Dear Nasty Person...
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Dear BK, if you're lurking --
When we come back to work in the fall, could you please try to be civil and polite? If I say "good morning" and you're the only one here, could you smile or say something nice instead of a huff or a sigh? Even a fake smile would be better than your rudeness. When we pass each other on the way to the copier, could you try not to stare intently at the floor? When I make a comment in a staff meeting, could you please try to hold your criticism in? I would think that by now you would have realized that no matter how many times you try to prove me wrong in front of everyone, you have been unsuccessful each time. If a colleague and I are chatting and I say that I thought the pot luck potato salad was great, could you please refrain from saying "Oh I hate potato salad" and just keep it to yourself? (The pea/mayo salad you brought wasn't exactly a hit!)
I'm not asking you to be my friend, sit by me in meetings, or even be friendly. I'm just asking that you not be the one who brings the atmosphere in our room down so low. And in case you think it's all my problem, you should know that you have a reputation for this stuff. One of the sweetest women on our team has even been offended by your attitude. We all want to do our jobs in a friendly, supportive environment. We don't need your negativity - so please, just keep it to yourself.
I have no idea what your problem is with me. I don't even really need to know, because I realize that it's not about me. Just be nice.
And to everyone else --
What advice do you have for me, so I can work on myself over the summer break and not let this affect me in any way next fall? I am not personally offended or hurt any more by all this, but it does occupy space in my head that I would rather not rent out. It's the constant tension that gets to me. What would you do?