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Who Do You Think You Are Fooling?

Saturday, July 07, 2012

I would like to thank you all for coming tonight. I have so much that I would like to share with you so if everyone would take a seat we can dive right in. Thank you.

I ate a Hershey bar! Whoa, Slow down, pump your brakes let me finish. You, lady in the red shirt, breathe! Yes, you heard me right, I ate a Hershey bar and I had NO GUILT!!! Please, please hold all comments and questions until the end. I will give you plenty of time to ask questions or make comments at the end. Thank you!

Like I said, NO GUILT!!! I wanted some chocolate so I made a plan for it in my eating for the day. Sir, I can see that you have a question but please hold it to the end. I will explain.

DIETS want you to deprive yourself. No I am not trying to bag on anyone's plan or tell you that you are doing the wrong plan or that you have to do the plan I am doing. That isn't for me to say. You have to do what works for you. What I am saying is that this journey should be a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE!!! This isn't some here today, gone tomorrow diet that leaves you high and dry when you get to your goal. Make this your healthy LIFESTYLE!!! DIETS can make it so hard for you to stick with all the rules and regulations that you might never stick with it to your goal. A lifestyle change takes you to your goal and beyond!

DIETS had me thinking more about food than when I wasn't on one. If I really wanted something, I deprived myself of it and told myself that I couldn't have it. The next thing I knew, I not only had it but I had more of it than I really wanted. Sometimes in my quest to find something to appease the craving, I ate way too much and never really appeased the craving only to then eat the thing I wanted in the first place. Oh yeah and I ate a lot of it! Yes, I see several heads nodding to that one.

I was on a diet that I had to track my food. I hated tracking my food and didn't see the benefit of it. The reason I didn't see the benefit was that I wasn't honest about my tracking. I see you down in front, looking away. You know what I am talking about but you don't want anyone to know huh? Who do you think you are fooling? Have you ever eaten something and not written it down because you didn't want anyone to see that you ate it? Some diet programs you have to turn in your tracker to the leader to take a look at. You wouldn't want that leader to know that you ate 2 cheese burgers last Saturday now would you? So, to fix that, you just wrote down that you ate one or you wrote that you ate something healthy. Who do you think you are fooling? Or maybe you played that mental game with yourself that if you don't write it down in the tracker, you didn't really eat it. Who do you think you are fooling? You are only fooling YOURSELF!!

Did you wonder why the scale didn't move or why it showed a gain? Hmm, maybe being honest would shed some light on why the scale is not moving or is going in the
wrong direction. Wait! Wait, I see hands flying up all over the place! I know that the scale doesn't always reflect things correctly but if you aren't honest about what and how much you ate, the scale just might tell on you! Oh, I see those hands going down and some very sheepish looks. Ladies and gentlemen, I have been there, done that, got the t-shirt and bedazzled it!!

Now before I have people falling out of their chairs, let me move on. I have made this a lifestyle change. I want to LIVE and not DIET!!! I admit it, I get cravings and sometimes I get over them without any problem. Other times, I have to make the decision whether to eat that Hershey bar or not. I know that if I really want it, I need to plan for it. If I plan for it and I have it, I don't feel guilt and I satisfied my craving
without falling off my plan. I don't beat myself up or hate myself for it. I don't stop my journey because of it either. I just keep pushing along.

I can see that some of you are having difficulty waiting until the end to comment. I heard someone say that sometimes there isn't time to plan for the "treat". Let me address this situation. I have those moments too. Yes, occasionally I go over my calories for the day because I either ate too much of my planned foods or I ate something that I didn't plan for which was probably a treat of some kind. Want to know how I handle this??? I track it!! I track it and I don't beat myself up. I have a talk with myself about what is important on this journey. I think about what might
have happened in my day that might have triggered my binge. Was it emotional or a craving? Was it eaten out of boredom or was is one of those moments when you stick
some food in your mouth without thinking about it?

Tracking isn't just something you do to pass the time. It is a learning tool. Let me explain. If I see that I am not losing like I thought I would, I can look back and see what I ate for the last week or more. I can look at my fitness and see if I stuck with my plan. If I kept a journal of my feelings, I could see if I had some emotional days that might be the cause.

Tracking allows you to look back at those successful weeks and see just what you did that caused you to lose weight. You might find that you did more exercise or that you ate more fruits and veggies than you have been lately.

Look at tracking as a useful tool and use it to YOUR advantage! Keep a positive outlook about it. Make a journal note if you had an emotional day. If you know what triggered a problem, make a note of it so if you look back, you know what happened. If you found a way to deal with a trigger, make a note about it so when you look back, you know what to do to handle similar situations! The trackers can help if you are honest and use them regularly.

See folks, this journey isn't just to lose weight. No, it isn't just about losing weight. It is also about learning. We have to learn what triggers us to overeat. We have to learn how to eat healthy foods. We have to learn how to prepare healthy meals. We have to learn how to plan ahead for times when we might be caught with no time to eat a meal. We have to learn what makes a healthy snack.

DIETS give you a bunch of rules and regulations that you have to follow. A LIFESTYLE is a learning journey to an abundant life. Which do you chose?

Now I will open the floor to questions and comments. Please one person at a time. Sir, no pushing please, you will get your turn soon enough. Yes, we will start with you, there in the green dress. Your question or comment??
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    Been away for a while, but after reading your blog I am inspired once again. I know I can do this. Thank you for sharing.
    3185 days ago
    Awesome blog! Thanks so much for sharing! I love...A lifestyle is a learning journey to an abundant life! Gonna hang on to that quote! emoticon
    3218 days ago
    I love this! and I agree 100%! great blog!
    3220 days ago
    GREAT blog!!!
    3222 days ago
    Great blog! Thanks much for sharing with us all.

