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Positive energy vampires

Thursday, April 28, 2011

So, this happened a few days ago but it has been playing more and more in my mind so I feel a need to vent.

I have been feeling good about my weight loss this past week. My body feels stronger. I feel lighter, even thought I haven't made it to my size 10 goals yet. This past week in particular I have really noticed changes in how I eat when I go out, I choose healthier meals just because I hate feeling heavy and bloated from greasy foods. I enjoy working out and leaving the gym with sweat dripping down my face and those crazy endorphins making you feel alive. It has become a new addiction:)

So I was telling my best friend this and she started talking about this co-worker who is on weight watchers and has lost "tons of weight". She also just started about 2 months ago. She has so much willpower and on and on and on and on. So, this made me feel like I am not working hard enough or fast enough. I know my weight loss is slow. I average a pound a week. I cannot cut out a single food group because I will fail. I cannot cut out a cheat day because I will fail.

All my positive feel good energy was sucked out of me. Every time I talk with her now this co-worker and her lightning fast weight loss is mentioned. This and my not meeting my 5 lbs weight loss goal this month have me feeling pretty low today. How hard is it to lose 5 measly pounds???
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    There are some "friends" who say things like that to make themselves feel better. In a course I took they called it "get your dipper out of my bucket" - meaning they take something away from you to make themselves feel better. Just realize you know what is best for you, nobody else. Slow and steady wins the race. Just making sure you stay ON the racetrack and with many small daily changes you will get there. Take care..
    3650 days ago
  • KAT130
    I have experienced this myself, and it is a huge danger to your progress. I lost a lot of weight, felt really good and loved how skinny I was....I actually got down to 138 lbs. And then my mother and sister started in on me...if I was going to the gym, I heard comments about how I was exercising too much. And as I lost weight, and neared my goal weight, I heard how I had lost too much, and needed to quit. All my positive energy was just destroyed...and I eventually quit going to the gym...then felt bad about it, so started eating poorly...then the weight came back.

    What I have realized is that I own my feelings, I can choose how I respond to someone's comments. Now that is easier to realize than to put into action. However, I know I have to work on this...because I am determined to reach my goal weight, and stay there this time. So I am going to have to learn to tune out negative comments, and focus only on the positive. It will be a challenge, but we can't let anyone steal our motivation! You are accomplishing your goals, and every day gets you closer to your goal weight. And comparing yourself to anyone else will only lead to disappointment. You are doing awesome, don't let anyone make you feel like you should be doing better!
    3665 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/29/2011 12:10:43 PM
  • CECE0330
    Slow & steady DOES truly win the race! The slower it takes to lose, the lesser the likelihood of gaining it back! I too stress about being the worlds slowest loser, but at least I am POSITIVE I will never again weigh even 10lbs more than I do now. I spend PLENTY of time at each new weight getting accustomed to being here. emoticon

    I think the suggestion to steer clear of this person for a little while is good. Or just don't offer up anything about your journey in front of her. Eventually she'll get the point and quit bringing up this other person!
    3666 days ago
    Everyone's journeys are different and heck it's HARD to lose 5 pounds and keep it off! Next time she starts to suck your'e positivity dry, change the subject. If she persists, firmly, but kindly state how it is bothering you and thta you are following a program that is working for you and even if she is losing faster, describe the ways you are feeling better and healthier! If she is your best friend, she should respond to this in a good way. She may not know she beating you down emotionally. Best wishes!
    3666 days ago
    I KNOW how you Feel. Wanna know my solution? Stop talking to her for a day or so. Let yourself re-grain your FEEL GOOD (Because YOU SHOULD!) attitude. 1 pd a week is Great! ( I dont know hands down, but Ive seen people on WW, and they dont always stick with it) What your doing is FINE! Your most likely to keep off your weight.

    When You are contacted, and she asks...even if she doesnt...let her know that you felt she wasnt supporting you. A GOOD TRUE friend will understand. But dont do it in a way that will put her on the defense...and remind her how this life change is going to work for you!

    Remember this Change is For You. You can do it!! Get back on track, keep working at it, that 5 pds will be gone soon enough! emoticon
    3666 days ago
    I think we need to "focus on our own backyards". There is absolutely nothing wrong with a slow and steady weight loss. I try to distance myself from people who are emotional vampires. It is taxing on your mental and spiritual well-being. Stay positive! It makes all the difference.

    P.S. I love your Ms. Piggy background. So cute!
    3666 days ago
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