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Saturday, June 22, 2013

6 miles with my dad's group again this morning. Loving summer!

He told me a story of a race he ran in his 30s. He met a guy that was in his mid-50s and they chatted about running. The man said that his children didn't understand why he ran so much. They joked often, "What are you doing? Trying to live forever?!" The man's response, "No. I just want to *live* until I die."

My dad (now 65) said that the line has stuck with him. He knows that he has the ability to DO more enjoyable things day to day because of his good health. Whether it's being the tickle monster chasing 5 grandkids or walking the 30 blocks to his favorite art museum. Running has kept him in shape. Running allows us to live more fully.

Raise your hand if you can feel this! As a teacher, my best lesson plans come to me on a run. I am amazed by the powerful link between mental and physical health.

Week 1 of marathon training was a success. I told my dad about my one concern with the expectation of a finish time. Marathon #1 = automatic PR. Now I have a time to beat, a more specific goal, an expectation. I told him that I was afraid of crossing the finish line and being disappointed with myself.

Well, once again, dad saves the day:
"There is a difference between being disappointed in your time. And disappointed in yourself. What if race day is 90 degrees? What if you get stomach cramps? What if one of your kids is sick and you sleep horribly the whole week before the race?" and on and on...

There are so many what ifs. And why play that game? You know that I will give it my all during training. And I will give it my all on race day. And if, for whatever reason, I don't get the sub 4, that is OK.

whew. What a mental load off my shoulders. I swear, I already feel better about an October race when looking at it that way. Maybe my time will be disappointing. But there is NO WAY I will be disappointed in myself.

I am out there on the roads. I am having fun and spreading joy. I am healthy and it feels good.
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    Love this blog! I'm so happy you get to share your love of running with your Dad. What awesome bonding time for you guys! Thanks so much for sharing this.

    P.S. You will totally ROCK your marathon!
    2953 days ago
    What great advice from your dad! I lost mine this past year, and although he was not a runner (and didn't understand my desire to run) he was a role model in so many ways.

    I too, want to live until I die.
    2953 days ago
    Your dad is totally right! I start marathon training in a couple weeks, but in the mean time I've been running some 5ks. My first couple of runs since starting running again and I was very happy with the times. Both courses were very challenging. I was getting so close to my PR from my old college days of cross country and I'd only been running again for a month! Of course last weekend I had a race that claimed to be flat and I just knew this was the race I was going to PR. Well I didn't..and I was 12 seconds slower than the race before that was on a much flatter course. Eventually I realized it was the first race I ran in heat and the general conditions were different! Not only that but my splits were the most consistent they have ever been. Sometimes I think we just need to give ourselves props for the ability to go out there and do it!
    2953 days ago
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    Like Like Like!
    I also feel like when something goes wrong, the run makes it right - or it makes it me less discontented. Someone is mean to me? They are less mean after I run. I am addicted to that feeling.
    2953 days ago
    So true! I did a race last year that taught me not to be disappointed in things I can't control. Extreme heat, humidity and hills blew my time on the bike and the fatigue killed my run. But it was the best I could output with what I had to work with. I wasn't disappointed. I'm doing that race again in a few weeks. I'll only be disappointed if I'm even slower this year!
    2953 days ago
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    I have heard a similar line "I am not trying to live forever. I just want to LIVE while I am alive"! I agree that running is such a joy and a great way to think, decompress, and be social. Neither my husband nor I come from a running family but we are trying to create one. I believe that the family that exercises together stays together :) Hey, all those endorphins are great!

    Keep up the great running with your dad and your marathon will be blast emoticon
    2953 days ago
    You're dad's awesome! I agree I agree I agree. A few people around me, in this weird way, question my running. They say things like, "You know, it's not good for your knees" OR " Why are you giving so much time to it, you only need 20min a day". Petwoeee on them. I WISH my family ran. You are one lucky daughter. Fast forward 20 years and picture yourself running next to your daughter or son imparting the same wisdom your father gave you this weekend. Wonderful!!!!!!
    2953 days ago
  • AMBER281
    What a great blog. Thank you so much for sharing!
    2954 days ago
    emoticon blog! emoticon for sharing
    I am so glad for you - not many daughters can share moments like this with their dad. You have a emoticon running support group with advise and wisdom comes with it. God luck on your 2nd Marathon - keep training and I am sure you will PR!
    You strike me as high achiever - One small advice _ "don't be too hard on yourself, just enjoy the ride" emoticon

    2954 days ago
  • OPTIMIST1948
    I agree!
    2954 days ago
    I'm so jealous you have such a strong running support group.
    How fun to run with your dad!!
    2954 days ago
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    There's nothing I enjoy more in a blog than people sharing their life wisdom! Your dad just gave us two great lessons on life.
    I'm sure that if you keep on enjoying your runs with your dad during the summer, the fall will find you a better runner and a wiser teacher!
    Thank you for sharing.
    Let's live till we die!
    2955 days ago
    Those are TWO wonderful lessons! Wow!! I'll have to remember those. Thanks for sharing... you had me teary eyes. I wish I could figure out how to save this to my favorites or something.
    2955 days ago
    I like that line....I want to live till I die. Cool pics of the brain, great visual.

    I glad you had a good run this morning. I love when my daughter has time to run with me!

    Have a great weekend! emoticon
    2955 days ago
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