    3222 days ago
    Perfect! Awesome! This is a great blog and I can only hope that EVERYONE reads it and uses it to change their lives to healthy living! YOU HAVE THIS GIRL! This is a lifestyle change!!!!
    3222 days ago
  • BOBBYD31
    this is perfect! it is a lifestyle change and we must do the change in baby steps otherwise we fail to learn and if we fail to learn we will fail. we will have mistakes along the way but it is how we handle the set backs will determine your succes.

    ps i think you have got it , good for you
    3222 days ago
    emoticon thanks, I agree we just need to plan for what we eat
    3228 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12593067
    LOL That was very entertaining AND informational!!! Can't noone keep me from my chocolate, I always make sure there's room for atleast one piece
    3228 days ago
    Great blog! Agree 100%. That's the mind set that has made all of the difference for me this time around. When I do have a treat tho, I honor it. I mean I make myself fully present, slow down and enjoy every morsel. I've found in doing so, I usually don't even "need" as much of it. I enjoyed a chocolate eclair (big time calorie count) the other day, when my tummy said enough, I literally spit out the last bite I had taken and pitched the rest into the garbage. Unsure of the exact amount I ate, I logged the whole thing. Ch ch ch changes.
    3228 days ago
    Okay! I love how you wrote this thing out girl. It was a hoot. I love it. Thanks for sharing. We all get bent out of shape for the wrong reasons, and all up in others business for the wrong reasons roo... You know whatcha' doing... emoticon emoticon
    3228 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12422498
    lol. Love it! Great blog my friend! :)
    3229 days ago
    Very engaging blog! I loved it. It's very liberating to me to know that I'm not on a "Diet" (can that be the new "D-Word" like *dang* was in grade school?), I couldn't admit it to myself for a long time that I wasn't "dieting" so I would rationalise not-having what I would want... Or worse feel like I had to hide a snack.

    I stepped away from the program a couple months back to get some other aspects in my life in better focus, and after 2 months of exercising very little and tracking NOTHING, I totally expected to gain a LOT. I maintained for 2 - 3 months. I know the changes I'm making aren't happening very fast and that I could lose this weight SO much faster, but I want real change and not another yo-yo.

    Thank you for this blog.
    3230 days ago
    LMAO! Oh my god, I JUST LOVE LOVE LOVE the way you wrote this!! Too funny and so true! I completely agree with you. I have been eating whatever I want and tracking it, and typically be well within calories. I had some spinach dip the other day, I have had quite a few burgers, home made burgers with 93 percent lean ground beef and most of the time no form of bun/bread, but burgers nonetheless. I made spark recipe enchiladas and am loving them. I agree with you whole heartedly that I am in this for the long haul and that means eating things that I like, but a lot less of them. I've also learned that making a burger at home makes it easy to fit into my range, whereas a fast food burger is near impossible to fit into a healthy calorie range. I may have "only" lost 1 lb this last week, but I had one really bad day and still was able to lose that pound. As long as there is a downward trend I feel I am doing something right, and you are doing great! :D emoticon
    3230 days ago
    Good for you! I always answer those who ask if I'm on a diet, no, it's a complete lifestyle change that won't end. And I point out that the first three letters of the word 'diet' are 'die.' And you and I don't want to die, we want to live, and live life to the fullest!
    3230 days ago
    Girl! How did you know I ate a huge Hershey w/Almonds last night and didn't track it? I was already over my calorie limit, since I reduced it greatly, so I figured why bother? And I did it the day before weigh day. What a dope! And sure enough the scale is stuck. Wonder why? Great blog, Sweetie! Very imaginative. Love you, Mom emoticon And we will.
    3230 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1315172
    emoticon emoticon
    3230 days ago
    I agree. If I want a treat I make sure I track it and move on :) I don't want to deprive myself all of the time as I fear that will lead to giving up all together. Way to go!
    3230 days ago
  • CARMEL_466
    Great blog my friend! When I "dieted" in the past, I would never eat sweets because I was so scared I would go on a binge. I have found now, that for me, no food is off limit. I live in the day and I use portion control most times. Gone are the days of rigidity with my eating. Thank you for the great read. emoticon
    3230 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12383123
    What a cute read!!!!!

    3231 days ago
    Good for you, that is my way also, on this journey to healthy living. I track diligently. And limiting those high calorie treats, is the way I HAVE to go.
    But, I NEVER eat a Hershey Bar. I just have to plan the goodie, but never a Hershey bar, in to the days total to make it work, if I don't eat it, I feel frustrated, and crave carbs...end up caving in, going completely off track...eating any and everything in sight, for a day or two, then slowly coming back!

    emoticon So you can do this!

    p.s. - Never a Hershey bar... it's a MilkyWay Midnight for me!
    3231 days ago
    Cleverly written! And smart of you to deliberately plan on having that treat. That's a brilliant idea!
    3231 days ago
  • LINDAK25
    Love it! I figure I have to be totally honest on my food tracker, too. I know if I don't eat food that I like, I'll end up feeling deprived. Bad idea! So I, like you, plan for candy or bread or whatever else I've decided to eat. I do work at making sure that I stay within the nutritional guidelines. Oh, and I always get in all the calcium and fiber I can.

    3231 days ago
  • KIPPER15
    Yeah, good for you. I am guilty of not tracking my "bad stuff". But who am I cheating and who will be affected- ME and no one else. You have a great attitude. emoticon emoticon
    3231 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12702260
    I agree 100% This is a lifestyle change and unless you plan on living the rest of your life without eating (insert foods here) you need to find a healthy balance. Find a way to incorporate the foods you love into your new way of living. Maybe that's putting that candy bar into your caloric goals or tracking it later; having just one is a lot better than 2 or more. Kudos to you!

    *drops mic and exits stage left*
    3231 days ago
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