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Unwanted

Saturday, June 08, 2013

What a horrible feeling for one person to have to feel much less a bunch. There are kids who feel unwanted, parents, girlfriends, boyfriends even our most favorite animals are unwanted at some time in their lives. When you thnk about what a horrible feeling to feel.

Have you ever felt that way? I never ever want to make someone feel unwanted that they feel like nobody almost worthless to the other person. What do we do about that? Is there anything we can do to make ourselves count? Is there?

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  • MWWENSIN
    i agree with everyone else who says you must love youself first
    2954 days ago
  • PONYFARMER
    Great topic!

    I like SARAHTAIT live alone, well except for my dog and new kitten. They do help me to feel wanted but I think the biggest change in my life is that as I grow closer to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I find that I am not only wanted but loved beyond measure, even unto His death for me and others like me.

    There are times when the evil one will scream at me that I am worthless and no one wants me, exibit A you live alone, dah! But I just yell back to get out of my dwelling by the blood that saved me and immediately I am reminded that I am not alone.

    I know some will read this and think religious nut alert, but I chalk that up to not knowing. I used to be one of the non-knowing and I was alone and scared and felt hopeless. Not any more, I have a great hope. I may still be alone but I will never feel UNWANTED and I look forward to eternity.

    God bless you all. Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." I hope those who don't have the peace that I have found, can eventually find it.

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    2964 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1322168
    I often feel alone and unwanted. I was adopted as an infant by my birth moms sister. Long story. But I lost my husband in 2011 and live alone so it is hard to feel wanted when you live by yourself....
    2964 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3528530
    It's a sad ol' world, isn't it, Diana? I came into this life being unwanted, and it left a mark for a very, very long time. But you know.....I finally realized one day that my own thinking kind of 'put me there', if you know what I mean. I did some very foolish things along this road, and the day finally came that I realized that I did them as a direct result of trying to fill that 'unwanted' hole that I perceived in my own soul....but that the reason that hole was there to begin with was not because nobody wanted me, per se, but because I allowed the fact that nobody did to affect my own opinion of myself...and I became a person who spent the next almost 50 years seeking that love, acceptance, or whatever from other people, but never developed it for myself in any genuine way....which was the ULTIMATE problem. I finally realized that it did not matter if nobody wanted me, or loved me, or whatever....but that if I loved myself, everything else would fall into place. And I have found that to be the ultimate truth, when it was all said and done. It is true that we live in a fractured and uncaring world....we are all treated as commodities by our employers, by corporations, by our own politicians, etc. In this world, and in this nation, the only thing that really 'matters' to most big entities is the money in your pocket, and not you at all...or the money that they can make as a result of your labors for them. That is just the way it is. I believe the ONLY answer to it all is merely to concentrate on doing the best you can to improve your own small sphere of influence.....by treating others as tho they matter, by doing what is right, and by loving yourself even when nobody else pays you the least bit of mind at all. To see a need in your own particular area, and do what you can to fill that need. When it's all said and done, nobody can 'fix' ALL of the heartbreak that is associated with this life and this world...but you CAN do what you can do in your own little spot of it.
    2966 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/11/2013 1:04:59 AM
  • NOMADATORES
    Yes. All I can do is be the best me that I can be, given my circumstances. emoticon

    2967 days ago
  • RR1_RR1
    I know I feel this way about jobs all the time- especially my current one as my boss constantly makes me feel unwelcome. I also used to feel I was unwanted by men. And I sense my boyfriend feels unwanted by me too- but sometimes he asks way too much of me(now he's asking for me to take care of him financially and I don't even have a perm job and Im starting to feel like his mother!)..and I feel bad but its hard to know the right thing to do when someone is so dependent on you that it starts getting a little much. ok thanks for listening lol.
    2968 days ago
  • ENCHANTEDBROOM
    I try to make everyone I know or meet feel wanted. This has come back to me in so many positive ways. As far as the animals go, just ask Katie Blu one of my dogs and Dude the cat, they were both special needs: needed love so that's why they have been with all these years and trust me on this they have returned that love.
    2968 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/9/2013 1:20:38 AM
  • no profile photo CD13434951
    I also know that feeling...I had to decide that something in their lives caused them to act in an unloving way...I do the best I can....that's all I can do..
    2968 days ago
  • FENWAYGIRL18
    Oh god I know the feeling from my parents and siblings, I've come to the conclusion that they are just miserable and don't have any love to give unless it is to themselves. I use to try everything to be accepted, but I've realized it's not me its them and I can't change them so I have to walk away and be myself and know I'm someone worth loving and caring for thank god I have a very loving hubby and son that have opened my eyes to what real love is all about...... emoticon
    2968 days ago
  • SUECHRIS50
    I know exactly what you mean,just keep loving yourself!
    2968 days ago
  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    I think most people have felt this way at some point in their life. I know I have. We have to learn to value ourselves.
    2968 days ago
  • STEVENKIND
    Just being you counts-
    2968 days ago
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