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The Sin of Pride...

Tuesday, September 04, 2012

As I read a blog this morning about not being able to accept a compliment it struck me that one of the hardest lessons I ever had to teach myself was to accept a compliment without a "but" or an excuse. The blogger referred to as "sucking the joy out of it" and that is SO TRUE! I started by forcing myself to just say, "Thank You." followed by nothing but a smile and that has worked most of the time. I still have to remind myself that it's not fair to the other person to downgrade the gift they are trying to give you by making excuses for your accomplishments or successes. I've improved a lot in this area, but it is still hard some times... So I wondered, where did I learn this behavior in the first place?!? Took a bit but it came to me that it was part of taking being modest, not prideful, to the extreme and I believe I learned at my mother's knee. It's amazing how hard those early lessons are to let go of, but it sure makes life more enjoyable to honor what you've done and allow others too share a little joy with us!!!
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    Thank you for sharing that! emoticon

    I struggle with being a discontented perfectionist... emoticon
    So, taking a complement isn't easy for me....

    I read a blog post this morning by spark member SHARON10002
    "Loving Yourself: Be Careful How You Talk to Yourself"

    I recommend it!
    3064 days ago
    This is so true! When someone would compliment me on losing weight or say I looked nice, I would say "Oh, I still have such and such pounds to lose" or "I need a haircut"..blah, blah, blah. It takes grace to accept a compliment from others, and you're right. A simple thank you will suffice.

    This is definitely pride, but it's so subtle, because it's inverted and introspective. When we feel worthless, suffer low self-esteem or depression, we may be succumbing to the sin of pride.
    3142 days ago
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    3249 days ago
    That was a very good reminder. I have always had a difficult time accepting compliments.
    3249 days ago
  • ABB698
    Yes Yes! emoticon
    3249 days ago
    Yep, you're so right. Sometimes a person can actually feel guilt when they receive a compliment, then the excuses begin.... A gracious 'Thank you' is what the gift giver really needs to hear. emoticon
    3249 days ago
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