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My Son, my Inspiration to Get Healthy in 2012!

Sunday, January 01, 2012

My oldest son, Brent, is 38 years old and has always lived with me. Unfortunately, since he was 15 years old he fights "demons" that I only can imagine would be terrible to deal with. He has a severe mental illness and yet is the most caring and loving son I could ever imagine. He is always there for me and rarely complains about the poor "hand" in life he has had to cope with daily. From the little bit he tells me he lives in a very scary world most of the time. Yet, he is usually cheerful and is the type of guy that would give a cold stranger the shirt off his back. I really admire him and worry about him as due to his mental state he is very dependent on me. He has told me a few times he doesn't think he could go on without me. I know it's not true but it makes me want to be there for him as long as possible. I need and want to lose a lot of weight for myself but also he inspires me to do it for him. He is the most wonderful son I could have ever asked for--he truly is a kind, unselfish and loving person.

I've recently been sick and have had the chills at night so the other night I asked him if he could bring me an extra blanket and he quickly did that. Early the next morning he told me he was cold last night and when I asked him why he said that's because I gave you my blanket. That's just the kind of person and son he is.

I feel I've been selfish in not making more of an effort to always eat healthy and exercise as I'm not only doing it for only myself but for him. With my computer down almost the whole month of December I've slipped back into some of my unhealthy ways--not eating right and very little exercise. So, I have lots of motivation to make 2012 a Healthy year for me and I know I can do this. I'd feel healthier and stronger and be the better for it. My son in lots of ways isn't as demanding of me as I am of him. Sometimes he's the one that reminds me that yes I have the strength to do this Healthy Journey right and be happier at the same time. He's the best reason I can think of to finally get healthier and live a more fulfilled life myself.
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  • no profile photo CD5707126
    I am so blessed with fairly healthy children but they still need a MOM at times. Your motivation is emoticon ! emoticon
    3315 days ago
  • BETHV10
    Your blog was very touching to me. My son was healthy as a horse until last year when he developed tachycardia. It crushed his plans to be a Marine and threw him into a tailspin with no idea what to do with his life now. He's working through it but I can tell you that it took a lot of strength to so completely change directions with his life. I'm very proud of him as you are of your son. Life throws you some curve balls and we have to make the most of it. emoticon
    3326 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8184504
    Your a very strong lady ,and it is good you see you can not


    your son if your gone. Weight killed my sister in her mid

    50s. March 31 she has been gone 10 long years she should have

    been here.

    Time is important as no one is promised tomorrow.

    I am glad you are on your weight loss journey NOW.

    As for your son all i can say is i knew some who had such

    issues and their life was very hard. I do think most people

    who have such issues are super kind and loving people. The

    person i knew is gone on now but they are well now and happy.

    In Heaven all are well. This person i knew is well now ,

    and my sister is too as she

    use to tell all of herself " in heaven i want be know as the

    fat lady".

    Take heart if your time to go comes first your son will make

    it especially with a kind heart as he has.

    Good luck and thanks for dropping on on my blog. I am in

    hopes it will help someone especially if they read between

    the lines. emoticon sleep well and keep warm
    3336 days ago
    Your an inspiration my friend to all of us reading your blog. We are given challenges in life and through all the tough times given your son, ultimately he is a blessing for you. So glad that he is very helpful & caring but sad he has this to live with..My prayers for him as well as you on your journey to be healthy & fit. Blessings... emoticon
    3352 days ago
    Having a good son is priceless! Last night, I posted a v-blog of my son's 21st birthday tribute. Don't they grow up way too fast!? Before I know it, he'll be 38, too! emoticon
    3376 days ago
  • SUE_2U
    Wow this has me all teary... what a beautiful testament to a mother's love - and her son's love for her, as well.
    I have two sons with severe Autism. One is still living with us. The other would be but he has a tendency to run away and has many more severe behavioral problems, and so it is really impossible for me to safely care for him, anymore. Yet, both have always been a blessing to me.
    My son Raud can't do very much, but he can make a cup of tea in the microwave and can, with some guidance, heat up meals in the microwave. I tell you, that I would not have made it through all the problems after my multiple surgeries if it were not for him. He helped me to the bathroom, helped me back to bed, fed the dog, fixed my tea and our meals, and really was smiling the whole time, always glad to do something for someone else. He's a truly good human being.
    Your son sounds much like my loving son, only more functional and with speech... and they do need us to be there for them as much as we can, as long as we can. Getting healthier, for me, is also motivated by my son's need of me.
    He's truly a blessing for you, too. I hope he finds a freedom from his fears.

