Life Lessons of 2011
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
I can't even believe we're 4 days away from Christmas 2011. It's no surprise though that time does seem to fly although every time it does we're always surprised. As we live our lives hopefully it's lifes lesson's that come into full swing as we go through experiences, joys and sadness. It's our experiences in life that we go through that bring us to the otherside and hopefully it makes us a better person.
True transformation does actually happen when you first make something you sincerely want a habit.
We have the power of complete transformation in mind, body and soul.
In 2010 my health was all about sticking through it and just making working out and eating right a habit. My husband would always compliment me and say how great I'm doing and all I could respond was, "well I'm really trying." He would respond, "no you're doing". But even then it was such a struggle to be doing I didn't feel like I was doing, I felt like I was trying to do. Haha...tongue twister...but does that make sense?? In 2011 I can honestly say I went from trying, to doing, to it becoming who I am. 2011 is the year it became me. People I meet now who didn't know me in my former life (I'm talking Highschool to into my early 20's) are always amazed when I tell them I lost 40 lbs. When my students see me teaching spin class they can't imagine my former self and thank god for that because this is who I am and who I always wanted to be.
Know who you are.
As we go through a mind, body and soul transformation we are in a sense discovering and finally having the courage to be who we really are. Transformation is exhilerating and the discovery of who you are in the process can be overwhelming and powerful.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to manifest the glory that is within us. As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people the permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” -Nelson Mandela
I went through a time when the new me wasn't comfortable for other's. In their eyes who I was becoming was seen as something negative. While their lack of support to my new life was hard on me I knew I was the happiest and healthiest I have ever been and I wasn't going to allow anyone put a negative spin on it. While granted I've had to learn how to juggle, work, health, friends and family it's been a process to say the least but I'm still getting there. There is a core set of beliefs and as long as your heart is right and your motives are true no one can refrute those and if they do, they don't matter anyway. Know who you are.
Lesson # 3
Not everyone will be supportive of your "new" life.
This lesson was the hardest to learn this year. When we accomplish something we seek validation from those we consider closest to us. This is human nature and we've done it our whole lives. From grade school when we made the "A" honor roll, to sports when we won 1st place and even when we grow older and get a promotion. Validation is important and a human need that makes us feel significant. Seeking validation and attention are 2 different things. Listen to Oprah Winfrey she had an amazing Life Class on the subject and it really hit home for me and actually gave me the validation I needed.
Putting myself out there with blogging and posting before and after pics (ok so not so much the after pics ;) took a lot to get over in fear that 1. I would not be laughed at or made fun of (something I went through alot of growing up). There were blogs that I wrote that when I hit publish post I was literally shaking because of the vulnerability if took to write it and the things I had never spoken of out of shame. Being the private and resilient person I am revealing my not so strongest moments in life through a blog or picture was hard. But important....So not receiving the support I was expecting from those I looked for support was a life lesson. Not everyone will be supportive but maybe after some understanding and explanation they will come around and they did, something in which I'm very thankful.
So #2 and #3 are tied in with one another. Know who you are because not everyone will be supportive.
You can not trully live life to the fullest until you conquer your body first.
How is it that healthy people seem so driven, happy and internally satisfied? It's because they have that inward satisfaction that they are doing what is best for their mind, body and soul. I trully didn't recognize my potential as a person until I made a goal healthwise and accomplished it. Even before, I had a great job, amazing husband, made good money and still wasn't happy. It's because I knew deep down I wasn't living life to my fullest because I still hadn't conquered my body which in turn my mind and soul suffered.
You can only be a living example of eating right and exercising being the only true way to fitness so keep your mouth shut because most people don't want to hear it, they want to keep living the life of fad diets, only speak if they come to you for advice.
Hey I was a fad dieter in my former life just like the rest of them. It was when I hit my peak weight again of yo yo dieting that I knew I needed a real change, I was sick of these emotional highs and lows......And.....this is the kicker.....I WAS READY TO MAKE THE CHANGE. You see you're only really ready to make the change when you stop moving your mouth and start walking the walk. So I've learned until someone is ready for their change only talking about working out or eating right only gets some people upset. I learned that the hard way. There is something I've learned from the Jersey Shore, "just let me do me and I'll let you do you".
So as you can see there were many life lesson's learned and heeded this year and am eternally grateful for every one. I'm excited for 2012 all the ups and downs that come with it. All in all know the important things in life.
Your health, your family and your friends. You can't completely give yourself to others until you give to yourself first.
Cheers to lifes lessons! and cheers to 2011!
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