deeply, try to relax, and somehow it's going to work out. Congratulations on such amazing loss!
    3800 days ago
    Hey there, When my boyfriends sister got married a few years ago her dress was 7 layers of italian satin with corset boning and beading details. Of course when she tried the dress or originally the size ten fit perfectly, so the store ordered a size 14. She was peeved off beypnd belief and they had to rip the whole dress appart and cut it down to a size 10! Yup. So in the world of wedding dresses, the alterations ladies know there stuff! Just hang in there and call often for updates if that makes you feel better. Heck they are getting your money, so you should have them give you peice of mind and a wickedly fitting dress! Congrats on the loss! :)
    3800 days ago
  • ASHLEYW_206
    Beautiful dress and I am sure you'll look gorgeous in it! As far as toning, goes, well, isn't that an uphill battle! I'm a big fan of Jillian's videos for toning (circut training has worked wonders on my body) or even just integrating a little more weight lifting into your life. Doesn't have to be huge, just 5 or 10lbs here or there.

    In any case congrats on finding such a gorgeous dress! I love the layers. And don't feel bad about needling alterations....that's why these people get paid! ;)

    Have a great one!

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    3800 days ago
    Stunning dress. A very little problem in the grand scheme of things, but of course it's a frustrating detail. You will be gorgeous, don't worry!
    3800 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6096849
    beautiful dress!
    3800 days ago
    Actually, I'm now considering selling this dress since its wedding season, its an unaltered-straight up size 20, never been worn...surely it'd sell quick? then I could buy one that would probably fit better. I'm just really worried that all the alterations will take away some of the stuff that I loved most about the dress.

    Also, i just called the shop where I bought it hoping they would have a smaller size i could exchange it for. Not only was the answer NO, but they were incredibly rude. UGH!
    3800 days ago
    Gorgeous Dress!!!

    Have no fear ... as ALASKAPSYCH said, there is a wedding fairy out there that will "allow things to work out in the end".
    3800 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3543611
    It will all work out! Keep your head up!
    3800 days ago
    keep your head up girlie :) you will look amazing in 5 weeks and the dress will fit perfect emoticon
    3800 days ago
    Thank you so much everyone:) The wedding is April 9th. So about 5 weeks to go. I think I can safely say that I'll be staying away from cardio until then (execpt for any, um, "gardening"), but I don't plan on stopping my weight training (cuz its my favorite anyway). I'm just crossing my fingers it'll all turn out ok. It would be just my luck that my body would decide to FINALLY work with me and start losing mad amounts of weight. Part of me is like hell yeah, bring it. The other part is like, ummm...wedding dress, helllooooo? I know that nobody will probably even be able to tell if the dress has been rebuilt, or if everything isn't perfect. I need to chill lol
    3800 days ago
    Your dress is beautiful! When are you getting married?
    3800 days ago
  • no profile photo PIXIECN
    Beautiful dress!

    Don't worry, it will all be ok. I didn't have this issue with my dress (I bought it 3 weeks before the wedding. lol) but every thing that went wrong before hand found a way of working itself out in the end. It will be ok, don't fret!!

    3800 days ago
    That dress is amazing! Take a deep breath, and imagine how amazing you will look walking down the aisle in that dress once it fits perfectly!! Congrats on the weight loss, and don't let a few alterations stop you!! emoticon
    3800 days ago
    It will work out. There is a wedding fairy that allows for things to work out at the last minute. My daughter lost quite a bit a weight between the time we ordered the dress and the wedding (her father died in between while planning the wedding and obviously she was depressed to say the least, well we all were). We found a seamstress who basically rebuilt the dress and she was spectacular for her wedding day.

    It was a perfect summer's day, the setting was beautiful, she was lovely. In fact, the photographer and the florist used her wedding for promotional shots.

    Take heart, it will be ok.

    ps: her dress was asymmetrical too! yours is a gorgeous dress!
    3800 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/28/2011 10:23:07 AM
    It will work out...and with a good seamstress...you will have a great fit! I ended up wearing my dress too small on that day (meaning I gained 20 pounds before the wedding...) and I've regretted the pics ever since. As for toning...do more reps at lighter weights. Strength training will be good for toning, but do lighter weights...for example. If you normally do arm curls at 2 reps of 12 at 10 pounds, do 3 reps of 15 at 5 or 7 pounds (enough that it's a challenge but not so much that your muscles are dying after the first rep). Hope that's helpful! Good luck!!
    3800 days ago
    1st - Your dress is beautiful
    2nd - You will be beautiful in it and have a memory filled wedding day.
    I think you will make the decision that's best for you. You could put the weight loss on hold and have a maintain session for the next 5 weeks. Give your body time to adapt to the weight loss. Or, when you go in on Wed for the alterations, talk to the seamstress and explain that you are still losing weight and can she allow a little extra tuck room through the corset. I'm sure she will do a beautiful job. And I can tell you, that if you are willing to pay extra, they can get the alterations done pretty quickly. Unfortunately when I got married 5 years ago, I had less then a week to have my dress let out, they got it done in 3 days.

    This how fortunate you are, beautiful dress, beautiful you and a new hubby in 5 weeks, what fantastic blessings.
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    3800 days ago
    I had the same exact problem at my wedding. Hang in there!
    3800 days ago
    I love the dress! This is my biggest nightmare too. That is why I am waiting so long to buy it. I have no idea what size I will be!
    It will all be ok. I swear. Hugs
    3800 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/28/2011 10:09:20 AM
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