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Eye of the Beholder

Saturday, July 06, 2013

Yesterday I hired a wonderful lady called Emma, who is from the Phillipines to clean the house. She is a spotless housekeeper. There is clean and then her brand of clean. I only hire a house cleaner once in a blue moon because it is pricey. The house is aglow!

Emma used to be a nanny for our twin boys when they were eight years old. She and her family are now citizens. Time has passed and I can't believe those little boys of ours are now 24 year old men.

When Emma arrived she burst into a huge smile and said, "My goodness you have lost weight and are so slim!" I was surprised to hear that because she hadn't seem me in 16 years and the last time I was only 44 years of age. I said to my husband later, "Was I heavy then?" He said not unkindly. "Yes, for most of your adult life you have been overweight."

That got me thinking that I totally do not have that much body awareness. Then again, maybe that is how I coped with being so heavy. I know when I used to look in a mirror I had selective vision and saw myself only from the front. I remember catching myself sideways in a reflection of a store window and wondering who that large lady was. I was surprised to discover it was me!

There are two sides to this perception thing. Sure on one side I guess I fooled myself by not acknowledging how big I was. On the other side, not knowing it was that bad probably was a coping mechanism keeping me from not being that unhappy about it.

I thought I would share this because I still am surprised when people are surprised that I am now a lot slimmer. emoticon
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    powerful thoughts
    2947 days ago
    While non this journey to health we learn so much more then just how to lose weight. eat the
    right foods or exercise. I agree with you we learn not to see ourselves as we truly are. I'm proud of you and the blogs you write are motivational and inspiring.
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    2948 days ago
    Perceptions can be tricky but it is just all part of the learning experience. It's easier for others to notice the changes than it is for ourselves to notice changes. It makes sense that sometimes people see what they want to see instead of the truth. What matters is that you are healthier and feeling good. Your perceptions will come around and pretty soon, compliments won't always take you by surprise.

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    2949 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/6/2013 11:24:31 PM
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    Very neat that you hired someone to help you clean. It's so important isn't it - to get the support we need for ourselves.

    Body image is difficult. Our own perceptions - at least mine - seem to have frozen at a certain age and then I look in the mirror sometimes and think... who is that!?!

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    2949 days ago
    Good for you, Wendy! It's nice to get acknowledged! Before now, I would look in the mirror and basically see a headshot. That wasn't too bad to look at because the bulk of my weight is below the waist! Now that my clothing sizes are changing etc -- I'm looking at the whole me. Of course, I've still got a lot of weight to go -- but I'm pleasantly surprised at the newer, smaller model!

    I think that's part of being honest with yourself too -- looking at the whole picture! Sometimes, it takes someone else noticing to make you really look at yourself! You're still beautiful -- there's just less of you! You Go Girl! emoticon emoticon
    2949 days ago
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    2949 days ago
    My version of the problem with mirrors is that "OLD" person that looks back at me. Because, the person who lives in my body still thinks she is 50 +/- a year or two. How can I be off by 20 years?
    2949 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14026830

    That is so interesting, and not at all uncommon!

    I have been absolutely SHOCKED SPEECHLESS when I have seen some photos of myself. Though I look in the mirror many times a day, I never have seen that "big girl" that the camera seems to pick up. I truly don't know why that is.

    I'm happy for you that you get complimented for your weight loss so often, that must feel very, very good. Enjoy your clean house- for now, LOL.
    2949 days ago
  • no profile photo ELRIDDICK
    Thanks for sharing
    2949 days ago
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