    3398 days ago
    What a wonderful son...like Out of the Mouth of Babes. Even though he might be mentally challenged...he KNOWS that he loves you shows you by his caring ways. It IS good for you to want to get fit & healthy, so that you can live longer & continue to care for your son...Hang in there & Breathe Deep...
    3401 days ago
    Beautiful blog, my Friend! Yes, you must do it this time for both of you. As you start to consistently lose, you'll wonder why you haven't done this a lot sooner. Hugs
    3408 days ago
    Sorry to hear of you son's challenging situation and your recent setback. I hope and pray that you will soon get back and bypass the place that you were in 2011. All the best to you my friend, 2012 is your year. emoticon
    3411 days ago
    What a touching and sincere blog. You are blessed by having such a gift as your son. I think he must have learned kindness and love from you.
    Our lives touch many others, and you have touched mine with your blog. Thanks for sharing from your heart.
    3411 days ago
  • KATE_70
    3411 days ago
    emoticon emoticon emoticon I know all too well what you are going through. And I too worry about my own son's future should anything happen to either my DH or me. But, in the end, we have to do it for ourselves, although I gotta admit that our sons are a great incentive ...and a push along the way. We can do this and we will make 2012 our year to shine and get healthier. emoticon emoticon emoticon

    Just remember, there is never a emoticon without a emoticon and emoticon to give us courage and inspiration.
    3411 days ago
    Look at the love shown to you here, Jill! It's awesome, and just reinforces to me how loving and caring our SparkFamily is. You know we're all in your corner on this one. Theresa said it well...you have your own demons to fight (as do we all), but with the love and support of our Families, wherever they may be, we will achieve success!! emoticon emoticon emoticon Jeannie
    3411 days ago
    Yes Jill, they say you have to do it for yourself, But you have the extra incentive of needing to do it, to be there for Brent.
    And for all the reasons..YOU can do this. You too are fighting your own demons..poor food choices, and lack of exercise. It is hard to stay on the healthy track. But, every day, every meal, find the strength within, to do the best thing..not slip back into old familiar...EASY bad habits!

    I wish you Strength, Peace, Health and Happiness in 2012 emoticon Theresa
    3411 days ago
    A wonderful blog Jill, so heart warming to hear of the love between you and your son! You can do this Jill,we are here for you all the way!

    Sending many blessings your way for you and your son, 2012 will be our year, let's get focused and see this through!

    Hugs Elaine emoticon
    3412 days ago
    Hi there, Jill.....what a wonderful, hearfelt blog. And yes, my friend sometimes we do things for our children that it might be hard to do just for ourselves. Your son sounds wonderful, just like his mom. It is a New Year and I will be there right along with you, doing my best to stay healthy and strong for my children as well. We can make this a great year! The slate is clear and it a year of new beginnings. You can do it and your Spark friends will be there right beside you. ((HUGS))
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    3412 days ago
    emoticon Have a wonderful new year
    3412 days ago
  • SPEEDY143
    My heart breaks for your sweet son who struggles through no fault of his own. And as Brent's mommy I know how much you suffer as well. What a joy that he can look past his difficulties and be such a good companion and helpmate. I applaud your resolve to make more effort... its not an easy journey but you are right... it's worth it and I think YOU have been doing a great job Jill. You are so supportive of all your Sparkfriends. It's time for us to do whatever we can to support YOU emoticon

    emoticon Linda
    3412 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5645667
    Jill I understand what you are saying my friend .. My daughter Helen had much the same problems ..
    Luckly, she is on the right medication now and is doing really well .
    Please do this for your son if not for yourself he is going to need even more as time goes by, and you need to be fit and healthy for you both .... I know you can do this my friend ..
    Love and Hugs Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3412 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8480036
    Jill, this is a lovely touching blog. You are worth it...and you can make 2012 a winning year. Becoming healthier and more physically fit is a gift you give yourself...but, you are aslo giving the gift of yourself to your son. YOU can do it! I will be here rooting for you and cheering you on. Have a joy filled day, Karen emoticon
    3412 days ago
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